mimicious:



I understand the fact that op is not happy that's y she shared it here but she should put in mind there is no perfect man.

You sound so matured and intellligent.
. It's not bcs am a man but some women need to wake up, a guy promise to marry u, infact the ve finished the introduction but bcs u found condom in his bag will make u break up, such silly excuse, buckle ur belt and fight for what belong to u...shikina Am not in anyway
supporting cheaters of any kind but OP
need to stand her duties as a lady. She
said that d wedding is around the corner,
now she is thinking of how to break up,
after all the banging and other things
since 3yrs, u will now fold hand and start
crying.. She need to step up and fight
what belongs to her, nothing good come
easy. No man will be 100% perfect, help
me tell her dat the guy loves her so much
and also respect her.. You need to ask him
in a gentle and polite way the use of the
condom, moreover, there is somthing OP
is not telling us, the guy will never tell her
dat he love the colour of the condom.. OP
pls u will not find already made man,
make ur man the way u need him to be..
#funnyNation comedian coming soon!

My assumptions; he is working with the waste management authority to be picking condom packs here and there, he is a skilled marketer and an advertiser to be bringing home varieties of latex, he has flair for keeping condoms inside his bag and lastly, he is a kid that picks things especially beautiful empty empty packs along the way.

Grow up girl and connect the dots.

God bless you!!! A very blessed sunday to you.

CONTROLi:
WHAT'S YOUR DEFINITION OF ''All men do that''?? YOU GO SCHOOL AT ALL OR YOU LACK COMMON SENSE?? OR THAT'S WHAT YOUR BROTHERS DOES?? DON'T DRAG ALL MEN INTO THIS.. SOME OF US MEN ARE HIGHLY PRINCIPLED WITH HIGH MORAL VALUES.. BE CAREFUL!!

2 tinz involve.....continue ur arm robbery mission checkin his pocket to find condom always wen u hav sex with him to be safe from STD....or stop seeing condom,dat wen he start doin it raw n u contact wat u wont be able to tell us here.....

That us greate, thank him very well for protecting himself and you as well. Actully He must be nice and caring guy.....

standingtall:
hi guys,

I have been dating my fiance for 3 years now. In the beginning everything was cool until recently. About a month ago, I found condoms an, empty pack of condoms in his bag, I confronted him about it and he told me he saw the pack on the floor and he liked the colour of the pack so he picked it up.

I let it go because I didn't want to upset him since he started getting upset.

Fast forward to today, I was looking for change in his bag and this time I found 3 different brands of unused condoms in his bag.

I didn't say anything and I won't say anything. I am hurt and crying inside.I just don't understand what he wants again. I hate him so much right now.

Please my sisters, I need a coping mechanism until am safely far from him. Sorry about my epistle. I needed to let it out.

So,he started getting upset,when you are the one that is supposed to be upset. Well,you have to decide whether you can cope wit his cheating.I know someone who has a cheating hubby,my dear,she is never at peace. She eventually developed health issues because of that.So,think about it very well. All the best...

Mancity26:

You sound so matured and intellligent.
. It's not bcs am a man but some women need to wake up, a guy promise to marry u, infact the ve finished the introduction but bcs u found condom in his bag will make u break up, such silly excuse, buckle ur belt and fight for what belong to u...shikina Am not in anyway
supporting cheaters of any kind but OP
need to stand her duties as a lady. She
said that d wedding is around the corner,
now she is thinking of how to break up,
after all the banging and other things
since 3yrs, u will now fold hand and start
crying.. She need to step up and fight
what belongs to her, nothing good come
easy. No man will be 100% perfect, help
me tell her dat the guy loves her so much
and also respect her.. You need to ask him
in a gentle and polite way the use of the
condom, moreover, there is somthing OP
is not telling us, the guy will never tell her
dat he love the colour of the condom.. OP
pls u will not find already made man,
make ur man the way u need him to be..
#funnyNation comedian coming soon!

