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Toks2008:
You are drifting the topic though but the embolden is well articulated and i agree with you.

What im just trying to explain is that no woman should date a man because she hopes that the guy will make it in future..infact that is a criminal act

Many Naija babes have this criminal and potentially dumb and parasitic mindset that they are with a struggling guy in order to be a good beneficiary of his speculated future wealthy status.

What if he never makes it? what happened to loving a man for who he is and not who he may become?
I think there is something fundamentally wrong with the mindset of many Nigerian ladies and until they change this appalling mindset,they will never have value in the eyes of any man whether they struggled with him or met him as a wealthy man.

Rich guys go broke and broke guys hit it big and that is just life for you so every reasonable and focused lady should never ever stay with a struggling guy because she hopes he makes it one day.Its one thing to expect progress for your man and another to patch up with a man with a dominant hope that he makes it and then spends on you. huuh!

bru u av more dan enuff time. What happens to loving a guy/lady for who he/she is Not only are they(nigerian ladies) nt loyal, they arent trustworthy too. Bunch of unrealistic folks.Dat's one of the reasons i like white folks, they love u 4 who u r, nt who u may likely become.

oluwadartey:
How else should this be broken down for your dum* brains to understand?

Love should be unconditional, how hard is that abeg?

LOL

Nairaland jst makes me happy anytime anyday

When will most Nigerian girls learn that rich men marry rich women.
No man wants a liability, if you are looking for ready made be prepared to be used and abused, if not by the guy then by his parents, I have friends who are suffering this but are to ashamed to speak about it.

yes yes yes yes yes
so I won't stay long before gettin married Abi op?

refiner:
yes yes yes yes yes
so I won't stay long before gettin married Abi op?

lol

tivta:
When will most Nigerian girls learn that rich men marry rich women.
No man wants a liability, if you are looking for ready made be prepared to be used and abused, if not by the guy then by his parents, I have friends who are suffering this but are to ashamed to speak about it.

lols. dey wil never learn. hv never seen a med doc getting married to a road side groundnut seller or a roadside hustling guy getting married to a female doc.

like my dad always says in my dialect.( the rich always mingle wt their counterparts) so if u want a rich guy try and b rich too. not a house wife

refiner:
yes
yes
yes
yes
yes

so I won't stay long before gettin married Abi op?

hahahaha. u will marry tomorrow honey

Vikky014:
yes dts true mydear. cheers.

bt i i think any lady dt wants to marry shld also b saving money. infact a jobless lady shld nt marry a struggling guy. d kids will suffer. common pampers is very costly nt to tlk of babys food

Yes o. Suffering upon suffering. A woman has to knw what she is doing

HaneefahRN:
Yes o. Suffering upon suffering. A woman has to knw what she is doing

yes. u r right

[quote author=Vikky014 post=40947364]hahahaha. u will marry tomorrow honey [/quote

lol,,,,,Abi?God bless u jare

[quote author=refiner post=40947502][/quote]Amen o and u too

proserfina:
The problem is that we ladies at times tends to be myopic... As a woman, stupidity is when you sit back
cross-legged and search for an already made man. In
case you don't know, every already made man
out there has a woman who has been with him
from when he had only a pair of shorts and a
single shirt. That's why majority of well to do
men, usually make you nothing but a sex- toy,
for you mean absolutely nothing to them.
He might cheat on her with you, but truth is,
he'll never leave her for you… If you are guilty
of hunting for an already made man, then i tell
you, my dear you are such a cow, you actually
need horns. When a good healthy brain settles,
yours floats!
He may not own a car.
He may not earn a lot of money.
He may not live in a posh estate.
He may not be able to shower you with gifts all
the time.
He may not have a great job.
But it’s enough to know you are the only one he
craves for and loves unconditionally
As such we should learn to live with the hardworking man and pray that God will bless the work of his hands.

Outstanding! Am really impressed coming out from a young lady.

daretodiffer:
Be practical, love is conditional

If the rich or the poor could dump you at will

Why do you have to follow the poor then? At least with the rich there is an added advantage

thank u sister..if u must take a risk, pick d one whose end result looks bright..
A sister said something, ''if u must let a guy sleep with u all in d name of 'dating' or 'love', then make sure the guy is worth it unless u'll be d one to lose in d end"..with the rich guy, d girl will still enjoy d money and every other benefits d relationship has to offer and if at d end d rich guy does not end up marrying her, then she would hav saved enough money/bought enough things that will make her not feel like d loser...but if she goes for a broke guy and d guy ends up dumping her, then she would be d loser cos d guy used her and on top of it she doesnt hav anything to show for d many years of dating the broke guy..
Girls work hard and make money for urself and then u have every right to want to marry an already made guy.
Guys, stop being lazy and expecting d girl to love u for who u are! Not every guy will end up a billionaire, but at least a 'struggling' guy deserves to be praised, work and make it in life, then go for girls that have also made some money too..
All d lazy guys here shpuld stop complaining but rather go out there and find something doing and not to come here on nairaland showing how jobless they r..
@Toks u hav no respect for women which is very bad, u should stop acting like an educated illiterate..God bless nairalanders and may the new week bring us every good thing we hav always wished for

