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Re: I Slept With My Male Friend During Our Short Break Up, Shld I Tell My Boyfriend? by francizy(m): 11:14pm On Jan 20, 2016

Diddyydiva:
I no want person tiff my picture like the ops

yes I be demi god nah

Omo! E mean say that place go get teeth so oh! shocked

Re: I Slept With My Male Friend During Our Short Break Up, Shld I Tell My Boyfriend? by Nobody: 11:20pm On Jan 20, 2016

francizy:

Omo! E mean say that place go get teeth so oh!

which place?

you mean where I stay ?

yeah there is tight security grin

Re: I Slept With My Male Friend During Our Short Break Up, Shld I Tell My Boyfriend? by hush15: 11:21pm On Jan 20, 2016

ronald4lif:

I'm aware a guy with a primeval mindset will want to know the truth in such situation. But then, not everything that one deserves to know that they should actually be told.

Somethings are best left unsaid and the truth doesn't always set one free in all scenarios. Truth doesn't always set one free and some truth are a leavening to one's ruination. When truth ferments risk and an imperilment it becomes senseless and powerless in evoking freedom. An armed robber on a wanted list won't reveal his hideout as the truth won't set him free.

The boyfriend ought to know that when one breaks up with their partner they are free to move on and live their lives in whatever manner they deem necessary. They don't have to dwell in a broken past but move on and whatever that transpired in their lives isn't their business anymore. So if they had not reconcile their differences she shouldn't move on and have sex if she so pleases?

Oh well, whatever decision she derives at its hers to make. We can only make suggestions whilst she draw conclusions.

You wrong cos it's not always as easy as you put it. The difference here is the reason for her actions. She has said it, she had a fling to feel better, to fill the gap left by her Bf but as it should be, it turned out not to be the case. Obviously, she just failed an integrity test. She hasn't gotten over her boyfriend completely, and she had done such it's a breach of trust with he bf and herself. If it is that easy for a guy to have fling, then she lack moral virtues. The list is endless...

So, there is so much at stake. What if she was Married? How would she hae handled it??

My dear, it's simply na moral thing and as it is, that relationship will suffer a lot cos trust is gone. She will have to bear so much to earn the trust back and I doubt if she can go through such for her to quickly conclude sex things sharp sharp with another man. She has to go all humble and be ready to face the music till the bf is able to realise that he can trust her again which of course again is by God's intervention cos it's something that will be difficult to leave his mind. Most likely, when the idea comes to his head, he will just randomly act crazy an the OP will feel terrible. It's a difficult situation and if she is truly sorry, she will endure and gradually win the trust of her bf again but e go hard o..

However, it's healthier for her to let the bf know now than later....

Re: I Slept With My Male Friend During Our Short Break Up, Shld I Tell My Boyfriend? by francizy(m): 11:22pm On Jan 20, 2016

Diddyydiva:
which place?

you mean where I stay ?

yeah there is tight security

Hahahahahaha! You know what I mean jor. tongue

If e no get teeth, then na thunder and lightening go dey comot from that side... shocked

You know na, unto Sango things... grin

Re: I Slept With My Male Friend During Our Short Break Up, Shld I Tell My Boyfriend? by DonaldGenes(m): 11:22pm On Jan 20, 2016

heryourdayji:
I am in this relationship, and I and my boyfriend have had quite a rocky relationship. We often quarrel and argue and just recently, I found out that he had joined a dating website. This surprised me as I don’t know why he would do that while we were together. I confronted him and he apologized, claiming that he only did it because we were having a lot of problems and thought that we were done at the time. I was extremely hurt and angry so I broke up with him and told him that i never wanted to see him again.

The day after that, I was hanging out with one of my male friends, we got into a serious talk and ended up having sex.

I had sex with my friend, hoping it was going to make me feel better but i ended up feeling a lot worse after. I have never done things like this, but when I decided to sleep with my friend I don’t think that my boyfriend and I would ever get back together.

After a few days, he called me (my ex) we were talking and we got all emotional and we decided to give things another go. I love him so much and really want to be with him but I was sad because it took me having sex with my friend to realize how much I wanted my boyfriend back. Having sex with my friend also made me realize how easily mistakes are made so i am willing to forgive my boyfriend for joining the dating site.

