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'I Waited Until My Wedding Night To Lose My Virginity And I Wish I Hadn’'t by MrLoverBouy(m): 1:09pm On Nov 17, 2015 |
“Believing that true love waits, I make a commitment to God, myself, my family, my friends, my future mate and my future children to be sexually abstinent from this day until the day I enter a biblical marriage relationship. As well as abstaining from sexual thoughts, sexual touching, pornography, and actions that are known to lead to....... http://www.baddosneh.com/2015/11/i-waited-until-my-wedding-night-to-lose.html
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Re: 'I Waited Until My Wedding Night To Lose My Virginity And I Wish I Hadn’'t by OCTAVO: 1:14pm On Nov 17, 2015 |
Hmmmmmmmm |
Re: 'I Waited Until My Wedding Night To Lose My Virginity And I Wish I Hadn’'t by elantraceey(f): 1:20pm On Nov 17, 2015 |
Post the whole story here joor |
Re: 'I Waited Until My Wedding Night To Lose My Virginity And I Wish I Hadn’'t by RexKexMilann: 1:24pm On Nov 17, 2015 |
Op, Ain't Nobody clicking Any Shii . PS: The First poster Nailed It !!! 2 Likes |
Re: 'I Waited Until My Wedding Night To Lose My Virginity And I Wish I Hadn’'t by umehmj(m): 1:32pm On Nov 17, 2015 |
no doubt the op is a dicck! not only is the story not his original write up but he selfishly want us to click on his damn link. well lemme import the full story here At the age of 10, I took a pledge at my church alongside a group of other girls to remain a virgin until marriage. Yes, you read that right — I was 10 years old. Let’s take a look at who I was as a 10-year-old: I was in fourth grade. I played with Barbie dolls and had tea parties with imaginary friends. I pretended I was a mermaid every time I took a bath. I still thought boys were icky and I had no idea I liked girls, too. I wouldn’t get my period for another four years. And most importantly, I didn’t have a clue about sex. The church taught me that sex was for married people. Extramarital sex was sinful and dirty and I would go to Hell if I did it. I learned that as a girl, I had a responsibility to my future husband to remain pure for him. It was entirely possible that my future husband wouldn’t remain pure for me, because he didn’t have that same responsibility, according to the Bible. And of course, because I was a Christian, I would forgive him for his past transgressions and fully give myself to him, body and soul. Once I got married, it would be my duty to fulfill my husband’s sexual needs. I was told over and over again, so many times I lost count, that if I remained pure, my marriage would be blessed by God and if I didn’t that it would fall apart and end in tragic divorce. I believed it. Why wouldn’t I? I was young and these were people I trusted. Everyone knew I’d taken the virginity vow, of course. Gossip is the lifeblood of the Baptist Church. My parents were so proud of me for making such a spiritual decision. The church congregation applauded my righteousness. For more than a decade, I wore my virginity like a badge of honor. My church encouraged me to do so, saying my testimony would inspire other young girls to follow suit. If the topic ever came up in conversation, I was happy to let people know that I had taken a pledge of purity. It became my entire identity by the time I hit my teen years. When I met my then boyfriend-now husband, I told him right away that I was saving myself for marriage and he was fine with that because it was my body, my choice and he loved me. We were together for six years before we got married. Any time we did anything remotely sexual, guilt overwhelmed me. I wondered where the line was because I was terrified to cross it. Was he allowed to touch my breasts? Could we look at each other naked? I didn’t know what was considered sexual enough to condemn my future marriage and send me straight to Hell. An unhealthy mixture of pride, fear, and guilt helped me keep my pledge until we got married. In the weeks before our wedding, I often got congratulated on keeping my virginity for so long. The comments ranged from curious (how in the world did you manage?) to downright disgusting (I bet you’re going to have one busy wedding night!) . I let them place me on the pedestal as their virginal, perfect-Christian-girl mascot. I lost my virginity on my wedding night, with my husband, just as I had promised that