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Re: Advice Urgently Needed! by tosyne2much(m): 10:35pm On Oct 12, 2015
naijaboiy:
[color=#1980BC]This story touched my heart cry

Lalasticlala front page please. embarassed[/color]
The same way I was touched
Re: Advice Urgently Needed! by seunny4lif(m): 10:35pm On Oct 12, 2015
I dey come, make I ask 2face..
2face say make you give the girl number shocked cool
Re: Advice Urgently Needed! by Ephraimadedeji(m): 10:35pm On Oct 12, 2015
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Re: Advice Urgently Needed! by mikron(m): 10:38pm On Oct 12, 2015
So sad about ur story, God is ur strength
Re: Advice Urgently Needed! by Nobody: 10:39pm On Oct 12, 2015
O boi! This your case no be small thing oh kai! Me I pity u oh...

Anyway sha , the small advise wey I go give u be say mk u just find way maybe through whatsapp to begin to communicate with this babe wey u gbadun her parole oh cos communicating one-on-one with her no fit buy her over with this your condition oh... U needn't relate to her on first contact on whatsapp/bbm ur hidden agenda. All u needa do like I said is to entice her so she becomes ur friend and see the beauty of u beyond your looks and the big hearing challenge u have oh... After you're sure she likes u well well shouldn't take u more than 3weeks to ascertain that, begin to step up yor game with her small small Shey u get, maybe by playing all those slap your butt I run away dirty game if u kwim to study her reactions y'know...

You'll need the help of that your classy twin sister oh my guy to help u convince this ur fish the better cos u no fit do am alone oh... He no easy for woman to date a deaf man truth be told oh... Don't forget to pray about it so u may encounter favor sharp sharp in her sight oh... I feel ur pain dude and I wish u well in ya adventure.


Less I forget , premarital sex is a big sin oh so no go there oh... Me I jus give u this advise and go ahead so u may boost ya self esteem ni oh... Augur well my nigga oh grin
Re: Advice Urgently Needed! by Olayinka8793(op): 10:41pm On Oct 12, 2015
LesbianBoy:
So you no get liver grin grin grin grin
liver Kor kidney ni.
Re: Advice Urgently Needed! by obi4eze(m): 10:42pm On Oct 12, 2015
Sweetyie:
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Simitrendy:
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Una try wella grin
Re: Advice Urgently Needed! by kinibigdeal(m): 10:42pm On Oct 12, 2015
I expected the ladies to come up with a better advice than the guys.

Bro, you have a temporary problem that can be permanently solved. Your self believe is key, your approach is sacrosant, the type of girl is imperative. Your temporary condition has nothing to do with your ability, your boldness do.
Re: Advice Urgently Needed! by harristo(m): 10:43pm On Oct 12, 2015
wait
Re: Advice Urgently Needed! by osazeeblue01: 10:45pm On Oct 12, 2015
first take Alemo bitter + Orijin bitter + stout and tom tom sweet. Thats ok for now
Re: Advice Urgently Needed! by JoshB92: 10:46pm On Oct 12, 2015
and how are we sure dis is true storyhuh?
Re: Advice Urgently Needed! by vicadex07(m): 10:47pm On Oct 12, 2015
Olayinka8793:
Good day nairalanders, my name is Yinka and am also a twin. I have an issue bothering me and wished to post it here openly in the hope that I will get useful advice/opinion.

This post may seem long and therefore turn off those who hate long epistles but pls endeavour to read it as your advice/opinion might be beneficial to me.

I have thought of creating an alternative moniker to post this or at least lied that the problem is been faced by one of my friend and so he needs your advice like some pretentious nairalanders do, but decided to be bold enough and be real since this is just an online forum.

Sorry for digressing, now to the koko of the matter,I am 22 years old, will be 23 next January, earning a decent salary working as a hair stylist in a large unisex saloon, I have hearing loss as in total deafness though I could speak fluently, was not born deaf but an accident caused it while I was in primary school, the story of how I became deaf is one for another day, but with sheer determination and faith and Gods Grace I managed to complete both primary and secondary schooling but gave up on going further as I have no believe I could survive higher school.