Thanks for understanding my point. Op has to understand the fact that nothing good comes easily

missyadorable:

Stop lying na! haba! we all know u won't walk away except u are not a Nigerian lady.Marriage is d greatest n most important achievement for a woman here and All men are polygamous in nature.if you keep walking away cos a man decided to be a man,you will end up being insulted everytime like genevieve nnaji,linda ikeji,rita Dominic n other matured single ladies

If you're a woman, which I doubt, then you need help. Seriously

missyadorable:
Op,You are a very lucky lady and your fiance is a very good reasonable man...

He is bleeping other ladies,its not a big deal.All men do that!

Besides, he doesn't even owe you any faithfulness.

Your husband after taking vow of fidelity will still bleep other women..the difference is using protection.

You should be happy and thank him whenever you find condoms in his bag,drawer,wallets.

I congratulate you for having a man who knows and understands the implications of unprotected se.x and he is taking necessary steps to protect himself and YOU from STIs including deadly HIV and also prevent having kids from side chics

What else do you want a man to do for you? Isn't that enough?

Stop making a big deal outta nothing.

No man bleeps only one woman!!

If you are looking for a man who will be 100% faithful to you,take clay and mould him and make sure you don't give him a deek.

HML in advance!!

reallest babe eva, best comment so far, op listen to ya fellow lady tok, her understanding of life matters is so far gone, @kneels dwn@ missyadorable will u marry me?

mimicious:




Don't get me wrong, like I said am not in support of him cheating but u guys are making it seem like it's a new thing. Don't the ladies cheat on their boy friend? Using a condom doesn't translate respect, U right but what's the assurance of the next guy? What will u say about married men that cheat on their wives, will u say they should divorce.

Yet your husband and his family will kick and embarass you if they catch you cheating.

Why are you advising a woman to put her life in danger?
Cheating is not even the issue, the emotional pain is there. Knowing that the man /woman who you've given your all to thinks you are not enough.

Look the pains of cheating don't show now..
Its when you can't pay kids school fees because hubby is spending all his money on his hoe.
When you are constantly being told that someone else can do it better than you.
When during death, you have to fight another woman to share properties and children you didn't know he had.
Or when he kukuma leaves you in your 40's to run off with a younger woman.

He has no respect for her. He is blatantly lying to her face. My dear, I've seen my fair share of cheating men and they all think low of their wife.
One day, One man whose wife just gave birth an hour before, Told me we should go book an hotel to hangout with. Leaving his poor wife. He couldn't care less.
He will abandon you in times you want him.

Cheating in marriage or where the man is apologetic is different but if he cannot respect you few weeks to your marriage, he won't in the next 10 years.

Concerning the condoms, it only takes one day for him to forget to bring it. In the heat of things, he will knack his mistress raw after that, he realizes it tastes better and continue.

SosaMontana:
My dear
Usain bolt will be your portion in jesus name
Amen

Classicman47:


Lady be careful what you wish for. Cuz u will just have it someday.

I don't know if what you just typed is supposed to be soothing to a woman who is going thru an unpleasant moment in her relationship.

I mean, how did u even arrive at the misguided conclusion that every man cheats

I am a man and if I have one good woman who is faithful to me, I couldn't ask for anything more.

Be sincere to yourself, if by tomorrow now u see ur fiance or husband or whatever, hanging out with a different woman and they are chatting and laughing and probably touching each other, so u are saying the only question u would ask him is whether he is using protection

Pls don't be sarcastic at someone's problem. Thank u dear lady.

Your woman is faithful to you.Good! are you faithful to her? that's the question! You don't know me so don't conclude.Sex is not love.A man must have sex with other women no matter how much he loves his main woman! So because he is hanging out with others n sleeping wt them,does what to me if he doesn't bring back STDs? See this man o,you think I even give hoot? He will hang out,hang in,touch them,play with them,sleep with them.My only concern "Play safe".

raayah:


Yet your husband and his family will kick and embarass you if they catch you cheating.
Why are you advising a woman to put her life in danger?
Cheating is not even the issue, the emotional pain is there. Knowing that the man /woman who you've given your all to thinks you are not enough.

Look the pains of cheating don't show now..
Its when you can't pay kids school fees because hubby is spending all his money on his hoe.
When you are constantly being told that someone else can do it better than you.
When during death, you have to fight another woman to share properties.
Or when he kukuma leaves you in your 40's to run off with a younger woman.

