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Icecomrade:
Early marriage is the solution far both guys and babes

holluwai:
You're obviously dumb, lame and stupiid as you don't understand what was written by you.

I'm very sure youre either a pervert or sex starved

e still dey pain u
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No matter what u say, u can never justify sex before marriage. Na ur type dey use girls finish dump dem one side come go find sister Mary to marry..
Tester ko, spanner ni..
Karma no dey sleep ooo

Reiyvinn:
Sex sex sex! That's the topic breaking through ethers of the romantic atmosphere across the globe.

In all ramifications, it can be drawn that the act of Sexual intercourse can indeed change a relationship for good; either to the right direction or otherwise.

The bond that Sex creates in relationships shouldn't be overlooked because even as it could strengthen relationships, it could keep you emotionally attached to the wrong person.

WAITING till after marriage for sex seems religiously appealing at all fronts, and to be honest with you it really is a beautiful thing to behold. However, let us not pretend to be unaware of the numerous disadvantages it holds. (few of which will be treated here)

Thus, before taking a "purity pledge" (i.e. No sex till marriage), let us be realistic at the following levels:

1.) Your Future Sexual Satisfaction is not guaranteed:

This is the major disadvantage of not having sex with your partner till after marriage.

It is true marriage isn't entirely about sex but we can't deny the fact that sexual intimacy makes up a huge part of marriages.

When you haven't had sex with your mate before walking down the aisle, your partner's sexual capability is entirely subjected to guess work which is really a huge risk and if your guess turns out wrong, it most often than not leads to.....

2.) Infidelity:

We're humans. It is in our nature to diversify when our long term investments yield a loss.

Oh yes, that's the word, it's a big loss! Imagine having spent two decades (or more) of your life waiting for your wedding night to have that long envisaged pleasure of intimacy only to be met with an ill-performing partner. It's a huge loss!

At this point, one party or both begin looking for alternative means to attain that long yearned satisfaction. At first, it starts with masturbating and porn addiction, and when it gets out of hand, infidelity sets in.

Body no be firewood you know.

3.) Risk of Impotence:

There's absolutely nothing worse than discovering that you've been entangled to a partner that'll never be able to procreate with you till death do you both part.

What a nightmare that is!

No wonder some people choose to get married only when the wife gets pregnant.

I even recall a neighbour back in Abuja who had an impotent husband. She had to have children with his relations and name them after him just to keep the marriage strong.

Some love strong sha!

4.) Sexual Chemistry:

Supposing everything goes fine and both partners are fit, capable and fertile, they will most definitely be one thing missing: Sexual Chemistry.

For couples who have had each other before walking down the aisle, pleasing each other won't really be difficult because they already know where ticks and how to get into each other's cloud nine. That's the understanding they took time to build. Mind you, everyone's different. That which works for Obi may piss Alhaji off.

It's really hard getting married to someone you don't fully understand and some situations come up where one partner wants MouthAction and the other detests it, or where one partner seeks to try out other positions and the other won't just get any of it.

These could lead to both insatisfaction and infidelity which aren't really good for a lifetime bond.

So, guys, that's it.

I'm not encouraging you to lose your "sexual purity", I'm rather highlighting the disadvantages of what you're getting yourself into and being real about it.

Please don't get me wrong, your purity pledge could come out as a tremendous success (which would be awesome) but assuming you find yourself in any of the situations stated above, know it's because of the decision you took.

Wish you well.

craziebone:
misogyny! Misogyny!! Misogyny!!! That's all i see in your post, hypocrite!

E dey pain you say de girls no give you when you asked them in their most youthful age abi? My dear pls give it up! You are no good enough for them to spnd their most beautiful days with you. You are only good for remnant, accept it already!

The girls are suppose to keep it calm while the guys are suppose to go all out doing whatever they feel like. You seem not to be very critical of men's sexual adventure but you went straight out at the women. #Misogyny

you are asking that our ladies get married in their 17s- 21s like our parents did? Why don't you tell me how educated our parents are compared to our current generation? Or are you going to tell me you don't know how important education is for the present day lady to even be the kind of wife YOU would like marry? Are you going to deny that it takes really long for her to achieve that level of education that will make her attractive to you so that she could be of the best help to you when yo marry her?