My deafness affected me in very many ways, physiologicaly and emotionally and almost daily, but I hardly allow myself brood over it for a long time, the worst I have done was to cry in secret on more than four occasion for having such a terrible disability.

Ok well, my deafness affected my relationship with the opposite sex so much such that I have never had a girl friend meaning am still a virgin, though I relieve myself of what nairalanders called Konji by doing controlled mas2bation when I feel like, I could have used Oloshos to relieve myself but I considered them as dirty people and can't imagine losing my virginity to a prostitute.

I have tried summoning confidence to toast gals but our conversation is usually very short and not impressive due to the fact I don't know how to prolong such conversations and most of the ideas I saw online hardly applied to such conversation involving a person like me wit hearing loss. I communicate like a normal person by lip reading(hope u know what that is), though not always an effective means of communication but I had no other choice as my parents and me hated the idea of me learning sign language and they vehemently resisted those who suggested it when the deafness problem started.The only problem I have with lip reading was that whenever I don't understand what the other person was saying, I would indicate and ask him to repeat but if it persist I ask him or her to write it with the finger and you will agree with me that such inconvenience might be a big turn of when trying to talk to a stranger like a beautiful gal I admired.

There is this girl I admired that works as a sales girl in my aunt's pharmacy shop, she frequently passed in front of our saloon and have started having feelings for her, fortunately she know I have hearing loss and also knew I am a nephew to her boss and sometimes greets me when passing by like "boda taye",lol and I had just waved and answer "bawo ni", ordinarily I should not have problem toasting her but the fear of my deafness disappointing me and the fact I don't know anything to say that could make the toasting successfull apart from, what is your name, I want to marry you, where do you live, can I have your number, can I take you out on a date next Sunday? Bla bla bla.lol

Also there is the problem I usually encounter with young gals, when I told them I want to marry you, they be like "omo kekere ni mi" meaning am a small girl and I be like how old are you, but can we just be friends bla bla bla, any suggestion to how to properly deal with such response will be appreciated in case the gal I planned to toast say such(she looks 19+). It is not like she is out of my class or too beautiful, no no no not at all, even my twin sister is more classier.

Thanks for reading this far, I know this might seem like an unusual problem but I believe you will have one or two ideas/opinions which I might find useful in other to overcome my deafness and win over this gal. I have no intention of using and dumping her, just date her with the hope of finding her compatible for marriage when the time comes and lastly to relieve myself of Konji the natural way after having gained her trust and affection.

Modified. E be like say I want more opinions, oya CC: lalasticlala abeg do the needful.
Its obvious you are well educated and can type impressively well enough to chat.

Just try and collect any of her (or any future crush you have) social media info like bbpin, whatsapp number, facebook, 2go, instagram, twitter and all and start from their.

Am sure if the girl fancies you too and has probably considered dating you, she wouldn't hesitate to give her bb pin out for instance.

Make all your moves by subtle suggestions on social media. Throw out sexual innuendos playfully and watch her reaction before going in for the kill.
Re: Advice Urgently Needed! by BuddhaPalm(m): 10:48pm On Oct 12, 2015
@ Olayinka8793

You express yourself really well.

Ever tried a hearing aid? It could change your life.
Re: Advice Urgently Needed! by Lionhearted: 10:48pm On Oct 12, 2015
You write well bro.

Concerning the hearing loss, can hearing aids help or is it profound? You can try that route.

As for the girl simply let her know how feel. The ache you will feel if rejected will be lesser than that of bottling up your feeling and not letting her know.

