pharmroyle:
OP... U are in a similar boat as I was in few weeks ago... LET ME TELL U HOW THIS WORKS
Boy meets girl
Girl likes boy cos he's exciting and fun etc
They start dating and relationship becomes routine (doin same thing over and over nd over again)
Girl gets bored nd starts wondering what life would be like with another guy (GIG effect)
Guy suddenly realizes that his gf is 'changing' and tries to NAG her back into his life by arguing, begging, groveling, stalking etc
Girl gets more irritated and asks for SPACE
Guy becomes hrtbrken....
OP, ur relationship with this girl as u know it is over if u continue bugging her or pleading with her to go back to how things were ... She has obviously entered the 'i need space' phase so respect her decision and give her an entire 'GALAXY'.... This is the only thing u can do to increase the chances of u guys ever being together again....
If u have always been nice to her nd never offended her nd the relationship fails due to a fault of hers, trust me she would miss u at some point in her life when everything goes south for her.
Walk away nd dont contact her, act like u are better off without her (i know ur thinking she's the best girl ever, but nah, there's even better) ... Let her experience other guys nd see what she lost... She may come back (plz experience other girls as well, life is short)... U may not even want her again wen she comes back (I know u would take her back tho, cos u think she's ur 'soul mate'...well she isnt! ).

pharmroyle:

Introduction?... Then this is not 'young love' and I believe she should be mature enough to realise how much harm this new attention she is enjoying from her male friends is doing to the relationship
U have tried to talk things over with her
U even brought up the suggestion of the introduction
U have been trying to get back to the honeymoon phase of the relationship
But i dont see 'Her' in any of these attempts to make the relationship work... She wants u to 'wait till you are balanced' but how would that balance come when the root causes of the imbalance 'her male admirers nd ur trust issues' are not sorted out...
She needs to draw the boundary between u nd her other male frnds....nd bro if that boundary is not clear enough for u, i really suggest u give this girl a little break cos its better to have a failed relationship than a failed marriage

waley007:
I have been dating my girlfriend for 2 years now and we both loved each other so much,we were best of friends and we both enjoyed each others company. But lately for about 6months now we have been having issues.
She has a females close friend who is now like "d director of her life" .
She has always been a decent,what baffles me now is that she won't even let me know her phone password,if I ask her she will say she needs privacy.we fight alot on dis and she's always busy on WhatsApp and bbm one way or d other.infact she now has alot of male friends and we never I ask her she tells me they are just her friends.
She now nags at every little issue dat she gets me so annoyed everytim..last week she was still with my family when she came visiting and her family likes me too,yet she claims she loves me but she has totally changed..she doesn't even respect me again and when we talk about the male friends she claims shes having,she said I can't stop her from having them,and this is because her females friends have them too.
Right now am so confused about her and she doesn't even make me trust her again.I love her and I don't want to loose her but she's driving me really crazy.
What do you guys think I should do..mature advice please,how do I change her back and how do I handle her situation.am tired of everyday quarrel

jemype:
I went through a very similar issue last month and I asked guys for advice. funny enough d advice actually worked. give her distance. dont call her again as often, dont giv her d attention u usually giv her as often and act very forlorn about everything she. is doing as though u hav made your decision about her. then pray about it underground. my brother d truth is that if she is urs she will change but if she isnt urs then that is Gods way of saying u deserve somthing better gently walk. out of the relationship unofficially but I sense a major quarrel among her and her friends later so jus make sure u leave an openear so she can explain everything later to u

pharmroyle:
OP... U are in a similar boat as I was in few weeks ago... LET ME TELL U HOW THIS WORKS
Boy meets girl
Girl likes boy cos he's exciting and fun etc
They start dating and relationship becomes routine (doin same thing over and over nd over again)
Girl gets bored nd starts wondering what life would be like with another guy (GIG effect)
Guy suddenly realizes that his gf is 'changing' and tries to NAG her back into his life by arguing, begging, groveling, stalking etc
Girl gets more irritated and asks for SPACE
Guy becomes hrtbrken....
OP, ur relationship with this girl as u know it is over if u continue bugging her or pleading with her to go back to how things were ... She has obviously entered the 'i need space' phase so respect her decision and give her an entire 'GALAXY'.... This is the only thing u can do to increase the chances of u guys ever being together again....
If u have always been nice to her nd never offended her nd the relationship fails due to a fault of hers, trust me she would miss u at some point in her life when everything goes south for her.
Walk away nd dont contact her, act like u are better off without her (i know ur thinking she's the best girl ever, but nah, there's even better) ... Let her experience other guys nd see what she lost... She may come back (plz experience other girls as well, life is short)... U may not even want her again wen she comes back (I know u would take her back tho, cos u think she's ur 'soul mate'...well she isnt! ).

delectablegyal:
@op, have you started fvcking her?

discoprophet:


dis vi*g*n girl. But why be say na fvck fvck dey ya mouth everytym?

bronzegoddess:



I am pretty sure d "other guy" has not spent 100naira on her, I'm very sure. She's just being a woman, enjoying the attention from the "other guys". I like men who have control over their women, I mean u are the man here, teLl her to quit paying attention to these "other guys".

Her heart is probably not innit anymore.

Oliviaarims:
To begin with, I doubt ur gf 's cheating on u. U guys have been dating for two years, yeah? That's some good time. Perhaps, she's gotten a bit bored.. It's a phase, don't worry. But the sad thing seems to be that this friend of hers is feeding her with trash. She wants to explore other options now. I think she's even attracted to one of those her numerous admirers. It happens sometimes.


