My dear Nairalanders,

I don tire for this situation.

I have read Nairaland posts for years as a guest. Every single post we see about marriage lately seems to be negative. I am not belittling the foolishness of cheating men when I say this: I am shocked that women can cheat so blatantly these days. I think it's tme to revive the hopes of those men who add two years to their marriage date when they see threads about disloyal "wives"... time to spare single women from the headache of being banded together with all these disloyal women, keeping them single even longer... let's restore the reputation of the institution of marriage as a blessing, a source of favour and a worthy calling that need not be delayed out of fear.

Please, ladies and gentlemen of Nairaland, there must be some happy marriages amongst us. If you have a good wife, please tell us why and how she is amazing. If you have a good husband, please share why and how he is amazing. If you have a good marriage, please take a moment to share your story here.

Let’s start 2016 on a positive note.

May the Lord restore the marriages of those who are currently facing crises, in Jesus’ Name.

Happy new year.

happiness is a state which you're unconscious of..... Once you become conscious that you are happy.... You cease to be happy

Some of the problems confronting marriages these days are lack of tolerance, insincerity, pride and destructive ego.

Laying a solid foundation right from pre-meeting your spouse to courtship and the marriage proper will go a long way to building a vibrant union.

im happily married to money.


Does that count? lol

Women always wanna beat/outshine men in most things. .. It's so so sad that they are also outshinning them now in cheating, so sad and annoying.

Again, devil is working full time now. End time!

God help us, our homes and marriages .

Long and short, We all need God

Once u say I'm happily married you'll see people that will 'yimu' cos too many sad marriage stories are beginning to make pple think no one is truly happily married.
And Yes I'm happily married to my best friend and we're still best friends

There are still great marriages, I am proud of mine . Marry a man that understands what marriage is and make sure you have a good understanding of the institution. One person alone cannot make it work, power of discernment is important. The moment you marry a man that believes that it is the job of a woman to make it work, film don finish for you.


As for the cheating husbands and wives, they deserve each other. The innocent ones being cheated on, it's your life, keep praying for them till infinity or give them away to whoever they are cheating with, your choice.

Zuriela:
Once u say I'm happily married you'll see people that will 'yimu' cos too many sad marriage stories are beginning to make pple think no one is truly happily married.
And Yes I'm happily married to my best friend and we're still best friends

The yimu thing is real,lol. E concern dem jare, if you are not enjoying it, leave it than yimu others that aren't complaining.

lily12:
My dear Nairalanders,

I don tire for this situation.

I have read Nairaland posts for years as a guest. Every single post we see about marriage lately seems to be negative. I am not belittling the foolishness of cheating men when I say this: I am shocked that women can cheat so blatantly these days. I think it's tme to revive the hopes of those men who add two years to their marriage date when they see threads about disloyal "wives"... time to spare single women from the headache of being banded together with all these disloyal women, keeping them single even longer... let's restore the reputation of the institution of marriage as a blessing, a source of favour and a worthy calling that need not be delayed out of fear.

Please, ladies and gentlemen of Nairaland, there must be some happy marriages amongst us. If you have a good wife, please tell us why and how she is amazing. If you have a good husband, please share why and how he is amazing. If you have a good marriage, please take a moment to share your story here.

Let’s start 2016 on a positive note.

May the Lord restore the marriages of those who are currently facing crises, in Jesus’ Name.

Happy new year.

Being single and happy is the best prerequisite to being married and happy, I am speaking from experience.

Your OP is already biased and lopsided.

praxisnetworks:
happiness is a state which you're unconscious of..... Once you become conscious that you are happy.... You cease to be happy

Hmmmm, so one can't truly know if he/she is happy or not?

It's easier for you to stay happily married if you both married each other based on nothing but pure love, without ulterior motives. You know the kind of love that can overlook shortcomings or flaws. You're good whether she adds weight or he loses his job or babies are not forthcoming.

My marriage to the glory of God is happy and healthy. We've known ourselves for over a decade before we got married and we've been married for 5 years. We're still inseparable like Siamese twins and everyone around us knows this. Our sex life is the healthiest part of our union. At gunpoint I can vouch for my husband. We're both committed to the marriage and God has been helping us. Marriage can be very exciting if you find the right mate to journey with.

Happy and married!
Not happily-married!

Big DIFFERENCE!

One day I'll be happily married but for the main time, my husband is searching for me. He'll find me soon. Can someone please give him a map? He's looking at the wrong places while I'm here waiting for him to come

Ginaz:
One day I'll be happily married but for the main time, my husband is searching for me. He'll find me soon. Can someone please give him a map? He's looking at the wrong places while I'm here waiting for him to come

Am here already

byvan03:
There are still great marriages, I am proud of mine . Marry a man that understands what marriage is and make sure you have a good understanding of the institution. One person alone cannot make it work, power of discernment is important. The moment you marry a man that believes that it is the job of a woman to make it work, film don finish for you.


