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The one that makes me feel bad is how they tend to waste their resources on many side chicks.
Thanks op, you very very on point but my concern is, men don't cheat with men. It's a two way thing that must be crushed by all faithful minded people. Imagine a situation where there are no lady to cheat With, wouldn't dey stop?

Bitter truth!

Richiy:
No. But I did notice that once he has a project at hand, I.e get busy, he is usually a lot less focused on the ladies.

Trust me I've got a boss who's a perfect philander, but whenever he's busy he doesn't have time for that and focus on the job like his life depends on it, but when he's not busy......he philanders like his life depends on it .now they regards it as a reward after an hard days work.

Toks2008:
Philandering is an act that is predominant among men and women alike.To some men this act seem normal due to the erroneous belief that men can be polygamous, but some women experience philandering due to narcissistic or even sociopathic mindset.

But as they say,it is a cruel world of men and often times the women are at the receiving end of this reckless act so this write up is directed to men and women alike but with more focus on the men and this write up will list 5ways you can prevent philandering or reduce the act to the barest minimum

1.Accept that it is a reckless and destructive act to you mentally,physically,Financially and spiritually: Yes as sweet as philandering may seem to be, it is a very destructive act because it can lead you to eternal destruction of your soul as the Quran and Bible suggested and i believe your soul is worth more than the flimsy passion of exploring many death traps in the name of women. Asides this you can readily contract deadly infections and many men have had sexual encounters with different spiritual beings in the name of women and not forgetting the fact that in most cases,the act of philandering tend to make you spend excessively as you will need to spend on the side chicks from time to time just to satisfy your lustful desire.


2.Understand that Philandering is more than a regular bad habit but a demonically influenced act: I have always counseled many ladies that they can not nag a man out of philandering but can only pray him out of it because most times,the men who indulge in it are influenced by demonic spirits so if you are a man who wants to stop or prevent this then you must be willing to pray to GOD to prevent the spirit from possessing you and to help you cast it out of you because this is one act you can not stop on your own.


3.Go for a lady that turns you on physically:I always have a slogan that i will rather remain single for life than marry a woman that does not appeal to me physically. Yes they say choosing a wife is more than the physical attributes but nevertheless i believe you can always get a lady who has a good attribute as well as a good physical appeal.

Why should a man who loves a bootilicious lady settle for a flat ass? and if you love a big body lady why settle for a slim one?I remember having an affair with a lady while i was in the university and at a point i began to pray that GOD should make this lady develop some sexual features..
"can you imagine?"

If you love a busty lady and you settle for a small cup size then you just might fantasize about huge bust-line whenever you make out with a wife with a small cup size and to me,this is perpetual self inflicted bondage because there are billions of ladies out there single and ready to mingle so why pick the one that does not turn you on just by her physical appearance.


4.Accept the fact that no lady has the monopoly of beauty:No matter how sexy or outwardly beautiful your woman may be,there will always be a lady sexier and more attractive than her out there and you are bound to meet many of such so if you are the type who can't take his eyes away from every sexy damsel then you just might be on a fast track to your grave because you can never outdo these daughters of eve who are always willing to show you the fastest way to hell. Just make that choice and do your best to maintain your choice by helping her retain her sexy figure in anyway you can.Learn to appreciate and be content with what you have because in actual fact,its the same hole and same pleasure,just that it is the skills that differs so teach her the skills rather than seek for a facade in the name of varieties.


5.It takes the fear of GOD and great discipline to do away with philandering: It is practically almost impossible for a man who does not fear GOD to desist from this pleasurable but deadly act so as a lady you must pray and try to lead your man closer to GOD because if a man fears GOD then apparently he will make you happy and for the man please understand that you must practically go closer to GOD so that your love and fear for him will keep you away from this act.

Yes the act of philandering is a strong one that tends to enslave any susceptible person and it is not want anyone can just wish away but with GOD i believe that it can be prevented.

GOD HELP US. and I hope this helps

Mr Lalasticlala...how you dey?

Pls shed more light on the word philandering
I don't understand that word.

