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Re: Advice Urgently Needed! by ikombe: 10:56pm On Oct 12, 2015
AkwaIbomrep1:
first of all u are not deaf, receive healing in the name of Jesus christ ...amen..'' just be faithful to God one day u shall find ur missing rib...in other news...''invest in Akwa ibom ''
werey grin lwkmd ''invest in akwaibom''
Re: Advice Urgently Needed! by Nobody: 10:57pm On Oct 12, 2015
Common bro. Don't start telling a lady you just met about marriage although i know it confuses most ladies. Just calm down and woo her normally cos you are a normal guy and also try to chop a little liver to talk 2 the girl cos its alot easier now that she knows about your predicament....
That'd be all for now. So glad if i were of help cheesy cheesy cheesy

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Re: Advice Urgently Needed! by Olayinka8793(m): 10:58pm On Oct 12, 2015
Simitrendy:



Disability doesn't mean inability.


Tho I've seen a girl deaf tho she isn't mentally and physically fit.

And she's studying Law at JABU and she has a boyfriend.



Visit a good hospitals that has Ear Nose and Throat Dept.


Or a good Teaching Hospital they offer earphones for deaf people, so at least you can still use it.


But def u WL still find some1 who's gonna love you without looking or thinking of your disability.



BTW stop that Konji, I mean the masturbation of a thing.

Why not keep yourself sexually pure, Remember that your destiny is in your hand grin



noted bro thanks,actually the deafness has defied both medical and spiritual interventions,hav been to and conducted audiogram test or whatever they called it at LASUTH and a hearing aid was prescribed but still no positive result after been tested on me,as for the waking part I have control over it so am not addicted,u know it is better than patronizing ashis.
Re: Advice Urgently Needed! by ikombe: 10:59pm On Oct 12, 2015
osazeeblue01:
first take Alemo bitter + Orijin bitter + stout and tom tom sweet. Thats ok for now

Re: Advice Urgently Needed! by Olayinka8793(m): 11:00pm On Oct 12, 2015
saasala:
Sorry, I aint gat the time to read anything this lengthy. Try again later.
who forced u to open the thread? Sebi u know the exit door.

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Re: Advice Urgently Needed! by Olayinka8793(m): 11:02pm On Oct 12, 2015
mikron:
So sad about ur story, God is ur strength
amen thanks.

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Re: Advice Urgently Needed! by OLUJOSHINS(m): 11:02pm On Oct 12, 2015
Olayinka8793:
bro why na,ain't gals of such age range matured enough for dating?,this particular gal is 19+ so she should be ripe enough for marriage in 3 years time.


My broda 19-22 ain't ready for marriage ooooo.

They just want to flirt around.

I will seriously advice U to bone ladies for now.


just flow with God's plan for Ur life & He shall provide a companion for U as He did for Adam

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Re: Advice Urgently Needed! by elderhimself(m): 11:02pm On Oct 12, 2015
Truly a long post.....wasnt patient enuf to read it....sorry
Re: Advice Urgently Needed! by yanabasee(m): 11:04pm On Oct 12, 2015
OP..... I'll rather advice that u don't rush into expressing your intentions...

Firstly... You're inlove... So u must not let that feelings to overwhelm you... As girls prefer men who control their thoughts and feelings. What you'll have to do is to extend the greetings to a more adherent greetings. Add more things to the greetings like... Bawo ni, how was ur night? Welcome, hope u had a sound sleep?

After which u'll try and be jovial with ur greetings... It's a common fact that Girls fall in love with guys that makes them smile and or laugh! Funny dude per se... So try and be a comedian just for her. And also add more to ur lines of comedies... You don't have to be funny at all times... Give a limit to it.

Try and let the conversation to have impacts.. That she will want to confide on you... Make her to see you as somebody that is matured and sensible..

When she finally have your time... Don't be too emotional with her... Unless she's moody! Then don't forget to release emotional words to her at that moment... When u say these words.... Look straight into her eyes and let those words come directly from your heart....

She will fall in love if she has two of such moody times with you!

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Re: Advice Urgently Needed! by ikombe: 11:05pm On Oct 12, 2015
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Re: Advice Urgently Needed! by Olayinka8793(m): 11:06pm On Oct 12, 2015
pinceprinz:
O boi! This your case no be small thing oh kai! Me I pity u oh...

