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Re: Wife Insists That Husband Must Use Condom Before They Have Sex by Nobody: 9:03pm On Feb 19, 2016 |
Kachisbarbie:Taking notes 1 Like |
Re: Wife Insists That Husband Must Use Condom Before They Have Sex by abbey621(m): 9:09pm On Feb 19, 2016 |
MsGlobalwonder: You're mixing apples and oranges and instead of making your point with facts you've chosen to use sentiments and emotional rhetoric. Perhaps you should go and learn about tube tying, there's nothing life threatening about it! You are still missing the point, the woman is the one not satisfied with the contraceptive methods given to her already, the omen is on her to do whatever it takes to get her confidence back not the man. The man as far as I'm concerned has been tolerant enough by even agreeing to family planning. Your assumption that the woman might have had a terrible experience with her previous pregnancies is nothing but assumptions, we might as well assume that she contracted a disease she doesn't want her husband to know about or she's looking for a way to end her marriage due to a new found love, can you see how silly assumptions are The truth is when it comes to the African context, the man is in charge, a loving man might use condoms for a year or two but trust me after awhile he becomes frustrated, the sex life becomes very bland and this will cause friction in the marriage. The other option for him is a vasectomy which is a lot more dangerous than tube tying. Surgery to reconnect the vas deferens (vasectomy reversal) is available but the reversal procedure is difficult. Sometimes a doctor can remove sperm from the testicle in men who have had a vasectomy or a reversal that didn't work. The sperm can then be used for in vitro fertilization. Both vasectomy reversal and sperm retrieval can be expensive, may not be covered by insurance, and may not always work. So in light of this, I see no easier option than for the woman to go for tube tying, since you are so big on sacrifices why aren't you advocating for this.......Can somebody say double standards? 1 Like |
Re: Wife Insists That Husband Must Use Condom Before They Have Sex by MirandaPrestly(f): 9:13pm On Feb 19, 2016 |
3rdlegxxx: Well, it is what it is. I share it when I have to because it will encourage someone else who is going through a similar situation |
Re: Wife Insists That Husband Must Use Condom Before They Have Sex by yogoliciousamy(f): 9:19pm On Feb 19, 2016 |
pentag0nal:the wife needs to know her circle very well to avoid pregnancy not treating hubby with the use of condom.she is seriously endangering her marriage. |
Re: Wife Insists That Husband Must Use Condom Before They Have Sex by MsGlobalwonder(f): 9:23pm On Feb 19, 2016 |
abbey621:it's sad. The woman is the one not satisfied with contraceptive? I thought it was already established that contraceptives are not fail-prove and a "double dose" is prescribed. You said the man is being tolerant by agreeing to family planning? . I give up! The man is in charge in Africa, even at the detriment of his partner ?? Sometimes I pinch myself so hard to be sure i'm truly African in Africa because I don't get where all the African belief systems spring out from, especially when it comes to justifying wickedness against women. OMG!! I seriously don't have words. *sigh 4 Likes |
Re: Wife Insists That Husband Must Use Condom Before They Have Sex by Hembelembe: 9:28pm On Feb 19, 2016 |
Flawlessmakeup:God bless you. I've learnt a lot from your comment, you just changed my thinking about this marriage drama called "sex". Thank you. 1 Like |
Re: Wife Insists That Husband Must Use Condom Before They Have Sex by armyofone(m): 9:30pm On Feb 19, 2016 |
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Re: Wife Insists That Husband Must Use Condom Before They Have Sex by armyofone(m): 9:31pm On Feb 19, 2016 |
Yes, it is enough justification. What is wrong with a lifetime of condoms ? So having more child than you can care for is best ? Smart woman, she should be commended. pentag0nal: 2 Likes |
Re: Wife Insists That Husband Must Use Condom Before They Have Sex by abbey621(m): 9:43pm On Feb 19, 2016 |
MsGlobalwonder: Stop being so melodramatic! Most African men don't like family planning but the husband is tolerant enough to understand its importance. Contraceptives are not fail proof, agreed! So why are you against tube tying? Since being pregnant is the problem and she has decided that her 3 kids is enough for her, why are you against tube tying? Let me guess, it's easier to play the victim card Let me open your eyes a little, even the condoms that you are advocating are not fail proof and it's absolutely incomprehensible that a wife would make it compulsory for her husband to wear a condom before love making. Like I said, the man might comply for a year or two but trust me he's going to lose it one day and do the unthinkable. This is not about being in charge or insensitive, it's about common sense! You are not a man and I doubt if you are even married, go and speak with married couples of 5 or more years, ask the husband if he can wear condom for the rest of his marriage just to ease his wife's fear of pregnancy. You would be surprised that most men would say unless she's got some type of disease the answer is no! 1 Like |
Re: Wife Insists That Husband Must Use Condom Before They Have Sex by justmenoni: 9:44pm On Feb 19, 2016 |
Plus their colleagues: tosyne2much and irunobo quote author=pentag0nal post=43061405]I wonder what Ishilove & Beremx will think about this...... [/quote] |
Re: Wife Insists That Husband Must Use Condom Before They Have Sex by bobbito: 9:45pm On Feb 19, 2016 |
pentag0nal: I hope it is not your wife you are talking about? |
Re: Wife Insists That Husband Must Use Condom Before They Have Sex by dastudent(m): 9:46pm On Feb 19, 2016 |
Cutehector: "They have gone to the hospital and the family planning has been done" Bros did you read the post properly? lol! 1 Like |