What of Female philanderersi guess the same applies to us sha

NB: Am not a philanderer but i cant imagine getting married to someone that is not attractive to me oooooo forget money..i cant marry an ape in the form of humanbeing bc of money not when i hv my own money...LOL

To be very frank I don't know how some men pull through. There was a time I never had chance live that life. I fantasized about it back then a lot until I got into the act keeping three girlfriends who didn't demand much from me...and I came to know how huge the burden was to exert energy on them all, probably I didn't know what I want then.

I could not cope any longer...then I asked myself why do some people find the erroneous living so spectacular and even go on to boast about it.

The beat is just to get your madam and chill out with her....looking forward to get married this year.

6. Stay away from marrying a lady who has dated a married man before. Believe me when I say what goes around comes around. Any lady who does not value the sanctity of marriage and opens her legs for a married man will definitely have her own husband slept with. Therefore, fellas, always ask your potential wife to be if she has ever slept with a married man before because if she has, you will be fulfilling your part of the payback loop.

refiner:
how I so much hate men dat sleep outside.....if my husband tries it....na die sure pass

lol

Kill him or urself?

Vikky014:
What of Female philanderersi guess the same applies to us sha

NB: Am not a philanderer but i cant imagine getting married to someone that is not attractive to me oooooo forget money..i cant marry an ape in the form of humanbeing bc of money not when i hv my own money...LOL

@Ladies thought y'all wanted the bad guys, the non virgins because "they're more fun and good in bed" and the good guys who will be faithful to you are just plain boring? Well you should accept the fact that your man is the unfaithful type and will continue being a sperm bank. You want a man who has "experience" in bedmathics, you'll get one, except you won't be the only one he'll probably teach because once a womanizer always a womanizer. FREAKING GET YOUR PRIORITIES STRAIGHT. If you want a man who'll be faithful to you in marriage then go for one who still has moral values. Even if you dress a pig in a tuxedo it'll run back to the mud. Marriage is nothing but a contract to be together till death, PEOPLE CAN'T AUTOMATICALLY CHANGE BECAUSE THEY HAVE A RING ON THEIR FINGER. If you know a guy is the flirty type even while you're dating, chances are he will remain that way.

1metre:
Everyone here in naira land is guilty of this philandering thing..so don'tcomehereandclaiminnocent

Classic excuse of the guilty. Quite a number of us still have the ability to control our eyes and minds so please don't generalize to quell your inflamed conscience.

oba2flex:

LOL...AM SERIOUSLY SERIOUS HERE

tottinova:
Pls shed more light on the word philandering I don't understand that word.

Google it.

SirLewis:
@Ladies thought y'all wanted the bad guys, the non virgins because "they're more fun and good in bed" and the good guys who will be faithful to you are just plain boring? Well you should accept the fact that your man is the unfaithful type and will continue being a sperm bank. You want a man who has "experience" in bedmathics, you'll get one, except you won't be the only one he'll probably teach because once a womanizer always a womanizer. FREAKING GET YOUR PRIORITIES STRAIGHT. If you want a man who'll be faithful to you in marriage then go for one who still has moral values. Even if you dress a pig in a tuxedo it'll run back to the mud. Marriage is nothing but a contract to be together till death, PEOPLE CAN'T AUTOMATICALLY CHANGE BECAUSE THEY HAVE A RING ON THEIR FINGER. If you know a guy is the flirty type even while you're dating, chances are he will remain that way.

Insightful.

Toks2008:
Philandering is an act that is predominant among men and women alike.To some men this act seem normal due to the erroneous belief that men can be polygamous, but some women experience philandering due to narcissistic or even sociopathic mindset.

But as they say,it is a cruel world of men and often times the women are at the receiving end of this reckless act so this write up is directed to men and women alike but with more focus on the men and this write up will list 5ways you can prevent philandering or reduce the act to the barest minimum

1.Accept that it is a reckless and destructive act to you mentally,physically,Financially and spiritually: Yes as sweet as philandering may seem to be, it is a very destructive act because it can lead you to eternal destruction of your soul as the Quran and Bible suggested and i believe your soul is worth more than the flimsy passion of exploring many death traps in the name of women. Asides this you can readily contract deadly infections and many men have had sexual encounters with different spiritual beings in the name of women and not forgetting the fact that in most cases,the act of philandering tend to make you spend excessively as you will need to spend on the side chicks from time to time just to satisfy your lustful desire.


