dearpreye:


The society is made up of individuals. With every single individual embracing positive values, the negative ones will gradually move into oblivion.

Every society has it own positive value. Please stop downgrading your society.

What is positive in society A may be negative in society B. Mind you our approach to life differs in every society

Hey we your car,joor
Most Nigerian men are primitive And backward in their thinking... When u rely on them, they complain that u are become too dependent and lazy. When u are successful, they will say u are too proud and non-submissive.

Go ahead and buy your car. The only person that can help you get the husband of your dream is Jesus Christ.
So buy your car and continue to pray to God for a life partner that is meant for you.

CFCman:

Yeah. And it hasn't prevented American guys from toasting them.

look my friend America is different frm 9ja, wen u ar in rome do like d romans

Malakh:
e good as she show you signs, make u run as far as your leg carry you, this is why its good to court them before making the plunge, try something crazy b4 u discard am,ask her to clean or cook for you if she rebels blast am for me

Na so, can't even underestimate courtship. Many change as soon as they enter matrimonial homes.

seaga:
My dear life is short,if you need it,buy it.Yes,it's going to cut of a percentage of suitors, but the good news is; it would be the insecure ones which makes a large some.If you must be modest ,then you can make it a small car and fuel efficient one too.I am actually a sucker for pretty ladies driving a good car.Lady!Enjoy your ride in 2016

Thanks sir. Appreciate the advice

Must you trek because you're a single lady in your late twenties?Most Nigerians are so myopic.I don't see how getting a car would discourage any positive minded man that truely knows how necessary a car is·Any man that does that is a CAPITAL FOOL!Girl,if you need a car,get a very good car and have your peace.Most men don't meet up due to inferiority complex.A nice guy should be very happy for you and also help you flex your car.My wife had a car before we got married and it never meant a thing to me;she uses mine and so did I·

omotohdarajugbogbolo:
Good day fam,

I really need your advice on something.

I am a lady in my late twenties and I work with a multinational company here in Lagos.
This is my third year on the job and I know I need a car now.

Now here's the issue; my siblings think that getting a car is a bad idea. Why? Cos am single.

My beloved brother said it would push men away from me

Please does this not sound myopic? I really don't get it.

House how do you see this cos I feel down right now.

eschew pride and remain polite and humble. Retain ur good characters and always exhibit that character that u can be a good mum.
Its in mens nature to hate anything that exhibits or show power and pride (especially that of women).
I hope u got the picture of wah i'm saying.
And again, many men feel intimidated by women who are better than them in terms of achievements,thereby making the only men of ur class to approach u.

It's Ur Choice.

It is rather unfortunate that people with limited counselling disposition are toying with this very serious matter. Dear young woman, think deeply before you decide. Do not make it a case of rebelling but that of informed decision.
Firstly, no body knows you more than those who saw you grow from nothing to something. Sometimes especially in family circles, it is the unspoken that is more important than the spoken.

Firstly, kindly explain to me why you do not have a serious relationship by now! Na today day break? Something in your life don't add up and your family members know it. I know of a lady that refused to put herself out on the shelf in her late teens and early twenties due to overzealous going to church. She confused piety with stupidity and refused to present herself as a clean body harbouring an informed mind. Those who liked her god fearing disposition disliked her lack of societal awareness while those who liked her simpleness could not stomach her inability to allow them a foot in her I am married to Jesus posture.

I know another lady that hides her life in her work. Without taking any risk on guys, she keeps running off into her work. Now at 36, she is attending church prayer sessions in the hope of God giving her his will. I have advised her to take the God bit out because God has already done his bit....him don provide better bobos all over the land. Allow them to talk to you. Allow them to toast you. Nothing wrong for there.