The only thing i can pick out of this thread is an OP that is entirely engrossed in himself and feels he knows it all. An Op that slams and disrespects people's opinions and choices has no business making these kinds of thread. So if a Lady says No, to these questions, she will die a spinster in your mind?
Whatever happended to choices,preferences and standards?
People and threads like this push young women into marital mistakes just because they are expected to get married at a certain age. Every dick,tom and harry now put up all sorts of useless and demeaning post in the guise of marital advice for guilible and low self esteem women. What's all this nonesense about?

proserfina:
The problem is that we ladies at times tends to be myopic... As a woman, stupidity is when you sit back
cross-legged and search for an already made man. In
case you don't know, every already made man
out there has a woman who has been with him
from when he had only a pair of shorts and a
single shirt. That's why majority of well to do
men, usually make you nothing but a sex- toy,
for you mean absolutely nothing to them.
He might cheat on her with you, but truth is,
he'll never leave her for you… If you are guilty
of hunting for an already made man, then i tell
you, my dear you are such a cow, you actually
need horns. When a good healthy brain settles,
yours floats!
He may not own a car.
He may not earn a lot of money.
He may not live in a posh estate.
He may not be able to shower you with gifts all
the time.
He may not have a great job.
But it’s enough to know you are the only one he
craves for and loves unconditionally
As such we should learn to live with the hardworking man and pray that God will bless the work of his hands.

interesting.. preach on mydear

Ihuomadinihu:
The only thing i can pick out of this thread is an OP that is entirely engrossed in himself and feels he knows it all. An Op that slams and disrespects people's opinions and choices has no business making these kinds of thread. So if a Lady says No, to these questions, she will die a spinster in your mind?
Whatever happended to choices,preferences and standards?
People and threads like this push young women into marital mistakes just because they are expected to get married at a certain age. Every dick,tom and harry now put up all sorts of useless and demeaning post in the guise of marital advice for guilible and low self esteem women. What's all this nonesense about?

the ops thread is for d desperados and sex addicts dt want to marry a ready made man whn dey r nt made to hv a rethink. and dose categories of ladies are in their late 20 ties and 30 ties i guess
nt defending him though bt sme old sisters here can hv a rethink and settle dwn tru his post dts for dose dt takes marriage as an achievement though

I'm not really the one to blame a thing or a person but I blame the economy and some parents for the mindset we Nigerian youths have now.

Over here in Canada, women do as much work as men and are paid the same. You're expected to fend for yourself, work for yourself and live a lifestyle that's within your bill, thus a rich guy is just a bonus.

Giving that, I don't really see a need to argue. It's not our fault at all, but we (both young and old Nigerians) are not helping matters.

If he/she is hardworking and values you, love him/her. We won't all turn out to be Warrens and Folashades.

But oddly, we've learned to use people and value things... Every one has the mindset of what's in it for me and what can he/she bring to the table.

Men want independent, super-cook, super-IndecentStar, big yansh/breast, fair/dark, cute skin, acquiline nose, succulent lips, flat tummy... Nigga... Get clay and mould your own.

Women want rich, cute, tall, ambitious, dark, deep-voice, sex God, must be able to cook, dominant but gentle, body like a Roman god... Haba.... Fear God na.

LadyJul:
I say a big NO to 1 and 2.....y would I think of marrying a man dats has no good income and even living in a face me I face you apartment Tufiakwa!!! In life you don't move backward...,instead you move forward!!! I can never do dat in the name of love....who love help? My papa nor go even approve dat kind marriage....he go just disown me sef....... all dis silly men dat don't know how to keep their di*k in one place na i won con sacrifice for I dey craze??.. I'm not going to take any risk for any man in the name of love.....it's not worth it at all.....like i said b4 who love help especially for dis our generation?

I ve not objection to disagreement on 1& 2.No lady prays to live in poverty, but my question is do you intend to be married?

