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Charles4075:
same thing here bro, but not all ladies sha. But when I see a lady in dire need, part of me reflects on the past and the other says to me ''What if she's your sister?'' That's why whenever I sense a lady going in the direction of asking a favour, I flee from her. I never knew helping a lady could bring such shame and insults at my own expense. That's why I rather help a fellow guy like me cos any day, anytime, he'll surely regard me or be grateful.
NOTE: Not all Ladies are ungrateful but all ungrateful beings are ladies.

daretodiffer:
You missed the point of the thread

He gave her money/had been giving her with the hope of something. I assmed this through his friendzone lament. If it has been a lover, pray tell why he shouldn't collect his money if he were lending her. Obviously, he went soft on her with the hope of soemthing in return which didn't happen and now he is lamenting that she kept in friendzone.

Homguy:
Aiit, I get. If she didn't stoop to begging Op for money constantly while not dating him this thread wouldn't have existed.

daretodiffer:
If the OP wasn't selfish, greedy and silly, this thread wouldn't have existed.

If the OP had standard, this thread wouldn't have existed.

If the OP had self-respect, this thread wouldn't have existed.

It takes two to tango

daretodiffer:
Presently a guy is with my money and I believe it is more than what you have ever offered a single lady. He is not replying my messages or anything. He is ungrateful but he is not a lady. And I am sure he isn't the only guy that has acted this way. There are several other guys that are also very ungrateful to women\men who has helped them when they needed it.

Don't blame women for your lack of firmness in tackling issues/for going soft on them, ask for when your money should be repaid. Let her know that you are serious and do not ask her out while you are it.

Learn to take responsibilities for your actions

Homguy:
if op had standards, this thread wouldn't have happened,can you enlighten me? How would Op's standard and lack of selfishness prevent miss beggy beggy from coming over and over again thinking she's outsmarting Mr. Moneybag?

Charles4075:
you're right when you said some guys can be ungrateful too. But I never said I borrowed any lady some amount of money my sis. If it's money, I can gladly help any gender be It male, female or bi-sexual but when it comes to sacrificing my time and life for a lady, that's a big No my sis. There are only 2 ladies in this world I can sacrifice my life for '' MY WIFE and MY MOM''.

daretodiffer:
If he had insisted on his money the first time, she woundn't have asked the second time

If he had not sheepishly hoped that she would have sex with him because of it he wouldn't have been willing to dash it out again and again

If he were disciplined, he would have requested from some sort of agreement and would have held her up to it.

If he had standard, he wouldn't have continued lending an ingrate his money. He would have learnt his lessons.

In all the scenarios, she would know better than not to repay his money.

Homguy:
forgive me, but I really think you are the FOOL here. Is it your money? Why should he let go of his money because its a girl. Did you miss the part where he told her he was lending her?! IF YOU THINK your down low witless, display would get you some hungry girl from nairaland, you need to think again. I just can't fathom what your headaches about! If I see you in person I wouldn't mind pasting some slaps on that face, heck! This is one of them dummies tainting the common Nigerian man as a mugu.

who is the stupiid ass freak of nature quoting me with trash?

Listening up biitch boy, I give no furck about you and what you'v gat to type. People like you are so dumb the only thing you ever think of is how to win a medal in your "dummines"

Boys like you fall prey to em gold diggers and now start blaming all women for your failed life. Why dont you just put a gun in your mouth and pull the trigger already?

daretodiffer:
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That means you need to change your crowd. I know a couple of women who would reciprocate your goodwill, if you had lend a hand before.

vizkiz:
who is the stupiid ass freak of nature quoting me with trash?

Listening up biitch boy, I give no furck about you and what you'v gat to type. People like you are so dumb the only thing you ever think of is how to win a medal in your "dummines"

Boys like you fall prey to em gold diggers and now start blaming all women for your failed life. Why dont you just put a gun in your mouth and pull the trigger already?

