Bollinger:


What exactly are you saying?

I'm saying I agree with you to an extent, but not the nigerian mentality bit. It's just a 'losers' mentality. Not all nigerian men feel intimidated by a girl with a car.

Sorry Can't type epistles... Tiny screen brb

blessedfavoured:


I'm saying I agree with you to an extent, but not the nigerian mentality bit. It's just a 'losers' mentality. Not all nigerian men feel intimidated by a girl with a car.

Sorry Can't type epistles... Tiny screen brb

Ok.

omotohdarajugbogbolo:
Good day fam,

I really need your advice on something.

I am a lady in my late twenties and I work with a multinational company here in Lagos.
This is my third year on the job and I know I need a car now.

Now here's the issue; my siblings think that getting a car is a bad idea. Why? Cos am single.

My beloved brother said it would push men away from me

Please does this not sound myopic? I really don't get it.

House how do you see this cos I feel down right now.

Y shld u still b single n all u r thinking of is buying a car.
Ur bros r right, buy a car n remain single for life. This is naija except u live in western world.


R u in a serious relationship then discuss with ur man he may nt have issues with dt, if u r nt yet in a serious relationship then u b bad market

Bollinger:


19 ke? Most states issue drivers license to 17 year olds. Just have a Job, decent credit and your are good to go. God help Nigeria.

Yeah. And it hasn't prevented American guys from toasting them.

CFCman:

What's wrong in 'flaunting' your car? And you didn't have to pretend to his friends about your ownership of the car.

i smell napkins!

chiefkpokp:
Your family may be right though but u have ur choice, I have a family friend(girl), she is about 23, she earn good money, she ask me to assist her in her choice of car, though her elder sister(married) was against it and she never wanted me to be involve, becos of dis same reasons, though her bros supported she shud buy d car, so last last I assisted her in getting her Rav4. Then she use to have 1 guy then who is also a worker. To cut d story short, after d car. Few months later, she wit her guy broke up, since then she has been findin it difficult to get a guy, any guy that comes,will just pretend as if dey r for marriage last last after dem don nak tire, dem go discharge.

Guy but na your friend fault nw. She just dey share 4 everyone kawai.

blessedfavoured:


I saw that and I was thinking Thank God this is coming from a guy. Real men have no problem with it.

Like some have said, owning a car should "increase" the quality of toasters.

omotohdarajugbogbolo:
Good day fam,

I really need your advice on something.

I am a lady in my late twenties and I work with a multinational company here in Lagos.
This is my third year on the job and I know I need a car now.

Now here's the issue; my siblings think that getting a car is a bad idea. Why? Cos am single.

My beloved brother said it would push men away from me

Please does this not sound myopic? I really don't get it.

House how do you see this cos I feel down right now.

[size=18pt]Yes my dear. It will scare away the man who thinks that it is a taboo for his wife/girlfriend to own a car and thus will not consider buying you a car when you marry him. So go ahead and buy your car. Infact buy your dream car as long as you can afford it and you are comfortable driving it. A car is a necessity in the 21st century. The worst that can happen is that you will easily scare away the chauvinistic bast.ard who will want to run your life tomorrow like a 17th century landowner. [/size]

You want good advice forget about attracting or not attracting men, do you need the car? is getting to work easy? the reason behind these questions is simple if you have some extra money go and buy land or talk to a bank and buy a property it is far better than buying a car, you r young u r strong and if getting to work is not a problem do something meaniful for your future, my mum brought her first land in her mid 20s now she is a grandma every weekend grand children cousins relatives all go to see becos she has money she has properties cars etc and she did not go school she has olden days standard one or whatever it was called then, the point I am making if you need it buy it if you dont then use yur money for something better

omotohdarajugbogbolo:
Good day fam,

I really need your advice on something.

I am a lady in my late twenties and I work with a multinational company here in Lagos.
This is my third year on the job and I know I need a car now.

Now here's the issue; my siblings think that getting a car is a bad idea. Why? Cos am single.

My beloved brother said it would push men away from me

Please does this not sound myopic? I really don't get it.

