irishCream:



My dear that's the world for you, they discriminate almost every facet of life, I first experienced this when my ex was ready to settle down, the family said over their dead body and the relationship was torn apart, since then I just lock up, whenever I meet someone i do try to find out their views about marrying from a broken home if his views are negative I quickly place my emotions on check!!!

most people in my office don't know I'm from a broken home, one of my colleagues was advising her brother in my presence not to bring that girl home that she's from a broken home, I was like ahn ahn is it her fault? so because she's from a broken home no man should marry her? then I told her do I am from a broken home, if i had not told her she wouldn't have known.

Shymm3x:


In as much as I don't do pity parties cos this is life and we've all been through the wire (hard times), I'm not mocking no one and what I posited has nothing to do with negativity about a group of people - just reality.

The onus is on mums to start raising their daughters right, without transferring their own bitterness to them. You will find out that even in cases where the mums were at fault - perhaps by being miserable/bad wives or serial cheaters - they will still feed the kids with nonsense about their dads, while painting themselves as slaves. And the first image of a man every girl always pick is that of her dad - and she's going to carry the residual effects for a lifetime, while judging innocent guys based on that baggage.

Let me use myself as an example: though I think most women are arseholes and a pain the arse with their emotional outbursts...but every time I think about nan and mum, that feeling evaporates, and the allure of womanhood takes over my body and soul. That's why I love women and I believe they should be treated with utmost respect (in person), until they give a reason not to. Now imagine someone who has a terrible image of her dad in her head...that is some type of chic you don't want to deal with pool.

I can see you're one sided and have not seen how terrible people can be, what about those guys that have a terrible image of their mum in his head? spread your tentacles dude and stop this trash, in as much as I don't want to take this personal, what about those guys that beat their women, do you know most of them don't come from a broken home?

yetseyi:



Lool are you saying she has bad hygiene, cant cook and lies because she comes from a broken home?

my dear, I cant even marry that guy, his IQ is so low, broken home girls eye dey see o, even bad people will come here and cal us bad.

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Lol. Not taking shots. They know that is how Nigerians in diaspora are classified in everyday interaction in diaspora. Folks get along on the surface but that is where it ends - different mentality/outlook, experience, and knowledge scope.

It is not an assumption - that is the reality. Our outlook and behavioural pattern are influenced by what we were raised around. It is just basically like chics who grew up around dads who are supremely loving and successful. Subconsciously, they will always scheme for guys who are or have the same potentials, as their dads. That is what they will subconsciously be attracted to. Just like every guy out there will always be subconsciously attracted to chics who are like their mums.

Chics from broken homes are also always quick to drop that "you're just as useless as my dad" line.
hmmm! true talk bro. God Bless U

Shymm3x:


Personally, I don't get the hype about lighties. I don't care about whatever shade of black a chic is as long as she's nice based on what I look out for in chics. Black is black regardless of the shade. But I don't like chics who bleach their skin though - they all look fugly to me.

I think it depends on how you define "more attractive". They only look more attractive to folks with colour problem who have been subconsciously brainwashed by the European standard of beauty. Being attractive has nothing to do with shade.

Personally, I think Meagan is the most beautiful woman on the planet and she's what you will classify as caramel. And I'm always in awe every time I see pics of Bria Myles and Briana Bette, and these are dark-skinned women.

These naij chics are the same...folks just tolerate
them but the truth is the truth. Sometimes you just have to overlook their bs cos it's typical but most people know they don't know how to act. You don't even need to ask a lot of them about where they're from - you would just know straight-away by their attitude.

Looool. Ijebus and owanbes are like bread and butter. But the funniest thing is that most Ijebu chics I meet don't have owanbe faces loool.

Bleaching is a no no for me anyway, I used to think it was only illiterates that bleach but I now know better.
Well you are right beauty have nothing to do with shade.



loool @owambe faces

Fine o.. how did u know that?

irishCream:


Okay! So how is Borno?

VenusBetty:
I understand you dear, I'll tell you this without mincing words, guys from broken home have treated me well more than the ones from unbroken homes.

Good. You must be mature then. Children from broken homes have the tendency to love to the extreme but only with regular re-assurance from their spouses.

THE ANSWER IS SIMPLE DO YOU LOVE THE GIRL FROM YOUR PERSPECTIVE CAN YOU SPEND THE REST OF YOUR LIVES TOGETHER IF THE ANSWER TO BOTH IS A YES MY GUY FORGET THE CONDITION HER FAMILY IS IN .OUT OF A BLACK POT A WHITE PAP IS PRODUCED

sorextee:
Fine o.. how did u know that?

It on your profile


Btw are you from there?

VenusBetty:
most people in my office don't know I'm from a broken home, one of my colleagues was advising her brother in my presence not to bring that girl home that she's from a broken home, I was like ahn ahn is it her fault? so because she's from a broken home no man should marry her? then I told her do I am from a broken home, if i had not told her she wouldn't have known.

No need going all out to tell them, a moment you meet with those that reason that way just don't bother preaching to them, even if they get blinded by love and settle with you, when a little misunderstanding (which can't be ruled out with humans) set in they'll always remind you of your background, so best bet is to not go deep emotionally with them, just like in this thread you've seen the reasonable and judgemental comments same applies in real life, we'll definitely get to meet those that won't judge us by our parent's plight!