He has no respect for her. He is blatantly lying to her face. My dear, I've seen my fair share of cheating men and they all think low of their wife.
One day, One man whose wife just gave birth an hour before, Told me we should go book an hotel to hangout with.
He will abandon you in times you want him.

My dear have also met people like that, U would also agree with me there is no perfect person. Op is not happy that's understandable. I just believe nothing good comes easy it's her choice to make if she wants to back out or remain in the relationship. Most people giving her advice are in a worse situation than her but they still remain in their relationship

standingtall:
hi guys,

I have been dating my fiance for 3 years now. In the beginning everything was cool until recently. About a month ago, I found condoms an, empty pack of condoms in his bag, I confronted him about it and he told me he saw the pack on the floor and he liked the colour of the pack so he picked it up.

I let it go because I didn't want to upset him since he started getting upset.

Fast forward to today, I was looking for change in his bag and this time I found 3 different brands of unused condoms in his bag.

I didn't say anything and I won't say anything. I am hurt and crying inside.I just don't understand what he wants again. I hate him so much right now.

Please my sisters, I need a coping mechanism until am safely far from him. Sorry about my epistle. I needed to let it out.

See act as if you dont see, hear ignore as if u dont hear, it gives long life and to live a healthy life.

mimicious:






My dear have also met people like that, U would also agree with me there is no perfect person. Op is not happy that's understandable. I just believe nothing good comes easy it's her choice to make if she wants to back out or remain in the relationship. Most people giving her advice are in a worse situation than her but they still remain in their relationship

We are not perfect people but there are some flaws that should never be overlooked. Cheating and constant lying are some of those.

@OP, before you walk away count your blessings, there is no man without shortcomings.

You are getting married and marriage is not a jolly ride, challenges would surely arise and you must face it.

Walking away sounds perfect if/when you have nothing at stake worth fighting for.

He saw a pack of condom on d floor. He then picked it up because he luvd d color.... He must be a collector!

Standingtall happy sunday to you. First of all, you should know that not all people are sane. I've seen some comments here that I thought only mentally deranged people can give.

Anyways, if a man isn't faithful in a relationship, he can never be faithful in marriage.

A cheater is a cheater and will ALWAYS be. Don't listen to that rubbish advice from low self esteemed worthless women that you should be happy he's using protection...bullcrap!!!
Cheating doesn't get better, it can only get worse, and he can sleep with your housemaid, cousin etc if given the opportunity.

My point is that you have to make the decision now wether to go on or not. But don't think he will change, HE WILL NOT, unless GOD intervenes. If you decide to go on, be ready to cry everyday for the rest of your life. Goodluck on your decision!!!

standingtall:
I feel peace by just letting this out.this is a red.I don't know how to walk away from all the wedding preparations but I will walk away.I deserve to be happy.now I know why some women never want to get married. its too much work

why don't u talk to him first? u rly need to do your home work and bring ur man home to ursef rather than giving him up to another girl. or is this how you want to keep jumping from one man to another in search of Mr perfect?
do u rly love this guy at all?

Talk heart to heart with him, help him grow by adding value to his life and he will change for the better for you...thats what they mean by 'behind successful men, there is a woman'...that's what they call a wife/woman, not just giving him your body and waiting for Mr perfect. add value to his life madam


and if u like listen to the people hailing you here to cancel your marriage, u knw how good how society is at pushing blames and frustrations to single ladies.

and God help u, u leave him for som1 else and watch how that girl will transform him for herself and send u their wedding invitation.

itz ur choice

He saw a pack of condom on d floor. He then picked it up because he luvd d color.... He must be a collector!.

mimicious:





Thanks for understanding my point. Op has to understand the fact that nothing good comes easily

hello bae! U no go church abi?

standingtall:
I can't deal with it.I was worried about what people will say.we have already done our intro and our wedding is slated for December. I will do what is best for me before I commit a crime.thanks for your sensible response

did he ever had sex with u? If yes, then don't bother about it, For if he did it with u, chances are he must have done it with others or that he may still be doing it with others.

