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Re: Love Or Submission....which Should Come First In Marriage? by kay29000(m): 10:12am On Jan 24, 2016
LOVE.
Re: Love Or Submission....which Should Come First In Marriage? by ITbomb(m): 10:12am On Jan 24, 2016
In all reality, it is only the woman that needs love, men feed on respect.

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Re: Love Or Submission....which Should Come First In Marriage? by ElFenomeno1: 10:12am On Jan 24, 2016
tomdon:


who's this lunatic

I thought I was the only one who noticed the idiotic ogre!
Re: Love Or Submission....which Should Come First In Marriage? by Nobody: 10:13am On Jan 24, 2016
First of all u op need to know what submission means

Has NOTHING to do with love ... Two different things
I.e hubby: dear can u get me water from fridge
Wife: no im busy

So that means no love cuz she didnt submitt to his demands .. And ur saying because of this no more love ..
The truth submission comes after marriage .. Alot dont even know their spouse properly till after marriage ..
And everyone knows the courting process is wher we ladies show yanga the most who the hell is submitting to what?? Sleeping th the guy? U aint making sense

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Re: Love Or Submission....which Should Come First In Marriage? by Provie(m): 10:14am On Jan 24, 2016
Love
Re: Love Or Submission....which Should Come First In Marriage? by jcflex(m): 10:14am On Jan 24, 2016
notjohndoe:


My story. And it only took 3 years


hummmmmmm
Re: Love Or Submission....which Should Come First In Marriage? by Justicealh3(m): 10:15am On Jan 24, 2016
kilode100:
Money answereth all things.

I can never submit/love a love man.

If age has passed me by, I can manage a good looking poor man to marry, but, submitting to him is out of the question.
Wahala no too much, ya'u
Re: Love Or Submission....which Should Come First In Marriage? by ogawisdom(m): 10:15am On Jan 24, 2016
yemstok:
A man says

"I don't love my wife because she is not. submissive perhaps, if she were submissive i would have loved her"

A woman says

"I am not submissive to my husband because he doesn't love me, if he had shown love to me, I would have been submissive"

The bible made mention of these things but didn't tell which should come first.

Ephesians 5:22

"Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord.23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church,his body, of which he is the Savior"



Ephesians 5:25

"Husbands, love your wives,just as Christ lovedthe church and gave himself up for her"






Now, my question is, Which should come first? "Love" or "Submission"

They go together, no first n second, got dt
Re: Love Or Submission....which Should Come First In Marriage? by RedCapChief(m): 10:17am On Jan 24, 2016
Tallesty1:
I once told a woman that a submissive wife is the head of the home but she didn't believe me.

Only divine wisdom could have revealed this to you.

One big stout for you!

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Re: Love Or Submission....which Should Come First In Marriage? by Justicealh3(m): 10:18am On Jan 24, 2016
AmaechiLinus:
LET LOVE LEAD
THE WAY.
Re: Love Or Submission....which Should Come First In Marriage? by ushmoney: 10:19am On Jan 24, 2016
[color=#990000]somthing most convince u 2 luv, without submision der'll not be luv
Re: Love Or Submission....which Should Come First In Marriage? by afroditte(f): 10:23am On Jan 24, 2016
Love is love, whether submissive or not..... Most men dont know what love is.

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Re: Love Or Submission....which Should Come First In Marriage? by Eluwilussit(m): 10:25am On Jan 24, 2016
yemstok:
A man says

"I don't love my wife because she is not. submissive perhaps, if she were submissive i would have loved her"

A woman says

"I am not submissive to my husband because he doesn't love me, if he had shown love to me, I would have been submissive"

The bible made mention of these things but didn't tell which should come first.

Ephesians 5:22

"Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord.23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church,his body, of which he is the Savior"



Ephesians 5:25

"Husbands, love your wives,just as Christ lovedthe church and gave himself up for her"






Now, my question is, Which should come first? "Love" or "Submission"

Which one did your bible put first? sad
Re: Love Or Submission....which Should Come First In Marriage? by ckmayoca: 10:26am On Jan 24, 2016
Oliviaarims:



That's serious... What have u been through in life?

She cld be facing parental issues. U know dad dealing with her mom.
Re: Love Or Submission....which Should Come First In Marriage? by NextProdigy(m): 10:28am On Jan 24, 2016
There's something called "Unconditional Love." That was the love God had for the world that he sent His son to die for the world; a world that was far from submissive to God. It's not really a matter of what comes first but about striking a balance. They both come importantly. However, if man is created in God's image and likeness; looking like God and functioning like God, a man will LOVE his wife UNCONDITIONALLY even when it seems she is undeserving of that love. God showed us that example. smiley

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Re: Love Or Submission....which Should Come First In Marriage? by Reeberry: 10:28am On Jan 24, 2016
Stexy:
When you love someone, you'll learn to submit to that person simple.
You don't know anything. Most people who love don't submit. It's only few.
Re: Love Or Submission....which Should Come First In Marriage? by 4C2215131: 10:29am On Jan 24, 2016
Love trumps all. Every other thing be it obedience, submission, care etc is informed by Love. Without it, every other attribute of good marriage is nothing!