I am so saddened by behaviour on this thread!

June24th:
e still dey pain u
.
.
No matter what u say, u can never justify sex before marriage. Na ur type dey use girls finish dump dem one side come go find sister Mary to marry..
Tester ko, spanner ni..
Karma no dey sleep ooo

KevinDein:
this motherfuckkker just goes about insulting everyone that does not agree with his and the op's sick ideology. Motherrfuccker go fuuuckk yourself and have some sleep

holluwai:
A low IQ is very bad plus you need to broaden your horizon. I see you're limited in your thoughts and it's very painful.

If you must know I'm happily married and have kids, I took my time and made my choice and any woman I ever dated in past is either married or engaged so "mr holy karma" don't let you African mentality put thru hardship.

Remember that God looks at a man heart while humans like you do nothing but judge.

Adiwana:
SEX,SEX,SEX ..so overhyped.from movies to music videos,to posts online,everything.Guys cant satisfy a lady,last 5mins but everybody is claiming James Bond.One day,you go see Sex tire.Everybody is in a rush to satisfy their imaginations and fantasy.People go crazy cos of sex thinking without it,they cant survive.People date for years without sex in relationships and nobody dies.haba

This posts reeks of immaturity and inexperience and youth exuberance and not reality.Sex doesnt solve anything in a relationship.There are things that make up relationships and until you grow,you would understand.When A barren woman seeks for the fruit of the womb,tell me,its being satisfied for 100hrs and not being able to conceive or 2mins and conceive.What is very much important to her.if as a man,you cant give woman belle,is satisfaction and being a boss in bedroom more important that proving yourself to be a man important.as i said,you are just making noise and dont know what sex is.People lose their wives,and stay celibate for years.is their libido low or are they impotent.figure that answer by yourself.

OP,There is something called self-control.Nothing like ''RELIGION''..People have wives who turn out to tigers on bed,but they still cheat.its simply called lack of self control.Pre-marital sex,just like alcohol is an addiction.Once you engage in it,it takes a lot to have self control over.its no rocket science.This is becos,you will keep exploring.Contrasting and differentiating your spouse with your exes.claiming he/she doesnt satisfy you.Simple excuse to cheat outside.

lastly,Theres nothing that gives a man joy other than seeing that his wife gave him his womanliness.its like having your first child.you respect and cherish her forever. from experience.And dont justify your ignorance on pending issues when it comes to sex

craziebone:
exactly my dear!

People who are so fixated on marriage are those ones to whom marriage is different from borfriend/girlfriend relationship. These are the same people who would separate relationships into serious and unserious ones. The likes of me and i think you too, do not see any difference between Gf/Bf relationship, fiance/fiancee relationship and Husband/wife relationship. The same way we take one is how we take the other. This means we don't form; we are real at all times! No relationship is to be considered unserious. All relationships should be done with seriousness.

No wonder why just like you, I DO NOT ASK ANY LADY OUT WHEN I KNOW I AM NOT REALLY INTO HER AND WOULD LIKE TO SPEND FOREEVER WITH HER.

peole like every single hypocrite here, who makes a distinction between all those kinds of the aforementioned relationships and classify them serious and unserious, are the ones who have kept a lady for 'use' at some point in time or the other in their pathetic lives! No wonder they suspect the intentions of those who have no problem with sex even when it happens among people not married. They just think everyone is like them who just 'chop and clean mouth'.

craziebone:
there is nothing that gives a man more joy than when he is the one who disvvvirgins her? Man pls speak for yourself! Not all men are obsessed with female blood! I actually think it serves the likes of you in middle east and north africa right when women decieve you and go for surgery to tighten their hymen again. Foolishhhh people!!