Her recent attitude's just an affront. She's allowing those guys flocking around her to get into her head. She feels she's got nothing to lose should u break up with her now. There's a guy to fall back to. In fact, she may just be intentionally or subconsciously pushing u to break up with her, so she kicks off with the next guy, with less guilt.


I think she still loves u, though. But she's being really silly. She's trying to destroy her relationship she's built over 2 yrs because she feels there's a better guy out there.


If things are to work out fine between the both of u, then u've got to give her a wide berth,for her to come to terms with what she wants on her own. Stop paying her attention. Stop calling, texting and visiting. She'll show concern, but be slow to allow things get back to normal. Allow her have a feel of what it would look like to lose u. Allow her press harder to save ur relationship. If she doesn't put in much effort, then, pls... Let her go.

waley007:
thanks bro,tho I always wish I can control mysef not talking to her but I find mysef still talkin to her afta some days,I trully love her and she knows dis,attimes I feel she takes me for granted cos she knows I love her...I always try to let go of her but I find it difficult.I av talked to her several times,even wen she came to my place my mum talked to her too also my dad on phone...but yet I don't understand her behaviour anymore...dis is a woman I already planned marriage wit,infact I asked her to use my pics on WhatsApp,but she wouldnt, she told me I want to drive her toasters away,can u imagine

NakedSnake:


She doesn't love the dude anymore.. Not a case of being silly here..you're a female you are supposed to know the dynamics of these things

delectablegyal:
@op, have you started fvcking her?

lalasticlala:


See u enhhhhenhhm diz man-girl, u 2 like dat word..

delectablegyal:
@op, have you started fvcking her?

waley007:
I have been dating my girlfriend for 2 years now and we both loved each other so much,we were best of friends and we both enjoyed each others company. But lately for about 6months now we have been having issues.
She has a females close friend who is now like "d director of her life" .
She has always been a decent,what baffles me now is that she won't even let me know her phone password,if I ask her she will say she needs privacy.we fight alot on dis and she's always busy on WhatsApp and bbm one way or d other.infact she now has alot of male friends and we never I ask her she tells me they are just her friends.
She now nags at every little issue dat she gets me so annoyed everytim..last week she was still with my family when she came visiting and her family likes me too,yet she claims she loves me but she has totally changed..she doesn't even respect me again and when we talk about the male friends she claims shes having,she said I can't stop her from having them,and this is because her females friends have them too.
Right now am so confused about her and she doesn't even make me trust her again.I love her and I don't want to loose her but she's driving me really crazy.
What do you guys think I should do..mature advice please,how do I change her back and how do I handle her situation.am tired of everyday quarrel

Oliviaarims:
To begin with, I doubt ur gf 's cheating on u. U guys have been dating for two years, yeah? That's some good time. Perhaps, she's gotten a bit bored.. It's a phase, don't worry. But the sad thing seems to be that this friend of hers is feeding her with trash. She wants to explore other options now. I think she's even attracted to one of those her numerous admirers. It happens sometimes.


Her recent attitude's just an affront. She's allowing those guys flocking around her to get into her head. She feels she's got nothing to lose should u break up with her now. There's a guy to fall back to. In fact, she may just be intentionally or subconsciously pushing u to break up with her, so she kicks off with the next guy, with less guilt.


I think she still loves u, though. But she's being really silly. She's trying to destroy her relationship she's built over 2 yrs because she feels there's a better guy out there.


If things are to work out fine between the both of u, then u've got to give her a wide berth,for her to come to terms with what she wants on her own. Stop paying her attention. Stop calling, texting and visiting. She'll show concern, but be slow to allow things get back to normal. Allow her have a feel of what it would look like to lose u. Allow her press harder to save ur relationship. If she doesn't put in much effort, then, pls... Let her go.

BUTCHCASSIDY:
Wow Didn't know Ure capable of writing long posts

waley007:
thanks bro,tho I always wish I can control mysef not talking to her but I find mysef still talkin to her afta some days,I trully love her and she knows dis,attimes I feel she takes me for granted cos she knows I love her...I always try to let go of her but I find it difficult.I av talked to her several times,even wen she came to my place my mum talked to her too also my dad on phone...but yet I don't understand her behaviour anymore...dis is a woman I already planned marriage wit,infact I asked her to use my pics on WhatsApp,but she wouldnt, she told me I want to drive her toasters away,can u imagine

Oliviaarims:



Lol. Why'd u assume that?

BUTCHCASSIDY:
U usually keep it short and sweet but this right here. .... U made plenty sense sha

pharmroyle:
OP... U are in a similar boat as I was in few weeks ago... LET ME TELL U HOW THIS WORKS
Boy meets girl
Girl likes boy cos he's exciting and fun etc
They start dating and relationship becomes routine (doin same thing over and over nd over again)
Girl gets bored nd starts wondering what life would be like with another guy (GIG effect)
Guy suddenly realizes that his gf is 'changing' and tries to NAG her back into his life by arguing, begging, groveling, stalking etc
Girl gets more irritated and asks for SPACE
Guy becomes hrtbrken....
OP, ur relationship with this girl as u know it is over if u continue bugging her or pleading with her to go back to how things were ... She has obviously entered the 'i need space' phase so respect her decision and give her an entire 'GALAXY'.... This is the only thing u can do to increase the chances of u guys ever being together again....
If u have always been nice to her nd never offended her nd the relationship fails due to a fault of hers, trust me she would miss u at some point in her life when everything goes south for her.
Walk away nd dont contact her, act like u are better off without her (i know ur thinking she's the best girl ever, but nah, there's even better) ... Let her experience other guys nd see what she lost... She may come back (plz experience other girls as well, life is short)... U may not even want her again wen she comes back (I know u would take her back tho, cos u think she's ur 'soul mate'...well she isnt! ).