Anyway sha , the small advise wey I go give u be say mk u just find way maybe through whatsapp to begin to communicate with this babe wey u gbadun her parole oh cos communicating one-on-one with her no fit buy her over with this your condition oh... U needn't relate to her on first contact on whatsapp/bbm ur hidden agenda. All u needa do like I said is to entice her so she becomes ur friend and see the beauty of u beyond your looks and the big hearing challenge u have oh... After you're sure she likes u well well shouldn't take u more than 3weeks to ascertain that, begin to step up yor game with her small small Shey u get, maybe by playing all those slap your butt I run away dirty game if u kwim to study her reactions y'know...

You'll need the help of that your classy twin sister oh my guy to help u convince this ur fish the better cos u no fit do am alone oh... He no easy for woman to date a deaf man truth be told oh... Don't forget to pray about it so u may encounter favor sharp sharp in her sight oh... I feel ur pain dude and I wish u well in ya adventure.


Less I forget , premarital sex is a big sin oh so no go there oh... Me I jus give u this advise and go ahead so u may boost ya self esteem ni oh... Augur well my nigga oh grin
noted bro,u must be a very experienced player/toaster. Lots of useful points u have there,thanks.
Re: Advice Urgently Needed! by Nobody: 11:06pm On Oct 12, 2015
Olayinka8793:
Good day nairalanders, my name is Yinka and am also a twin. I have an issue bothering me and wished to post it here openly in the hope that I will get useful advice/opinion.

This post may seem long and therefore turn off those who hate long epistles but pls endeavour to read it as your advice/opinion might be beneficial to me.

I have thought of creating an alternative moniker to post this or at least lied that the problem is been faced by one of my friend and so he needs your advice like some pretentious nairalanders do, but decided to be bold enough and be real since this is just an online forum.

Sorry for digressing, now to the koko of the matter,I am 22 years old, will be 23 next January, earning a decent salary working as a hair stylist in a large unisex saloon, I have hearing loss as in total deafness though I could speak fluently, was not born deaf but an accident caused it while I was in primary school, the story of how I became deaf is one for another day, but with sheer determination and faith and Gods Grace I managed to complete both primary and secondary schooling but gave up on going further as I have no believe I could survive higher school.

My deafness affected me in very many ways, physiologicaly and emotionally and almost daily, but I hardly allow myself brood over it for a long time, the worst I have done was to cry in secret on more than four occasion for having such a terrible disability.

Ok well, my deafness affected my relationship with the opposite sex so much such that I have never had a girl friend meaning am still a virgin, though I relieve myself of what nairalanders called Konji by doing controlled mas2bation when I feel like, I could have used Oloshos to relieve myself but I considered them as dirty people and can't imagine losing my virginity to a prostitute.

I have tried summoning confidence to toast gals but our conversation is usually very short and not impressive due to the fact I don't know how to prolong such conversations and most of the ideas I saw online hardly applied to such conversation involving a person like me wit hearing loss. I communicate like a normal person by lip reading(hope u know what that is), though not always an effective means of communication but I had no other choice as my parents and me hated the idea of me learning sign language and they vehemently resisted those who suggested it when the deafness problem started.The only problem I have with lip reading was that whenever I don't understand what the other person was saying, I would indicate and ask him to repeat but if it persist I ask him or her to write it with the finger and you will agree with me that such inconvenience might be a big turn of when trying to talk to a stranger like a beautiful gal I admired.

There is this girl I admired that works as a sales girl in my aunt's pharmacy shop, she frequently passed in front of our saloon and have started having feelings for her, fortunately she know I have hearing loss and also knew I am a nephew to her boss and sometimes greets me when passing by like "boda taye",lol and I had just waved and answer "bawo ni", ordinarily I should not have problem toasting her but the fear of my deafness disappointing me and the fact I don't know anything to say that could make the toasting successfull apart from, what is your name, I want to marry you, where do you live, can I have your number, can I take you out on a date next Sunday? Bla bla bla.lol

Also there is the problem I usually encounter with young gals, when I told them I want to marry you, they be like "omo kekere ni mi" meaning am a small girl and I be like how old are you, but can we just be friends bla bla bla, any suggestion to how to properly deal with such response will be appreciated in case the gal I planned to toast say such(she looks 19+). It is not like she is out of my class or too beautiful, no no no not at all, even my twin sister is more classier.