day when I was 10 years old. I stood in the hotel bathroom beforehand, wearing my white lingerie, thinking, “I made it. I’m a good Christian.” There was no chorus of angels, no shining light from Heaven. It was just me and my husband in a dark room, fumbling with a condom and a bottle of lube for the first time. Sex hurt. I knew it would. Everyone told me it would be uncomfortable the first time. What they didn’t tell me is that I would be back in the bathroom afterward, crying quietly for reasons I didn’t yet comprehend. They didn’t tell me that I’d be on my honeymoon, crying again, because sex felt dirty and wrong and sinful even though I was married and it was supposed to be okay now. When we got home, I couldn’t look anyone in the eye. Everyone knew my virginity was gone. My parents, my church, my friends, my co-workers. They all knew I was soiled and tarnished. I wasn’t special anymore. My virginity had become such an essential part of my personality that I didn’t know who I was without it. It didn’t get better. I avoided undressing in front of my husband. I tried not to kiss him too often or too amorously so I wouldn’t lead him on. I dreaded bedtime. Maybe he’d want to have sex. When he did, I obliged. I wanted nothing more than to make him happy because I loved him so much and because I’d been taught it was my duty to fulfill his needs. But I hated sex. Sometimes I cried myself to sleep because I wanted to like it, because it wasn’t fair. I had done everything right. I took the pledge and stayed true to it. Where was the blessed marriage I was promised? I let it go on this way for almost two years before I broke down. I just couldn’t do it anymore. I told my husband everything. My feminist husband was horrified that I’d let him touch me when I didn’t want him to. He made me promise I’d never do anything I didn’t want to do ever again. We stopped having sex. He encouraged me to see a therapist and I did. It was the first step on a long journey to healing. Ten-year-old girls want to believe in fairy tales. Take this pledge and God will love you so much and be so proud of you, they told me. If you wait to have sex until marriage, God will bring you a wonderful Christian husband and you’ll get married and live happily ever after, they said. Waiting didn’t give me a happily ever after. Instead, it controlled my identity for over a decade, landed me in therapy, and left me a stranger in my own skin. I was so completely ashamed of my body and my sexuality that it made having sex a demoralizing experience. I don’t go to church anymore, nor am I religious. As I started to heal, I realized that I couldn’t figure out how to be both religious and sexual at the same time. I chose sex. Every single day is a battle to remember that my body belongs to me and not to the church of my childhood. I have to constantly remind myself that a pledge I took when I was only 10 doesn’t define who I am today. When I have sex with my husband, I make sure it’s because I have a sexual need and not because I feel I’m required to fulfill his desires. I’m now thoroughly convinced that the entire concept of virginity is used to control female sexuality. If I could go back, I would not wait. I would have sex with my then-boyfriend-now- husband and I wouldn’t go to hell for it. We would have gotten married at a more appropriate age and I would have kept my sexuality to myself. Unfortunately, I can’t go back but I can give you this message as a culmination of my experiences: If you want to wait to have sex until marriage make sure it’s because you want to. It’s your body; it belongs to you, not your church. Your sexuality is nobody’s business but yours. 7 Likes |
Re: 'I Waited Until My Wedding Night To Lose My Virginity And I Wish I Hadn’'t by Okimski(m): 1:36pm On Nov 17, 2015 |
Today is my birthday nairalanders, Pls make it Special for
me, though I won't beg for likes like others do, just give it to
me at ur freewill 15 Likes |
Re: 'I Waited Until My Wedding Night To Lose My Virginity And I Wish I Hadn’'t by Nobody: 1:42pm On Nov 17, 2015 |
O bu kwa gi ka ana akwu chi ya, nkwa ahu anyi kwere, chukwu onye na anu ekpere, gi ka anyi Nile bu mmadu na abia'kwute. Simply put, we make vow before God and we respect our vows. I have taken the vow to be celibate before marriage, my body is not mine any longer but Gods'. Chapi waaa. 1 Like |
