₦airaland Forum

Asapcymg:
I once saw a beutiful lady living off campus,she is still studying Law 200L althought am graduate waiting to be mobilised A16, her charming smile made me to fall in love with her, I met her on her way from school so I drove her home by the way am able to got her contact and she showed me her place, she happy felt when ever she saw me we gist a lot, but as soon as I left when I call on phone she will not pick untill I went back to her room to remained her she will keep on saying her phone is charging. I'm the shy type I cant tell that I love her directly also time is not by my side, she is perfect curve,moderately tall,white. Please help me because I want to marry her very soon.

yemmit90:
Since time is not on your side, please dont waste your time on undergraduates female(especially those in 300L downwards), they still have more time to exploit.

Besides, you need more than physical attributes in a woman you should call wife. Talk to her to know her perspective about her ideal man/relationship.

aalangel:
Leave all those discussions. People discuss more than this and still have failed marriages. Let God's word be your bedrock and take it along in every little step.

fullstreets:
I no dey do house chores, secondly, she must like APC.

donTbone:
How about the bolded?
And dont tell me that its cos I is next
to U cos i wont take it

Asapcymg:
do you mean let me ask her whether she is engage in any relationship?

Agubushmenyo:
I personally agree that kids can't be planned for. Especially here in Nigeria. Anytin can happen. Even when u plan for 2 kids, u might end up with four.. #coldWeather. Lol

yemmit90:
No,and dont ever ask a female such question.

I meant something like "what is her plan after school", "when is she going to get marry", "can she get marry soon if she see her dream guy". Remember 200L law student still have like 5years more to complete both uni and law school.

Dont be serious when asking her so that you wont sounds like a desperate guy.

Asapcymg:
I once saw a beutiful lady living off campus,she is still studying Law 200L althought am graduate waiting to be mobilised A16, her charming smile made me to fall in love with her, I met her on her way from school so I drove her home by the way am able to got her contact and she showed me her place, she happy felt when ever she saw me we gist a lot, but as soon as I left when I call on phone she will not pick untill I went back to her room to remained her she will keep on saying her phone is charging. I'm the shy type I cant tell that I love her directly also time is not by my side, she is perfect curve,moderately tall,white. Please help me because I want to marry her very soon.

Pamelayoung:
Oyo na em be ur new name

Pamelayoung:
Oyo na em be ur new name

Asapcymg:
I once saw a beutiful lady living off campus,she is still studying Law 200L althought am graduate waiting to be mobilised A16, her charming smile made me to fall in love with her, I met her on her way from school so I drove her home by the way am able to got her contact and she showed me her place, she happy felt when ever she saw me we gist a lot, but as soon as I left when I call on phone she will not pick untill I went back to her room to remained her she will keep on saying her phone is charging. I'm the shy type I cant tell that I love her directly also time is not by my side, she is perfect curve,moderately tall,white. Please help me because I want to marry her very soon.

Lordkratus:
Who the hell wants to get married and not have kids?that just weird.then just remain in a relationship with no commitments.

But sir the marriage is a commitment.
And while nice it requires a lot of work.
My future hubby should only be so grateful I'm sparing him more.

passionate88:

Agubushmenyo:
I don't knw dear. Its just funny sha. Maybe you should think of having kids

pete26:
Funny how a lady wouldn't wanna have kids, cos of babysitting? If u wanna get married the n procreation is a necessity. Remember u're an offspring of someone. And as a lady u're a potential mum

Well babysitting gave me a small preview into motherhood and what I saw I didn't care for.
Potential Mama yes,but babysitting made sure I'd never fulfill that potential
Why if I may ask is it a necessity?
There are plenty married and unmarried folk having kids,that should cover for me not havin' any.

Goodafternoon gentlemen.

Asapcymg:
do you mean let me ask her whether she is engage in any relationship?

iAmCharis:
People discuss more than this and still have failed marriages isn't enough reason why you shouldn't discuss it.

Talking about letting God's word be your bedrock..
Luke 14:28-29 (KJV)
28: For which of you, intending to build a tower, sitteth not down first, and counteth the cost, whether he have sufficient to finish it?

29 Lest haply, after he hath laid the foundation, and is not able to finish it, all that behold it begin to mock him

Luke 14:28-29 (Amplified)
28 “But don’t begin until you count the cost. For who would begin construction of a building without first getting estimates and then checking to see if he has enough money to pay the bills?

29 Otherwise he might complete only the foundation before running out of funds. And then how everyone would laugh!

Asapcymg:
help on how to tell her my love

iAmCharis:
People discuss more than this and still have failed marriages isn't enough reason why you shouldn't discuss it.

Talking about letting God's word be your bedrock..
Luke 14:28-29 (KJV)
28: For which of you, intending to build a tower, sitteth not down first, and counteth the cost, whether he have sufficient to finish it?

29 Lest haply, after he hath laid the foundation, and is not able to finish it, all that behold it begin to mock him

Luke 14:28-29 (Amplified)
28 “But don’t begin until you count the cost. For who would begin construction of a building without first getting estimates and then checking to see if he has enough money to pay the bills?

