Neplusultra:
I don't agree, dis is a clear case of 'see finish' they don 'see each other finish for five years' nothing remain again na! I don't support long courtship at all and if she eventually marries him,She's likely to cheat in the marriage, same for the guy! they shud just sit down and have an open honest talk!

ifeomaekol:
u jux made a tangible comment, pple often times think dt d longer d r/ship d beta d marriage, I jux hope d OP gets to read ur comment. I feel for her cos its nt easy wat she's passing thru nw, jux pray God gives her d wisdom dts all. Marriage no b beans @all.

Misanthrope:
Shekstatari I was banned from the Education section and had my post hidden by moderators for no reason.

An2elect2: Methinks you are not ready for marriage yet. Give it more time madam

ipain:
you are a bastard, wore and an imbecilic kleptomaniac.... You fool. You dare insult my mother? You will never become a mother and even if you excape such and become a mother, you will be a mother filled with sorrows! You bastard! For calling the name of God where you are insulted my mother first, may you never receive blessings from God!

You knees will ache fsorom prayers unanswered!

ipain:
you are a bastard, wore and an imbecilic kleptomaniac.... You fool. You dare insult my mother? You will never become a mother and even if you excape such and become a mother, you will be a mother filled with sorrows! You bastard! For calling the name of God where you are insulted my mother first, may you never receive blessings from God!

You knees will ache from prayers unanswered!

Tashaamania:

The nonentity might turn out to be Mr. right. I'm just saying..
She shouldn't ignore any signs. Staying with someone for five years isn't a guarantee just as knowing someone couple of months back isn't. Anyone can pretend for any length of time.

OP weigh both options. if need be, take time off the wedding planning, postpone and figure out what you really want. Marriage no be beans especially when you're going into it with doubts, that's alot of pending trouble.

Tashaamania:
Staying with someone for five years isn't a guarantee just as knowing someone couple of months back isn't.

freecocoa:
I don't know why everyone is acting like there's no problem, OP there's a big problem and it's you, you are cheating while still planning to get married, you better just leave the young man you want to marry alone and sort yourself out, I wish he'd catch you, mschew.

gwas:
Op, that new guy he's a player, that's why he swept you off your feet. Don't worry, he will soon terminate your contract.

Squig:
Did you have doubts about your spouse before your wedding?

Did you meet someone amazing and you wanted him but decided to go ahead and marry your spouse?

How do you feel about the marriage now? Do you feel you did the right thing?

I'm in my mid 20s and I'm getting married next month, we've been together for almost 5years. He is the love of my life and I've never doubted my love for him or the fact that I wanted a family with him. He's got everything I want in a man.

The problem is we started having issues about 6 months ago, we stopped talking like before and we are completely disconnected now especially on my end but we're still going ahead with the marriage plan and I still want to marry him.

I met another guy I am really attracted to and we've been talking about a lot. He knows I am having issues with my man and I can't tell him we are planning to get married.

I'm having doubts about my man now, I'm confused, I feel I'll be happier with this new guy, I'm thinking it's lust but it's getting more complicated. Should I go on with the wedding?

Feel free to talk sense into my head, I need to hear hard truths.