We are back together now but I have not told him that I slept with someone else during our short break up and I really don’t want to tell him because i am afraid he will not forgive me and that I will lose him forever this time. I feel like I am being dishonest, which I so hate the feeling but I definitely hate the thought of having to tell him more. So my question is, if you sleep with someone else during a short break up do you need to tell your partner that u slept with someone else? Or is it none of their business when you have broken up?

Please I need good advice from mature romanceland esp guys

hmmmmmmmmph! well, don't know what to say since you guys have made up again.

Re: I Slept With My Male Friend During Our Short Break Up, Shld I Tell My Boyfriend? by Nobody: 11:24pm On Jan 20, 2016

francizy:

Hahahahahaha! You know what I mean jor.

If e no get teeth, then na thunder and lightening go dey comot from that side...

You know na, unto Sango things...

hehehehehehe grin

let's ask sango grin

he alone can be honest grin

Re: I Slept With My Male Friend During Our Short Break Up, Shld I Tell My Boyfriend? by francizy(m): 11:26pm On Jan 20, 2016

Diddyydiva:
hehehehehehe

let's ask sango

he alone can be honest

Am right behind you... tongue

Re: I Slept With My Male Friend During Our Short Break Up, Shld I Tell My Boyfriend? by csamii: 11:26pm On Jan 20, 2016

daretodiffer:
ll

Where did i say she was raped/forced to have sex?

Are you telling me that she does not have any right to go ballistic because of a dating profile?

You are too emotional to comprehend

Don't get so emotional towards me please!

Re: I Slept With My Male Friend During Our Short Break Up, Shld I Tell My Boyfriend? by daontop: 11:29pm On Jan 20, 2016

This whole writeup looks like "The perfect guy" movie script...

Re: I Slept With My Male Friend During Our Short Break Up, Shld I Tell My Boyfriend? by clovislouis(m): 11:32pm On Jan 20, 2016

heryourdayji:
I am in this relationship, and I and my boyfriend have had quite a rocky relationship. We often quarrel and argue and just recently, I found out that he had joined a dating website. This surprised me as I don’t know why he would do that while we were together. I confronted him and he apologized, claiming that he only did it because we were having a lot of problems and thought that we were done at the time. I was extremely hurt and angry so I broke up with him and told him that i never wanted to see him again.

Endtime gal

The day after that, I was hanging out with one of my male friends, we got into a serious talk and ended up having sex.

I had sex with my friend, hoping it was going to make me feel better but i ended up feeling a lot worse after. I have never done things like this, but when I decided to sleep with my friend I don’t think that my boyfriend and I would ever get back together.

After a few days, he called me (my ex) we were talking and we got all emotional and we decided to give things another go. I love him so much and really want to be with him but I was sad because it took me having sex with my friend to realize how much I wanted my boyfriend back. Having sex with my friend also made me realize how easily mistakes are made so i am willing to forgive my boyfriend for joining the dating site.

We are back together now but I have not told him that I slept with someone else during our short break up and I really don’t want to tell him because i am afraid he will not forgive me and that I will lose him forever this time. I feel like I am being dishonest, which I so hate the feeling but I definitely hate the thought of having to tell him more. So my question is, if you sleep with someone else during a short break up do you need to tell your partner that u slept with someone else? Or is it none of their business when you have broken up?

Please I need good advice from mature romanceland esp guys

Re: I Slept With My Male Friend During Our Short Break Up, Shld I Tell My Boyfriend? by LastProphet: 11:43pm On Jan 20, 2016

Smellymouth:
The answer is simple - would you want him to tell you if it was him - and how would you feel about it? If it was me, I 'd be very nice to my lover for a couple of weeks while preparing to leave because I dont think it is a trifling matter and I can't forget such issues.I dont know if I will be able to forgive her in the future..
Take my advice, don't do it again but keep your mouth shut,

gbam!

