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don't come and discourage those keeping there virginity.. tell me what you have gain after been disvirgin.if u keep it or not .ever thing is vanity upon vanity....

just do what suit you or believe in.. at the end, everyone will get there result paper.. .

GODWIN78:
I,M a living witness,my girl friend that put to bed for me,was a virgin,though she born me,or she. Is a Virgin,I met her will nt guarantee me geting married to. Her,just because we aint compactible,she is got hot temperd like me and we,shout for each other every now and then,she likes to be in charge,and domineering,though she Love me,so virginity is not a guarantee to happy marriage,my 2. Cent

So it was after u committed fornication with her u remembered she is hot tempered like you? I hope the child she has is a girl sha?

This desire I've read expressed on here for virgin women is strange to me for the very reasons the OP points out: the ppl wanting virgins are not virgins themselves nor even are they men who have taken a vow of abstinence. Instead, these are men who are currently screwing their brains out with various women (some possibly virgins!!), having a mindset that once they do decide to settle down, the woman they choose must have done no such screwing.

It's disgusting for a guy to have desire to put his nasty pecker into a "clean" woman. You want to be the one to defile her? It's not like you want your purity to be met with purity. No, you want her purity to be made dirty by you. It's sickening really.

A recent post had a virgin guy being pressured to have sex by his gf & ppl encouraged him to lose his virginity to her and forget his virginity. It can't be respected as cultural traditions, which I respect. It's simply outdated patriarchal hypocrisy. If there was anything genuine about the virtue of virginity in the eyes of those who desire such then a man waiting for marriage would be just as important.

Carnations:
This virginity thing. It seems a big issue for you. And it’s generating awkward contradictions in you. It’s the hidden reason you’re struggling with your emotions. You’re conflicted inside because you know you have no standing.


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i have deflowered two different girls before, they were both my girlfriends at that time, and i didn't feel guilty since they wanted it and i wanted it too. So some things can't just be analysed, so please stop disturbing yourself. After reading all these, i still want to marry a virgin. Thanks

Juicysam:
I would have loved to marry a virgin sha..buh I know I would have to settle for less..virgins are so rare these days

Not necessarily. Virgins are not as rare as you think.

son4century:
The counter attack is superbalanced... Both of u have points though, it should av been a debate topic in the just concluded NL intersch debate.

Am sure u wud av w0rked so much with time to reply this

5 minutes is all it took me to think and type that reply.

tpia1billion:
today's virgin thread.

yeah

@OP, girls like you always make me think about having a baby-mama rather than wife. Dis-virgined girls are like plates without lids(covers) they are good for nothing!

MISSCONGENIALITY:
U are very realistic.

Thank you!

datigbogirl:
Yeah i know its heavy dats why I made sure I never disvirgined any girl even when I had d chance to...dat makes me entitled to a virgin.

If man were God.

They no teach u summary for school? Hell of note! I never read my handouts finish na this mk i read all because i wan marry virgin??
[quote author=Carnations post=41750352]This virginity thing. It seems a big issue for you. And it’s generating awkward contradictions in you. It’s the hidden reason you’re struggling with your emotions. You’re conflicted inside because you know you have no standing.

Okay, here’s the thing: In life, you must learn to use appropriate nstrument though a measurement. use a stethoscope to measure the pressure of a tyre. It’s a wrong pressure gauge. In the same manner, you can’t use dutifulness in church as parameter to determine the suitability of a conjugal prospect. It can serve as corroborative factor or even corroborant, but it cannot be the primary basis of consideration. A good church worker is not necessarily going to be a good wife, though the word “good” is common. Two separate issues. I mean, that she can sing down the heavens doesn’t mean she will make you a good wife. Vocal dexterity is not qualification for coupling. Choir is not a marriage context. If you base your marriage decision on her ability to sing, you’re clearly using a wrong means of measurement. A singing voice for example cannot help you determine if she’s clean or a relative of Unhygienix of Asterix fame. That’s how people arrive at wrong marital decisions. They use wrong parameters. And such a mistake can prove very costly to a man in particular.