2.Understand that Philandering is more than a regular bad habit but a demonically influenced act: I have always counseled many ladies that they can not nag a man out of philandering but can only pray him out of it because most times,the men who indulge in it are influenced by demonic spirits so if you are a man who wants to stop or prevent this then you must be willing to pray to GOD to prevent the spirit from possessing you and to help you cast it out of you because this is one act you can not stop on your own.


3.Go for a lady that turns you on physically:I always have a slogan that i will rather remain single for life than marry a woman that does not appeal to me physically. Yes they say choosing a wife is more than the physical attributes but nevertheless i believe you can always get a lady who has a good attribute as well as a good physical appeal.

Why should a man who loves a bootilicious lady settle for a flat ass? and if you love a big body lady why settle for a slim one?I remember having an affair with a lady while i was in the university and at a point i began to pray that GOD should make this lady develop some sexual features..
"can you imagine?"

If you love a busty lady and you settle for a small cup size then you just might fantasize about huge bust-line whenever you make out with a wife with a small cup size and to me,this is perpetual self inflicted bondage because there are billions of ladies out there single and ready to mingle so why pick the one that does not turn you on just by her physical appearance.


4.Accept the fact that no lady has the monopoly of beauty:No matter how sexy or outwardly beautiful your woman may be,there will always be a lady sexier and more attractive than her out there and you are bound to meet many of such so if you are the type who can't take his eyes away from every sexy damsel then you just might be on a fast track to your grave because you can never outdo these daughters of eve who are always willing to show you the fastest way to hell. Just make that choice and do your best to maintain your choice by helping her retain her sexy figure in anyway you can.Learn to appreciate and be content with what you have because in actual fact,its the same hole and same pleasure,just that it is the skills that differs so teach her the skills rather than seek for a facade in the name of varieties.


5.It takes the fear of GOD and great discipline to do away with philandering: It is practically almost impossible for a man who does not fear GOD to desist from this pleasurable but deadly act so as a lady you must pray and try to lead your man closer to GOD because if a man fears GOD then apparently he will make you happy and for the man please understand that you must practically go closer to GOD so that your love and fear for him will keep you away from this act.

Yes the act of philandering is a strong one that tends to enslave any susceptible person and it is not want anyone can just wish away but with GOD i believe that it can be prevented.

GOD HELP US. and I hope this helps

Mr Lalasticlala...how you dey?

You're just right on point man, a million likes for you if possible!

Richiy:
Keep busy. Joblessness only increases your chances of philandering.

Absolutely wrong.

Being poor and idle does not remove evil tendencies. It takes decision.

Give a man money and you will see his true color. Give a woman money and beauty and you will see her true tendncies.

ghen ghen

Okay. I am only going to say this once to everybody that has mentioned me. Philandering is chronic cheating right? When you keep busy, philandering is reduced because you will not be so jobless as to follow up every lead you've got. Plus you will not be caught chasing after one woman or 2 or 3 consistently and persistently because, heck who has the time?. It is very proven that men that will cheat will cheat. But if you are struggling with cheating and looking for a way out, please, keep busy.

It takes a great deal of self-discipline, will power nd fear of God to desist from philandering.

To me point 3 is perfect. A lady that gives me 100% satisfaction is the answer to my flirting

kindnyce:
GUY..NO.3 IS EXACTLY WHAT AM PASSING THROUGH RIGHT NOW.BIG BUSTY N THICK CHICK IS THREATENING MY HOME...AM CONFUSED.

lol

That number 3 is a strong one for me.

All my life i hve nver cheated on any lady i dated and the last one of 12yrs was no exception.

I usually tell her its because of the fear of GOD n not because of my love for her that keeps me in check but inside of me i also knew that the fact that she is physically on point also gave me the check.

Im a visual person frst bfore anything...if i marry a lady that is not physically appealling to my eyes omo na voice mail...

This is not about being spiritual..if i marry anything contrary to my choice then i might as well start preparing to fight temptation to the fullest cos im likely going to look outside.

oba2flex:
Kill him or urself?

why should I kill myself?I did Nofin wrong.....I Wil kill him.....cos I must av made it known unto him dat I will kill him if he cheats on me,before d marriage..

refiner:
why should I kill myself?I did Nofin wrong.....I Wil kill him.....cos I must av made it known unto him dat I will kill him if he cheats on me,before d marriage..

