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datigbogirl:
So is it a crime to demand sex from a lady you'll like to have sex with after buying stuffs for her? The desire to sex her is there and he tries to fulfill it by making her happy only for the girl to blast him afterwards... Dats so unfair...it's difficult for a guy to just be friends with a girl he wants to have sex with....he'll better stop the spending if he knows he isn't gonna get a bite of the cookie.

wristbangle:
Sir, I am not confused. I am only stating facts about some guys who do this. I know that most guys ain't that stingy or perhaps stingy because gold diggers may have spring up that attitude in them.

damiosy:
Eatery is a waste of resources

mum has set such high standards most ladies fail at the first hurdle,she won't find it funny messing around with a wayward lady


Majority cant cook soup with 2k that's if they know how to cook at all,beauty but no brains

Left for me oh,I will take the eatry money buy food stuffs cook for her if she won't show up that's her problem#no time

Feel free to call me selfish,I wasn't raised that way

My point is your mum should be a yardstick/role model

toprealman:
The fact that it comes from a guy makes this piece awkward.

ireneony:
No.5 is so true

This remind me of when a guy invited to an eatery.
After ordering fried and chicken for me, he ordered take away meat pie for himself. I was eating the food gel gel gel.
He was looking at me and couldn't contained his feelings. He said " how which I knew this restaurant is expensive, we wud have gone to a cheap restaurant"
In my mind I was like why can't this guy just be quiet "nor be everything eye see mouth go talk"

With that vexation I ate everything including the bone of the chicken. He was swallowing his saliva

It was time for us to leave, he stopped a bike. Abo0ki bike man to be precise. U need to come and see the way this guy was pricing ehh. He was like" you know I priced 80# instead of 150# so we are going to enter this bike together, when the bike get to your destination he will drop you at the junction and he will also take me home from there"


Some guys are jst stingy.
N.b: I never begged him to take me out.

rosalieene:
That was how last year, a very foolish Doctor that was pestering my life invited me over. Truly I liked him then. so I happened to be around the town he stays at that point and he begged me to come visit. I did..... nothing much...had d guts to even tell me to come and spend the next weekend with him. He didn't offer any better thing.I was just observing. I noticed what he was after. When I was going, he escorted me to WHR I will take Bus and left. I was so dumbfounded!!! He didn't even say manage this for your tfare. Chai.... ayaf suffer! All this stingy guys!!! I was just pondering about this.
Later he moved to another state, and had the guts to tell me again to come and visit him!! I told him bluntly, I don't have tfare...... Then he said I should come that he will give me tfare but I would stay one week with him. I was so vexed ehen! I insulted him ehen, because I knew what he wanted to achieve!! Mumu.

ireneony:
the funny thing was the guy name was akpos ..he is urohbo. This happened in aau.
Those guys there stingy ga

ShakurM:
So because it's first date, make we order the babe Carbernet Sauvignon wine and Scrambled macaroni that she would go and vomit in her house later abi

Better buy shawarma or eat from house

Lilac91:
thats how one idiot i met on nairaland couldnt pay for our drinks on d first date and he shamelessly drank d drink i paid for to avoid embarrasment, i honestly wish i could mention his moniker but i will save him d disgrace, i only hope he gets to read dis post, and he no even dey presentable come stingy join.... team say no to blind dates

4C2215131:
I'm the Pope if the OP is male. He ain't, not by a long shot!

Lilac91:
thats how one idiot i met on nairaland couldnt pay for our drinks on d first date and he shamelessly drank d drink i paid for to avoid embarrasment, i honestly wish i could mention his moniker but i will save him d disgrace, i only hope he gets to read dis post, and he no even dey presentable come stingy join.... team say no to blind dates

Kath5kouture:
Help me tell them Oga. I'm sure most were threatened with a gun!

diva90:
He's not stingy, he strikes me more of a broke/poor guy

wristbangle:
I find it very shameful and ridiculous when I see guys complaining that they can't spend on a lady whom they barely know on first date because they are yet to tumble beneath the sheets and that she may eventually reject their love proposal.

Even when they choose to spend on a lady, their reluctance will be so glaring just like someone being forced at gun point to drop his money and this is the reason why some ladies have resorted to attach terms and conditions before a guy can take them on a date.

So ladies if you notice the following characteristics in a guy on first date, just know that he is the stingy type.

1. He orders cheap foods for you

Some guys are so stingy to the extent that before they can order bottle water or sausage roll for a lady, they will think over and over again. Even when they are about to order such meals, they will whisper at the lady's ear that "don't you think it's better for us to buy these stuffs outside?". Can't you see that it's too expensive here? Funny enough, it's their type that will blow trumpet loud on how they spend immense money on a lady at exotic restaurants.

2. He will demand sex in exchange for his money spent

I consider this act as a big disgrace and any guy guilty of this act deserves some lashes of cane. Simply because you bought N200 suya for a lady during your first date, that doesn't give you a free entry to her kitty cat. I mean you spend such a ridiculously meagre amount and you expect a lady to surrender her body cheaply? Bros, you need Jesus in your life.

