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Re: She Says I Am A Devil But Was I Wrong To Do It To Her? by Nyceguy92: 12:47am On Dec 01, 2015
[quote author=holyFRED post=40530596]

Bro, this girl loves you sincerely.

You don't need a blood covenant; that is extreme measure. All she wanted was reassurance.

Every woman wants reassurance from her man that he won't abandon her.

I still remember when I was dating my wife, she said to me one day, " please don't leave me."

Do not mind the outburst in her text messages, she is just frustrated.

Get back to her and tell her your timeline for marriage. If she can wait, fine.
Re: She Says I Am A Devil But Was I Wrong To Do It To Her? by jbekins: 12:56am On Dec 01, 2015
holyFRED:
Please read bear with me, read to the end and give me your advice(s). I seriously need them

We started dating in January and sincerely, she's one of the best I've met in life.
She filled a spot in my life. I loved her personality and her attitude to life; always cool, lively, positive and she's extremely sincere.

All through my life, I've dated just two ladies and they are both virgins(i could bet my life on this) and i don't know if i should consider this a blessing or otherwise but I still left them as I met them cos of some personal reasons.

We've been dating but not until last two months when I noticed that rather than for her to love me, she was being obsessed with me.

She never asked me for a penny throughout our relationship and even when I try to give to her voluntarily, she would refuse and tell me not to make her get used to putting her needs on me.
She was just 'too sincere' for me to handle.

Fast forward to why am writing this;
Last two months[while we were still together], she called me as usual and we chatted for long before she spoilt my mood.
She asked me if I would mind bonding our love through BLOOD CONVENANT to which I gave a fat NO to. I was shocked to my marrows but she started giving me silly reasons like 'I am scared of losing you','I love you so much',e.t.c and i didn't even mention that I'm just 22(far from marriage) and she's 21.

I decided to break up with her a week after that particular call but since then, she always calls or texts me to tell me of how wicked I am,how I made her loose,how I took advantage of her sincerity and genuine love and all those kinda stuffs angry women say.

My question is this: was I too 'harsh' on her with my decision?
Am I in anyway guilty of selfishness,heart break or any love related crime?

Did I in anyway take advantage of her?
And if I am/have been wrong in anyway,how do I right it?

Romancelanders,please help me
Thanks for reading cheesy


I pray to God to open your eyes clearly for u to read and understand this my little advise here. Listen, i don't know u but if you have wisdom take my candid advise and run for ur life. That girl is highly possessed by demonic kingdom or an agent. You have a great prospect in future, they have seen u already on the realm. They always claim to be so nice in a relationship and looks perfect which they are not. Even don't be surprise u have not known that girl much as you think. There are some hidden life styles of her u may not know which she has been covering from u. The last decision u will allow to come across ur mind is go back to that relationship. never u accept her again and dont forget to take every of ur belongings from her. She is evil, i said so.

From experience which i can not narrate here right now.
Re: She Says I Am A Devil But Was I Wrong To Do It To Her? by mechanics(m): 5:04am On Dec 01, 2015
U didnt commit any wrong, since u didnt touch dem and no curse wil come afta u if dey want to do otherwise, just pray to God for guidiance, wat u shud do now is to concentrate on ur studies and afta dat graduate n get a gud job b4 marriage comes in, or if u ar into business, pray to God to prosper d work of ur hands.
Re: She Says I Am A Devil But Was I Wrong To Do It To Her? by issylarry(m): 5:34am On Dec 01, 2015
dFroshie:
You don't have to go all way by breaking up with her,my opinion with your story is just that I see this lady is so much in love with you than you do and by breaking up with her you don't want her to do the unbelievable,her heart is too fragile....bro you need to get back to her if you do love her and make her see things from your point or view about swearing a oath

OPs still b pickin.He shudnt v gone to d extent of breaking up with ha.
Re: She Says I Am A Devil But Was I Wrong To Do It To Her? by DedeNkem: 5:48am On Dec 01, 2015
holyFRED:
Please read bear with me, read to the end and give me your advice(s). I seriously need them

We started dating in January and sincerely, she's one of the best I've met in life.
She filled a spot in my life. I loved her personality and her attitude to life; always cool, lively, positive and she's extremely sincere.