Now let’s come to your issue. You want to marry a virgin. But there’s an inherent contradiction in your quest. You can’t test her virginity unless you sleep with her, in which case she’ll no longer be and you won’t marry a virgin. The truth is, all you have is her word. It’s what she says she is that she is at this stage of your relationship. You can’t even verify her word without compromising your faith. Now, here’s the irony of your quest for a virgin wife: You’re not a virgin yourself. At some point before you embraced your faith you engaged in sexual congresses. In other words, you have a past. In the same vein, she also has a past. But you’re willing to embrace your past but not hers.


As per your wife you want to be the man who “hit it first”, but tell me, the women you hit first who’ll marry those? In essence you can’t take what you dished out. The idea of someone being there before you consternates you. You can’t handle it, ironically. The reason she’s not giving you the confirmation you want on her virgin status is probably because she’s not. She likes you, wants you, but you’ve put impediment on progress: demanded for something she can’t amend retroactively. And so she can’t lie about her past, and she can’t tell you the truth either. Stalemate. You somehow think that her non-virginal status is indicative of a colourful and flavourful past. Perhaps. Same applies to you I guess. But you’ve not told me who she really is, just her sexual history. You didn’t indicate if she’s a loving and kindhearted woman. Whether or not she’s caring. You’ve not told me whether she’s trustworthy, whether she’s someone you can entrust your life to. And it’s not as if you’re accusing her of promiscuity. So the broken hymen just indicates she’s had sex in the past.

What I’m trying to say is, virginity is really not a test of whether someone will make you a good wife. You’re using a ruler to measure tyre pressure. Now if virginity is a psychological barrier for you, I’d say don’t go into marriage with her. You’ll keep judging her in the present because you can’t deal with her past. I’ll advice you keep your imagination in check. Stop imagining someone in the past on top of her. It’s unhelpful. But you have to reconcile yourself to the possibility you may not marry a virgin. Being real! Learn to be real in life. Your generation is very experimental with sex, and sexual imagery is so pervasive. Your music videos are highly suggestive. Think Anaconda. You’re being conditioned to accept raw sexuality. That conditioning generates results. Makes kids want to experiment with sex.

Be careful that your quest for virginity doesn’t make you miss a very wonderful and loving woman. Perhaps the first thing you ought to consider is what you want in a wife, what should you want in a wife. If this woman meets your criteria of a good wife to you I’d say go for her. You don’t want to regret not marrying her. If you marry an alternate, note that the virginity qualification will end on your wedding night. Then the marriage begins. You don’t want a wife who qualifies for only the wedding night do you? What happens in the days and years ahead? The faith you avow is very much anchored on Paul’s immortal words: If any man (or woman) be in Christ, he or she is a new creature. Old things have passed away. All things have become new. It’s either you’re going to accept God’s word concerning this lady or not. The decision is yours.

If you do

God bless u bro! We think alike! Don't give up,There are still Virgins out there! Allow God do d Leading! ....My own suggestion is simple....Virgins marry Virgins, Non-virgins please marry Non- virgins ! If you are not a virgin n you want to marry a Virgin,Please get ready to accept their(male/female) flaws and inexperience!. If you are a Virgin and you feel comfortable in marrying one who is not a virgin, Please erase their PAST(no matter how bad it is) and live with them happily! To the young man saying VIRGINS wedding night intimacy is boring...My answer to him is "How will they know?"

RexKex:
As usual, The Common Question: "The woman you deflowered, Who will marry her"


BUT what about the virgin Guys like me? How can I, After enduring The sexual urge now get married to someone whose Vagiina Has welcomed numerous dicks, Fingers & Mouths?


I Am not advocating for those with the desire to wed Virgins BUT threads like this make the Virgin Girl want to give it all up. When Sex has become like a virtue & when Most girls believe virginity Is archaic, Why will the virgin Girl cherish her chastity?


I have Long lost faith in the possibility of finding a virgin wife. It is unfortunately impossible to find a Virgin, Quote that anywhere!


So my Dear Olivia, Nobody is looking down on you for not Being a virgin. So don't discourage that Little girl trying hard to keep her chastity. If there's any message this thread is trying to send across, I think it will be this: "Virginty is archaic & Virgins are a Crazy bunch"

davidif:
What?? When did virtue become sickening? Na wa o.

