ifeanyi83:


Really In 2015

Yes.. and beyond

No marriage,no respect

Stories on Genevieve is full of insults cos she is single

Thnigs have changed for Tonto dike,she now has all the respect cos she is married

menxer:


You have spoken the minds of true African women, Naija specifically.

So without a son, your value is of no consequence even as a holder of "the most prestigious title"?

Without a son,marriage is shaky! The man may go looking for one outside and single ladies will be willing to try their luck and I lose if it happens

Mrs title is for society sake

Having a son is for husband sake

omonnakoda:

Go ye into the world and multiply is a commandment for a world of millions not billions of people. At some point we may have to make laws to determine who can and who cannot be allowed to have children.Then I hope we can stop unintelligent folk from having kids and contaminating the genetic pool

Granted he may have written gibberish, but did you have to say those last words? If that were coming from a white supremacist who thinks blacks contaminate the genetic pool, wouldn't you be astounded by it?

omonnakoda:


If a woman does not get married it is no big deal.This is 2015. Stop trying to put them under pressure or make them feel they have failed somehow. This is all part of the wider church scamming culture we see in Nigeria. Create a non existent problem and then present your "holy" selves as solution. Go and solve your own problems first. No where in his mission did Jesus advocate marriage or elevate it to a do or die affair.
As far as I am concerned you are not intelligent but clearly you think you are .It is important for me to question that so you do not labour under any misconceptions.Ordinarily I should ignore the twaddle you wrote but there are many weak and vulnerable minds who are vulnerable to wolves like you. No marriage is better than a bad marriage no matter what anyone else will say. It is this kind of culture that also has as its flip side the desperation now leading to baby factories in our society. Marriage is not for everyone that is a social fact and something you can confirm by observing many already married people.
Go ye into the world and multiply is a commandment for a world of millions not billions of people. At some point we may have to make laws to determine who can and who cannot be allowed to have children.Then I hope we can stop unintelligent folk from having kids and contaminating the genetic pool

wonderful comment, I wonder how marriage becomes a problem, some folks can't even feed their own mouth talk less of another, they still clamoring for marriage, I pray black race should get enlighten especially Africa, taking marriage as a problem.

missyadorable:


Without a son,marriage is shaky! The man may go looking for one outside and single ladies will be willing to try their luck and I lose if it happens

Mrs title is for society sake

Having a son is for husband sake

How does that answer my question?

For the single reason of marrying for "society sake", you have failed.

lanicky:
Nice one OP.
You need to create a counter thread though

A counter tread. u tink its neccessary? i dnt think so.

Ladies should not desire good, good and good they should examine themselves if they have the sterling qualities they desire or else they are on there own oyo

menxer:


How does that answer my question?

For the single reason of marrying for "society sake", you have failed.

Hahahahahaha! Failed indeed!!
Am one of the most successful ladies alive
What else is there to marry for if not for "society sake"...The worst thing to happen to a woman in Africa is not being a "Mrs"....Jesus! everywhere you enter,insults! Name calling "olosho,f**king different d**ks,old mama youngy.Jobless Nairaland guys who cant even feed themselves will create threads to further insult them...Stories on Genevieve,Rita Dominic,Agbani darego,Linda Ikeji,etc are accompanied with cynical comments..All their achievements equal to zero.But Tonto Dike's stories are accompanied with respectful remarks,things changed the day she got married.

The only reason I could find for getting married was for the respect.Thats the only thing I kept hearing"Marry n be respected.No matter your achievement,its zero without husband" and so I have.My family is fulfilled,i have satisfied all righteousness.I am HAPPY! I have school certificate,Marriage certificate,next is child(son) dedication certificate and all my problems end!

You're talented. @OP

Igbos and Yorubas do No.1 a lot. Let's not mention the Hausas because those ones are entirely different from the rest.

