Oyind17:
Is this a handout or something? Op, were u not taught summary in school? Catchy topic but I'll pass


The papa no be here

SpeedyConnect:

You mean you can't read like 500 words yet you want to be a research assistant.

femi4:
So, all the churches mentioned in the Bible never existed?
You must be a joke

fabre4:
Catholics are too close-minded even to their fellow Christians they don't understand the meaning of unity and communal leaving .They are like the Jews in the bible they think faith is based on church and religion.

Gaidenk:
I was born and raised a catholic,was an alter boy for years at a major seminary ,one time even thought I'd be a priest lol,I'd tell you this bro. My questions and convictions took me out of the catholic church,if you do that its like the muslims killing a convert just that in this case u will be a mini outcast,excommunicated kinda,we refered to people who left the faith as "born again people,they say they have seen the light" lol funny tho. My elder sister married a protestant against relatives wills,some people didn't even attend her wedding,and until today some still feels she doesn't "have a marriage" cos it wasn't in the catholic church. So take my cue bro,don't force it,if she's yours she will come by,leaving the catholic cult like faith is only done by conviction no be gra gra. And I'd tell you from experience,DO NOT covert,Catholism as Christianity is questionable,but that's not what this topic is for So I'd leave it at this. Receive Grace to make the right choice.

dumo1:


please tell me this is a joke. I have never heard of such before B cos d average igbo man I know is a catholic.

Mekky05:
Its the same way that Protestants/Pentecostal families issue out there own order! I have 1st hand experience and info about this stuff,so Op chin up and go look for a wife. You've opened up this thread for peeps who don't have "wisdom" to start insulting and bashing the Catholic church. The rate at which pentecostal churches breed hate and rage for Catholic leaves much to be desired!

Hannysmilez:
Christians and their mini wahala;which one is catholic and protestant again?

Drfinn:
Precisely, on 31st March, 2013 I asked my now ex to marry me. Not in some fancy restaurant, shopping mall or some heaven on earth theatrical setting. It was via a phone call. Surprisingly, we had never met in person! What madness!! Did she accept??

Love they say is like a butterfly, it perches wherever it wants. It's like a lion, it devours whoever that comes his way. How we fall in love at times is mysterious. We seldom have control in matters of the heart. This is how I felt the day I saw her picture carrying a child. Her little nephew. I love kids to a fault. In that split moment I told her how I wished it was our son she was carrying. That remark set aglow our hearts.

Initially, she doubted my sincerity. She had been hurt not once, twice but severally. Worse still she has a medical condition. A condition she erroneously thought will forever rob her of love. Hence her skepticism. Furthermore, my reputation with 'the ladies' on some social network we had met some years earlier was daunting. I had to prove my sincerity. I had to win her love.

As am typing this, my alarm just beeped! Its October 24th- the day I had slated for our introduction. Alas! It was never to be. Our love could not survive the divide. The 'hypocrisy' of the church has prevailed. I cannot believe am still hurting this bad. Maybe I was in a hurry to have ended it all. This is my story. Our story.

After the initial 'gragra' women exhibit we settled into a beautiful but distant relationship. She was based in Lagos, I in Port Harcourt. Days became weeks, and weeks months before our first physical encounter. I did first visit as a gent. We had wild fun!! Then came the moment of truth; a visit to her kit and kin to intimate them of my intention. Her brother-in law gave me his word. The only snag which was to destroy all we labored to build -the church! she is catholic, am protestant. She is Igbo am Ijaw.

True to his word, her brother-in law accompanied me to see her parents in her hometown- some community in Imo State. I was well received. Such a loving home. I made my intentions known with all seriousness. It's no child's play explaining while you consider a man's daughter worth more than other women to him. Thankfully, the son in-law gave me all the necessary support. However, convincing a retired teacher, a respected and unrepentant staunch catholic requires more than fancy words. I left that home with mixed feelings. Her father had plainly told me what mixed marriage entails. My wife and children will become 'properties of the catholic church'. It was non-negotiable.

I sought the advice of family members, and my pastor. All were of the opinion that her father's stance undermines my role as the head of our future family. Personally, I saw it as an 'indirect rule'. I enlisted one or two of her siblings, her mum inclusive to get her father to shift grounds. The old man wouldn't bulge. At my fiancee's suggestion I paid her uncle a scheduled visit. A Priest in some parish at Owerri. His stance was same as his elder brother's; convert to Catholicism or accept the terms of mixed marriage.

I was devastated. More so by my fiancee's shifting positions. Today she's all by my side, tomorrow she wants me to please her father. I saw it more as a character weakness than a woman drawn between love and the hands that fed her. Perhaps, it was a miscalculation on my part. She had her flaws. Mine was so glaring. But i found in her the woman of my dreams.

In the midst of this storm I had boldly gone ahead to fix today, October 24th my introduction day. I had called my Pastor to inform him, and a couple of family members. This decision was informed after my now ex had told me her siblings and other family members had prevailed on her father to soft pedal on his stance. He unbelievably agreed. So i thought. Until I made one more call!