In a Nigeria where only a very few work in well paying organisations, there has developed a natural need to accommodate on behalf of our young men. The wise girl, steps back a little and allow young men with the required qualities among a tipper load of other unwanted qualities to have a chance. This is the main reason daughters of the wise hardly finish university before they are plucked off the shelf. Their family prepares them early on to prioritise their presentation and follow it next with modesty. My dear wetin you dey plant since when day break? The way your family dey react seem to suggest say them know you pass yourself. Wetin happen to your last bobo and when was that? Why bobos no dey toast you such that your family will not be entertaining the fear of driving them further away. They should be worried about too much crowd. I remember when I was dating my wife. At one point her father querried her to point to him, who she considered was worth his time. Thenceforth, her father (in the oil industry) became my watchman. Young men were showing up so forcefully that he started giving them my phone number. You ought to be in your toasting prime. So the fact that your family are concerned for you is what worries me. Take a deep look at your life and sort out the basic problem.....put yourself on the shelf. Car or no car.....put yourself on the shelf. This is not about becoming cheap and promiscuous.....no no no..it is about refined presentation. If you dey make young men shake like jelly, you can go off and buy Limo. Dem go toast you toast your limo but if you are a hidi hidi...then sweating it in a danfo is not the solution. No vex say I no sound like the other oooh! I had to say it as it occurs to me.....others reading might learn from my answer.

Lemme be logical..if the men didn't get attracted to you without a car I don't see why they shouldn't be attracted to you when you have a car....Go buy ur car joor

tochez24:
@op see dis s always a common african mentality...cos men tink dat once u hv a gud job,huz nd a car as a single den u must b definitely b hard 2control dats d basic truth.bt d world has changed u knw,men r no longer intimidated by d sucess of a lady,xooo far u dnt let dis material tins get into ur head nd start bein silly.its kk.jst mak sure u work on ur character once u get d car,dis wil gv any guy dat comes arnd second tot abt u.men SIMPLY luk out 4women wit gud character weda she rich or not once u r a wife material u r good 2go...dats d truth#by ur car nd enjoy life# kip ur xch in check dats all tank u

True yarn but our ladies no go hear. Dem nono say we bobo no dis kain tin.

Guy if u notis(dat is wen ur eye don clear) she u grab, wen our babe don maga.

Nasoso highness de wory dem. But guy stop dat nonsense we u asign Africa.

Stop am guy u don old pass am

Pidggin:


What is your own opinion about it? I know a lady that sold her car because she wanted to get married, and a few months later she got married to a man who she is a lot richer than. I know another lady that bought a car, a few months later she got married to a man that is richer than her. Never do anything out of fear, buy a car because it will help make things easy for you, a man will come if it is meant to be.

i doubt the veracity of this story...
i sure say na lie...
where e for happen?

If Ɣ☺ΰ buy †̥hα̲̅† car eh just ready t̶̲̥̅̊ợ̣̣̇̇̇ remain single .. As Ɣ☺ΰ will only be attracting scammers and play boys

omotohdarajugbogbolo:
Really appreciate and value everyone's response.

For those saying I should invest in landed properties, I already have a 3bedroom flat and about to buy another land.

Please am not going to reply pms. Anything to be discussed should be here.

Thanks and Godbless

Thank you too for taking the time to go through the responses. You must have read the testimonies of the people that are opposed to your buying a car. I believe that your brother's view is borne not out of selfishness, but rather out of the desire to see her sister settle down in her own home. The problem with the car that I have outlined earlier on is that more and more playboys would swarm towards you. The gold diggers would come, pretending that they love you but they are only after your money. I would like to ask about your relationship before getting the multinational job. If you were in a serious relationship then, what happened? You lost interest, or the guy lost interest. I feel that if you are the one that forgot him because of your higher status, you might need to get back to him. If the guys you know then are responsible, I feel you should continue to give such the green light that shows your happiness at having them around you. And it's better marrying someone you know than someone you don't know. So, what happened to the relationship before the job?

U want her number bcux she works in a multinational, babe if u knw ur car will make u look dan on a man, save ur cash or ask God for direction

Cutehector:
In ur late twenties


Multinational coy


Buy a car








And ur brother says it will chase men away from u?


Babe abeg pass me ur number

with this ur post @OP I already have an understanding of d kinda lady you are... and I love such personality.

get a car dear but dant go for a big one jast a cute and fuel economy car. any correct dude with good brain that come to you will definitely appreciate and respect you. knowing that u didn't get d car to show you've arrived but for your comfort.

johnson232:

i doubt the veracity of this story...
i sure say na lie...
where e for happen?

why would you be a doubting Thomas?

omotohdarajugbogbolo:


Thanks sir. Appreciate the advice

You re welcome . Coincidentally, i import and sell cars and know so much about them, so if you need,feel free to seek for advice.

demzylahot:
Lemme be logical..if the men didn't get attracted to you without a car I don't see why they shouldn't be attracted to you when you have a car....Go buy ur car joor

she has not told us her relationship story. Some might be coming, only that she is not interested in them.

omotohdarajugbogbolo:
Really appreciate and value everyone's response.