LadyJul:
I say a big NO to 1 and 2.....y would I think of marrying a man dats has no good income and even living in a face me I face you apartment Tufiakwa!!! In life you don't move backward...,instead you move forward!!! I can never do dat in the name of love....who love help? My papa nor go even approve dat kind marriage....he go just disown me sef....... all dis silly men dat don't know how to keep their di*k in one place na i won con sacrifice for I dey craze??.. I'm not going to take any risk for any man in the name of love.....it's not worth it at all.....like i said b4 who love help especially for dis our generation?

I ve no objection to your disagreement on 1& 2.No lady prays to live in poverty, but my question is do you intend to be married?

faustinalove:
thank u sister..if u must take a risk, pick d one whose end result looks bright..
A sister said something, ''if u must let a guy sleep with u all in d name of 'dating' or 'love', then make sure the guy is worth it unless u'll be d one to lose in d end"..with the rich guy, d girl will still enjoy d money and every other benefits d relationship has to offer and if at d end d rich guy does not end up marrying her, then she would hav saved enough money/bought enough things that will make her not feel like d loser...but if she goes for a broke guy and d guy ends up dumping her, then she would be d loser cos d guy used her and on top of it she doesnt hav anything to show for d many years of dating the broke guy..
Girls work hard and make money for urself and then u have every right to want to marry an already made guy.
Guys, stop being lazy and expecting d girl to love u for who u are! Not every guy will end up a billionaire, but at least a 'struggling' guy deserves to be praised, work and make it in life, then go for girls that have also made some money too..
All d lazy guys here shpuld stop complaining but rather go out there and find something doing and not to come here on nairaland showing how jobless they r..
@Toks u hav no respect for women which is very bad, u should stop acting like an educated illiterate..God bless nairalanders and may the new week bring us every good thing we hav always wished for

I don't care if a woman settles down with a poor or rich man. Wetin be my own business? But for you think you have an opinion on what or what not a woman should do about her life is an insult to women. I don't see any statistics that says we have more spinsters than bachelors.

I don't believe people can be used when it comes to sex. It is a mutual thing. It takes to two tango. However you can disappoint or dash someone's hopes.

Question 1- I won't deceive myself,i can't start in face me I face u, would rather work my ass off and help get something a bit better

Question 2- As long as he has something doing,then ,thats fine,but I don't advice pple to have kids in that condition,the suffering would be too much..kilode!

Question 3- absolutely yes,have never really been a big fan of elaborate weddings.

Question4- yes....as long as he is not as short as I am lol,God fearing and purpose driven guys is my muse...so yes if he has that,am good

Question 5- yeah,but 15years is the limit,I know wan hear say something shoot bird mama fly living me alone and young....naaah!!

LadyJul:
I say a big NO to 1 and 2.....y would I think of marrying a man dats has no good income and even living in a face me I face you apartment Tufiakwa!!! In life you don't move backward...,instead you move forward!!! I can never do dat in the name of love....who love help? My papa nor go even approve dat kind marriage....he go just disown me sef....... all dis silly men dat don't know how to keep their di*k in one place na i won con sacrifice for I dey craze??.. I'm not going to take any risk for any man in the name of love.....it's not worth it at all.....like i said b4 who love help especially for dis our generation?

I ve no objection to your disagreement to 1 & 2,no woman prays to live in poverty. ...but my question is do you intend to be married?

Yes i can

Met my husband when he had nothing

Ihuomadinihu:
The only thing i can pick out of this thread is an OP that is entirely engrossed in himself and feels he knows it all. An Op that slams and disrespects people's opinions and choices has no business making these kinds of thread. So if a Lady says No, to these questions, she will die a spinster in your mind?
Whatever happended to choices,preferences and standards?
People and threads like this push young women into marital mistakes just because they are expected to get married at a certain age. Every dick,tom and harry now put up all sorts of useless and demeaning post in the guise of marital advice for guilible and low self esteem women. What's all this nonesense about?

Like seriously?... Please who has choices, preferences and standards helped? If the Op is engrossed in himself, what's your business with it (Angry black woman). Paddle your canoe and let the Op paddle his.

It's an opinion and the fact that anyone uses it doesn't mean they're gullible or battling low self esteem as its obvious that you're.

And call me English teacher but it's Gullible and not 'guilible'. Your low self esteem won't let you learn to spell properly.