The old man true to his principled nature remained unchanged. It was a blow too devastating to bear. I saw a relationship of over two years with countless sacrifices on both sides evaporate on the grounds of dogma. It hurts so bad to have met that special one only to realize you can not be with them for eternity. Should I have converted for love? That would have betrayed love itself. Love is without condition(s). Should I have settled for mixed marriage? Its unbearable! It's my responsible to provide both spiritual and physical nourishment for my future family.

So, it was only appropriate I let love go. If she finds her way back to me. I had be most fortunate not lucky. Fortune befriends the bold. A life of service to all humanity now beckons . It's a call I must answer. Who knows love maybe around the corner. Love knows no religious boundaries. Let's spread the glad tidings of ecumenism.

teddybear007:


Sorry if I ve to quote u, but truth has to be said. The pentecostal churches ve no issue with d catholics or other denomination but it is d Catholics who thinks that they re more holy dan d other denomination. Gracias.

IamLEGEND1:


pls God had nothing to do with your extreme myopia and close mindedness......... just look at the nónsense you wrote up there and you want to say God made that happen?

"Giving up my faith"...... WTF!!!??

So the girl you were dating wasn't a true Christian like you abi?
since she is not Catholic.

if that is what your church teaches you, then you're just a brainwashed ídiot.

engrshakespeare:


You could have made your point civilly without being so foul mouthed, seems your mouth needs to be thoroughly washed out with soap.

fammo:
My brother, if the man is not ready to accept to your own terms please move on, love and marriage is not a do or die affair. It will be a failure on your part for your family to be ran based on the dictates of another man, what is d guarantee that principle imposition will only be limited to the church your wife and children will attend? Your fiancee too is not helping matters, when she is truely ready to marry you she will take her stand and face her parent......gals plenty out dia, marry the one dat does not come with terms and conditions.....wish you the best in life

tiar:


There are people who have left other churches to the Catholic Church and some who left like you returned many years later AND VICE VERSA. I guess you are fine where you are and the Catholics you left behind are fine where they are.

We all have freedom to do what we want. If God did not give us freedom then, there will be no basis to judge us.

You do not need to bash a girl after dumping her to strengthen or rationalise your position for leaving her behind. If you find out you always have to or tend to, then, it is time to look inward. The problem may just be you and not her. The devil does not have a good story to tell about God banishing him from heaven
He has so MANY NEGATIVE things to say about God to defend his own actions and his justification for doing what he did that led to his banishment. We all know the problem is with the devil and not God. We also know the devil will never see things from this perspective. It is never about US, it is always about THEM.

Best wishes

darknez:
You are hurting and for that I empathize with you. My story is strikingly similar to yours. I am based in Lagos, she in PH; I am Catholic, she is technically not a Catholic. Our Introduction was fixed for the 27th of August, 2015 but this was never to be, as today we aren't togethert, and like you, I was crushed by this realisation.

However, a notable difference between you and I is that I have since gone past my hurt and I do not particularly hold anyone or group, be it individuals, Church or family, responsible for our not being together today. I simply took it as God's will. If indeed God had willed that she be my wife, we would still be together today.

The truth is, if you are looking to get married and bring up your children as Protestants, I would advise that you do not waste your time with Catholic ladies who cherish their faith, for it is something that they are prepared to give their life for, let alone give it up so cheaply for the sake of marriage.

I am a Catholic and I do not see myself given up my faith for anyone. It is too precious a gift. Your story is quite sad and from the standpoint of one who has that experience, though in reverse, I understand your hurt perfectly. When I was hurting, I felt physical pains in my heart, for which the scars are still there even though I have gone past it.

Thence, I urge you, in the strongest terms possible, to move on. Moving on is never easy but it brings in its wake, a healing we cannot fathom. Crying over spilt milk is never worth it. Pick yourself up and find love again. This time, get someone you are compatible with in totality, to include a compatibility of faith.

dumo1:


what would u have done in his shoes. From my own point of view he has tried enough. you can't change what's already cast in cement.

Hannysmilez:
Christians and their mini wahala;which one is catholic and protestant again?

missyadorable:
This op sounds like a weakling.Gosh!

Drfinn:
I have read with rapt attention all the replies. No reply is absolutely foolish. Thanks everyone for your comments. Sometimes its good you share a personal experience. Someone out there will learn a thing or two from it. Surprisingly, this personal experience graced the front page!!!lol!

Thanks Fammo, you seem to understand my reasoning. In the Old man's thought, he wants to continue giving his children spiritual nourishment. And that is irrespective of conjugal ties. He has been and still is a marriage counselor in the Catholic church. You can imagine the burden of doing the opposite of what you preach. As regards my ex she got me the more confused. She had once told me that should I accept the terms of mixed marriage, it will be impossible of her to renege.

RuuDie:


Very simple... go with the flow, marry the woman FIRST! After she enters HIS HOUSE, then HE TAKES CHARGE!