House how do you see this cos I feel down right now.

the problem is not buying a car. The problem is who u become after buying the car. From my observation, women who are independent usually tend to undervalue men because they feel like "I can buy whatever I want for myself, I don't need you in my life" Now it's this egoistic attitude that drives away men, not necessarily the fact that you own a car. So the question is after buying the car, are you still going to be respectful of the man in ur life?
P.S. I prefer a girl that won't be nagging me for recharge card money, new hair money.. Preferably one that can buy herself a car, so that our only worries would be next holiday destination

Jimdonnet:
Babe no buy car yet.my auntie who deals in cars is 44 and yet to see a man.

She isn't ur aunty. So don't use ur aunty's misfortune 2 judge her case. Ur aunty's case isn't because she has a car, it is because she elevates herself above men's status. A woman with a humble spirit will marry no matter how many cars she possess.

jackpot:
i smell napkins!

Lol. Why

It won't chase away REAL MEN.

Get yourself a good car, remain humble and you will get a good husband. Car is not the cause of late marriages, there are many ladies without car and still without a man. All you need is humility and a sense that your hubby doesn't need to be better financially than you.

I think its your choice after considering factors like family(which is important in Nigeria no matter their troubles), the class of car you are buying, how your attitude is and the way our country is as well in terms of employment. How many working class guys are single and are looking for working class lady in her late 20's with a nice ride? Some in this bracket will wonder why you are still single when you have everything, how many successful businessmen are single, the ones that are single, how many will have the time to chase after you(high class), when they are concentrated in their business. So u need a car that's fine, but it reduces ur options, and ur NT getting younger, dat reduces your option... Get a car if u really really need it den pray and have faith!.. Single G-boys are still available too.lolz

PAnaceA7:
Only insecure men and broke niggas will feel threatened.

short & direct answer.

It is not the buying of the car that can send men away, it her attitude after buying the car that can send men away.

GoodSamaritan:
Op I want u to ask yourself why u have worked in a multinational company for 3yrs & yet no husband. Then, check all the advanced single ladies in your organization & try to know why they aren't married. You will agree with me that majority of them own cars.

Let me be frank with u, most ladies who buy car before marriage hardly find suitors. Some ladies buy car with the believe that rich guys will approach them & they later find out that it is not like that most times. You know why? Most guys who own cars use the cars to chase babes who don't have cars because they appreciate them more than girls who own cars.

I know so many beautiful ladies who own cars but no husband. Most of them come to me for prayers in tears. I really pity them. Some of my friends are even begging me to marry one out of several of them working in oil company but the problem is that I don't see love in them. I only see desperation.

Don't do something that will make your friends & family begin to beg men to pls marry u. Pls be wise & patient.

I know of 2 sisters from a wealthy home. Their mum bought them a car each after graduation. The younger one refused to use hers. She parked it at home till she got married & gave it to her husband. The elder sister is prettier but no husband for over 5yrs since she has been riding her big car around.

Op, the choice is yours! Good luck

Nonsense talk.. Did you hear the part where she has worked for 3 years without a car and still isn't married, and you think her getting a car is the problem? Nawa for this poor mentality everywhere oo.. Next thing, you'll tell her to resign from the multinational and go work in a nursery school so that she won't appear rich and chase men away! Any man that is chased away by all these tokunbo cars we drive in Nigeria is not a man. He is not worth being married to.. Shikena

omotohdarajugbogbolo:
Good day fam,

I really need your advice on something.

I am a lady in my late twenties and I work with a multinational company here in Lagos.
This is my third year on the job and I know I need a car now.

Now here's the issue; my siblings think that getting a car is a bad idea. Why? Cos am single.

My beloved brother said it would push men away from me

Please does this not sound myopic? I really don't get it.

House how do you see this cos I feel down right now.

Buy your car. What is a man comes after two years. Buy your ccar. God will still send you a man. God bless

i get what you are saying but when you think about it,you were supposed to be driving him not him

mitchyy:
Dear Op, i was once in your position. Friends, even some married women advised me against getting a car. But i ignored and went ahead to get a small saloon car. I believed the man meant for me can't run away because i have a car.
Today, i'm happily married to the man of my dreams who is everything i want in a husband. My car is one of the cars we drive as a family.
But here are some things i did:
I never flaunted the car in his face while we dated
I always let him drive while we were together with my car
I never let his friends or anyone know the car is mine except he tells them himself
I tried not to make him feel inferior cus i got a car before him

So it all boils down to how you act with the car. Be humble and let your humility shine through all your riches. Never act bossy, else it sends the wrong message.

amunkita:
Ajuju Ndi mmuo..