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Re: Love Or Submission....which Should Come First In Marriage? by peedeeasobie(m): 10:32am On Jan 24, 2016
Eph. 5:22;
Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.

Eph. 5:25;
Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;

The scripture didn't say 'wives submit to your husband if he loves you'. NO!
The scripture didn't say 'husbands love your wives if she submits to you'. NO!

The submission is not conditional and the love is not conditional.

Some people say 'the reason I cheated is because he doesn't show me love', the reason I beat her is because she doesn't submit to me'. That's an explanation of failure!

You are to love/submit independently!

Wives submit! Husbands love!

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Re: Love Or Submission....which Should Come First In Marriage? by repogirl(f): 10:33am On Jan 24, 2016
Love has no conditions attached to it.

Love is not in saying 'I love you'...... And being submissive does not mean the woman is a slave and doesn't give the man the right to become a tyrant.

There is no one that should come first or last. A good woman will cherish a loving husband who loves her despite her flaws. It is a bad woman that will take advantage of a man's love.

Same to the men, a good man will cherish his wife's good behaviour. It's not until one person shows the other something that the other will now reciprocate, it doesn't work that way.

Both should be good to each other whether the other shows love or not.

Easier said than done sha. angry

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Re: Love Or Submission....which Should Come First In Marriage? by Stephanie22: 10:37am On Jan 24, 2016
A woman cannot just see a man on the road and start submitting, the man must love her first and then approach her, if she accepts then being submissive can set in.

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Re: Love Or Submission....which Should Come First In Marriage? by AnonymustME(m): 10:43am On Jan 24, 2016
Submission

one word the feminists can't stand
Re: Love Or Submission....which Should Come First In Marriage? by HIbreed(m): 10:59am On Jan 24, 2016
I don't believe that love is the first basic and benchmark for a sucessful marriage. Respect,submission and intergrity can singlehandedly incite love.

Love is overrated.
#TeamRythymCompatibilityBalance

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Re: Love Or Submission....which Should Come First In Marriage? by honeric01(m): 10:59am On Jan 24, 2016
Love is a feeling, submission is a decision.

Since 22 comes before 25, I rather follow how the Bible put it then what anyone else say.
Re: Love Or Submission....which Should Come First In Marriage? by HIbreed(m): 11:01am On Jan 24, 2016
Stephanie22:
A woman cannot just see a man in the road and start submitting, the man must love her first and then approach her, if she accepts then being submissive can set in.
a man must love you first before approaching youundecidedif thats your mentality,then you are finished
Re: Love Or Submission....which Should Come First In Marriage? by nike4love: 11:08am On Jan 24, 2016
kilode100:
Money answereth all things.

I can never submit/love a love man.

If age has passed me by, I can manage a good looking poor man to marry, but, submitting to him is out of the question.
Men re in trouble.
Re: Love Or Submission....which Should Come First In Marriage? by HIV1: 11:12am On Jan 24, 2016
kilode100:
Money answereth all things.

I can never submit/love a love man.

If age has passed me by, I can manage a good looking poor man to marry, but, submitting to him is out of the question.

You are a very truthful person . That is the behavior of most modern women and not their fault it is due to the way they are created. cheesy For a marriage to work , man requires to have trust in the woman to be the wife and also love her. On the part of the woman however she needs Trust and Submissiveness.
Throughout all the verses in Quran and Bible there is no place where God instruct a woman to love her husband. It has always been man love your wife and woman be submissive to your husband.
The biggest lie a woman can tell you is to tell you she loves you. They can only love their children and their family members...... Husband love is conditional grin

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Re: Love Or Submission....which Should Come First In Marriage? by Nobody: 11:14am On Jan 24, 2016
ckmayoca:

She cld be facing parental issues. U know dad dealing with her mom.
Hmm... Perhaps.
Re: Love Or Submission....which Should Come First In Marriage? by Joy1706(f): 11:18am On Jan 24, 2016
Most of the submissive women I know are being beaten n and cheated on by their husbands. So all this one these guys are saying that if u submit ur husband will go out of his way to please u. NA LIE O. He will just build a mansion on top of ur head. That being said, its only a crazy woman won't submit to a man who truly loves her

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Re: Love Or Submission....which Should Come First In Marriage? by Joy1706(f): 11:21am On Jan 24, 2016
honeric01:
Love is a feeling, submission is a decision.

Since 22 comes before 25, I rather follow how the Bible put it then what anyone else say.
WRONG! Love is a choice and submission is equally a choice esp in marriage

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Re: Love Or Submission....which Should Come First In Marriage? by Nobody: 11:24am On Jan 24, 2016
Even though it's in my nature to rebel, I met someone I have grown to admire...submission came naturally. I just found myself respecting and listening to him more.
And yes when you find a real man, being submissive can get you closer to his heart and lots of "yes baby, whatever you want" for answers. lol.

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Re: Love Or Submission....which Should Come First In Marriage? by ThreeGEEKS(m): 11:24am On Jan 24, 2016
Love will make you submit grin
Re: Love Or Submission....which Should Come First In Marriage? by Oritzy: 11:25am On Jan 24, 2016
kilode100:
Money answereth all things.

I can never submit/love a love man.

If age has passed me by, I can manage a good looking poor man to marry, but, submitting to him is out of the question.
I sorry for you young girl

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