I guess we truly are in the end times indeed. People's hearts are growing cold and they are beginning to love evil more than good. I thought the bible once said, hate evil and cling to what is good.

i dont mean it that way Mr Epistler...i mean the comparison and reasons and debate over virginity has become and everyday affair and it is kinda sickening to me thats all

I hate it when Christians begin to act like hypocrites. Let's be real aside the sexual gratification and pride that follows and my a feather to your invisible cap that you married a virgin what else? I have said this before is fornication the only sin in the bible?and if we want to look at this issues critically all of you claiming virgins have not conceived and execute in ur dirty mind sexual acts? Which ur spirit have been disvirgined.

Please leave non-virgins alone
We are all equal before our creator
If u disagree, show where it's written in the bible that non-vigils are less equal than virgins
And note i am not in support of premarital sex but if e don happen, e do happen..
Respect each other please

Freemanan:
You lost your virginity sheepishly doesn't mean you should downplay the integrity of a virgin lady.


A man wanting to marry a virgin is no crime. Most of you here ranting should look for men that like their ladies already devoured and defiled, (men like me).

Stop being pained and paranoid.

Thumbs up!

Oliviaarims:
One person is there screaming tear-rubber... Lol.. How funny!

Lalasticlala.. Farano. Biko nu.

tear rubbers are the bomb,no man needs an overused pusy.

Jexyme:
I'm Proud to be one. No matter what they say. Am not gonna allow any Dick & Harry to break my hymen loose.

It's kept for U, future husband.

Proudly V!!!!!!

To your virginity add Faith, to ur faith add good behaviours, then add diligence, good human relationship,sound virtues; be established in ur calling, be financially independent, be loving, caring and lastly possess an enviable culinary skill.

Carnations:
Be careful that your quest for virginity doesn’t make you miss a very wonderful and loving woman. Perhaps the first thing you ought to consider is what you want in a wife, what should you want in a wife. If this woman meets your criteria of a good wife to you I’d say go for her. You don’t want to regret not marrying her. If you marry an alternate, note that the virginity qualification will end on your wedding night. Then the marriage begins. You don’t want a wife who qualifies for only the wedding night do you? What happens in the days and years ahead? The faith you avow is very much anchored on Paul’s immortal words: If any man (or woman) be in Christ, he or she is a new creature. Old things have passed away. All things have become new. It’s either you’re going to accept God’s word concerning this lady or not. The decision is yours.

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All these epistle is for what really?

OP look here, no matter how good a lady is and no matter how sweet natured she may be, most men will still want to marry a virgin and news flash! If a man marries a virgin,he will most likely respect her,treat her well thereby having her reciprocate the love shown to her and this is why you see that most guys who marry virgins cherish them and will hardly divorce them.

So yes virginity is a great prerequisite in knowing a responsible and decent wife.Most men are not interested in marrying a lady who is adustbin to many men in the past and more appalling is the way sexually loosed ladies hinge their dirty past on "the past"

Blaming guys for sleeping with the "former virgins" is not logical cos these men did not sleep with them at gun point and except the few cases of assault,every lady must accept responsibilities for her actions whether in the past,present or future.

jmoore:
Tear rubber. She must be a virgin, no negotiation.

A man with a brand new dick deserves a woman with a tear-rubber honeypot for marriage.

What a bloody honeymoon your first night would be. So disgusting!

permanentgrace:
I was wondering if she was the original writer of the piece until i saw the link. Why? Cos average nigerian girls (as her pix shown) are not that good in composing a piece of writing with such eloquent English.

Anyways, for the sake of such terms and confusions mixed altogether in the writing, ....

Lalasticlala, mynd44 bai 55 etc, come see food.

It's really interesting how you do not realize that's incorrect English... i'm too tired tonight...

Decker:
Virginity is one of the most overrated concepts of this modern day contemporary west african society.

It's so annoying when I hear guys say that they only want to marry a virgin, as if marrying a virgin guarantees having a happy marriage. Or as if marrying a virgin means you have married the best kind of woman.

Honestly, looking at it closely, what does one stand to again by marrying a virgin?
That you are the first to have sex with her? What else? Nothing, and in the long run the disadvantages that comes with marrying a virgin outweighs the only advantage which is being the first to have sex with her.