All through my life, I've dated just two ladies and they are both virgins(i could bet my life on this) and i don't know if i should consider this a blessing or otherwise but I still left them as I met them cos of some personal reasons.

We've been dating but not until last two months when I noticed that rather than for her to love me, she was being obsessed with me.

She never asked me for a penny throughout our relationship and even when I try to give to her voluntarily, she would refuse and tell me not to make her get used to putting her needs on me.
She was just 'too sincere' for me to handle.

Fast forward to why am writing this;
Last two months[while we were still together], she called me as usual and we chatted for long before she spoilt my mood.
She asked me if I would mind bonding our love through BLOOD CONVENANT to which I gave a fat NO to. I was shocked to my marrows but she started giving me silly reasons like 'I am scared of losing you','I love you so much',e.t.c and i didn't even mention that I'm just 22(far from marriage) and she's 21.

I decided to break up with her a week after that particular call but since then, she always calls or texts me to tell me of how wicked I am,how I made her loose,how I took advantage of her sincerity and genuine love and all those kinda stuffs angry women say.

My question is this: was I too 'harsh' on her with my decision?
Am I in anyway guilty of selfishness,heart break or any love related crime?

Did I in anyway take advantage of her?
And if I am/have been wrong in anyway,how do I right it?

Romancelanders,please help me
Thanks for reading cheesy


The so-called BLOOD CONVENANT is c*rap, it doesn't have any effect on anything whatsoever. She was wrong to come up with that st*upid sh*it. She shouldn't force you to be with her. Nobody should get stuck in a relationship simply because of one creepy ritual. She trusted the st*upid ritual to keep you in the relationship whether you like it or not. That type of mentality is very scary and creepy.

I don't blame you for bolting. It would freak me out too but I would have handled it in a different way. I would try to talk some senses into her, explaining to her that the proposal creeps me out and that the archaic blood covenant ritual is outdated and won't stop me from leaving her if I actually want to. I would let her know that there are many better modern ways of showing love and commitment.

I would bolt only if she insists and gives me a condition like; either the ritual or no relationship. By that time I would bolt with comfort, knowing that I've tried.

If you really love her, go apologize to her, talk to her and explain your fear. That's a mature way of handling relationship stuff. You may even change her archaic mentality for good.

Real love is by choice not by obligation. It shouldn't be forced on anyone. Everyone has the right to get out of a love relationship at any time they wish.
Re: She Says I Am A Devil But Was I Wrong To Do It To Her? by pomsky: 5:49am On Dec 01, 2015
jbekins:


I pray to God to open your eyes clearly for u to read and understand this my little advise here. Listen, i don't know u but if you have wisdom take my candid advise and run for ur life. That girl is highly possessed by demonic kingdom or an agent. You have a great prospect in future, they have seen u already on the realm. They always claim to be so nice in a relationship and looks perfect which they are not. Even don't be surprise u have not known that girl much as you think. There are some hidden life styles of her u may not know which she has been covering from u. The last decision u will allow to come across ur mind is go back to that relationship. never u accept her again and dont forget to take every of ur belongings from her. She is evil, i said so.

From experience which i can not narrate here right now.



[size=14pt].........sorry i disagree with you. Did you not read how he said he has dated two virgin's previously and broken up with them[b] for personal reasons?[/b] You think this third virgin is not aware of his history of breakups with virgin's in the past?
She's done her best to please him and in her mind the only thing she can use to commit this [b]virgin heartbreaker [/b]is a blood covenant since they are not yet married. This girl has no problem whatsoever, but the guy has, and he should stay off girls and stop playing with their emotions up to the point the girls get confused and begin to wonder if there's any virtue in being virgins.
Blood covenant is a no no, but this guy is the one who has lead the girl to the point of asking for the blood covenant.[/size]

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Re: She Says I Am A Devil But Was I Wrong To Do It To Her? by IamLEGEND1: 5:54am On Dec 01, 2015
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Re: She Says I Am A Devil But Was I Wrong To Do It To Her? by seangy4konji: 6:40am On Dec 01, 2015
Let her reason there is no convenient to be done and you love her. If she insist on concern any then flee like say you see. Ayamatanga.
Re: She Says I Am A Devil But Was I Wrong To Do It To Her? by erumena(m): 7:54am On Dec 01, 2015
holyFRED:
Please read bear with me, read to the end and give me your advice(s). I seriously need them

We started dating in January and sincerely, she's one of the best I've met in life.
She filled a spot in my life. I loved her personality and her attitude to life; always cool, lively, positive and she's extremely sincere.