Vikky014:
the ops thread is for d desperados and sex addicts dt want to marry a ready made man whn dey r nt made to hv a rethink. and dose categories of ladies are in their late 20 ties and 30 ties i guess
nt defending him though bt sme old sisters here can hv a rethink and settle dwn tru his post dts for dose dt takes marriage as an achievement though

I pity the so called Old sisters that will go through his illogical post and apply these points in their search for a man. These posts are basically for teenagers, women desperate to hook a man and of course,unintelligent women. The greatest mistake a woman will make is to say Yes to any of these questions because time is slowly ticking away.
When one enters a relationship,you should know what you can take and what you can't tolerate and endure. If you have to yes to a poor man with a one room apartment,then let it be out of love and care for that man and not because you don't want to be called an Old maid at 30.
It's a pity the kind of rubbish women face on nairaland.

NizyO01:
Question 1- I won't deceive myself,i can't start in face me I face u, would rather work my ass off and help get something a bit better

Question 2- As long as he has something doing,then ,thats fine,but I don't advice pple to have kids in that condition,the suffering would be too much..kilode!

Question 3- absolutely yes,have never really been a big fan of elaborate weddings.

Question4- yes....as long as he is not as short as I am lol,God fearing and purpose driving guys is my muse...so yes if he has that,am good

Question 5- yeah,but 15years is the limit,I know wan hear say something shoot bird mama fly living me alone and young....naaah!!

I just can't like this post a thousand times. This is as simple as it gets, this is all of it. But they won't agree, they'll twist and bend useless fats to suit their purpose. God bless you.

oluwadartey:
Like seriously?... Please who has choices, preferences and standards helped? If the Op is engrossed in himself, what's your business with it (Angry black woman). Paddle your canoe and let the Op paddle his.

It's an opinion and the fact that anyone uses it doesn't mean they're gullible or battling low self esteem as its obvious that you're.

And call me English teacher but it's Gullible and not 'guilible'. Your low self esteem won't let you learn to spell properly.

You don't have to correct any error,obviously people are typing fast and no one is above such little errors.
Angry Black woman? You probably just watched a black Hollywood movie because they are the only people that throw that up when they are arguing with a 'black woman'.
Scream from now till tomorrow,the fact is that the Op's post is useless,bullshit and detrimental to women and young girls. Who advices a young woman to overlook her desires, standards and priorities for such trashy points because she is running out of time. A lot of women are married today,not because they are happy with their decisions and choices but because they don't want to be called an old spinster. A lot of married women are wallowing in Adultery and affairs because some damn fool advised them to SETTLE with the avaliable man. Believe you me, any woman that will ignorantly say yes to these sort of foolish questions especially without Love will live to regret her decision in a few years time.
There is no A plus B in marriage,if you must say Yes to these questions ,then Love must be involved not the tick tuck sound of the biological clock.

P.s Nairaland is free for all,i reserve the right to counter any opinion so stay off my mentions!

Very well said Op

misspicy:
Like seriously? If i didnt love him will i stay and struggle with him in d first place....
So it is okay for the guy to move on to another woman after he has finally made it because the one who struggled with him wants a pay check? Why did she struggle with him in d first place wen she had oda better off suitors,so it is okay she lose both ways

i keep saying,this is a risk i for one will not undertake,imagine if d guy i struggle with af dis kind of mindset

How I wish there is a dislike botton, u would have win award with.

Ihuomadinihu:
I pity the so called Old sisters that will go through his illogical post and apply these points in their search for a man. These posts are basically for teenagers, women desperate to hook a man and of course,unintelligent women. The greatest mistake a woman will make is to say Yes to any of these questions because time is slowly ticking away.
When one enters a relationship,you should know what you can take and what you can't tolerate and endure. If you have to yes to a poor man with a one room apartment,then let it be out of love and care for that man and not because you don't want to be called an Old maid at 30.
It's a pity the kind of rubbish women face on nairaland.

lol. d fact is saying yes or no to the points does not hv any impact on d said person in the real life. no one can pretend to b wht she is not. my own point is our old sisters dt time is no longer on their side shld get busy and stp dreaming about wht dey cant afford. hw will one marry a soo rich guy whn one can barely recharge her phone with airtime jst saying tho

Okk nah

Vikky014:
o chim oooo is nt a must to get married in dis time and age ooo

Well to you it is not a must, but to some ladies it is a must. I am talking from personal experience.

When I am still residing in a BQ self contained apartment with my wife and kid, my wife had little or no friends. When she is marketing her goods on fool and going about her product on bike, those ladies rearly buy goods from her.
Now see goes about with her product in an SUV car and they knew the BQ is now a duplex, they are not only buying things from her but making friends with her. From there they were asking her if she will even allow her husband to marry another woman.

So, I caution her to be careful with them, as their agenda is different. So many cases like that that involves singles ladies and the divorced inclusive.