Babe some will say don't buy..
Some will say buy, that such a man has Low Self Esteem..

But verily I say unto you, if u buy a car nd an expensive one to match ur status it's good but know this, u ve increased ur market price or oyibo people will say Self worth or Value..

Now what u will attract re Men with great Ballz which make up 10% of Nigerian Men..

What of a situation u ain't so lucky to grab one knowing that 5% of such men will like a girl they feel they can provide with all goodies of Life without Challenge..

So babe u re Left with 5% of the Real Men with Balls, 75% of Normal Nigerian Men nd 15% of Gold Diggers...


So Babe do which that favors you knowing that a Real African Man(75%) would not like perception from the public that His wife is the boss..

you spoke my mind

I have seen clean men who blatantly told me the would not marry ladies who are not financially stable and the first prerequisite is that the lady must own a car. If u doubt me, go 2 Abuja and see 4 yourself.

Bollinger:
If buying a car by a woman will make men feel intimidated in Nigeria, then una no go fit marry for Europe and America oooo. The mentality in Nigeria is mind boggling i swear. I wonder how the thought process works over there.

i just shared something similar, the way naija people think sef na wa , even me wey i no get car although i can afford it cant be intimidated about talking to a woman

harristo:
It is easy for other ladies to tell you that the men who would be intimidated by you don't matter but, what percentage of marriageable men do you think the bolder, richer men represent? By the time you are like a certain lady who just is approaching 40, just bought a banana mansion and still single, you will wish you kept a lower profile / made yourself approachable to all men.

Another poor mentality on the loose.. The said lady with the banana Island mansion that you so envy now was dead broke at age 30! Single and broke @ 30... Why didn't she marry during her broke years? Since being broke gives some men a hard on..

Cutehector:
In ur late twenties


Multinational coy


Buy a car








And ur brother says it will chase men away from u?


Babe abeg pass me ur number

You let down your standards to get a man who will cheat on you,feed off your salary and abuse you.. Any man who respects you will not be swayed by your success. I have seen men who look for women like you.. they are leeches and they will get you and suck you dry .. be Independent and Ambitious.. you will attract the few who Respect Women.. if you continue on this path.. you will only attract lazy ignorant, traditional, cheating, mommy's boys

nkemdi89:
U
God bless you thank this is coming from a man, I got my first car at 24 and I don't regret, only insecure and envious men will run away, those with big balls will come, car isn't asset but necessity, besides even those condemning me before still enter my car and have use it to assist people both at work and other functions.

It's the same mentality that stops many Naija ladies from renting an apartment or even owning a home.
A lady, working in a multinational company and earning N300,000 to N500,000/month would be hesitant to move out of her parents place because of a man's 'ego'

What I think? If buying a car would chase men away from you, then I think u should go ahead because the crop of men that would be chased away by such act or status are the ones with an incurable sense of low self esteem who think a man is a man only when his woman eats outta his hand. Is that the type of man u want? Simply saying: buying a car at your age and status would push such lily-livered men away from you and put u among the those who appreciate an achievement oriented woman. I know a certain tribe in Nigeria who form a large chunk of these low ass men and I bet that's where you are from. Go girl!

cowgirl9090:


this is really funny. that's to say it attracts gold diggers to her?

yelx

Malakh:
i just shared something similar, the way naija people think sef na wa , even me wey i no get car although i can afford it cant be intimidated about talking to a woman

The problem is most people don't realise that a vehicle is just a tool. Nothing more. To them it is only a status symbol.

Eddygourdo:
hector. You alone is a bad gang

abi.... Am a lone ranger...

Cutehector:
In ur late twenties


Multinational coy


Buy a car








And ur brother says it will chase men away from u?


Babe abeg pass me ur number

hw u dey take coment first for threads wey hit fp hector

milowys77:


Another poor mentality on the loose.. The said lady with the banana Island mansion that you so envy now was dead broke at age 30! Single and broke @ 30... Why didn't she marry during her broke years? Since being broke gives some men a hard on..

Lol!!!! Like marriage is an end. All these clay-age men!!!!