Thanks for reading this far, I know this might seem like an unusual problem but I believe you will have one or two ideas/opinions which I might find useful in other to overcome my deafness and win over this gal. I have no intention of using and dumping her, just date her with the hope of finding her compatible for marriage when the time comes and lastly to relieve myself of Konji the natural way after having gained her trust and affection.

Modified. E be like say I want more opinions, oya CC: lalasticlala abeg do the needful.


Check if u can find a hearing aid to help u to hear low sounds at least. Good luck

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Re: Advice Urgently Needed! by enyi1: 11:07pm On Oct 12, 2015
op, girls like lively and funny guys. Send her funny jokes, small gifts and be playful with her. invite her over to your house. Entertain her the much you could. But don't tell her anything about love or dating. Make her to be free with you and lower her guards. Ask her to visit again within the week. By the second visit you can drink or high your self and pour out your feelings to her. Try kissing her. If you could kiss her then try gently touching her and you might get to the promised land. I wish you all the best!
Re: Advice Urgently Needed! by broxymall(m): 11:07pm On Oct 12, 2015
No tangible advice so far..

Dude you cant Automatically ask a girl to marry you at this your kinda age, everything in life is by stage, no shortcut. . like what everyone says, start with friendship, from there you know more about her in the long run..
your predicament is no excuse..
i have the same problem with you, rather than runin after ladies, they run after me, let her see you for who you are.. for your attribute and qualities.
Let me tell u this..Never you give up on something you want or like, It is difficult to wait but more difficult to regret it

Mehn this kinda age, no one here matured is really ready to spew some advice lipsrsealed undecided
What are your plans? , target, your priority, Goals

Fulfill them all before you talk about women..
and lastly pray.

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Re: Advice Urgently Needed! by Nobody: 11:07pm On Oct 12, 2015
BlackrulesDworld:
Ok
thats ur opinion to a god who is strange to you. But to me, God is the Supreme Head of all flesh and spirits. A Titan to be reckoned with....A Field Marshall yet to lose a war or battle....the Deity whose blessings make the Jews what they are....well, your ignorance is a huge sign how shallow your thinking is and its permitted 4 a while!

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Re: Advice Urgently Needed! by tosyne2much(m): 11:08pm On Oct 12, 2015
yanabasee:
OP..... I'll rather advice that u don't rush into expressing your intentions...

Firstly... You're inlove... So u must not let that feelings to overwhelm you... As girls prefer men who control their thoughts and feelings. What you'll have to do is to extend the greetings to a more adherent greetings. Add more things to the greetings like... Bawo ni, how was ur night? Welcome, hope u had a sound sleep?

After which u'll try and be jovial with ur greetings... It's a common fact that Girls fall in love with guys that makes them smile and or laugh! Funny dude per se... So try and be a comedian just for her. And also add more to ur lines of comedies... You don't have to be funny at all times... Give a limit to it.

Try and let the conversation to have impacts.. That she will want to confide on you... Make her to see you as somebody that is matured and sensible..

When she finally have your time... Don't be too emotional with her... Unless she's moody! Then don't forget to release emotional words to her at that moment... When u say these words.... Look straight into her eyes and let those words come directly from your heart....

She will fall in love if she has two of such moody times with you!
I like this comment bro


* Thumbs up bro * cool

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Re: Advice Urgently Needed! by Olayinka8793(m): 11:08pm On Oct 12, 2015
kinibigdeal:
I expected the ladies to come up with a better advice than the guys.

Bro, you have a temporary problem that can be permanently solved. Your self believe is key, your approach is sacrosant, the type of girl is imperative. Your temporary condition has nothing to do with your ability, your boldness do.
well said bro,thanks.
Re: Advice Urgently Needed! by drnairalov: 11:10pm On Oct 12, 2015
tb joshua nko?? undecided
Re: Advice Urgently Needed! by nazilee: 11:10pm On Oct 12, 2015
DiegoNakel:
Bro I feel your pain tho. You could start be writing a love letter to her making her know your intentions towards her. Pour out your mind in the letter, don't be shy. We can't say she also might have personal likeness for you.
Re: Advice Urgently Needed! by Codyt(m): 11:10pm On Oct 12, 2015
Simitrendy:
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Disability doesn't mean inability.


Tho I've seen a girl deaf tho she isn't mentally and physically fit.

And she's studying Law at JABU and she has a boyfriend.



Visit a good hospitals that has Ear Nose and Throat Dept.


Or a good Teaching Hospital they offer earphones for deaf people, so at least you can still use it.