All through my life, I've dated just two ladies and they are both virgins(i could bet my life on this) and i don't know if i should consider this a blessing or otherwise but I still left them as I met them cos of some personal reasons.

We've been dating but not until last two months when I noticed that rather than for her to love me, she was being obsessed with me.

She never asked me for a penny throughout our relationship and even when I try to give to her voluntarily, she would refuse and tell me not to make her get used to putting her needs on me.
She was just 'too sincere' for me to handle.

Fast forward to why am writing this;
Last two months[while we were still together], she called me as usual and we chatted for long before she spoilt my mood.
She asked me if I would mind bonding our love through BLOOD CONVENANT to which I gave a fat NO to. I was shocked to my marrows but she started giving me silly reasons like 'I am scared of losing you','I love you so much',e.t.c and i didn't even mention that I'm just 22(far from marriage) and she's 21.

I decided to break up with her a week after that particular call but since then, she always calls or texts me to tell me of how wicked I am,how I made her loose,how I took advantage of her sincerity and genuine love and all those kinda stuffs angry women say.

My question is this: was I too 'harsh' on her with my decision?
Am I in anyway guilty of selfishness,heart break or any love related crime?

Did I in anyway take advantage of her?
And if I am/have been wrong in anyway,how do I right it?

Romancelanders,please help me
Thanks for reading cheesy


Op in a way you did the right thing by not going all the way to accede to her request on blood covenant. Infact, never ever involve your self in such, it's not Good.

She's just insecure, the best thing is to try as much as possible to let her see reasons why you can't involve yourself and make her understand that covenant or not you really do love her.

The only reason that should make you break up with her is when she still insist on the covenant thing.

Don't let anyone confuse you, do the right thing.

You can settle with her and continue the relationship but don't compromise your stand.

@ 21, she's probably still thinking like a child!

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Re: She Says I Am A Devil But Was I Wrong To Do It To Her? by Everydaeguy(m): 8:00am On Dec 01, 2015
ModiKen:


So u saying he shld have gone ahead to have a blood convenant with her?
is sex not a blood covenant too.

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Re: She Says I Am A Devil But Was I Wrong To Do It To Her? by ElCapone(m): 8:31am On Dec 01, 2015
trishapal:


Everyone, pls take note of this VOICE OF THE DEVIL...
Ooosheeeh!!!
Re: She Says I Am A Devil But Was I Wrong To Do It To Her? by mcpapillo(m): 8:51am On Dec 01, 2015
trishapal:
It's obvious the op got afraid when he heard blood covenant because he is as young as the lady that proposed it, although it is more popular among younger teens living close or seeing each other very often. When an emotionally immature lady truly loves a guy, she ignorantly sees him as her "Future Partner" - it's simply her body chemistry and nothing more. She is severely afraid of losing the excitement to any other lady and begins to feel insecure at the slightest thought of losing her love. This usually leads them to any possible means of eliminating their fears.

A mature guy knows the tactics of sincere and mind-blowing reassurance which will easily make her jettison the idea of blood covenant. Quitting the relationship was a confirmation of the op's immaturity too. My advice is that you need to determine if you will be able to lavish her with enough love while she grows up. If you are capable and you have time to spend on her, go back to her and she will be happy again. But if you think you will hurt her the more, it's better you maintain the present status quo.

The Best advice you'll get is this .. Make use of it

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Re: She Says I Am A Devil But Was I Wrong To Do It To Her? by PrettySpicey(f): 9:06am On Dec 01, 2015
Face your books... both of you!
Re: She Says I Am A Devil But Was I Wrong To Do It To Her? by Nobody: 9:14am On Dec 01, 2015
OP a thousand sensible women abound. Good you dump her now or She might just do a Sugar Belle.
And with the Blood Convenant, You'd probaly get HIV...
run Dear, run till she can't see your tail lights..
Re: She Says I Am A Devil But Was I Wrong To Do It To Her? by jbekins: 10:11am On Dec 01, 2015
pomsky:




