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Re: About Women Making The First Move. by MizMyColi(f): 9:10pm On Jan 02, 2016 |
ronald4lif: Yes, it's for their own good ultimately. Though if they feel they're up for it, then they can...experience has thought that it doesn't profit much, even with the best intentioned guy...except he's the kind that rarely ever gives up on people. I've restated earlier that women who initiate romance are confident, bold and not afraid to go for what they want. Your admission of insecurity is to say they lack confidence, frightened by the thought of failure. What does that say of them? I'm not in a position to judge people. If I used to, then I'm consciously trying to stop it. You see, my dear, no one is perfect...this life we got, this journey we're towing, it's a learning experience. Both genders deal with insecurity at some level, some; higher, others; lower, some; negligible. That a person is not confident and insecure isn't their fault per se. They did not actually choose to be that way. The path towards light, complete overwhelming light can be stormy, dark and all tunell-ish at times. What I can however do, is show them love and grace and point them to their higher self, where all truth about them resides. When they begin to live those truths, insecurity and shame will disappear instantly. In another instance, you said if a woman knows the man in question is a confident type, one who can't stigmatise her and if the lady is certain she won't be slighted she can make the first move? I don't remember saying "if she's certain she won't be slighted" if I did, then I take that back. A guy could be really into you and still reject your advances....this is where being secure and self-possesed comes in - that way, you'll be able to handle whatever the turnout in good faith. What you're saying here is that any lady who can't muster the courage and find a mind worthy of asking him out has no reason to be with such man, even if he's the initiator of an affair. The man is simply unfit for her. No My Darling, I haven't said so. I think I'm being misconstrued. If you fancy a guy and you think you are not up for asking him out, you just be you...be present. Don't let yourself become a victim of anticipation....and when he finally asks you out, you'll find out you'll feel more fulfilled. So my question to you is why should a woman involve herself in a romance with a man who lacks confidence and unsuitable for her even if the man is the initiator? Okay, if I get you correctly, the points raised here is that 1. The man lacks confidence 2. Is unsuitable for her 3. He is the initiator. Okay first off...it is solely her prerogative what she decides to do should she find herself in a situation above. We're really in no position to decide who and why she should date anyone. Sometimes, we are sent into the lives of some folks to raise them up. If she has been imbued with the capacity to love a man who has little or no confidence in himself, she can take the leap. Also, what makes him unsuitable? Are her reasons timetested? Really dear, there's no one size fits all. People just need to follow their heart and stay true to it, and they'll be fine 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: About Women Making The First Move. by Nobody: 9:11pm On Jan 02, 2016 |
keyzid:Husband is scarce?? who's looking for one?? When I'm busy looking for money!? Abegi! |
Re: About Women Making The First Move. by Nobody: 9:13pm On Jan 02, 2016 |
Xtracoool:I adore smileys.... |
Re: About Women Making The First Move. by kinglekan: 9:13pm On Jan 02, 2016 |
francizy: No of the above. Delectablegyal, pussysandie, sandie or irunoobo would do just fine. 1 Like |
Re: About Women Making The First Move. by Nobody: 9:15pm On Jan 02, 2016 |
gemale:I'd still make my "Yanga" even after 30!! LoL! I'd flash him those romantic signs n lights...if he can't decipher its meaning, then, he ain't smart! I detest dumb people! |
Re: About Women Making The First Move. by lookingfly: 9:15pm On Jan 02, 2016 |
tosyne2much:I think gals most times want to be worshipped and that's what most guys find very hard like me. I have been in a position where a gal kept on giving me the strongest green light possible and was very glaring she wants me to woo. I went ahead wooed and the next thing..... I have a boyfriend. So I let her be but now she feels like eating me raw because she was expecting I will keep pestering her. But am too big for that, why the forming for me. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: About Women Making The First Move. by Nobody: 9:16pm On Jan 02, 2016 |
erico2k2:Thanks! You're a Darling! |
Re: About Women Making The First Move. by tosyne2much(m): 9:17pm On Jan 02, 2016 |
Kachisbarbie:Kachisbarbie, quickly PM me and send ur bank account details |
Re: About Women Making The First Move. by tosyne2much(m): 9:19pm On Jan 02, 2016 |
lookingfly:Brother, that is the society we find ourselves |
Re: About Women Making The First Move. by Akious2k2(m): 9:19pm On Jan 02, 2016 |