As for the cheating husbands and wives, they deserve each other. The innocent ones being cheated on, it's your life, keep praying for them till infinity or give them away to whoever they are cheating with, your choice.

lily12:
My dear Nairalanders,

I don tire for this situation.

I have read Nairaland posts for years as a guest. Every single post we see about marriage lately seems to be negative. I am not belittling the foolishness of cheating men when I say this: I am shocked that women can cheat so blatantly these days. I think it's tme to revive the hopes of those men who add two years to their marriage date when they see threads about disloyal "wives"... time to spare single women from the headache of being banded together with all these disloyal women, keeping them single even longer... let's restore the reputation of the institution of marriage as a blessing, a source of favour and a worthy calling that need not be delayed out of fear.

Please, ladies and gentlemen of Nairaland, there must be some happy marriages amongst us. If you have a good wife, please tell us why and how she is amazing. If you have a good husband, please share why and how he is amazing. If you have a good marriage, please take a moment to share your story here.

Let’s start 2016 on a positive note.

May the Lord restore the marriages of those who are currently facing crises, in Jesus’ Name.

Happy new year.

Your OP seems to think husbands cheating is 'better' than wives cheating

bellong:
Some of the problems confronting marriages these days are lack of tolerance, insincerity, pride and destructive ego.

Laying a solid foundation right from pre-meeting your spouse to courtship and the marriage proper will go a long way to building a vibrant union.

Very True

Happy new year.

An open debate with fact and what's happening around in the society

how about living together as boyfriend and girlfriend and then grow old and die? will a life not be completed or fulfilled? is it a must to tied the knot? you see when the registrar is been signed and the whole thing becomes legal biding in both religious or traditional acceptances of marriage in mate I think that is when a lot of things goes wrong.

don't give me the bullshiit that its for better for worst. many innocent victim are been blind folded into signing this shitt. and they will tell him or her to remain in it forever. I am an advocate for this shit to be destroyed. I know in 22nd century this thing called marriage institution will be destroyed
.

many single hide their true self and wait patiently for the scam called marriage to be signed first before true color is out. definitely not me except ofcource I have my own interests 200% otherwise no thanks and no deal

cc: lalasticlala, seun.


www.nairaland.com/2841821/convince-me-why-one-should

Marriage is sweet my brother if it is based on love not money, looks or whatever....
Married for less dan 5 yrs and I must tell u, it keeps getting sweeter by d day...
I love my hubby, I cherish him, i don't disrespect him, it never gets into my head to talk anyhow to him..,God forbid, funny enough he in turn loves me so much, he doesn't disrespect me too...we talk, we gist, we pray together, we get involved in church activities together etc
He makes money, I make money, he has access to my ATM and other passwords, i av access to his own too, no dragging of money or unnecessary matters...we are best of friends...
To him, life is not hard, to me too, life is easy...
So, OP, dir is hope for you, many marriages are sweet bt seems d crashing ones are more. May God help you.....

I can beat my chest and confidently tell you that i am happily married.

I have been married for few years now and we dated for more than a year

before we got married. My wife is so loving, God-fearing, lettered, good cook, beautiful,

submissive, and a helper. Infact i got married to my wife when i had no job and she

was really supportive. But all that is history because God blessed me with a job few weeks

after my wedding. We dont just see ourselves as couples but friends hence, is so easy for us

to leave together and apologise to each other when fight dey . God has blessed our union

with a beautiful girl. I want to use this medium to say a big thank you to my wife for all the

unconditional love you have shown me. Marraige with you is simple . I will marry you over

and over again! You have made me wear the crown of a prince among my firends and fam.

I can only pray to God to sustain us and keep us together.Honestly i dont have any reason

to complain about my marriage or my wife.


Finally, I also believe that if you show your wife love and affection, there is no how she will

not do the same to you. I also dont see myself as the head but instead see us as one body

and i make sure i apologise to her even when she is wrong. Like my Father will always say

" When you learn to say sorry for no reason at all then you are ready for marriage". Merci tout le monde.

2goodbobo:
I can beat my chest and confidently tell you that i am happily married.

I have been married for few years now and we dated for more than a year

before we got married. My wife is so loving, God-fearing, lettered, good cook, beautiful,

submissive, and a helper. Infact i got married to my wife when i had no job and she

was really supportive. But all that is history because God blessed me with a job few weeks

after my wedding. We dont just see ourselves as couples but friends hence, is so easy for us

to leave together and apologise to each other when fight dey . God has blessed our union

with a beautiful girl. I want to use this medium to say a big thank you to my wife for all the

unconditional love you have shown me. Marraige with you is simple . I will marry you over

and over again! You have made me wear the crown of a prince among my firends and fam.