Re: I Slept With My Male Friend During Our Short Break Up, Shld I Tell My Boyfriend? by Cesclxg(m): 12:06am On Jan 21, 2016

I have just 2 things to say:
1. What happened in Vegas stays in Vegas.
2. Ignorance is bliss. Please save the poor guy the gory details of the stench of ur unfaithfulness. He deserves better.
Truth be told, u lack moral value. Like seriously... Having sex with some other guy the very next day. Christ, I feel so disgusted on ur behalf. Opening ur legs spread-Eagle and some other guy banging away. I wudnt want to hear that from my gf and I know ur bf would feel the same. Pls, for the love of God, shut ur trap and don't tell him. Hopefully, u will earn God's forgiveness thru penance and self-mortification.

Re: I Slept With My Male Friend During Our Short Break Up, Shld I Tell My Boyfriend? by killerweezy(m): 12:23am On Jan 21, 2016

Surestontop:
for someone who can give people tips about relationship, it shouldn't be hard for you to figure it out. Just saying though

u make sence die

Re: I Slept With My Male Friend During Our Short Break Up, Shld I Tell My Boyfriend? by oluwasegun007(m): 12:31am On Jan 21, 2016

if he eventually marry u now, won't u sleep with his neighbors after small disagreement.....

Re: I Slept With My Male Friend During Our Short Break Up, Shld I Tell My Boyfriend? by excelbeing099(m): 12:40am On Jan 21, 2016

Does that mean you can't have a distance relationship ? oloshi ni e

Re: I Slept With My Male Friend During Our Short Break Up, Shld I Tell My Boyfriend? by killerweezy(m): 12:43am On Jan 21, 2016

chimkaire:
what the effing f you talking? I hate disloyalty in a relationship. I believe you do too. Why would the guy join a dating site? Why? Are you subtly overlooking that? Isn't that a good sign he's gonna be a cheat? How are we sure he hasn't done so already?
Girl, if you tell him, break up with him. If you choose not to, break up with him. Life's too short to waste on a disloyal and disrespectful partner

so you're saying by creating a dating profile he's already cheated? Tell me, don't you have a profile on any dating site at all? Even OP might as well have one too.

Your signature says and I qoute "Speak the truth even if your voice shakes"

Re: I Slept With My Male Friend During Our Short Break Up, Shld I Tell My Boyfriend? by killerweezy(m): 12:48am On Jan 21, 2016

chimkaire:
what the effing f you talking? I hate disloyalty in a relationship. I believe you do too. Why would the guy join a dating site? Why? Are you subtly overlooking that? Isn't that a good sign he's gonna be a cheat? How are we sure he hasn't done so already?
Girl, if you tell him, break up with him. If you choose not to, break up with him. Life's too short to waste on a disloyal and disrespectful partner

So joining a dating site means he's fvcked someone? Tell me, don't you have a profile on any dating site at all? Even OP might as well have too.

You signature says and I qoute "Speak the truth even if your voice shakes"

Re: I Slept With My Male Friend During Our Short Break Up, Shld I Tell My Boyfriend? by killerweezy(m): 1:00am On Jan 21, 2016

ronald4lif:

I'm aware a guy with a primeval mindset will want to know the truth in such situation. But then, not everything that one deserves to know that they should actually be told.

Somethings are best left unsaid and the truth doesn't always set one free in all scenarios. Truth doesn't always set one free and some truth are a leavening to one's ruination. When truth ferments risk and an imperilment it becomes senseless and powerless in evoking freedom. An armed robber on a wanted list won't reveal his hideout as the truth won't set him free.

The boyfriend ought to know that when one breaks up with their partner they are free to move on and live their lives in whatever manner they deem necessary. They don't have to dwell on a broken past but move on and whatever that transpired in their lives isn't their business anymore. So if they had not reconcile their differences she shouldn't move on and have sex if she so pleases?

Oh well, whatever decision she derives at its hers to make. We can only make suggestions whilst she draw conclusions.

correct

Re: I Slept With My Male Friend During Our Short Break Up, Shld I Tell My Boyfriend? by ichommy(m): 1:48am On Jan 21, 2016

Aminat508:
oko ati obo Kilohun jebe?

Chicken and fry (chips) that's the meaning. Yinmu cheesy

Re: I Slept With My Male Friend During Our Short Break Up, Shld I Tell My Boyfriend? by Classicman47(m): 1:56am On Jan 21, 2016

msjanet:
guys ranting as if they don't do worse

Ahhha! Dis one na member. Well done!