Mancity26:

You sound so matured and intellligent.
. It's not bcs am a man but some women need to wake up, a guy promise to marry u, infact the ve finished the introduction but bcs u found condom in his bag will make u break up, such silly excuse, buckle ur belt and fight for what belong to u...shikina Am not in anyway
supporting cheaters of any kind but OP
need to stand her duties as a lady. She
said that d wedding is around the corner,
now she is thinking of how to break up,
after all the banging and other things
since 3yrs, u will now fold hand and start
crying.. She need to step up and fight
what belongs to her, nothing good come
easy. No man will be 100% perfect, help
me tell her dat the guy loves her so much
and also respect her.. You need to ask him
in a gentle and polite way the use of the
condom, moreover, there is somthing OP
is not telling us, the guy will never tell her
dat he love the colour of the condom.. OP
pls u will not find already made man,
make ur man the way u need him to be..
#funnyNation comedian coming soon!

Mtchewww

You will be the first to castigate when she comes back in six month to ask for advice on how to curb her husband excesses. If she can no longer take it and she ends up injurng him. You better support her

He is using condom to protect himself, go figure

dazzlingd:



why don't u talk to him first? u rly need to do your home work and bring ur man home to ursef rather than giving him up to another girl. or is this how you want to keep jumping from one man to another in search of Mr perfect?
do u rly love this guy at all?

Talk heart to heart with him, help him grow by adding value to his life and he will change for the better for you...thats what they mean by 'behind successful men, there is a woman'...that's what they call a wife/woman, not just giving him your body and waiting for Mr perfect. add value to his life madam


and if u like listen to the people hailing you here to cancel your marriage, u knw how good how society is at pushing blames and frustrations to single ladies.

and God help u, u leave him for som1 else and watch how that girl will transform him for herself and send u their wedding invitation.

itz ur choice

How do you transform a cheating man? It is either you are an alien or a teenage who have not seen the world

akike:



How do you transform a cheating man? It is either you are an alien or a teenage who have not seen the world

Ask me ooh, I am very happy to see a voice of reason like you in this thread.
Thank you for reminding us that there are respectful men and women out there.

akike:


Mtchewww

You will be the first to castigate when she comes back in six month to ask for advice on how to curb her husband excesses. If she can no longer take it and she ends up injurng him. You better support her

He is using condom to protect himself, go figure

i can't support her, she want to run out from her responsiblities.. She can talk to the boy and possibly change him. Blood dey run for the guy vain.. Remember d guy is loving but just the condom issue..#funnyNation
comedian coming soon!

Your's is introduction uh? Better don't ignore the writing on the wall or you'll be in for it when you get locked in. If you sabi say u wear high heel, beta pull them off and dust him like Usain Bolt does to his counterparts. It doesn't matter whether the Bishop knows you together. else, you may end up a condom retailer. Yes na, because you go still find other brands we him go pick from ground. See lame lies

uzolexis:


This is the dumbest thing I have hrd in a while.
Really, she should stick with him even though he cheats on her It's unfortunate u have been meeting the wrong kind of guys your whole life that's why you have come to this silly conclusion.

You'd be surprised how rightshe might be

masonkz:


You'd be surprised how rightshe might be

She is not right at all. Would you stick with a cheating wife knowing that some guy out there is doing her every day before you get back from work?
It's easy to tell someone online to stay but in reality its a whole different ordeal.
Better to stay single than dealing with crazy men and women who are banging your spouse.

standingtall:
I can't deal with it.I was worried about what people will say.we have already done our intro and our wedding is slated for December. I will do what is best for me before I commit a crime.thanks for your sensible response

Worrying about people and their sayings have landed many women in hell on earth. Marriage to a promiscuous man is no place for any responsible woman to be. You don't accept leadership from a man who has no control over himself, how will he keep his family together? Some losers will tell you how every man is a low life public property, don't listen to crap.

Except you can cope with infidelity, some women can,then just marry him and weld your heart with iron bars. Lol! One day this one go pick pant put for pocket cos he likes the colour .