For those saying I should invest in landed properties, I already have a 3bedroom flat and about to buy another land.

Please am not going to reply pms. Anything to be discussed should be here.

Thanks and Godbless

So what completes a woman? truth of the matter is 99% percent of women dont know what they should be seeking in a Man, there's a reason why seven women would ask to be called by the name of a Man,I know why, but most men and women dont, material possession doesn't cut it, if you go back to that Script in Isaiah, these women said we have our own "bread" and clothes....so it's not about wealth because in a few years, they won't worth anything,dont wanna go too deep because it might not even apply to you

Nigerian ladiessssssssssssssssss and their behaviour hmmmmmmm hmmmmm, See advise upon series of advise shaaaa ( both for and against ) but some of the advisers tend to forget destiny and prayer about any of our steps we intend taking. Ogede n baje asope on pon i.e Civilization. Am a living witness......... Finally, anybody that ask God Almighty for step and Direction to take in life that person will never encounter any kind of misfortune in His or Her Life. So go to God and pray about it if it suits your star hmmmmm o ma se oooo temi yemi shaaaa... Finally I have an uncle who is a CEO of a Leading Insurance Company In Nigeria, when He wanted to get married despite his riches He as to abandon all what he has to pretend as if he is nobody. Honestly speaking he is enjoying his home after the wedding...... He is back at His in Dolphin estate....... Lady if you have a Car and you lack good behaviour and attitude no matter how rich the man you dating is your life will still be like abyss. so behaviour is Key As in how are you behaving now when there isn't Car and how are you going to behave when you eventually get your car. Lady my advise is take it to God in prayer....... Good day

sashaa:

A thumbs up for this post. You spoke well and you are right about that being a SE mentality. Am from there and you won't believe the number of people that have given me the same advice.

For me, I know what I'm waiting for. Once I make good on a few investment plans I'm getting myself a car because I need one. It's a necessity and not luxury like people here think. Like the OP i'v also worked for almost 3years.

@ topic, sweetie get yourself a car and remain a good person inside out. I will be buying your asoebi soon. Cheers

Thumb's up to you too for not allowing that mentality be-cloud your mentality. I love good life and that's my wish for everyone including the OP and you. Season's Greetings!!!

amunkita:
Ajuju Ndi mmuo..

Babe some will say don't buy..
Some will say buy, that such a man has Low Self Esteem..

But verily I say unto you, if u buy a car nd an expensive one to match ur status it's good but know this, u ve increased ur market price or oyibo people will say Self worth or Value..

Now what u will attract re Men with great Ballz which make up 10% of Nigerian Men..

What of a situation u ain't so lucky to grab one knowing that 5% of such men will like a girl they feel they can provide with all goodies of Life without Challenge..

So babe u re Left with 5% of the Real Men with Balls, 75% of Normal Nigerian Men nd 15% of Gold Diggers...


So Babe do which that favors you knowing that a Real African Man(75%) would not like perception from the public that His wife is the boss..

You are right oo but on a counter my present girlfriend owns a jeep do i give a Bleep, i dnt av ordinary beetle but i do all the spending, i hate when a woman spend on me.

Naijafirst:
It is rather unfortunate that people with limited counselling disposition are toying with this very serious matter. Dear young woman, think deeply before you decide. Do not make it a case of rebelling but that of informed decision.
Firstly, no body knows you more than those who saw you grow from nothing to something. Sometimes especially in family circles, it is the unspoken that is more important than the spoken.

Firstly, kindly explain to me why you do not have a serious relationship by now! Na today day break? Something in your life don't add up and your family members know it. I know of a lady that refused to put herself out on the shelf in her late teens and early twenties due to overzealous going to church. She confused piety with stupidity and refused to present herself as a clean body harbouring an informed mind. Those who liked her god fearing disposition disliked her lack of societal awareness while those who liked her simpleness could not stomach her inability to allow them a foot in her I am married to Jesus posture.