Re: I Slept With My Male Friend During Our Short Break Up, Shld I Tell My Boyfriend? by mickky88: 2:24am On Jan 21, 2016

aubventure:

Amen, Amen,Amen
Fire

hahahahaha Reject ke? i fear you o grin

Re: I Slept With My Male Friend During Our Short Break Up, Shld I Tell My Boyfriend? by mickky88: 2:24am On Jan 21, 2016

trytim100:
u sleep with him or u sex him?

good question that need answer

Re: I Slept With My Male Friend During Our Short Break Up, Shld I Tell My Boyfriend? by Nobody: 2:35am On Jan 21, 2016

heck no. some things are between you and God

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Re: I Slept With My Male Friend During Our Short Break Up, Shld I Tell My Boyfriend? by doxx: 2:46am On Jan 21, 2016

Can't help but ponder.....

Check my moniker....!!!

Re: I Slept With My Male Friend During Our Short Break Up, Shld I Tell My Boyfriend? by Nobody: 3:06am On Jan 21, 2016

killerweezy:
So joining a dating site means he's fvcked someone? Tell me, don't you have a profile on any dating site at all? Even OP might as well have too.

You signature says and I qoute "Speak the truth even if your voice shakes"

Lemme save you the rant; I don't have a profile on any dating site. I dont cool

Every other part of your 'hot' comment makes no sense to me. Thanks

Re: I Slept With My Male Friend During Our Short Break Up, Shld I Tell My Boyfriend? by Nobody: 3:19am On Jan 21, 2016

The first tin i checkd after readn ur post was ur profile and i saw wat u wrote abt u loving cool n handsome guys.... my dear, dia s a bird cryn in ur belly to be fed, u hv alrdy given it a handful but i ll advise u kill it now. dia is always a first time but urs doesnt have to grow worse. let this be an oppurtunity 4 u to check ursf and deal with d LovePeddler in you. ...d truth sets free.

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Re: I Slept With My Male Friend During Our Short Break Up, Shld I Tell My Boyfriend? by lasurjunior(m): 4:20am On Jan 21, 2016

Tell him the truth...and free ur mind. And if he truely love you,he will forgive you. You don't know maybe he did same thing when you guys were on ur short break. He might be angry at first but am sure he will come around. Goodluck!

Re: I Slept With My Male Friend During Our Short Break Up, Shld I Tell My Boyfriend? by seaga: 6:04am On Jan 21, 2016

AmyBelg:
First time I did and he used it to sing even when he did it first but after that I learn lesson, second time I no gree talk lol even when he did it again and now I am looking like the innocent one lol

But he didn't end the relationship. ... you did it the second time! Why now?.

Re: I Slept With My Male Friend During Our Short Break Up, Shld I Tell My Boyfriend? by seaga: 6:14am On Jan 21, 2016

Diddyydiva:
on the contrary I think there is a foul play here . No one will be this dumb to open a tread like this with her pictures on,

she never replied any mentions , that is something trolls do.

I think someone is just using that picture for some devious reasons to the owner of the picture.

My opinion tho

She did reply one

Re: I Slept With My Male Friend During Our Short Break Up, Shld I Tell My Boyfriend? by seaga: 6:29am On Jan 21, 2016

killerweezy:
So joining a dating site means he's fvcked someone? Tell me, don't you have a profile on any dating site at all? Even OP might as well have too.

You signature says and I qoute "Speak the truth even if your voice shakes"

Nice observation. You preach truth and in real life practice the other.It only further buttress the point, which was the origin of this thread 'women are confused species'

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Re: I Slept With My Male Friend During Our Short Break Up, Shld I Tell My Boyfriend? by Greycious(m): 7:03am On Jan 21, 2016

OP, Thanks for using ur real pic as dp.
At least I'm sure of avoiding any girl that looks like you.

Re: I Slept With My Male Friend During Our Short Break Up, Shld I Tell My Boyfriend? by babiskinado(m): 7:07am On Jan 21, 2016

Fornication is a sin. Hoha

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