2016 is my year of multiple blessings. Amen. marriage follow o

mzjayne:
Nicely Written! People get married to show off, like what this lady is doing here ...please ladies and gentlemen, get married for the right reasons

Stay there! Marriage is for show off

People even show off ordinary fornicating relationships

What one right reason for a woman to get married in Africa if not for "societal respect sake"?

emusmith:
7 Obstacles That Might Have Kept Some Of Our Ladies From Getting Married In 2015


As the curtains of 2015 is coming to a majestic close, I want to congratulate those NL ladies who got wedded. Those who didn't, it doesn't matter. 2016 is around the corner, waiting to land you into your "valid" relationships or husband's houses. Amen!

However, there could have been some things you did or didn't do, as such, yours was delayed.

Every time, singles who wants to get married are asked to come out, I see a lot of girls- young and old. So, they are many and that makes this thread relevant to ALL except the babies among us

NOTE: I'm speaking from one angle. You can address the other. Thanks.

What are some hindrances that could have delayed the marriages of some of our qualified Ladies:


1. Traditional Embargo:

It beats my imagination how some folks still hold firmly to this; if he's not from my place, I dare not marry him. While, it's good to heed to parent's advice, its you who will stay single till 30, not them. Please, pray and watch. Be wise.


2. "Confused" Expectations In The Kind of guy she wants.

I need a faithful guy, handsome, tall, godly, macho, good with kids, he might drink socially,good cook...if you notice; what relationship has being GODLY and DRINKING alcohol share? My advice is, write what you really really need in him. A goal not written is a wish. Wishes aren't horses anymore...while writing, remember: If you want an 100% man, get clay and mould him yourself. Wanting a man that can cook just because you can't, is denying one of the core essence that makes you a mother, wife and a woman. Learn how to cook, better. Let him just be assisting. My advice.


3. Unrealistic Financial Expectations

If he's not earning above 100k, I'm not interested. Heard that before? That's even the least. This days, just get an ok car and they're all over you. Who wan marry poor man? I get. Dangote once slept under a truck for months. If ladies truly have "eyes" to see which guy will be successful or not; while under the truck, politician's daughters would have been coming to say "Hi" to his rickety former self.
Moral Lesson: Still, follow a man for his vision. Not just for his BIG television.


4. War between her and in-laws

If he truly loves me, he'll put me above his siblings. Some girls have not yet become part and parcel of the family and their character is already exposing them. Call it wisdom, not hypocrisy. In- laws deserve respect, why? They are humans like you. I'm not speaking for myself though. Place yourself in their shoes. A girl wants to marry your brother and she's acting all "rude" and "sensitive". You won't tell him, go ahead. Will you? Unless you're like her tho...


5. Immaturity in handling little matters

He forgot my birthday, he's not worth being my "ideal" boo. I broke up with him. Did you just say that? Its absolutely wrong to forget your girl's birthday but is that the only way of solving that ish? Is there no better way? I've had to call someone to call me and wish me a Happy Birthday, with smiles on. It's no big deal. I learnt it. We all can do same. Be flexible and not immature. Most times, her actions isn't stemming from his forgetting to call her but from many other things. I understand. You can break up with him, if you confirmed he's been cheating. But, be sure. Let me not derail. Next point will explain that...


6. Pride/Ego/Unforgiveness/Unnecessary "Forming"


I'm not perfect but I know that unforgiveness pulls one back and separates two lovebirds. If he cheated on you for the first time and he reports himself that it was a mistake- haba, you shouldn't break up. One more chance. Pride and ego are the most reasons some are still lonely. Ordinary PM, you dey form, "I don't do PMs, and you are single" I think, if you're searching, be open a bit. That guy might be the next Dangote...oops! I just pressed a button there... Some girls form too much. You play hard to get to someone you like as though there is not enough serious business in marriage already: do sharp sharp joor. When he turns away now, you'll blame point 7.