But def u WL still find some1 who's gonna love you without looking or thinking of your disability.



BTW stop that Konji, I mean the masturbation of a thing.

Why not keep yourself sexually pure, Remember that your destiny is in your hand grin



They are called "hearing aids" tongue

Op I feel your pain. To be honest it would take a long time to find the right person that understands your challenge.
Since the girl aforementioned above is mindful of your little "challenge", worry not about being friend zoned. Stop terming yourself inadequate. You're a boy developing into a man start thinking and acting like one.
AND your konji feeling is absolutely normal angry

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Re: Advice Urgently Needed! by Olayinka8793(m): 11:12pm On Oct 12, 2015
OLUJOSHINS:



My broda 19-22 ain't ready for marriage ooooo.

They just want to flirt around.

I will seriously advice U to bone ladies for now.


just flow with God's plan for Ur life & He shall provide a companion for U as He did for Adam
u have a point bro,I don't really mean marriage but dating,am not that stupid.
Bone ladies for now? Easier said than done especially when am not a celibate priest.lol
Re: Advice Urgently Needed! by demolinka(m): 11:14pm On Oct 12, 2015
Newton's first law of motion bro. Go figure

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Re: Advice Urgently Needed! by stonecoldcafe: 11:14pm On Oct 12, 2015
Olayinka8793:
Good day nairalanders, my name is Yinka and am also a twin. I have an issue bothering me and wished to post it here openly in the hope that I will get useful advice/opinion.

This post may seem long and therefore turn off those who hate long epistles but pls endeavour to read it as your advice/opinion might be beneficial to me.

I have thought of creating an alternative moniker to post this or at least lied that the problem is been faced by one of my friend and so he needs your advice like some pretentious nairalanders do, but decided to be bold enough and be real since this is just an online forum.

Sorry for digressing, now to the koko of the matter,I am 22 years old, will be 23 next January, earning a decent salary working as a hair stylist in a large unisex saloon, I have hearing loss as in total deafness though I could speak fluently, was not born deaf but an accident caused it while I was in primary school, the story of how I became deaf is one for another day, but with sheer determination and faith and Gods Grace I managed to complete both primary and secondary schooling but gave up on going further as I have no believe I could survive higher school.

My deafness affected me in very many ways, physiologicaly and emotionally and almost daily, but I hardly allow myself brood over it for a long time, the worst I have done was to cry in secret on more than four occasion for having such a terrible disability.

Ok well, my deafness affected my relationship with the opposite sex so much such that I have never had a girl friend meaning am still a virgin, though I relieve myself of what nairalanders called Konji by doing controlled mas2bation when I feel like, I could have used Oloshos to relieve myself but I considered them as dirty people and can't imagine losing my virginity to a prostitute.

I have tried summoning confidence to toast gals but our conversation is usually very short and not impressive due to the fact I don't know how to prolong such conversations and most of the ideas I saw online hardly applied to such conversation involving a person like me wit hearing loss. I communicate like a normal person by lip reading(hope u know what that is), though not always an effective means of communication but I had no other choice as my parents and me hated the idea of me learning sign language and they vehemently resisted those who suggested it when the deafness problem started.The only problem I have with lip reading was that whenever I don't understand what the other person was saying, I would indicate and ask him to repeat but if it persist I ask him or her to write it with the finger and you will agree with me that such inconvenience might be a big turn of when trying to talk to a stranger like a beautiful gal I admired.

There is this girl I admired that works as a sales girl in my aunt's pharmacy shop, she frequently passed in front of our saloon and have started having feelings for her, fortunately she know I have hearing loss and also knew I am a nephew to her boss and sometimes greets me when passing by like "boda taye",lol and I had just waved and answer "bawo ni", ordinarily I should not have problem toasting her but the fear of my deafness disappointing me and the fact I don't know anything to say that could make the toasting successfull apart from, what is your name, I want to marry you, where do you live, can I have your number, can I take you out on a date next Sunday? Bla bla bla.lol

Also there is the problem I usually encounter with young gals, when I told them I want to marry you, they be like "omo kekere ni mi" meaning am a small girl and I be like how old are you, but can we just be friends bla bla bla, any suggestion to how to properly deal with such response will be appreciated in case the gal I planned to toast say such(she looks 19+). It is not like she is out of my class or too beautiful, no no no not at all, even my twin sister is more classier.