29 Otherwise he might complete only the foundation before running out of funds. And then how everyone would laugh!

Agubushmenyo:
Am a Relationship person. Though not married, but I try to learn a lot.
Apart from choosing the wedding date, venue and caterer for your day, there are other deeper issues you both need to discuss with each other. Issues where you need to open up to your partner completely and let him/her in.

Without discussing these crucial issues before marriage might be unwise and may have repercussions later on in the marriage.
Here are the issues below:

1.Your past: Have you told him/her about any negative or positive experience from your past that has a significant effect on your life? Your history can impact your marriage’s future. Allow him/her to be part of it and move forward as a couple. Do not let your past haunt your future.

2.Family obligations: How will you celebrate the holidays? Do you plan to spend Christmas at your folks’house, and New Year’s Day with his family? Things as simple as these can spike arguments in the future. Lay all the cards down in terms of your financial obligations on each side. Are you okay with allotting a certain percentage of his salary to his parents?

3.Division of house labor: When it’s just the two of you at home, hiring a helper may mean an unnecessary expense, so it’s only practical that you two discuss the division of house chores. If you really loathe washing the dishes, compromise that you’ll be in charge of cooking and table cleanup. If your man hates doing the laundry, volunteer to wash the clothes and ask him to be in charge of the clothesline. This way, you won’t hate each other, while maintaining the upkeep of your love nest.

4.Sex: Newlywed sex is fun and exciting, but as you count the wedding anniversaries, one of you can sometimes overlook its value. Explain to him your expectations and limits, or how you two can maintain the spice in the bedroom.

5.Secrets: Whether it’s something you did that you regret, a health issue, or a family secret, he/she deserves to know it. Also, since he’s basically going to be part of the family, divulging these details matter. It’s better that he/she hears it from you than from someone else.

6.Faith: If you have different religions, say, he’s a Renewed Christian and you’re a Catholic, confer with one another which church you’ll be spending Sundays at. Also, if you do plan to have kids, finalize what religion they’ll be following.

Agubushmenyo:
Am a Relationship person. Though not married, but I try to learn a lot.
Apart from choosing the wedding date, venue and caterer for your day, there are other deeper issues you both need to discuss with each other. Issues where you need to open up to your partner completely and let him/her in.

Without discussing these crucial issues before marriage might be unwise and may have repercussions later on in the marriage.
Here are the issues below:

1.Your past: Have you told him/her about any negative or positive experience from your past that has a significant effect on your life? Your history can impact your marriage’s future. Allow him/her to be part of it and move forward as a couple. Do not let your past haunt your future.

2.Family obligations: How will you celebrate the holidays? Do you plan to spend Christmas at your folks’house, and New Year’s Day with his family? Things as simple as these can spike arguments in the future. Lay all the cards down in terms of your financial obligations on each side. Are you okay with allotting a certain percentage of his salary to his parents?

3.Division of house labor: When it’s just the two of you at home, hiring a helper may mean an unnecessary expense, so it’s only practical that you two discuss the division of house chores. If you really loathe washing the dishes, compromise that you’ll be in charge of cooking and table cleanup. If your man hates doing the laundry, volunteer to wash the clothes and ask him to be in charge of the clothesline. This way, you won’t hate each other, while maintaining the upkeep of your love nest.

4.Sex: Newlywed sex is fun and exciting, but as you count the wedding anniversaries, one of you can sometimes overlook its value. Explain to him your expectations and limits, or how you two can maintain the spice in the bedroom.

5.Secrets: Whether it’s something you did that you regret, a health issue, or a family secret, he/she deserves to know it. Also, since he’s basically going to be part of the family, divulging these details matter. It’s better that he/she hears it from you than from someone else.

6.Faith: If you have different religions, say, he’s a Renewed Christian and you’re a Catholic, confer with one another which church you’ll be spending Sundays at. Also, if you do plan to have kids, finalize what religion they’ll be following.

Michizzy:
Nice points but Financial issues and number of kids should be discussed too.

yemmit90:
May God bless you!

Many of us forgot the dynamism nature of our existence. People and things change with time, there are some unforseen/unexplanable and unplaned circumstances one must abided by in the marriage.

amunkita:
Them see my future before giving me the name...

HeavenShield:
You are a man. Be a man. Act as a man. Simple: Tell her your mind and go and rest. Is it worth dying for? NO. But just MAKE SURE she loves you. Find a love test that will be applicable to her. In all, make sure you go to church..

aalangel:
Leave all those discussions. People discuss more than this and still have failed marriages. Let God's word be your bedrock and take it along in every little step.

akinsal:
Hello.. Its not all about been spiritual @all times. asking questions makes u know ur spouse agenda for himself and U. This are d mistakes most p make b4 entering a relatationship/marriage wth regret... What if he is d type dat doesnt take his bath daily or has allergy or wants to av 12 kids? will u endure because u av decided to b spiritual and so u av to accept such?

Been spiritual is also Good but too much of it (over spiritual) isnt d best..