7. Spiritual Attacks

One man saw the devil crying, he asked him, Badoo, why you crying? He replied, "Every little thing, they blame me for it. They even lie on my head."
Well, spiritual attacks are real though. But I believe, "the curse causeless doesn't come". Ladies don't pray too much in church UNTIL the pastor mentions, "every devil blindfolding his eyes from seeing any single lady here, die!" Then, you'll see her in action. Onetime, I saw one pretty babe who told me how she went one a very long fasting and praying sessions to get her man. They pray, but the only issue is some don't watch. #I'm in a friendly mood today#

It's our prayer that God will locate every one of our single ladies in the house Next year, 2016. Amen!

1000 Likes.

It's easier for a woman to fgv her cheating spouse if caught....But honestly this is practically impossible especially in the north for a man to fgv a cheating jezebel

AMEN......2016 is my year of celebrations

omonnakoda:


If a woman does not get married it is no big deal.This is 2015. Stop trying to put them under pressure or make them feel they have failed somehow. This is all part of the wider church scamming culture we see in Nigeria. Create a non existent problem and then present your "holy" selves as solution. Go and solve your own problems first. No where in his mission did Jesus advocate marriage or elevate it to a do or die affair.
As far as I am concerned you are not intelligent but clearly you think you are .It is important for me to question that so you do not labour under any misconceptions.Ordinarily I should ignore the twaddle you wrote but there are many weak and vulnerable minds who are vulnerable to wolves like you. No marriage is better than a bad marriage no matter what anyone else will say. It is this kind of culture that also has as its flip side the desperation now leading to baby factories in our society. Marriage is not for everyone that is a social fact and something you can confirm by observing many already married people.
Go ye into the world and multiply is a commandment for a world of millions not billions of people. At some point we may have to make laws to determine who can and who cannot be allowed to have children.Then I hope we can stop unintelligent folk from having kids and contaminating the genetic pool

Why are You pained? Gething married, bearing children and raising them is a responsibility You owe the world. You can't run away from your responsibility neither Can You cover them with 'big grammar'

You didn't fall from the sky. Somebody gave birth to You and nurtured you till you could talk and write That trash. You owe it as a duty to someone else. If You are not good at it, go and learn it.

It's now you are talking.

I now understand the sarcasm in your "the most prestigious title".

May the child certificate not tarry a day longer than necessary.
Well done.

As for me, I have chosen to live this one life parallel to "society sake".

missyadorable:



Hahahahahaha! Failed indeed!!
Am one of the most successful ladies alive
What else is there to marry for if not for "society sake"...The worst thing to happen to a woman in Africa is not being a "Mrs"....Jesus! everywhere you enter,insults! Name calling "olosho,f**king different d**ks,old mama youngy.Jobless Nairaland guys who cant even feed themselves will create threads to further insult them...Stories on Genevieve,Rita Dominic,Agbani darego,Linda Ikeji,etc are accompanied with cynical comments..All their achievements equal to zero.But Tonto Dike's stories are accompanied with respectful remarks,things changed the day she got married.

The only reason I could find for getting married was for the respect.Thats the only thing I kept hearing"Marry n be respected.No matter your achievement,its zero without husband" and so I have.My family is fulfilled,i have satisfied all righteousness.I am HAPPY! I have school certificate,Marriage certificate,next is child(son) dedication certificate and all my problems end!

Cutehector:
because the truth really did hurt right

Bleh

Olasco93:

I can't even wish my enemy that, not even the ones that refused to give me Christmas Rice, Chicken and Owambe.

This is funny.Not feeding you makes one your enemy?

emusmith:

Better done...when a females does it. Don't you think?

Aiit.

Nice one OP. But what about men that also engage in marathon fasting and prayer just to get a wife and they are here forming "big guy" on naiaraland as if they neva entered church. Many of them are tired of loneliness yet pretending as if it doesn't matter to them. Gus/men too need to drop some attitudes if they want to be married. Many of them are dying in silent!