Blade21:
good morning marriage itself na risky venture na imagine de rate @ which pple divorce now all am saying is u shldnt define a lady from her parents mistake have a nice day

True tho

Not from her parents mistakes but from her's

VenusBetty:
Your mum told you bad things about men, thank God you didn't take that into your brain, I am from a broken home too but I really appreciate my mum, She never said anything bad about my Dad, She's a teacher and i have to say there are some mums that will also do same. So coming from a broken home should not be the problem of the children, you think they like that fact. Reading all these comments totally broke my heart cuz its just called discrimination. Is this really what people think about us?

Discrimination? How? U think I'm happy typing these things? A single mother who's a teacher is a lover of children and not abusive to children. Have ur mother ever floggeed u with nail planks till u bled b4 or has she ever told u she wishes u weren't a girl. U don't know there are different sides to life.

JudgementHammer:

Discrimination? How? U think I'm happy typing these things? A single mother who's a teacher is a lover of children and not abusive to children. Have ur mother ever floggeed u with nail planks till u bled b4 or has she ever told u she wishes u weren't a girl. U don't know there are different sides to life.

I feel your pain...


Please try as much as you can not to bring back the memory, I want to believe you're of age now, I mean living on your own now.

irishCream:


I feel your pain...


Please try as much as you can not to bring back the memory, I want to believe you're of age now, I mean living on your own now.

Its not by age. Its by love. A female child should be used to her mother like u are and a male child his father but I chose to stay with her cus of my father's wife rivalry. Yet my mum wouldn't understand.

Dyt:
There's almost nothing Nigerians don't tag discrimination with
Discriminate albinos
Stammers
Dumb
Handicapped
Sickle cell
Dwarf
Single mum
I can't name them all and now this

Grow up

For where?

JudgementHammer:

Its not by age. Its by love. A female child should be used to her mother like u are and a male child his father but I chose to stay with her cus of my father's wife rivalry. Yet my mum wouldn't understand.

Sorry...so presently you're with her?

irishCream:


Sorry...so presently you're with her?

Yeah. She locks her room. Cooks her soup separately and won't let me touch her car let alone driving it. We don't talk for some days in same home. She just battered my ego.

Yes o.. I be borno person.. home of peace and tourism..

irishCream:


It on your profile


Btw are you from there?

JudgementHammer:

Yeah. She locks her room. Cooks her soup separately and won't let me touch her car let alone driving it. We don't talk for some days in same home. She just battered my ego.

This is serious! Can I talk to you in private, say bbm?

sorextee:
Yes o.. I be borno person.. home of peace and tourism..

Hope you're in the safe part of the state?

JudgementHammer:

Discrimination? How? U think I'm happy typing these things? A single mother who's a teacher is a lover of children and not abusive to children. Have ur mother ever floggeed u with nail planks till u bled b4 or has she ever told u she wishes u weren't a girl. U don't know there are different sides to life.

thank God you know there are different sides to life, you need to start seeing it that way, don't just say it.

irishCream:


This is serious! Can I talk to you in private, say bbm?

No p. 2AC947FA

I stay in abj, but we go home for Xmas.. our part is kinda safe..lost some frnds sha .. but no more fun, like those days..

irishCream:



Hope you're in the safe part of the state?

Ewuro4:


For where?

So they can't grow again?


Madam sexy been a while
Trust you good

Hello fellas

What have I missed on this thread, stopped at page 3 and e don reach page 9 over night.. can someone pls summarize what happened in d previous pages U know we nigerians no get reading culture.. I hear say some pple don turn the thread to toasting center..

Dyt:


So they can't grow again?


Madam sexy been a while
Trust you good

I think It's a lost battle but good luck to you sha

Rankadede to you too dearie. How's my Knight doing? I have to book that lil dude for my youngest oh.

Na life jare. I'm in another phase of parenting so I musto diss NL & keep my 4 eyes on the subjects

Hope you're good too?

Ewuro4:



I think It's a lost battle but good luck to you sha

Rankadede to you too dearie. How's my Knight doing? I have to book that lil dude for my youngest oh.

Na life jare. I'm in another phase of parenting so I musto diss NL & keep my 4 eyes on the subjects

Hope you're good too?

Wow
Congrats lopolopo
Make me sef close eye sharp sharp
Otin peju ooo

I am jealous
Pls take good care of the princess to be a queen in my abode
Bless you momma

sorextee:
I stay in abj, but we go home for Xmas.. our part is kinda safe..lost some frnds sha .. but no more fun, like those days..

Eeya take heart!!!

JudgementHammer:

No p. 2AC947FA

Awaiting your acceptance

irishCream:


Awaiting your acceptance

Ur signature is nice

VenusBetty:
I can see you're one sided and have not seen how terrible people can be, what about those guys that have a terrible image of their mum in his head? spread your tentacles dude and stop this trash, in as much as I don't want to take this personal, what about those guys that beat their women, do you know most of them don't come from a broken home?

Err, I think the title of the thread is self-explanatory enough and it's about a group, hence the OP used "lady". So why are you trying to go off on a tangent by bringing guys into it?

If you want to discuss guys from broken homes, feel free to create a thread about it and I'm sure chics who have dated such guys would have interesting perspectives to add to ya topic. I'm not gay, so I wouldn't know what such guys are like in a relationship.

I honestly don't know what's one-sided in sticking to the trajectory of the subject-matter in discourse. And when upstanding folks allude to women being emotional beings, you lot would start throwing hissy fit everywhere like a spoilt brat.