[color=#1980BC]Okay...Lezz go there. [/color]

Charles4075:
Yea, that's true and I agree with you on that but it's not that easy to find them sis. One principle I live with till date is whenever a lady asks for monetary help from me, I give it to her freely and no payback with no strings attached but sometimes, most of them take me for a dummy but I thank God for the blessings given to me each day by him. Same goes with my male friends except in cases where the amount requested is huge, then we'll have to sit down and review the cause for such amount.
Imagine this scenario, met a lady in a friends house and after 3 or 4 meetings early august, we shared contacts. Late september she told me her bday was coming up and I'm to present at the party but I declined cos I'm so scared of parties(last one I went, ended up badly). To make amends, asked for her account number and sent her some reasonable amount as a friend, even my guy friend was angry at me telling me I should have asked her out. Fast forward to early october, got 2 friend requests from two different ladies telling me they are friends of the lady and that their bdays are coming up this november and december. Would have posted the chat between us but it's childish and immature. Now my sis, don't you think they're assuming that I'm a dummy?

otijah:
soo childish

naijaboiy:
[color=#1980BC]Okay...Lezz go there. [/color]

you no see say these guys mumu no be small. If you know say you no gather, why you come dey borrow chick money and who borrows a lady money BTW We all know that is mission impossible

it is either you give her or you tell her no, I no get. Finish

vizkiz:
who is the stupiid ass freak of nature quoting me with trash?

Listening up biitch boy, I give no furck about you and what you'v gat to type. People like you are so dumb the only thing you ever think of is how to win a medal in your "dummines"

Boys like you fall prey to em gold diggers and now start blaming all women for your failed life. Why dont you just put a gun in your mouth and pull the trigger already?

Homguy:
am sure you'd think you have communicated, well bro sorry to break it to you like this, you just drivelled up there dude. You are a bloody Nigerian slum boy,stop trying to type like you ain't, your profile cries it. BTW, so you cease your thoughtless rants, I don't have any grudges against ladies, i am however allergic to mediocres like you. This is the last time I would quote you on this thread. You ain't worth it. Peace.

naijaboiy:
[color=#1980BC]Misspicy I hail [/color]

naijaboiy:
[color=#1980BC]Misspicy I hail [/color]

daretodiffer:
Why did you give her the money?

It is not her fault, she did what anyone would do. Tell their friends about that benevolent man. The friends are crazy though, I can't begin to comprehend what could have prompted them.

ideyhere:
Just see as this OP dey Sh!t water water Sh!t dey waka for church...and some people dey match on top the Sh!t dey follow am

misspicy:
oh oh oh..am sleeping jor...go and sleep too

[color=#1980BC]You are sleeping abi?

After you left me? [/color]

vizkiz:
you no see say these guys mumu no be small. If you know say you no gather, why you come dey borrow chick money and who borrows a lady money BTW We all know that is mission impossible

it is either you give her or you tell her no, I no get. Finish

[color=#1980BC]All these fight on top 2k.

Make I nor even talk wetin dey my mind. [/color]

naijaboiy:
[color=#1980BC]All these fight on top 2k.

Make I nor even talk wetin dey my mind. [/color]

baba na 2k oh!
The money whey no enter club house. No be the about whey then dey sell one fish barbeque be that?

icedbeatz:
Hahahahahahahahaha lol at the op, funny shitt vizkiz relax small joor. what's the bad thing there? he lent her 2k and gave her the impression of never forfeiting the money because of her "type" of girl. Finally it's not about the money but the principle which in his case might be to never leave a kobo for a hoe.

"Never leave a kobo for a hoe" but OP na now your eyes just open

vizkiz:
baba na 2k oh!
The money whey no enter club house. No be the about whey then dey sell one fish barbeque be that?

Oliviaarims:
Pardon me,OP,but ur attitude towards this leaves much to be desired. Did she force yhu to remain in the friend zone? Did she force u at every other time to give her money? So,u finally realised u don't wantu deal with friend zoning anymore,why not walk away with ur dignity? The money yhu were asking her to pay back in question, I'm pretty sure u didn't tell her yhu would be asking 4 the money back. Rather than act maturely,u're taking out ur frustration on her in a very detestable manner. That's definitely not the way things are done. It's a good thing she never dated u.

vizkiz:
baba na 2k oh!
The money whey no enter club house. No be the about whey then dey sell one fish barbeque be that?