Chicagoesontop:
Why Are Some Of Us Single Men For Now Talk, Think And Behave As If It Is The Ladies That Needs Good Marriage Most, We Guys That Is Up To Marriage Age Need It As Well oooo .. Okay Make I Talk My Own Leave Others To Talk For Them Selves ........ I NEED A GIRL OOOO, PLEASE POST THE OBSTACLES THAT CAN PREVENT ME FROM GETTING MARRIED IN 2016 SO I CAN START NOW TO TAKE NOTE AND STUDY THEM

Op emusmith give the man what he wants

She una don hear ba? Im available o. Ready to settle down next year so any Nairaland girl that is ready too, then its nice to meet you.

menxer:
It's now you are talking.

I now understand the sarcasm in your "the most prestigious title".

May the child certificate not tarry a day longer than necessary.
Well done.

As for me, I have chosen to live this one life parallel to "society sake".

Thank you very much

Your profile says "m"..so you are not affected by societal expectations to get married

Nobody insults a man for being single

Nobody opens a thread to mock bachelors

If I were a man,i wouldn't bother about marriage! It wouldn't be important,nothing to gain!

Will rather be more concerned with making MONEY!

holahmihdeh:
Nice one OP. But what about men that also engage in marathon fasting and prayer just to get a wife and they are here forming "big guy" on naiaraland as if they neva entered church. Many of them are tired of loneliness yet pretending as if it doesn't matter to them. Gus/men too need to drop some attitudes if they want to be married. Many of them are dying in silent!

No reasonable man does that except he has mental problem and wallowing in poverty.

emusmith:
hehehe...you succeeded lol

lol i happen to be a very good bad guy

#8. He is too poor my family will laugh at me especially my friends who are married to very rich guys. I have met ladies who are concerned about how their family will view a guy they feel is not classy enough. #9. He does not display his emotion or feeling to me in the public. I once had a colleague in my office who was so worried that her guy was not displaying his love to her publicly.#10. He is not a graduate so he does not have a future. Sometimes these guys even have skills that are worth millions if given a little time and patience.

missyadorable:


Thank you very much

Your profile says "m"..so you are not affected by societal expectations to get married

Nobody insults a man for being single

Nobody opens a thread to mock bachelors

If I were a man,i wouldn't bother about marriage! It wouldn't be important,nothing to gain!

Will rather be more concerned with making MONEY!

Yes, that's why I said what I said.
I would not be forced by society to marry just to look responsible when in my heart I know I don't want, or am not ready, or cannot take care of an extra mouth.

I have come to realize society is only interested in our wedding not marriage.

What's the difference between a spinster/bachelor at 45yrs and a divorcee at 45yrs?

They are both single (difference is in the baggages).

Wat do u all xpect wen dey spend so much time watching "what life took from me" on telemundo & other luv movies

menxer:


Yes, that's why I said what I said.
I would not be forced by society to marry just to look responsible when in my heart I know I don't want, or am not ready, or cannot take care of an extra mouth.

I have come to realize society is only interested in our wedding not marriage.

What's the difference between a spinster/bachelor at 45yrs and a divorcee at 45yrs?

They are both single (difference is in the baggages).

Lucky you!
I was told it's better to be married for one day than never being married at all
Am 4 days into marriage now.I deserve an award

QueenValerie:
Op emusmith give the man what he wants

A lady, Lanicky, took it upon herself to do it.

If she says No, I'll try to do it.

I know you're waiting seriously for it

mployer:




Why are You pained? Gething married, bearing children and raising them is a responsibility You owe the world. You can't run away from your responsibility neither Can You cover them with 'big grammar'

You didn't fall from the sky. Somebody gave birth to You and nurtured you till you could talk and write That trash. You owe it as a duty to someone else. If You are not good at it, go and learn it.

Pained? Ask your mother! This is exactly what I am talking about!! Not everyone should have children. Idiots ,imbeciles and halfwits should be neutered.Only superior breeds should be allowed to procreate. Too many morons already. If you are and idiott your responsibility to the world is NOT to make any more. Every good farmer knows this .some people are just WEEDS