It's funny how some ladies think guys are dumb 4 not responding 2 there supposed "Green light" Must every guy talk 2 every lady 2 Likes |
Re: About Women Making The First Move. by TaiKuun(m): 9:22pm On Jan 02, 2016 |
Estharfabian:issorai |
Re: About Women Making The First Move. by Nobody: 9:25pm On Jan 02, 2016 |
Estharfabian::DAre you for real? I love ladies who wants to hav etheir own money rather than sit on one mans ready made wealth . All the same, in a bid to hustling for the betterment of life, don't forget, you will be needing a partner in all at some moments. My One Penny advice . I'm Dayo btw. |
Re: About Women Making The First Move. by coltaine(m): 9:25pm On Jan 02, 2016 |
I would like to commend d op as wel as oda contributors to d topic....i c brilliance here. Since opinions are subjectiv, dis ma opinion...i wouldnt mind to b wooed by a female frnd, i repeat a "frnd" nd my reason bin dt d only reason i wud eva take a gal serius is if dr was at least a level of familiarisatn btw us....dere is sumtin c'mon to gals, it's hard to knw wat dy are tinkin lyk d guy who wantd 2 pull out pple's eye because he mistook a gal starin at him as a GREENLIGHT, on a personal level i dnt bliv in dos so calld "greenlights" o...na scam!...i dnt nid a greenlight, if i like u. At least i wil woo u wit ma mind prepared 4 a rejectn bt greenlights make u tink d wooin is gonn b positive bt u end up hearin i av a boyfrnd...nd u stil xpect 2 kip chasin u...all in d name of showin i luv u 1 Like |
Re: About Women Making The First Move. by Nobody: 9:29pm On Jan 02, 2016 |
keyzid:When I've actually made it in Life, then, I'd look for a significant partner... Buh for now...that's like the least of my priorities... I'm Esther... |
Re: About Women Making The First Move. by Laveda(f): 9:31pm On Jan 02, 2016 |
oseod:Like I said before...its no biggie....just has to do with the guy's mentality.....and level of maturity. |
Re: About Women Making The First Move. by naijaboiy: 9:33pm On Jan 02, 2016 |
Laveda:You can see that she further buttressed my point. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: About Women Making The First Move. by gemale(m): 9:36pm On Jan 02, 2016 |
Estharfabian:Dts harsh I think labeling d person dumb. Some men naturally find it hard 2 comprehend women while some r rili shy & self-conscious around women afraid of offending them & even when som guys out rightly approach u girls, u wld refuse in d name of playing hard 2 get &which some guys might interpret as u girls bt bein in2 dem. Bt if u were 2 approach d guy, he wld @ least know. |
Re: About Women Making The First Move. by Nobody: 9:37pm On Jan 02, 2016 |
Estharfabian:lol.. Esther, nice to meet you tho' HNY.. I hope 2015 was an adventurous one? |
Re: About Women Making The First Move. by francizy(m): 9:38pm On Jan 02, 2016 |
ronald4lif: Hehehe, I hear you! |
Re: About Women Making The First Move. by francizy(m): 9:40pm On Jan 02, 2016 |
Laveda: It's no biggie and you haven't asked me out yet? |
Re: About Women Making The First Move. by francizy(m): 9:42pm On Jan 02, 2016 |
kinglekan: Those ain't females na!! I look gay to you ni? Abi you wan make I come dey press macho chest? Never! |
Re: About Women Making The First Move. by Nobody: 9:42pm On Jan 02, 2016 |
kinglekan:Lol. If they don't pursue me, I'd have to learn how to pursue them then. |
Re: About Women Making The First Move. by Laveda(f): 9:43pm On Jan 02, 2016 |
francizy:Just wait!!!!! |
Re: About Women Making The First Move. by Nobody: 9:45pm On Jan 02, 2016 |
gemale:LoL sorry, I'm not human! I don't play Hard to get... Besides, those signs should outrightly point out my intentions...it's me "Flirting"...It's totally up to the "Shy, insecure" guy to learn the language...That should atleast tell him I'm interested in him. |
Re: About Women Making The First Move. by naijaboiy: 9:46pm On Jan 02, 2016 |
doveda:And I don't even know you! |
Re: About Women Making The First Move. by Nobody: 9:47pm On Jan 02, 2016 |
wristbangle:LoL! seriously! |
Re: About Women Making The First Move. by doveda: 9:47pm On Jan 02, 2016 |
naijaboiy: daretodiffer |
Re: About Women Making The First Move. by francizy(m): 9:47pm On Jan 02, 2016 |
Oliviaarims: I hope you ain't a feminist tho? |
Re: About Women Making The First Move. by francizy(m): 9:48pm On Jan 02, 2016 |
Re: About Women Making The First Move. by naijaboiy: 9:49pm On Jan 02, 2016 |
Laveda:Chai! Talking to random girls is one very difficult task I can't boast of being successful in. Very awkward and challenging. I have some friends who do it and successfully pull it off. I don't know how they do It. Some guys are just bad. 3 Likes |
Re: About Women Making The First Move. by Nobody: 9:50pm On Jan 02, 2016 |
tommychow: Hehehehe. "Chyk the the hell outta tha Nigga." How about we start with you? |
Re: About Women Making The First Move. by Nobody: 9:51pm On Jan 02, 2016 |
kinglekan: I'm already here preparing my strings.. |
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