Chere sister..no lady should worry her head over a mans fidelity else u go get high bp o.

canalily:
...no matter how you struggle, you can never cage a man...,

am nt struggling to cage any man......cos I knw my husband will never cheat on me.....

cheers!

Richiy:
Okay. I am only going to say this once to everybody that has mentioned me. Philandering is chronic cheating right? When you keep busy, philandering is reduced because you will not be so jobless as to follow up every lead you've got. Plus you will not be caught chasing after one woman or 2 or 3 consistently and persistently because, heck who has the time?. It is very proven that men that will cheat will cheat. But if you are struggling with cheating and looking for a way out, please, keep busy.

Do u take peoples opinion at all?

I thought someone already told you that working class person('jobfull' people) cheat more..with secretary,the new girl in the office ... Jobless/broke men don't cheat, they are loyal.

Toks2008:
Chere sister..no lady should worry her head over a mans fidelity else u go get high bp o.

so if my husband is cheating on me,I should Jst relax and do Nofin....dat means we won't be sleeping togeder cos of one disease or d oder he must hav been infected by oder women and wants to infect me too......so na die sure pass....


cheers!

legendsilver:
The one that makes me feel bad is how they tend to waste their resources on many side chicks.
Thanks op, you very very on point but my concern is, men don't cheat with men. It's a two way thing that must be crushed by all faithful minded people. Imagine a situation where there are no lady to cheat With, wouldn't dey stop?

some even have mnthly bget for phlandring

Toks2008:
LWKMD!

You are so so freaking wrong my dear. I dont know if your assertion holds true for ladies but male Philanderers always have time for that act.It does not take you a whole day to do and weekends are always there lol! abeg no be so dear.

I concur with been busy, if u are busy u will hardly have time for fleeting around because u will be fully occupy even on weekends

refiner:
so if my husband is cheating on me,I should Jst relax and do Nofin....dat means we won't be sleeping togeder cos of one disease or d oder he must hav been infected by oder women and wants to infect me too......so na die sure pass....


cheers!

We must understand that no woman can nag a man out of the act...you either hope not to end up with one cos even if you divorce a philanderer,there is no guaranty that the next man wont do worse...

Just focus on ur life n dat of ur children nd warn him to use protection if he must dog about..this in my opinion is the best way to deal with a philanderer.

Toks2008:
We must understand that no woman can nag a man out of the act...you either hope not to end up with one cos even if you divorce a philanderer,there is no guaranty that the next man wont do worse...

Just focus on ur life n dat of ur children nd warn him to use protection if he must dog about..this in my opinion is the best way to deal with a philanderer.

hnmmm....well I shouldnt be aguein wif u cos I knw my husband will never cheat on me.....Dats y is never advisable to jump into marriage Jst becos Ur friends are all gettin married or becos of Ur age.....u ought to be extremely careful in choosin Ur life partner...so u wont regret Ur life.....dose Dat rush in in marriages mostly do rush out of it sooner.......may God help us..

refiner:
hnmmm....well I shouldnt be aguein wif u cos I knw my husband will never cheat on me.....Dats y is never advisable to jump into marriage Jst becos Ur friends are all gettin married or becos of Ur age.....u ought to be extremely careful in choosin Ur life partner...so u wont regret Ur life.....dose Dat rush in in marriages mostly do rush out of it sooner.......may God help us..

Without sounding persimistic biko dont ever make that naive comment again that your husband can never cheat on you but rather say you hope he does not.

The ealier you start shifting your focus from hinging your marital happiness on the purported fidelity of your hubby the better for you.

There0 is a wide gap between polygamy and philandering and i hope you know this..a man may not sleep around yet take another wife.

inasmuch as polygamy is not forbidden in our culture,no lady should kill herself over a cheating spouse.

As long as he does his duty in the home front and he is not foolish to cheat on you with impunity or have unprotected sex out there,you are good.

This thread only focuses of advicing the malefolks on how to prevent it but it will definitely never erase the fact that many men philander...so start getting ready for any possibility...if you like be too careful to marry an angel,that is no guaranty that he wont change...

Hard facts.

2undeee:
I concur with been busy, if u are busy u will hardly have time for fleeting around because u will be fully occupy even on weekends

Apparently the person is not a philanderer.

A philanderer will always find time to do it.