I can only pray to God to sustain us and keep us together.Honestly i dont have any reason

to complain about my marriage or my wife.


Finally, I also believe that if you show your wife love and affection, there is no how she will

not do the same to you. I also dont see myself as the head but instead see us as one body

and i make sure i apologise to her even when she is wrong. Like my Father will always say

" When you learn to say sorry for no reason at all then you are ready for marriage". Merci tout le monde.

Aww.this is so lovely

i tap into ur marriage success.Amen

Why this thread con scanty like this

I was expecting beauteefoo beautyfoo stories

Keep it rolling

Oya oya o.eying people

Zuriela:
Once u say I'm happily married you'll see people that will 'yimu' cos too many sad marriage stories are beginning to make pple think no one is truly happily married.
And Yes I'm happily married to my best friend and we're still best friends

Misery loves company. Don't mind them.

Nice thread,here is what works for me.
Firstly I went into my relationship with a statement on my mind(if my mum can remain with my dad with all the challenges they had which I also witnessed,then I can do better)
Ability to communicate effectively, while dating and up till now in marriage with 2 kids our communication has remained very very solid.
Communication has really helped my relationship a lot,it helps us both trash our differences amicably,there are somethings I can't say to my hubby face(cause I know I might not present it well and I don't want to be rude) so I put it into a chat and he understands me perfectly well. Each time we have our arguments,we make sure we apologise n trash it out before the end of the day.we do not go to bed in anger.
I have also learnt not to argue so much with my hubby,whenever he is angry with me am quite and let his anger subside then I apologise(even if deep down in my heart I know I wasn't wrong)I still apologise,I know how angry my hubby can get and I know better than to push further,we both have a bad temper but there can only be one leader,outside my home you don't dare mess with me,I will dish it to you very hot and spicy. I am the very aggressive type but hubby isn't,he is more calm than I am. I argue a lot too but not with hubby except in cases when we are gisting and having fun. Hubby loves football but I hate it with everything but what can I do I simply got used to it,my first son already took after him as a football fan.
We both understand ourselves perfectly,we have been together for over 10years now. We have had our ups and downs which has taught us to be more united and understand ourselves better.
Our sex life might not be has active as when we where still single cause of kids but we have both been active,we have fun anywhere in the house(of course when kids are asleep or in school).we try out new things and I sure don't forget my bowl of ice-cream when I want to give a special treat(call me a dirty woman/raw woman/sex freak/whatever) I care less,his my man.
We have remained each others best friends,we share gifts,watch movies together,shop together,hubby goes to market for me at times and cook as well, we gossip together and share news with each other. We are both social media fans(we actually meet on a social forum and started as friends before dating which led to our marriage). We don't hide anything from each other. He introduced me to nairaland and he is also a active member on nairaland.
We do not encourage 3rd parties into our affairs,it has never and will never happen. What ever happens within our walls die within our walls.we both help ourselves to remain strong in work life and business life. We support ourselves in every possible way we can with the help of God and for once I have never regretted meeting my hubby. If there is a next life,I would chose the same man all over again.
My marriage is not perfect cause there is no perfect marriage but I tell you,marriage is fun and am loving it all the way.

bukatyne:


Very True

Happy new year.

Happy new year sis..

May 2016 be glorious for you and family.

Joel3:
how about living togather as boyfriend and girlfriend and then grow old and die? will a life not be completer or fulfilled? is it a must to tied the nut? you see when the registrar is been signed and the whole thing becomes legal biding in both religious or traditional acceptances of marriage in mate I think that is when a lot of things goes wrong.

don't give me the bullshiit that its for better for worst. many innocent victim are been blind folded into signing this shitt. and they will tell him or her to remain in it forever. I am an advocate for this shit to be destroyed. I know in 22nd century this thing called marriage institution will be destroyed
. many d I single hide their true self and wait patiently for the scam called marriage to be signed first. definitely not me except ofcource I have my own interests 200% otherwise no deal

cc: lalasticlala, seun.

Won't work the other person can opt out anytime easily and there's no strong commitment however not saying one can't leave in marriage but it would take a lot. Don't worry being married isn't compulsory you can be single forever. Its optional

Sorry OP but that's the real truth these days Marriages are scary and no one is trustworthy anymore. I do not believe married couples are ever happily married, we Nigerians dont want people to know our real issues in marriages so we pretend like all is well. Am yet to see much genuinely happy married couples. Seen a few but for every few I see, I see alot of terrible unions where each party is cheating, separated, divorced, abandoned the wife, abandoned the husband, the list is long. Marriage to me is something I can never be envious of.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JuAShstZX9M