I know another lady that hides her life in her work. Without taking any risk on guys, she keeps running off into her work. Now at 36, she is attending church prayer sessions in the hope of God giving her his will. I have advised her to take the God bit out because God has already done his bit....him don provide better bobos all over the land. Allow them to talk to you. Allow them to toast you. Nothing wrong for there.

In a Nigeria where only a very few work in well paying organisations, there has developed a natural need to accommodate on behalf of our young men. The wise girl, steps back a little and allow young men with the required qualities among a tipper load of other unwanted qualities to have a chance. This is the main reason daughters of the wise hardly finish university before they are plucked off the shelf. Their family prepares them early on to prioritise their presentation and follow it next with modesty. My dear wetin you dey plant since when day break? The way your family dey react seem to suggest say them know you pass yourself. Wetin happen to your last bobo and when was that? Why bobos no dey toast you such that your family will not be entertaining the fear of driving them further away. They should be worried about too much crowd. I remember when I was dating my wife. At one point her father querried her to point to him, who she considered was worth his time. Thenceforth, her father (in the oil industry) became my watchman. Young men were showing up so forcefully that he started giving them my phone number. You ought to be in your toasting prime. So the fact that your family are concerned for you is what worries me. Take a deep look at your life and sort out the basic problem.....put yourself on the shelf. Car or no car.....put yourself on the shelf. This is not about becoming cheap and promiscuous.....no no no..it is about refined presentation. If you dey make young men shake like jelly, you can go off and buy Limo. Dem go toast you toast your limo but if you are a hidi hidi...then sweating it in a danfo is not the solution. No vex say I no sound like the other oooh! I had to say it as it occurs to me.....others reading might learn from my answer.

On point, Bro.

Skmoda360:

You are right oo but on a counter my present girlfriend owns a jeep do i give a Bleep, i dnt av ordinary beetle but i do all the spending, i hate when a woman spend on me.

How do you relate with her? Does she have every respect for you?

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if you buy a car, you will only be approached by men that get to investigate to find out if you are not yet taken. An average and random men regardless of calibre will take you for someone's wife or girl friend. That you are no more available. That's the average men mentality here in Nigeria.

Naijafirst:
It is rather unfortunate that people with limited counselling disposition are toying with this very serious matter. Dear young woman, think deeply before you decide. Do not make it a case of rebelling but that of informed decision.
Firstly, no body knows you more than those who saw you grow from nothing to something. Sometimes especially in family circles, it is the unspoken that is more important than the spoken.

Firstly, kindly explain to me why you do not have a serious relationship by now! Na today day break? Something in your life don't add up and your family members know it. I know of a lady that refused to put herself out on the shelf in her late teens and early twenties due to overzealous going to church. She confused piety with stupidity and refused to present herself as a clean body harbouring an informed mind. Those who liked her god fearing disposition disliked her lack of societal awareness while those who liked her simpleness could not stomach her inability to allow them a foot in her I am married to Jesus posture.

I know another lady that hides her life in her work. Without taking any risk on guys, she keeps running off into her work. Now at 36, she is attending church prayer sessions in the hope of God giving her his will. I have advised her to take the God bit out because God has already done his bit....him don provide better bobos all over the land. Allow them to talk to you. Allow them to toast you. Nothing wrong for there.

In a Nigeria where only a very few work in well paying organisations, there has developed a natural need to accommodate on behalf of our young men. The wise girl, steps back a little and allow young men with the required qualities among a tipper load of other unwanted qualities to have a chance. This is the main reason daughters of the wise hardly finish university before they are plucked off the shelf. Their family prepares them early on to prioritise their presentation and follow it next with modesty. My dear wetin you dey plant since when day break? The way your family dey react seem to suggest say them know you pass yourself. Wetin happen to your last bobo and when was that? Why bobos no dey toast you such that your family will not be entertaining the fear of driving them further away. They should be worried about too much crowd. I remember when I was dating my wife. At one point her father querried her to point to him, who she considered was worth his time. Thenceforth, her father (in the oil industry) became my watchman. Young men were showing up so forcefully that he started giving them my phone number. You ought to be in your toasting prime. So the fact that your family are concerned for you is what worries me. Take a deep look at your life and sort out the basic problem.....put yourself on the shelf. Car or no car.....put yourself on the shelf. This is not about becoming cheap and promiscuous.....no no no..it is about refined presentation. If you dey make young men shake like jelly, you can go off and buy Limo. Dem go toast you toast your limo but if you are a hidi hidi...then sweating it in a danfo is not the solution. No vex say I no sound like the other oooh! I had to say it as it occurs to me.....others reading might learn from my answer.

daaaaaaaaaaaamn!!!!!!!!!!... calling you wise is an understatement.............. you're a sage!!!!!!!!!... following you immediately

Analysiscorner:
but the car Could be a factor. You don't know.