[size=14pt].........sorry i disagree with you. Did you not read how he said he has dated two virgin's previously and broken up with them[b] for personal reasons?[/b] You think this third virgin is not aware of his history of breakups with virgin's in the past?
She's done her best to please him and in her mind the only thing she can use to commit this [b]virgin heartbreaker [/b]is a blood covenant since they are not yet married. This girl has no problem whatsoever, but the guy has, and he should stay off girls and stop playing with their emotions up to the point the girls get confused and begin to wonder if there's any virtue in being virgins.
Blood covenant is a no no, but this guy is the one who has lead the girl to the point of asking for the blood covenant.[/size]

Listen to me very carefully here. U have not met this OP and know his personality likewise myself. we dont know his perception over issues of life. from his post i red, i can observe 80% of perception. u don't know his capability when it comes to wisdom. Actually both u and i need to know the age of this young man. Haven't you met a complete LovePeddler slut that claimed a virgin to u before?...Lolz...u never meet any, maybe. I put it to you this young man is a complete dumb due to his approach towards this girls, they decided to front virginity to him because they observed he is too eager about it, thus they claimed they are. I am telling you from experience dear, as they say experience is the best teacher in life.

Once this girl confirmed him with blood oath, they guy will know and see what he does not know about her before.
Re: She Says I Am A Devil But Was I Wrong To Do It To Her? by ModiKen(m): 10:15am On Dec 01, 2015
Everydaeguy:
is sex not a blood covenant too.

Nope.

Is there a physical exchange of blood fluid during sex?

Even if there is, do people take "oath" during sex.

Do you even know what a blood covenant is?

Google is your friend.

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Re: She Says I Am A Devil But Was I Wrong To Do It To Her? by Wallade(m): 10:22am On Dec 01, 2015
Yes! You were harsh on her but you were right not to engage blood convenant.

She caused the scare when she asked for it but I think she loves you , you love her too but you are not ready and committed.
Re: She Says I Am A Devil But Was I Wrong To Do It To Her? by ENTROVERT(m): 11:56am On Dec 01, 2015
halfrica:
A sincere heart been taken for granted

By d time u need her sumone who knos her value wud av made her his wife nd make her an expectant mother


U tink girls like her are easy to come by these days bah??
hello dear.. u av forgotten so soon abi.. this is lex.. sha.. lexander nelson..
Re: She Says I Am A Devil But Was I Wrong To Do It To Her? by ferhyntorlah(f): 12:16pm On Dec 01, 2015
ModiKen:

@bolded...Gbam!
One crate of Smirnoff Ice for you sister.
Thanks but I prefer a cup of creamy chilled yogurt!
Re: She Says I Am A Devil But Was I Wrong To Do It To Her? by Everydaeguy(m): 3:33pm On Dec 01, 2015
ModiKen:


Nope.

Is there a physical exchange of blood fluid during sex?

Even if there is, do people take "oath" during sex.

Do you even know what a blood covenant is?

Google is your friend.
just because is called blood covenant doesn't necessarily mean dat blood must b used.anytin u did that somhow bound u spiritually is a blood covenant which sex is not left out.
Re: She Says I Am A Devil But Was I Wrong To Do It To Her? by ModiKen(m): 3:49pm On Dec 01, 2015
Everydaeguy:
just because is called blood covenant doesn't necessarily mean dat blood must b used.anytin u did that somhow bound u spiritually is a blood covenant which sex is not left out.

So blood is just a figure of speech in the phrase "blood covenant"?

Dude, check d meaning of blood covenant on google. Please and stop infering things.

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Re: She Says I Am A Devil But Was I Wrong To Do It To Her? by ModiKen(m): 4:22pm On Dec 01, 2015
ferhyntorlah:


Thanks but I prefer a cup of creamy chilled yogurt!

Hmmm....u too like beta tin cool
Re: She Says I Am A Devil But Was I Wrong To Do It To Her? by ferhyntorlah(f): 5:37pm On Dec 01, 2015
ModiKen:

Hmmm....u too like beta tin cool
Yes I do. Thanks for noticing.
Re: She Says I Am A Devil But Was I Wrong To Do It To Her? by amakastarstella(f): 10:00pm On Mar 30, 2016
trishapal:


Everyone, pls take note of this VOICE OF THE DEVIL...
NO BE ONLY DEVIL DIRECT FORM HELL

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