Thanks for reading this far, I know this might seem like an unusual problem but I believe you will have one or two ideas/opinions which I might find useful in other to overcome my deafness and win over this gal. I have no intention of using and dumping her, just date her with the hope of finding her compatible for marriage when the time comes and lastly to relieve myself of Konji the natural way after having gained her trust and affection.

Modified. E be like say I want more opinions, oya CC: lalasticlala abeg do the needful.

You seem like a good lad. Don't sweat it too much just be confident. She knows your challenges so all you need is CONFIDENCE. Approach her, wave from afar and start heading towards her then say hi.

If it gets clumsy, scribble something in her prescence (in a paper or jotter) and look into her eyes not on the floor. I saw this move in a film and the lady fell for it e.g if she is talking too fast, you can scribble 'slow down dear' and add a smiley face.

Sometimes, little things like that may endear the right lady.

I must be honest though; this has to be a special lady that sees the spark in you. I wish you al the very best young man.

Last bullet: don't promise anyone marriage from the go. Take it easy 'I like you, I really do. I'm serious about you, let's see where this road leads us..." Plus when you start kpanshing, insist on a condom before they derail you with baby mama drama.

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Re: Advice Urgently Needed! by BlackrulesDworld(m): 11:15pm On Oct 12, 2015
Ranks007:
thats ur opinion to a god who is strange to you. But to me, God is the Supreme Head of all flesh and spirits. A Titan to be reckoned with....A Field Marshall yet to lose a war or battle....the Deity whose blessings make the Jews what they are....well, your ignorance is a huge sign how shallow your thinking is and its permitted 4 a while!


You retarded! I commented with 'ok', why quote me with this nonsense.
Re: Advice Urgently Needed! by castrokins(m): 11:15pm On Oct 12, 2015
The Stupidity Of The One Derailing This Thread Amazes Me.




































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Re: Advice Urgently Needed! by Simitrendy: 11:15pm On Oct 12, 2015
Olayinka8793:
noted bro thanks,actually the deafness has defied both medical and spiritual interventions,hav been to and conducted audiogram test or whatever they called it at LASU and a hearing aid was prescribed but still no positive result after been tested on me,as for the waking part I have control over it so am not addicted,u know it is better than patronizing ashis.



Don't worry bro sorrow might last for a night but joy cometh in d morning.

U will share your testimony very soon. Uno God can wrath miracles in your life.

If you're closer to him, he will solve the deafness. Keep praying, trusting and obeying.

God will restore your hearing back. And at least thrice in 2 months go for medical check up in ENT dept of a good hospital if its Luth. or UTH Ibadan.


Its better you stop that thing u hear grin uno that prevention is better than cure.


Satan might use it as a barrier to your next testimony wink

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Re: Advice Urgently Needed! by biotechshola(m): 11:16pm On Oct 12, 2015
I feel ur pain bro, firstly i will lik to advice not to give up on prayers and efforts to restore ur hearing, with God all things are possible.

That aside, concerning the issue at hand, try to be more clise to the girl so as to knw how she feels for people with disabilities, cos even if she likes ur person, she may the type who wouldnt even imagine dating a disabled person.

After gathering ur facts, u will sure knw the next line of action, if u found out she only grts u cos she has to dnt bother to ask her out, buh if u found out she likes chattin, playing with u, sharing moments with u, then u can try ur luck bro.

May reason for this is simple, in ur case, only two categories of ladies may likely want to date u, those who truly love u or those who want to dupe u..

All the best bro..but pls dnt impress her in anyway, be natural so as to knw hw exactly she feels abh u.

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Re: Advice Urgently Needed! by Olayinka8793(m): 11:16pm On Oct 12, 2015
chuna1985:



Check if u can find a hearing aid to help u to hear low sounds at least. Good luck
done that already but none works including @ LASUTH
Re: Advice Urgently Needed! by Empiree: 11:18pm On Oct 12, 2015
Olayinka8793:
My deafness affected me in very many ways, physiologicaly and emotionally and almost daily.
Ok well, my deafness affected my relationship with the opposite sex so much
Hello buddy, this is not the end of the road. You may be able to fix your hearing loss. I understand time long past since you had this accident but you may need to pursue professional physician for possible surgery or other recommendation like "hearing aid".

Did doctor(s) or anyone ever suggested hearing aid to you?. Try it out. I have no idea of the cost in Nigeria. Talk to your doctor first. You can do this man. You dont have to be deprived of this. Take a look at the pictures. They are hearing aids. Try it man. Good-luck.