400billionman:
I have found out that modern sinful ladies connect emotionally with their boyfriends and fiancees via sex. A decent man will most likely not want to sleep with a lady he has an intention of getting married to. These ladies will quarrel with you over nothing but cant really say what her problem is, till she snaps and quits the relationship..
I lost a wonderful sinful lady last year who later said she walked away since i refused making a move sexually. Seriously, i wont allow such a thing happen again. Its about repeating. But i just made up my mind to change how i am wired to get what i want..

Souljaboi1:
I'm a Muslim but I share your sentiment.

Tge fact that a man says he isn't ready for marriage but goes on having sex with females beats me.


They claim to test compatibility, but you know they're just there for the fun of it. How unbashful can a man be that he removes his garment and exposes his privates to a woman who isn't his wife and vice versa ? Just think about it ! Its sick.


We ask Allaah for peace and safety.

damton:
I can't buy a product without testing. period.


What if she has a dick or side dick, how I'm I supposed to know

Kemizee:
Abstinence before marriage is well and good but it is no bigger in virtue or blessing than say tithing,obedience to God,helping the poor and being your brothers' keeper(I consider them all the same and none is lesser.Conversely,some others trumpet abstinence as the be all while downplaying gossiping,lying,lustful thoughts about co-workers,fornication,cheating etc.(which are equally as bad as pre-marital sex ). If you abstain from pre-marital sex because you really love God..I have no qualms but doing it as a ritual intended to force the hand of God to bless u is another matter.The way God treats us is just amazing and sometimes mysterious.There are many who had pre-marital sex b4 marriage and yet God has blessed and prospered their marriage in every ramifications.There are also many who did not and yet may not be blessed of God as d former....Don't judge those who have already tasted d fruit before marriage.Rather focus on ur personal elationship with God.That you decide not to have sex b4 marriage doesn't make God love u more and d oda person less.We are not entitled to anything because of wat we do and don't do.It's because of God's mercies and grace.God bless us all.

Reiyvinn:
Sex sex sex! That's the topic breaking through ethers of the romantic atmosphere across the globe.

In all ramifications, it can be drawn that the act of Sexual intercourse can indeed change a relationship for good; either to the right direction or otherwise.

The bond that Sex creates in relationships shouldn't be overlooked because even as it could strengthen relationships, it could keep you emotionally attached to the wrong person.

WAITING till after marriage for sex seems religiously appealing at all fronts, and to be honest with you it really is a beautiful thing to behold. However, let us not pretend to be unaware of the numerous disadvantages it holds. (few of which will be treated here)

Thus, before taking a "purity pledge" (i.e. No sex till marriage), let us be realistic at the following levels:

1.) Your Future Sexual Satisfaction is not guaranteed:

This is the major disadvantage of not having sex with your partner till after marriage.

It is true marriage isn't entirely about sex but we can't deny the fact that sexual intimacy makes up a huge part of marriages.

When you haven't had sex with your mate before walking down the aisle, your partner's sexual capability is entirely subjected to guess work which is really a huge risk and if your guess turns out wrong, it most often than not leads to.....

2.) Infidelity:

We're humans. It is in our nature to diversify when our long term investments yield a loss.

Oh yes, that's the word, it's a big loss! Imagine having spent two decades (or more) of your life waiting for your wedding night to have that long envisaged pleasure of intimacy only to be met with an ill-performing partner. It's a huge loss!

At this point, one party or both begin looking for alternative means to attain that long yearned satisfaction. At first, it starts with masturbating and porn addiction, and when it gets out of hand, infidelity sets in.

Body no be firewood you know.

3.) Risk of Impotence:

There's absolutely nothing worse than discovering that you've been entangled to a partner that'll never be able to procreate with you till death do you both part.

What a nightmare that is!

No wonder some people choose to get married only when the wife gets pregnant.

I even recall a neighbour back in Abuja who had an impotent husband. She had to have children with his relations and name them after him just to keep the marriage strong.

Some love strong sha!

4.) Sexual Chemistry:

Supposing everything goes fine and both partners are fit, capable and fertile, they will most definitely be one thing missing: Sexual Chemistry.

For couples who have had each other before walking down the aisle, pleasing each other won't really be difficult because they already know where ticks and how to get into each other's cloud nine. That's the understanding they took time to build. Mind you, everyone's different. That which works for Obi may piss Alhaji off.