3. He chooses local restaurant for date

Sometimes I wonder how on earth a reasonable guy will take a lady to an untidy restaurant whose foods has been contaminated with flies. Just because a plate of rice goes for N100 with the inclusion of a big rotten meat, he will start feeling on top of the world that he has satisfied the lady. Anyway with the crop of ladies nowadays, I don't think they can tolerate this bullshit from any guy.

4. Sharing of Bills

It is only a stingy guy that will request that bills be split on a first date. This is an act of stinginess coupled with low self esteem. To be very candid, no lady in her right sense of reasoning will ever date such a man unless she has no choice.

5. He complains bitterly if you request for quite expensive meals

Some guys can never cease to amaze me because by the time the lady they take out on a first date request for rice and chicken, they will start looking in discomfort just like the way GEJ was looking when he lost to Buhari. The prefer the lady orders for just a bottle of coke and meat pie but when she orders for a plate of rice, discomfort will be registered on his face

6. He won't order for any meal

One of the characteristic of stingy guys on a first date is that, they will pretend to have no appetite when the lady is eating, but will be salivating inside of them. Who's deceiving who?. All they do is to engage her into meaningless discussion hoping to land her in bed.

7. Eagerness to leave you in order to avoid paying your T-Fare

This reminds of the story a female friend of mine shared about how a guy abandoned her at a bus terminus simply because he stylishly wants to dodge paying her transport fare back home even when she affirmed that he is not under her obligation to pay. Some guys think they can play smart by doing this but honestly speaking, It doesn't speak well for a gentleman.

8. He tells you his house or no where else

Another characteristic of a stingy dude is that he will always be bent on a lady coming to his house or she should forget about it. This is because he doesn't want to lose a kobo.

Ladies and gentlemen, you can also add yours

duchess25:
wristy Darling abeg come chop better kiss jare though I dey vex for u ooo buh this ur write up nah d bomb.some guy stingy eeeh pass aradite.anyway in mama G's voice *I choputas not*

OneManLegion:
Bros, your comment nor make sense.

If a guy takes a girl out, he should spend whatever's necessary to make sure she's satisfied. After all, he took her out of his own volition.

Btw, not all girls can't afford rice and chicken for themselves.

I can't take a girl out and be praying she opts for soft drink and meat-pie. If my money nor reach to take woman out, I chill for house.

Eez not a by force sturvs.

tickles2luv2016:
What about ladies that take advantage of guys,they demand for what their father cant buy for them,imagine a lady asking a guy for school fees and money for project etc.are these responsibilities that of the guy or the lady's parents

godfrey01:
Any guy that invite a girl to his house or a resturant without giving her tfare back to her destination, is really a stingy guy,,,, i have not done that and will never do it....

rosalieene:
That was how last year, a very foolish Doctor that was pestering my life invited me over. Truly I liked him then. so I happened to be around the town he stays at that point and he begged me to come visit. I did..... nothing much...had d guts to even tell me to come and spend the next weekend with him. He didn't offer any better thing.I was just observing. I noticed what he was after. When I was going, he escorted me to WHR I will take Bus and left. I was so dumbfounded!!! He didn't even say manage this for your tfare. Chai.... ayaf suffer! All this stingy guys!!! I was just pondering about this.
Later he moved to another state, and had the guts to tell me again to come and visit him!! I told him bluntly, I don't have tfare...... Then he said I should come that he will give me tfare but I would stay one week with him. I was so vexed ehen! I insulted him ehen, because I knew what he wanted to achieve!! Mumu.

wristbangle:
Baby, I know why u are angry with me. No vex eh! Will make it up to u. Lol tnx 4 d beta kiss jawe

ireneony:
No.5 is so true

This remind me of when a guy invited to an eatery.
After ordering fried and chicken for me, he ordered take away meat pie for himself. I was eating the food gel gel gel.
He was looking at me and couldn't contained his feelings. He said " how which I knew this restaurant is expensive, we wud have gone to a cheap restaurant"
In my mind I was like why can't this guy just be quiet "nor be everything eye see mouth go talk"

With that vexation I ate everything including the bone of the chicken. He was swallowing his saliva

It was time for us to leave, he stopped a bike. Abo0ki bike man to be precise. U need to come and see the way this guy was pricing ehh. He was like" you know I priced 80# instead of 150# so we are going to enter this bike together, when the bike get to your destination he will drop you at the junction and he will also take me home from there"


Some guys are jst stingy.
N.b: I never begged him to take me out.

amokeme:
Lol, the economy is hard! You won't blame them na...

No. 7 tho, hanhan, free food and free transport again

4C2215131:
I'm the Pope if the OP is male. He ain't, not by a long shot!

Wroxxane:
That's where the age long saying 'cut your coat according to your size' comes into play. Discussions prior to the said meeting date as per where to go, when to go and how to go, should have been sorted out. There should have been some sort of closure so cases like 'she chop my money go' would be greatly reduced... besides the way a guy portrays himself to a lady says a lot. You can't be forming odikwa big and not expect her to have high hopes about the first date.

toprealman:
we have all sorts now bruv. Denrele is registered as a male legally......is he not?

butanep:
You actually spoke in a matured and experienced way. You must be really above 25.

Most ladies see dating/ outing as a period to feast and that is a backward mentality.