Neither a Yes or No kills though one is preferable to the other.
Re: Advice Urgently Needed! by nicerod(m): 10:48pm On Oct 12, 2015
Omo c how ssce holder compose thread like a Msc holder bro i hail o
Re: Advice Urgently Needed! by streetzdreamz(m): 10:48pm On Oct 12, 2015
Wow, you are really good, I mean you write well!!! No one will believe you didn't go through any higher institutions, as per your timid approach to ladies I must say I suffered the same fate years back,cuz all through have never asked a lady out, they just have a way of coming, just be yourself and don't be afraid of losing her or something, she already knows a thing or two about you, just go ahead and get her number,get closer via chats and msgs, get to know her better, all other things will follow suit, if she digs you though.
Re: Advice Urgently Needed! by Princezoi(m): 10:50pm On Oct 12, 2015
LesbianBoy:
So you no get liver grin grin grin grin
Ode oponu omo!!!!!
Re: Advice Urgently Needed! by favoured247(m):
Re: Advice Urgently Needed! by hustler86(m): 10:52pm On Oct 12, 2015
It takes courage to say I'm the one if U farted in a public bus op shey u knw grin, so dt same courage u got sharing ur problem wt us is what u need to ask her out... Thank your star she knws abt ur condition, jst ask her on date to a 9c n quiet plce. Tell her how u feel abt her and what u want her fordont say marry pls. Thank me later grin
Re: Advice Urgently Needed! by smileyz16(m): 10:52pm On Oct 12, 2015
Imagine you wake up one morning only to find the following imaginations come true. Which one will amaze you most?: ,............................... 1. Petrol price is now N1 per litre! .................... 2. NEPA bill is N30 per month! ................... 3. Governor Rotimi Amaechi marries Dame Patience! ................. 4. Buhari picks Jonathan as vice president! ................... 5. IBB contests for senator and won! ..................... 6. Zamfara is the new Capital of Nigeria! ................. 7. Namadi sambo is the Chief Imam of Abuja Central Mosque! ................... 8. Dangote is a gate-man in one of Kano motor Park! .................... 9. Shekau becomes Minister of Defence, fighting against terrorism! ................... 10. Nigeria becomes world greatest super power! .............. Which one of the above will surprise you most?
Re: Advice Urgently Needed! by ikombe: 10:53pm On Oct 12, 2015
Olayinka8793:
ok bro,thanks for your incomplete advice sha.
*rehearsing*
hey baby what is ur name
my name is.............
I like u,I mean I fell in like with ucheesy
she :meaning?
Me: *speechless*



if she embarrassed me I will blame u bro.
lol grin
Re: Advice Urgently Needed! by Kayoski(m): 10:53pm On Oct 12, 2015
JoshB92:
and how are we sure dis is true storyhuh?
how are we sure u r not a female??
just believe.. at least give op the benefit of doubt
Re: Advice Urgently Needed! by AkwaIbomrep1: 10:53pm On Oct 12, 2015
Olayinka8793:
Good day nairalanders, my name is Yinka and am also a twin. I have an issue bothering me and wished to post it here openly in the hope that I will get useful advice/opinion.

This post may seem long and therefore turn off those who hate long epistles but pls endeavour to read it as your advice/opinion might be beneficial to me.

I have thought of creating an alternative moniker to post this or at least lied that the problem is been faced by one of my friend and so he needs your advice like some pretentious nairalanders do, but decided to be bold enough and be real since this is just an online forum.

Sorry for digressing, now to the koko of the matter,I am 22 years old, will be 23 next January, earning a decent salary working as a hair stylist in a large unisex saloon, I have hearing loss as in total deafness though I could speak fluently, was not born deaf but an accident caused it while I was in primary school, the story of how I became deaf is one for another day, but with sheer determination and faith and Gods Grace I managed to complete both primary and secondary schooling but gave up on going further as I have no believe I could survive higher school.

My deafness affected me in very many ways, physiologicaly and emotionally and almost daily, but I hardly allow myself brood over it for a long time, the worst I have done was to cry in secret on more than four occasion for having such a terrible disability.

