LaChicabonita:
The tragedy of broken home prejudice is that it often keeps other people from realizing the true potentials of offsprings from such homes. I'm a 'product' of such a home, it is a tough nut to crack, but I'm NOT broken! Thanks to those who have shared their opinions without a stereotypical mindset. May you all continue to grow in wisdom!

For those who, based on one or two experience(s), are now of the opinion that "most" or "all" products of broken homes will inevitably turn out to be 'damaged,' I recommend that you have repeated exposure to individuals within this stereotyped group so there'll be a reduction in prejudice. Because I've heard it said that prejudice is just another word for ignorance so if you must overcome this uninformed 'ignorance' then you must work to become aware of it.

irishCream:


You grew up with your mum or dad?

sonofananimal1:
let me ask you a question,

Where you raise by your mom or your dad?

autaspakladi:
There is no need for too much argument here...the lady am dating now is a product of a broken family, initially I was having it in my mind to marry her,but now I have changed my mind,because she cannot cook,the only food she can cook is indomie,and even when she finished cooking she will want to leave the pot and plate for me to wash,except if remaind her,in addition to that,she is very poor hygienically,she doesn't removed her shoe if she wants to enter my kitchen....she is also an incurable liar,....those of you claiming there is nothing wrong with ladies from broken family should rethink...

cc150615:


Well I need to answer you cause I'm really baffled at ur line of judgement...so you're concluding dt this girl is like this cos she's from a broken home..I'm sure if she was a spoilt Senator's daughter spoiling u with money nd had ds same xtics u won't complain o...And are u trying to say dr are no people from 'together' homes who can't do house chores I tell u dr are a gazillion of dem so you just can't tie her not been homely to being from a broken home.


But seriously this thread has made me really know how shallow a lotta ppl think...offcos I'm not saying broken homes can't have psychological or emotional effects on kids..but wat of kids dt have used the negative situation to develop themselves nd made them even better ppl....my point is u can't just meet a lady,get attracted to her for a while nd immediately u find out she's from a broken home..u just take to ur heels,anybody u say u wanna marry u take ur time to know the person nd know if she has the values u think are good enough for raising ur future kids nd base ur decision on dt...neverquit said it all there are a gazillion 'together homes' specially in ds 21st century dt are not healthy nd the kids grow up even worse than those from broken homes so don't let broken or not broken homes be ur criteria else u might just miss ur missing rib..know ur woman's character nd let God lead you...
With this imma gerarahere cos some comments are really amazing me dt ppl in the 21st century can still think like dt. Top of the morning to Y'all.

Timbuktou:
It's a risky proposition. Most children from broken homes haven't been taught how to keep a relationship or home together and make one work; and most of them never bother to learn. E no dey hard dem to divorce at the slightest marital inconvenience or check out emotionally. They are usually biased against the estranged parent and the parent's gender due to one-sided accounts from custodial parents.

Anybody intending to marry a product of a broken home would do well to ensure due diligence in determining their marriage ideals and conflict resolution beliefs and methods.

ejeh121:
my mum raised me since I was a minor and needed to be with her my elder ones was with pa and pa always came around to see me.

Shymm3x:


Lol. Not taking shots. They know that is how Nigerians in diaspora are classified in everyday interaction in diaspora. Folks get along on the surface but that is where it ends - different mentality/outlook, experience, and knowledge scope.

It is not an assumption - that is the reality. Our outlook and behavioural pattern are influenced by what we were raised around. It is just basically like chics who grew up around dads who are supremely loving and successful. Subconsciously, they will always scheme for guys who are or have the same potentials, as their dads. That is what they will subconsciously be attracted to. Just like every guy out there will always be subconsciously attracted to chics who are like their mums.

Chics from broken homes are also always quick to drop that "you're just as useless as my dad" line. If that doesn't tell a story...I don't know what it represents. The truth is: as a guy you will spend most of ya time trying to prove to them that you are not anything like their dads, due to all the negativity their mums must have instilled in them. And that is pretty much hard work.

Err, you are from a broken home. You just need a guy with a lot of patience who can play the role of a dad/partner at the same time. Run as far as you can from knuckleheads like me looool. But you'd make a great mum though.

Shymm3x:


Loool. I don't even count being a lighty as being beautiful (I've a younger cousin from North Ldn who thinks only lighties are good looking and all dark skinned chics are fugly lool - his dad is from Ijebu Ode, ya part of Ijebuland looool)...though a lot of them are. Moreover, most naija lighties are never even good looking...they always make looking light-skinned plain. Perhaps it's cos they're notorious for skin bleaching with Fela Kuti's "yellow fever" symptoms everywhere loool. I prefer my caramel and dark skinned chics with ridiculous bodies.

Shymm3x:


[/b]There are no right set of naij ladies...they're all the same [b] Let me check my family. My brother is married to a naija chic. Then two of my Uncles married naij women, and both are now separated from their wives. One is having fun, while the other is now with a Sierra Leonean chic...the rest are married to Ghanaians. Even my cousins aren't left out of the equation. Almost all of them are with chics from all kinds of countries, apart from two. The one that married very early at age 23 to a naij chic is now separated from his wife...but he likes his Yoruba chics and he has scooped up a next one. And the one that use to come on this forum is dating some Igbo or some chic from that South South part of naij. Round here, no one has time for naij chics...maybe me, cos I like clowning them loool. Even my boys aren't even into naij chics like that. True story.

Shymm3x:


Hopefully. I'll see if I can get pics on the internet. There's also a next Ijebu group I have on my friend list on a dummy facebook account - I'll check it as well.