Re: Wife Insists That Husband Must Use Condom Before They Have Sex by chrisbaby24(m): 9:55pm On Feb 19, 2016 |
Kazna69:Oga no vex...na my female teacher cos am....she too dey talk about insert insert...for classroom...!!! |
Re: Wife Insists That Husband Must Use Condom Before They Have Sex by khattab02: 10:19pm On Feb 19, 2016 |
menabae:what? till date?? The man must be heartless. Like he is from heaven eh! |
Re: Wife Insists That Husband Must Use Condom Before They Have Sex by Sunnypa11(m): 10:20pm On Feb 19, 2016 |
I wish our great grand parents used condoms and family planning... All this I too sabi family dem sef. Family planning have side-effects 1 Like |
Re: Wife Insists That Husband Must Use Condom Before They Have Sex by khattab02: 10:22pm On Feb 19, 2016 |
pentag0nal:married young man? Wahala deeey!!! |
Re: Wife Insists That Husband Must Use Condom Before They Have Sex by khattab02: 10:25pm On Feb 19, 2016 |
wait a minute..... How did the Op come to know?? Did they discuss it with him?? 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Wife Insists That Husband Must Use Condom Before They Have Sex by khattab02: 10:32pm On Feb 19, 2016 |
abbey621:Gbam!! Well nailed on the head. Even sef on the right spot. |
Re: Wife Insists That Husband Must Use Condom Before They Have Sex by Cutehector(m): 10:32pm On Feb 19, 2016 |
Medunah:just listen to urself. The husband should hav a vasectomy.. Mchew.. may God neva direct me to ladies like u amen. |
Re: Wife Insists That Husband Must Use Condom Before They Have Sex by Nobody: 10:42pm On Feb 19, 2016 |
asalimpo:In this 21st and economic recession, you're advocating for another child? Taking of one isn't easy talkless of having many 1 Like |
Re: Wife Insists That Husband Must Use Condom Before They Have Sex by OmoAlata1(f): 10:43pm On Feb 19, 2016 |
Vasectomy can be reserved. If he does it and he changes his mind, he can get it reverse so he can impregnate a woman again |
Re: Wife Insists That Husband Must Use Condom Before They Have Sex by khattab02: 10:48pm On Feb 19, 2016 |
abbey621:And he hits the knockout blow!!! Ladies and Gentlemen............................ The winner of this contest....... By Unanimous decision is............................................................................................................................................................................... Abbey621!!! Abbey! Abbey!! Abbey!!! Lol..... 1 Like |
Re: Wife Insists That Husband Must Use Condom Before They Have Sex by HaneefahRN(f): 10:50pm On Feb 19, 2016 |
victme1: Just saw this. It's just my view, glad u cld reckon wt it. |
Re: Wife Insists That Husband Must Use Condom Before They Have Sex by missmalachi: 11:06pm On Feb 19, 2016 |
I wonder why the women are the ones to take the burden when it comes to issue like this.I think the op did not give is detailes of the happening in d family. 1) what if all d 3 kids she has are thru cs n she has been advised not to attempt any 2)what if she is one of d few women that go thru pregancy with a lot of issues such as pre eclampsia, protein in urin ,diabetic etc 3 ) having miscarriage alone n going for evacuation isn't funny at all not to talk of ppl suggesting evacation incase she gets pregnant. Are we to subject her to routine drugs all her life just in d name of saving marriage? To all who think she is trying to break her home,if a man is a cheat,even if u bend n break urself to pla him he will still do dat. I hv a 5month old daughter n my husband specifically said no to any form of family planning except condom.his reason is dat we are still havin kids n he doesn't wnt excuse wen we are ready for d nxt n he doesn't want the nxt to come wen we are nt both ready.even wen am carried away,he does not forget to get d condom. I guess marrying one who is in d biz with u os just d solution. In cases like dis dat is wen men will nt wnt to be d head to lead by example. 1 Like |
Re: Wife Insists That Husband Must Use Condom Before They Have Sex by lilnapster(m): 11:36pm On Feb 19, 2016 |
End time family planning |
Re: Wife Insists That Husband Must Use Condom Before They Have Sex by 3rdlegxxx(m): 12:12am On Feb 20, 2016 |
MirandaPrestly: Thanks all the mature for being mature and coming through like this, even tho I am a guy and it probably benefits me little, hope the ladies take a cue from it, take care, stay strong and be happy, happiness is the most important of any human life. 1 Like |
Re: Wife Insists That Husband Must Use Condom Before They Have Sex by IYANGBALI: 12:26am On Feb 20, 2016 |
Abi the woman get HIV ni? |
Re: Wife Insists That Husband Must Use Condom Before They Have Sex by tpiar: 12:28am On Feb 20, 2016 |
folks, mind what you say even though it's an anonymous forum. not every thread is opened by sane people, this jumping on the bandwagon is too common here, somebody opens a senseless thread on an inane topic, replies him or her self using two to four different monikers, next thing you know is nlers want to quench on top the matter. that's s.tupid. Find better things to do with your time. |
Re: Wife Insists That Husband Must Use Condom Before They Have Sex by Kfed4ril(m): 12:30am On Feb 20, 2016 |
Strahovski1: Na y u no wan get brain. |
Re: Wife Insists That Husband Must Use Condom Before They Have Sex by Tolatutu: 12:32am On Feb 20, 2016 |
Jonwesley: vasectomy is reversible 1 Like |
Re: Wife Insists That Husband Must Use Condom Before They Have Sex by flyingdutchman(m): 12:47am On Feb 20, 2016 |
pentag0nal:Condom can NEVER be as sweet and natural as Niggar Raw! She might as well get her hubby a new wife, cos her hubby is bound to swing outside. [size=16pt]Clap for her abeg[/size] |
Re: Wife Insists That Husband Must Use Condom Before They Have Sex by Nobody: 12:56am On Feb 20, 2016 |
chrisbaby24: choii guy dat ting na coded language o! She need pessin to insert quick quick, no dull am if she make sense! |
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