Ok well, my deafness affected my relationship with the opposite sex so much such that I have never had a girl friend meaning am still a virgin, though I relieve myself of what nairalanders called Konji by doing controlled mas2bation when I feel like, I could have used Oloshos to relieve myself but I considered them as dirty people and can't imagine losing my virginity to a prostitute.

I have tried summoning confidence to toast gals but our conversation is usually very short and not impressive due to the fact I don't know how to prolong such conversations and most of the ideas I saw online hardly applied to such conversation involving a person like me wit hearing loss. I communicate like a normal person by lip reading(hope u know what that is), though not always an effective means of communication but I had no other choice as my parents and me hated the idea of me learning sign language and they vehemently resisted those who suggested it when the deafness problem started.The only problem I have with lip reading was that whenever I don't understand what the other person was saying, I would indicate and ask him to repeat but if it persist I ask him or her to write it with the finger and you will agree with me that such inconvenience might be a big turn of when trying to talk to a stranger like a beautiful gal I admired.

There is this girl I admired that works as a sales girl in my aunt's pharmacy shop, she frequently passed in front of our saloon and have started having feelings for her, fortunately she know I have hearing loss and also knew I am a nephew to her boss and sometimes greets me when passing by like "boda taye",lol and I had just waved and answer "bawo ni", ordinarily I should not have problem toasting her but the fear of my deafness disappointing me and the fact I don't know anything to say that could make the toasting successfull apart from, what is your name, I want to marry you, where do you live, can I have your number, can I take you out on a date next Sunday? Bla bla bla.lol

Also there is the problem I usually encounter with young gals, when I told them I want to marry you, they be like "omo kekere ni mi" meaning am a small girl and I be like how old are you, but can we just be friends bla bla bla, any suggestion to how to properly deal with such response will be appreciated in case the gal I planned to toast say such(she looks 19+). It is not like she is out of my class or too beautiful, no no no not at all, even my twin sister is more classier.

Thanks for reading this far, I know this might seem like an unusual problem but I believe you will have one or two ideas/opinions which I might find useful in other to overcome my deafness and win over this gal. I have no intention of using and dumping her, just date her with the hope of finding her compatible for marriage when the time comes and lastly to relieve myself of Konji the natural way after having gained her trust and affection.

Modified. E be like say I want more opinions, oya CC: lalasticlala abeg do the needful.
first of all u are not deaf, receive healing in the name of Jesus christ ...amen..'' just be faithful to God one day u shall find ur missing rib...in other news...''invest in Akwa ibom ''
Re: Advice Urgently Needed! by gbosky22(m): 10:54pm On Oct 12, 2015
I think you should try and communicate with her more on phone via text,whatsapp or bbm cos through that u can easily express yourself and explain all what you want her to know,if she's understanding she would agree with you,a lot of people woo girls through chats and when they see they don't even say much,the Lord is your strenght
Re: Advice Urgently Needed! by ebuks001: 10:54pm On Oct 12, 2015
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Olayinka8793:
Good day nairalanders, my name is Yinka and am also a twin. I have an issue bothering me and wished to post it here openly in the hope that I will get useful advice/opinion.

This post may seem long and therefore turn off those who hate long epistles but pls endeavour to read it as your advice/opinion might be beneficial to me.

I have thought of creating an alternative moniker to post this or at least lied that the problem is been faced by one of my friend and so he needs your advice like some pretentious nairalanders do, but decided to be bold enough and be real since this is just an online forum.

Sorry for digressing, now to the koko of the matter,I am 22 years old, will be 23 next January, earning a decent salary working as a hair stylist in a large unisex saloon, I have hearing loss as in total deafness though I could speak fluently, was not born deaf but an accident caused it while I was in primary school, the story of how I became deaf is one for another day, but with sheer determination and faith and Gods Grace I managed to complete both primary and secondary schooling but gave up on going further as I have no believe I could survive higher school.