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Re: Advice Urgently Needed! by Olayinka8793(m): 11:18pm On Oct 12, 2015
BuddhaPalm:
@ Olayinka8793

You express yourself really well.

Ever tried a hearing aid? It could change your life.
done that already,including trying out various types @ LASUTH but nothing positive came out
Re: Advice Urgently Needed! by ststyreal(f): 11:19pm On Oct 12, 2015
Olayinka8793:
Good day nairalanders, my name is Yinka and am also a twin. I have an issue bothering me and wished to post it here openly in the hope that I will get useful advice/opinion.

This post may seem long and therefore turn off those who hate long epistles but pls endeavour to read it as your advice/opinion might be beneficial to me.

I have thought of creating an alternative moniker to post this or at least lied that the problem is been faced by one of my friend and so he needs your advice like some pretentious nairalanders do, but decided to be bold enough and be real since this is just an online forum.

Sorry for digressing, now to the koko of the matter,I am 22 years old, will be 23 next January, earning a decent salary working as a hair stylist in a large unisex saloon, I have hearing loss as in total deafness though I could speak fluently, was not born deaf but an accident caused it while I was in primary school, the story of how I became deaf is one for another day, but with sheer determination and faith and Gods Grace I managed to complete both primary and secondary schooling but gave up on going further as I have no believe I could survive higher school.

My deafness affected me in very many ways, physiologicaly and emotionally and almost daily, but I hardly allow myself brood over it for a long time, the worst I have done was to cry in secret on more than four occasion for having such a terrible disability.

Ok well, my deafness affected my relationship with the opposite sex so much such that I have never had a girl friend meaning am still a virgin, though I relieve myself of what nairalanders called Konji by doing controlled mas2bation when I feel like, I could have used Oloshos to relieve myself but I considered them as dirty people and can't imagine losing my virginity to a prostitute.

I have tried summoning confidence to toast gals but our conversation is usually very short and not impressive due to the fact I don't know how to prolong such conversations and most of the ideas I saw online hardly applied to such conversation involving a person like me wit hearing loss. I communicate like a normal person by lip reading(hope u know what that is), though not always an effective means of communication but I had no other choice as my parents and me hated the idea of me learning sign language and they vehemently resisted those who suggested it when the deafness problem started.The only problem I have with lip reading was that whenever I don't understand what the other person was saying, I would indicate and ask him to repeat but if it persist I ask him or her to write it with the finger and you will agree with me that such inconvenience might be a big turn of when trying to talk to a stranger like a beautiful gal I admired.

There is this girl I admired that works as a sales girl in my aunt's pharmacy shop, she frequently passed in front of our saloon and have started having feelings for her, fortunately she know I have hearing loss and also knew I am a nephew to her boss and sometimes greets me when passing by like "boda taye",lol and I had just waved and answer "bawo ni", ordinarily I should not have problem toasting her but the fear of my deafness disappointing me and the fact I don't know anything to say that could make the toasting successfull apart from, what is your name, I want to marry you, where do you live, can I have your number, can I take you out on a date next Sunday? Bla bla bla.lol

Also there is the problem I usually encounter with young gals, when I told them I want to marry you, they be like "omo kekere ni mi" meaning am a small girl and I be like how old are you, but can we just be friends bla bla bla, any suggestion to how to properly deal with such response will be appreciated in case the gal I planned to toast say such(she looks 19+). It is not like she is out of my class or too beautiful, no no no not at all, even my twin sister is more classier.

Thanks for reading this far, I know this might seem like an unusual problem but I believe you will have one or two ideas/opinions which I might find useful in other to overcome my deafness and win over this gal. I have no intention of using and dumping her, just date her with the hope of finding her compatible for marriage when the time comes and lastly to relieve myself of Konji the natural way after having gained her trust and affection.

Modified. E be like say I want more opinions, oya CC: lalasticlala abeg do the needful.
Huh! I am falling in rove already with u op. Just givy mi your address cum your ekwe nti(telephone), according to my IBO friends and u have gotten urself a pretty wife alleady. On a serious note, u don't have a problem my guy, in fact, don't even c ur self as being deaf cos I believe that is wat is limiting u. I for one, believe in miracles and God's divine healing, which am earnestly asking him on ur behalf. Most achievement in life are all about packaging, confidence and faith in yourself and ur God. Forget dis deafness of a thing and go all out for the girl of ur choice. It is well with u my friend.

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