And what's more annoying is that most of the men who claim to want to marry virgins aren't virgins themselves, and have actually disvirgened ladies in the past.

So if I meet a woman who has all the qualities I need in a woman, but isn't a virgin, then I shouldn't marry her? Isn't that stupidity? Then if I see a girl who is a virgin then I should marry her?

And people have the mindset of associating decency and having a good character with virginity. According to them, any girl who is a virgin is decent and has self control and would be faithful in the marriage, but these people are wrong and the reverse of what they believe is what we see today in our society.

As for me, I would like to marry a lady who has some sexual experience. Not some sexual novice. Besides, I can't even marry someone I haven't had sex with.

I concur

Always test drive before u pay. Be certain of ur partners sex drive n other sex related attitude before u get married. Sex is a great killer in many modern marriages. Many people shy away from the truth but it hurt them secretly. I spit for them. Forming holier. Forgetting say Konji no bastard. Konji no dey respect anybody.

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dedecoder:
Exactly. The writer made it look like it's socially inept to be chaste. That should be a standard everywoman should want to achieve prior to marriage.

We aren't condemning you @OP if you've lost yours but don't send a wrong message across to the younger ones. The truth is: no excuse is good enough for not being chaste before marriage. It's sheer recklessness.

An epic comment. But epic as your comment is, failed to call a spade a spade; we are condemning the OP, period. Someone cannot just wake up and start justifying moral laxity. Perhaps she thought most guyz on Nairaland are as morally loose.
It is pathetic that of all great & positive things that can really add value to humanity, someone chose to spread the 'gospel' of profanity. Posterity must surely judge each of us.

[quote author=jmoore post=41751752]Tear rubber. She must be a virgin, no negotiation.

A man with a brand new dick deserves a woman with a tear-rubber honeypot for marriage. [What if you don't end up with a virgin girl? What will you do?/quote]

Just because u lost ur virginity doesn't give u the right to encourage other young women to do so. Ur argument doesn't hold water, no matter how u try to rationalize it.

hasyn04:
They no teach u summary for school? Hell of note! I never read my handouts finish na this mk i read all because i wan marry virgin??

Vikky014:
NOT AGAIN!!!!!...CAN U GUYS JST LET DEM VIRGIN GIRLS RESTVIRGIN DIS VIRGIN THAT. I HV NEVER SEEN A THREAD BY A VIRGIN ADVISING MEN NOT TO MARRY A NON.VIRGIN.....SO IN OTHER WORDS A VIRGIN GIRL CANT BE KIND HEARTED AND CARINGWERE THE NON VIRGINS LIKE DT FROM BIRTHI MEAN WERE THEY NT DISVIRGINED NAWAOH

Toks2008 come oo i need ur opinion

My sweet heart please don't mind them jare..Guys will do all they can to sleep with you and tell you virginity does not matter yet these same guys will pick a virgin over a non virgin on a blind date.

Check any lady that imbibes the culture of no sex till marriage and you will hardly see such still single even at 25 so what does that mean?

The reason why guys care less about looking for virgins is not because they dont want one but they have no hope of seeing one.

My advice to guys is that they should just take the risk and be with any lady that catches their fancy virgin or no virgin.

mzvyne:
If man were God.

God created us to be like Him not to BE Him.

Toks2008:
. . . .this is why you see that most guys who marry virgins cherish them and will hardly divorce them . . .

[size=16pt]Fa . . fa . .fa . . foul!!!![/size]

Egbon Toks, this statement is incorrect

datigbogirl:
God created us to be like Him not to BE Him.

That was just wishful thinking...

Lmfao! Am a virgin mate!!

busomma:
Just because u lost ur virginity doesn't give u the right to encourage other young women to do so. Ur argument doesn't hold water, no matter how u try to rationalize it.

busomma:
Just because u lost ur virginity doesn't give u the right to encourage other young women to do so. Ur argument doesn't hold water, no matter how u try to rationalize it.

Who told you he is not a virgin. Beware of the yeast of the Pharisees!!!

igboboy3:
[size=16pt]Fa . . fa . .fa . . foul!!!![/size]

Egbon Toks, this statement is incorrect

You don marry one?

Go find out what happened if you know of an instance.