You can't be sure.

omotohdarajugbogbolo:
Good day fam,

I really need your advice on something.

I am a lady in my late twenties and I work with a multinational company here in Lagos.
This is my third year on the job and I know I need a car now.

Now here's the issue; my siblings think that getting a car is a bad idea. Why? Cos am single.

My beloved brother said it would push men away from me

Please does this not sound myopic? I really don't get it.

House how do you see this cos I feel down right now.

Hmmmm dear, the issue here is a very delicate one,I will not say u should buy it or not to buy it because I don't know how challenging your work is ,but the issue here depends on what you want in life. As a single lady in d late twenties you ought to have been married by now so buying a car may not be necessary by now, though a car or shouldn't intimidate any suitor but when you consider the economic situation of this country you will know what am saying, most men out there will only see you as married.
Let me give u an example I work in one of d most popular government hospital in my state. The HOD of my department is a woman of about 45 years of age and she has never married before she uses a jeep but no man in her life talk less of giving birth to a child,so my dear once again it depends on what u what do you want to settle down now and be happy or u want to be a career woman with little interest in marriage the choice is yours. Shalom!

Buy it....it will only attract your class of guys.

Naijafirst:
It is rather unfortunate that people with limited counselling disposition are toying with this very serious matter. Dear young woman, think deeply before you decide. Do not make it a case of rebelling but that of informed decision.
Firstly, no body knows you more than those who saw you grow from nothing to something. Sometimes especially in family circles, it is the unspoken that is more important than the spoken.

Firstly, kindly explain to me why you do not have a serious relationship by now! Na today day break? Something in your life don't add up and your family members know it. I know of a lady that refused to put herself out on the shelf in her late teens and early twenties due to overzealous going to church. She confused piety with stupidity and refused to present herself as a clean body harbouring an informed mind. Those who liked her god fearing disposition disliked her lack of societal awareness while those who liked her simpleness could not stomach her inability to allow them a foot in her I am married to Jesus posture.

I know another lady that hides her life in her work. Without taking any risk on guys, she keeps running off into her work. Now at 36, she is attending church prayer sessions in the hope of God giving her his will. I have advised her to take the God bit out because God has already done his bit....him don provide better bobos all over the land. Allow them to talk to you. Allow them to toast you. Nothing wrong for there.

In a Nigeria where only a very few work in well paying organisations, there has developed a natural need to accommodate on behalf of our young men. The wise girl, steps back a little and allow young men with the required qualities among a tipper load of other unwanted qualities to have a chance. This is the main reason daughters of the wise hardly finish university before they are plucked off the shelf. Their family prepares them early on to prioritise their presentation and follow it next with modesty. My dear wetin you dey plant since when day break? The way your family dey react seem to suggest say them know you pass yourself. Wetin happen to your last bobo and when was that? Why bobos no dey toast you such that your family will not be entertaining the fear of driving them further away. They should be worried about too much crowd. I remember when I was dating my wife. At one point her father querried her to point to him, who she considered was worth his time. Thenceforth, her father (in the oil industry) became my watchman. Young men were showing up so forcefully that he started giving them my phone number. You ought to be in your toasting prime. So the fact that your family are concerned for you is what worries me. Take a deep look at your life and sort out the basic problem.....put yourself on the shelf. Car or no car.....put yourself on the shelf. This is not about becoming cheap and promiscuous.....no no no..it is about refined presentation. If you dey make young men shake like jelly, you can go off and buy Limo. Dem go toast you toast your limo but if you are a hidi hidi...then sweating it in a danfo is not the solution. No vex say I no sound like the other oooh! I had to say it as it occurs to me.....others reading might learn from my answer.

God bless u for this wonderful contribution my guy