It's really hard getting married to someone you don't fully understand and some situations come up where one partner wants MouthAction and the other detests it, or where one partner seeks to try out other positions and the other won't just get any of it.

These could lead to both insatisfaction and infidelity which aren't really good for a lifetime bond.

So, guys, that's it.

I'm not encouraging you to lose your "sexual purity", I'm rather highlighting the disadvantages of what you're getting yourself into and being real about it.

Please don't get me wrong, your purity pledge could come out as a tremendous success (which would be awesome) but assuming you find yourself in any of the situations stated above, know it's because of the decision you took.

Wish you well.

craziebone:
you are the real muthherfucker!!! You are even a bigger hypicrite ontop of it!

Why don't you keep on playing the game you and a certain Jason stated here? Don't stop now[img][/img], c'mon! I thought you could go all the way and finish up what you started.

You claim i go on insulting everyone whodosen't agree with me? If you had respected the op's view without attacking him the way you did, you think the bees would have been after you by now? I think you should be the last one to say anything about respect for people's opinion since you cannot respect opinions yourself!

Quit playing the victim and c'mon already!

Like i pointed out for Jason, you are an equal hypocrite. Why do you use the word murtherfuuucker when you are supposed to be a christian, devote child of god? Or are you a 'swaggerlicious' christian, or a 'sorji' brethren, who sometimes goes out to fuckkkk sexworkers?

beylinko:
@OP..where did you get ur inspiration from? You just sat down and you thought it wise to string one or two things together out of your perverted mind?
If you know what Marriage is you won't thought it wise to write this. In marriage you walk in faith not on what you thought would be or should be. If you remove faith, then where do you put God.
If you have to test drive xex before marrying, then why not test drive financial challenges , health challenges , Happiness before you marry?
If you no fit hold body till you marry, then don't lead others to trade your path

holluwai:
You're so so on point my brother. They're quick to call you names, they're quick to conclude that one is using one girl or the other.

Majority of the girls I ever dated are girls I wouldn't mind settling down with but ofcourse there are processes to follow which at point you're to decide if this person is worth spending ones rest of the life with.

You've said it well I could not agree less.

ADOGBEYI:
Everything God asks us to abstain from is for our own good; you can never be wiser than your Creator.

Sex is a very spiritual activity; in my opinion, it is 90% spiritual and 10% physical. If you listen to your conscience very well, it tells you it's wrong to indulge. Unfortunately, it is sweeter to indulge in it than otherwise; hence, people allow the lust of the flesh to overwhelm the sense of judgment (conscience) given them by God. While everyone is entitled to his/her opinion, the bad sides of indulging in premarital Sex far outweigh the good sides, if any.

My prayer for everyone is that God gives you the grace to get married on time so as to avoid the trap of premarital sex and while you wait for marriage, may He grant you the strength to say "NO" to devilish advice as posted here in this write-up. Again, this write-up is satanic and those that will heed it are not wise.

raayah:
They're also issues like vaginismus which cannot really be detected by the doctor ( vaginismus is severe pain in the vagina during sex).people with these problems can't have sex.

Even premature ejaculation is an issue, the man won't know he has until having sex.
There are also thing's like Micropenis ( even though the man may feel like he's endowed.) its a major problem during sex

there are various advantages of waiting till marriage but there are also several disadvantages and there is Nothing wrong In discussing them.

He is not encouraging pre-marital sex but let's not pretend that pre-marital sex is all bad or foreign. It happening right now and will keep on happening as long as humans are on earth. No amount of preaching will reduce it.
Besides not everyone is a Muslim or Christian or religious in general...

I personally, do not see anything wrong if two people in a committed relationship have sex (remember personal)

klassiquette:
The sexual impotency got me: So what's the need for going for a medical test which is a must do condition before walking down the aisle?
Then sexual chemistry... Dad once told me that marriage is a school with time you adjust to suit your partner's needs.
Please don't use this points as a justification for premarital sex makes no meaning.... One can always learn how to satisfy his/her partner .... Time is all they need