My deafness affected me in very many ways, physiologicaly and emotionally and almost daily, but I hardly allow myself brood over it for a long time, the worst I have done was to cry in secret on more than four occasion for having such a terrible disability.

Ok well, my deafness affected my relationship with the opposite sex so much such that I have never had a girl friend meaning am still a virgin, though I relieve myself of what nairalanders called Konji by doing controlled mas2bation when I feel like, I could have used Oloshos to relieve myself but I considered them as dirty people and can't imagine losing my virginity to a prostitute.

I have tried summoning confidence to toast gals but our conversation is usually very short and not impressive due to the fact I don't know how to prolong such conversations and most of the ideas I saw online hardly applied to such conversation involving a person like me wit hearing loss. I communicate like a normal person by lip reading(hope u know what that is), though not always an effective means of communication but I had no other choice as my parents and me hated the idea of me learning sign language and they vehemently resisted those who suggested it when the deafness problem started.The only problem I have with lip reading was that whenever I don't understand what the other person was saying, I would indicate and ask him to repeat but if it persist I ask him or her to write it with the finger and you will agree with me that such inconvenience might be a big turn of when trying to talk to a stranger like a beautiful gal I admired.

There is this girl I admired that works as a sales girl in my aunt's pharmacy shop, she frequently passed in front of our saloon and have started having feelings for her, fortunately she know I have hearing loss and also knew I am a nephew to her boss and sometimes greets me when passing by like "boda taye",lol and I had just waved and answer "bawo ni", ordinarily I should not have problem toasting her but the fear of my deafness disappointing me and the fact I don't know anything to say that could make the toasting successfull apart from, what is your name, I want to marry you, where do you live, can I have your number, can I take you out on a date next Sunday? Bla bla bla.lol

Also there is the problem I usually encounter with young gals, when I told them I want to marry you, they be like "omo kekere ni mi" meaning am a small girl and I be like how old are you, but can we just be friends bla bla bla, any suggestion to how to properly deal with such response will be appreciated in case the gal I planned to toast say such(she looks 19+). It is not like she is out of my class or too beautiful, no no no not at all, even my twin sister is more classier.

Thanks for reading this far, I know this might seem like an unusual problem but I believe you will have one or two ideas/opinions which I might find useful in other to overcome my deafness and win over this gal. I have no intention of using and dumping her, just date her with the hope of finding her compatible for marriage when the time comes and lastly to relieve myself of Konji the natural way after having gained her trust and affection.

Modified. E be like say I want more opinions, oya CC: lalasticlala abeg do the needful.
Re: Advice Urgently Needed! by ikombe: 10:55pm On Oct 12, 2015
AkwaIbomrep1:
first of all u are not deaf, receive healing in the name of Jesus christ ...amen..'' just be faithful to God one day u shall find ur missing rib...in other news...''invest in Akwa ibom ''
Re: Advice Urgently Needed! by donifez(m): 10:55pm On Oct 12, 2015
You write well, I love your write-up.

I think you should approach her, let her know you like her in a subtle way, she might reciprocate.

Goodluck.
Re: Advice Urgently Needed! by tosyne2much(m): 10:55pm On Oct 12, 2015
nicerod:
Omo c how ssce holder compose thread like a Msc holder bro i hail o
The dude is good, structurally and constructively
Re: Advice Urgently Needed! by 2dice(m): 10:55pm On Oct 12, 2015
Olayinka8793:
ok bro,thanks for your incomplete advice sha.
*rehearsing*
hey baby what is ur name
my name is.............
I like u,I mean I fell in like with ucheesy
she :/



if she embarrassed me I will blame u bro.
werey ni Bobo yi sha cheesy grin
Like seriously who toast bae's diss days
Get to know her
Flirt ... Flirt ...Flirt
Don't be clingy grin
Know when to call/chat
Ok after she is comfortable with u
U can stylishly ask her for a Date
Lol it could be your crib...maybe should come teach u how to cook her best meal
She is likely gonna come
Also game other Girls too..
#The lord is your strength
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