Progress2468:


How old are u?

yetseyi:



okay




you know I wont let this go.






Its just that I don't have the stats I am almost certain we have more muslim-Ijebu than christains. You hardly find a purely christain extended family and a sizeable number among the christains were converted.( Ojude-Oba is on saturday I think)

lezz:
A lady who walks away from her first marriage is 90% likely to do so again in her second.

bamac:
i have lived in ijebu-ode for the past 7years and confirming to you that muslims are more than xtians here... The difference is clear during xmas and ileya celebration..

OJUDE-OBA is saturday, you can watch it live online... CHECK MY SIGNATURE...

yetseyi:


Thats nice, I saw that you created a thread for the press conference. You can please create a thread for pictures of the event .

cc: shymm3x

Shymm3x:


Loool. I don't even count being a lighty as being beautiful (I've a younger cousin from North Ldn who thinks only lighties are good looking and all dark skinned chics are fugly lool - his dad is from Ijebu Ode, ya part of Ijebuland looool)...though a lot of them are. Moreover, most naija lighties are never even good looking...they always make looking light-skinned plain. Perhaps it's cos they're notorious for skin bleaching with Fela Kuti's "yellow fever" symptoms everywhere loool. I prefer my caramel and dark skinned chics with ridiculous bodies.

There are no right set of naij ladies...they're all the same. Let me check my family. My brother is married to a naija chic. Then two of my Uncles married naij women, and both are now separated from their wives. One is having fun, while the other is now with a Sierra Leonean chic...the rest are married to Ghanaians. Even my cousins aren't left out of the equation. Almost all of them are with chics from all kinds of countries, apart from two. The one that married very early at age 23 to a naij chic is now separated from his wife...but he likes his Yoruba chics and he has scooped up a next one. And the one that use to come on this forum is dating some Igbo or some chic from that South South part of naij. Round here, no one has time for naij chics...maybe me, cos I like clowning them loool. Even my boys aren't even into naij chics like that. True story.

Nah, ain't no one got time to defend the black race - that's a lost cause. I just defend myself and my blackness, while talking about my reality as a black man. It's just basically about trying to find what's natural to you as a black person, and not getting involved in other people's battle for supremacy. I already have my plate full as a black man in this white man's world - no time getting involved in other people's nonsense lool.

Hopefully. I'll see if I can get pics on the internet. There's also a next Ijebu group I have on my friend list on a dummy facebook account - I'll check it as well.

Arty2014:

Q


What about guys/men from broken homes? Should ladies consider them for marriage?.........just asking

VenusBetty:
thank you my brother, I have a friend thats even divorced and to think I'm even older than her as young as I am, Her parent are still together. I also have a friend too, her Father once advised her to leave her husband's house if she feels she cant cope with his nagging, her parent her not separated o.

Timbuktou:
It's a risky proposition. Most children from broken homes haven't been taught how to keep a relationship or home together and make one work; and most of them never bother to learn. E no dey hard dem to divorce at the slightest marital inconvenience or check out emotionally. They are usually biased against the estranged parent and the parent's gender due to one-sided accounts from custodial parents.

Anybody intending to marry a product of a broken home would do well to ensure due diligence in determining their marriage ideals and conflict resolution beliefs and methods.

VenusBetty:
Your mum told you bad things about men, thank God you didn't take that into your brain, I am from a broken home too but I really appreciate my mum, She never said anything bad about my Dad, She's a teacher and i have to say there are some mums that will also do same. So coming from a broken home should not be the problem of the children, you think they like that fact. Reading all these comments totally broke my heart cuz its just called discrimination. Is this really what people think about us?

bamac:
don't go too far, check my signature, bamisepeters' blog is one of the accredited press for the festival.

passionate88:
Very wrong.

sorextee:
I grew up with dad..

yetseyi:

First time I am seeing a guy saying being lighty doesn't equate to beauty. but there are lighties who are actually good looking. I think generally lighties are more attractive they are more "brighter" so they get noticed easily.

@ bolded very WRONG

Okay will be expecting it, I trust my maternal family they are already in town ( Those peeps like owambe )

JudgementHammer:

Well I didn't frame up d story. Its very real. I almost ran out of home when I was young. Some children who she tried to adopt as househelp then, they ran away. There was a year I stayed away from home in a family friend's house and threatened her that I was with my dad since she won't change and she started threatening my dad to expect war. My dad said I shd let her know wherever I am to avoid complications and I did.

The fact is I don't even have the intention of going to my dad cuz his wife who is my mum's rival will not be happy to have me live with them. You certainly know how women feel when another child from outside is coming in..she could even poison me and I'm d only child 4 my mum. If I leave my mum now it won't be good although she once said its not necessary that her child buries her, that she can live without a child. Yet she was feeling jealous when I threatened to go to dad. Even d family friends that harboured me 4 that year are now her enemies cuz they hid her child from her..so she thinks. Apart from the psychological effects of coping in marriage sef, tell me which girl or lady would want to have such as a mother-in-law. A woman whose facial look alone isn't receptive yet a church addict. Well that's where I find myself and I can't fight God for giving me such a parent.

So my dear, some men have even gone thru more than these, that's why it seem some of them aren't loving or romantic. So its gud to know why God brought you into ur spouses' life and stop expecting the societal standard from him/her just cuz u see ur friend's spouse do same. Life is in stages and men are in sizes. We're all diff from each other and ur role as a husband/wife is unique to u alone. When u see someone who loves so much, its bcus he/she has been well loved too. No one can give what he/she does not have.