Re: 'I Waited Until My Wedding Night To Lose My Virginity And I Wish I Hadn’'t by Fraih(f): 1:45pm On Nov 17, 2015 |
This old news again?? |
Re: 'I Waited Until My Wedding Night To Lose My Virginity And I Wish I Hadn’'t by johncreek: 2:54pm On Nov 17, 2015 |
Some nairalanders can be so annoying |
Re: 'I Waited Until My Wedding Night To Lose My Virginity And I Wish I Hadn’'t by EzePromoe: 3:25pm On Nov 17, 2015 |
elantraceey:E be like say na that one dey reign now. |
Re: 'I Waited Until My Wedding Night To Lose My Virginity And I Wish I Hadn’'t by Nobody: 4:01pm On Nov 17, 2015 |
umehmj:That lady is emotionally immature! |
Re: 'I Waited Until My Wedding Night To Lose My Virginity And I Wish I Hadn’'t by Nobody: 4:29pm On Nov 17, 2015 |
Don't use this lady as an example of anything sha. She's just ridiculous, virgin or non virgin |
Re: 'I Waited Until My Wedding Night To Lose My Virginity And I Wish I Hadn’'t by jmoore(m): 4:38pm On Nov 17, 2015 |
Ife a bu nno lobish |
Re: 'I Waited Until My Wedding Night To Lose My Virginity And I Wish I Hadn’'t by acenazt: 5:02pm On Nov 17, 2015 |
I laugh at the Dont touch me girls. Virgins end up having terrible honeymoons |
Re: 'I Waited Until My Wedding Night To Lose My Virginity And I Wish I Hadn’'t by damilareoye: 5:13pm On Nov 17, 2015 |
total nonsense. aren't you now married? Next. |
Re: 'I Waited Until My Wedding Night To Lose My Virginity And I Wish I Hadn’'t by eyeon(m): 5:25pm On Nov 17, 2015 |
umehmj:You dey vex o. |
Re: 'I Waited Until My Wedding Night To Lose My Virginity And I Wish I Hadn’'t by Sanmel(f): 5:37pm On Nov 17, 2015 |
Abeggy.. She's just a strange fellow.. |
Re: 'I Waited Until My Wedding Night To Lose My Virginity And I Wish I Hadn’'t by Sanmel(f): 5:40pm On Nov 17, 2015 |
acenazt:That's a lie 1 Like |
Re: 'I Waited Until My Wedding Night To Lose My Virginity And I Wish I Hadn’'t by ideyhere(f): 6:26pm On Nov 17, 2015 |
acenazt: I don't think so...I believe it's a thing of the mind. After all most girls still get to enjoy sexx after the initial penetration. You'll have a terrible honeymoon, and even marriage if you're not careful, if you wore your virginity like a badge of honor, seeing it as the thing that made you special. Cos if that's the case, once it's gone during that honeymoon, you're nobody... Otherwise, I don't see why you won't enjoy your honeymoon |
Re: 'I Waited Until My Wedding Night To Lose My Virginity And I Wish I Hadn’'t by googleTALK: 6:35pm On Nov 17, 2015 |
license for bitches to Bleep the more |
Re: 'I Waited Until My Wedding Night To Lose My Virginity And I Wish I Hadn’'t by Engrpj(m): 7:38pm On Nov 17, 2015 |
DEAR LORD Any Lady with this type of mindset coming my way ..I rebuke her with the fire of the holy ghost.... She will never find me and vice versa in Jesus name.. I come against any Wife that will hate sex...... In Jesus name I Pray... 1 Like |
Re: 'I Waited Until My Wedding Night To Lose My Virginity And I Wish I Hadn’'t by octacores: 8:31pm On Nov 17, 2015 |
Rubbish |
Re: 'I Waited Until My Wedding Night To Lose My Virginity And I Wish I Hadn’'t by absoluteSuccess: 8:35pm On Nov 17, 2015 |
Shes hurting because she didn't enjoy pakrumo as a teenager from variant givers. Accept my condolence for your missed opportunities, no orgyto ruminate over but a vow. they robbed you of something indeed. May you be able to recover it. |
Re: 'I Waited Until My Wedding Night To Lose My Virginity And I Wish I Hadn’'t by abiambo(m): 9:26pm On Nov 17, 2015 |
Everything the church told her came to reality, her good husband who decided not touch her for the period of her therapy and still stood by her after all she's still married... she only failed to recognise her blessing... for who told her she would have still married that lovely, caring young man. "It is most futile to ponder what would have Been if or if not because what would have happened is the greatest mystery of all" - fredrick forsyth (The Odessa file) |
Re: 'I Waited Until My Wedding Night To Lose My Virginity And I Wish I Hadn’'t by tablu: 9:26pm On Nov 17, 2015 |
The story only tries to promote premarital sex...since she claimed to be a pius christian girl protecting her pride she should have consulted God and read the songs of solomon to console herself...there is nothing pure, clean and stainless about humanity.It is only the grace of God that cleanses us of our humanity. |
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