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Re: How My Fiancee Tricked Me, What Can I Do To Get Out Of This Mess. by Nobody: 5:07pm On Apr 04, 2016
Let my grandfather resurrect from his grave if she is ready for marriage now....Brother go find a matured woman ready for marriage.

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Re: How My Fiancee Tricked Me, What Can I Do To Get Out Of This Mess. by Davefirst(m): 5:08pm On Apr 04, 2016
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Re: How My Fiancee Tricked Me, What Can I Do To Get Out Of This Mess. by queenfav(f): 5:12pm On Apr 04, 2016
All i saw was 2 yrs,no kiss,no hug and sex!Una dey try sha..(Yes,i have a healthy sexual appetite,so save the sermon).@op,just sit her down and let her know how you feel abt this,and the implications on your relationship. She should be able to reach a decision on what she really wants.

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Re: How My Fiancee Tricked Me, What Can I Do To Get Out Of This Mess. by bigkesh(m): 5:12pm On Apr 04, 2016
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Re: How My Fiancee Tricked Me, What Can I Do To Get Out Of This Mess. by destinygl0ri0us: 5:14pm On Apr 04, 2016
you are a selfish persin OP, shikenna babe said u guys shud do introduction... bla bla bla then she goes 4 her masters!!! wetin u dey hurry 4 u re just 28. let the small girl go study abeg .. so no sex.. cant u see say she be responsible babe u dey here they cry me a lagoon... u want kiss also.. shud yo be kissing someone u haven't paid her bride price.. take a chill coke and quench ur thirst... baby if u read this... gaan do ur masters, u re still a small gyal,,, but bro u be thief ooo 22 to 28 ..u no see all thoss 24 and above ripe mangos... u wan disvirgin young blood !!! Oloobe

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Re: How My Fiancee Tricked Me, What Can I Do To Get Out Of This Mess. by lekkie073(m): 5:17pm On Apr 04, 2016
op...u mean u never sanction the pkekus. ....u never feel d bobi.....u dey mad o angry

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Re: How My Fiancee Tricked Me, What Can I Do To Get Out Of This Mess. by kenchop: 5:17pm On Apr 04, 2016
BRO 22YRS IS STILL YOUNG, HER HEAD STILL FAR BRO. IF U REALLY WANA SETTLE DOWN, LOOK FOR SOME 24-27 YRS LADY .
Re: How My Fiancee Tricked Me, What Can I Do To Get Out Of This Mess. by MRBrownJ: 5:18pm On Apr 04, 2016
what is meant to be will be.... whats the point of introduction if she is going to be away right after marriage?! let her go achieve whatever she is seeking while you do the same wherever you are, if when she is back you are still free, and willing, then marry this confused babe!

she knows from the get go what your position was, she indeed is trying to trick you as YOUR position hasnt changed, its hers that changes like the weather.... watch out!
Re: How My Fiancee Tricked Me, What Can I Do To Get Out Of This Mess. by Krismart(m): 5:19pm On Apr 04, 2016
dare2differ:
keyman0007

Why don't you want her to go for her masters? If she were your wife, would you also refuse her?

What is stopping you from doing the introduction even wedding sef and continue with the rest when she is back?


I don't understand you people o
Oshogbo weed at work. Abeg bros when eye clear u read d write up and then comment

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Re: How My Fiancee Tricked Me, What Can I Do To Get Out Of This Mess. by Arckeen: 5:20pm On Apr 04, 2016
Dating for 2years....you never even enter that paradise before, asin you never enter the place before? Oh boy
Re: How My Fiancee Tricked Me, What Can I Do To Get Out Of This Mess. by eeewise(m): 5:23pm On Apr 04, 2016
This is one of d very few matured advice you will get...tell your folks.don't make the mistake of keeping things from them,they will understand. They are more matured and exposed to life than you.1,, d only condition you go along with her is marriage then masters. 2,it's advisable dating a lady 26 and above 3,if she insist on intro then masters pls let her go!28 is young to correct d mistakes
Re: How My Fiancee Tricked Me, What Can I Do To Get Out Of This Mess. by solid3(m): 5:23pm On Apr 04, 2016
keyman0007:

Why do ladies like to pretend to be confused, when in the actual sense they know what they are doing, and what they want. It jut so annoying.

So this year i raise the marriage thing with my lady and she is like she wants to go for masters, that i should come see her parents then we do an introduction of some kind and she leaves, I told her a masters in the UK will mean i will wait till December 2017 to get married if she goes to a UK school and maybe 2018 if its a US or canadian school. I told her i am not trying to tie her career down, that why doesnt she go to LBS, since its an MBA she wants to do. I also discussed with my folks who are also desperate and they were like i should forget her she isnt the only lady in the world. what the guarantee if she goes she will not see someone else.

Sha i pulled out of the relationship and began to search again. only for her to come back and say she is sorry, she has reflected about every and that she is ready for marriage. Cos i liked her i dumped all other female admirers i had began to develop relationships with . I told her again about the LBS master and even told her that i am willing to allow her go do her masters oversees after we get married long as her dad will be willing to pay. Or if God blesses me i can sponsor it. She said she is ready for marriage even if i proposed today.


Sha with her change in position i decided to go see her parents in Lagos, the dad was receptive but the mum seem abit tough, wanted to knw what i did for a living and dall that. I then go see her uncle in Abj. I also told my folks she is having a rethink on the masters thing, that soften my parents. I then invited her to my place. She met my parents they really like her. she also met my siblings as well. My father even called her dad self and they seem to have started getting along.

Only for this babe to begin to say she will submit her school application to fulfill all righteousness. Then 2 days back she says i need to go see her folks to make my intentions. Then she is like she thinks she shd go for her masters now and brought the whole introduction story up again. That we should do introduction and then she travels. I told her i think she is trying to trap me, she is trying to trap me, We have been in a relationship for 2 year no kisses, no sex we even rarely hug. i am 28 she is 22. It is either she goes for her masters and then if she is still single when she returns am i also still single then we get married. It is nt heard of, in my culture. She is not even considering doing it in LBS.

We are not talking at the moment.
I am thinking of a way to break this news to my folks. cause they have already started seeing her as my wife.
I have told her i wont move an inch further in the relationship if she cant tell me what indeed her plan her.
it is either she goes overseas or does it in Nigeria and if it is overseas am nt giving any commitment.[/font]

IT just so annoying.

The bolded is the point where you shld have given her a reset slap to remind her of this:
only for her to come back and say she is sorry, she has reflected about every and that she is ready for marriage.

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Re: How My Fiancee Tricked Me, What Can I Do To Get Out Of This Mess. by Atlantian: 5:24pm On Apr 04, 2016
The line that got me laughing out loud was when I read that you havent had sex with her and no kisses. Then who bleeps her ?

This guy, I think you are even too young to get married. Since its the parents that sponsor her, meaning you cant afford 15,000 pounds which is the cost of running a Masters programme in UK then why the Bleep are you getting married.

na wa for una o.

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Re: How My Fiancee Tricked Me, What Can I Do To Get Out Of This Mess. by donestk(m): 5:24pm On Apr 04, 2016
22s are emotionally unstable.

Thanks me later

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Re: How My Fiancee Tricked Me, What Can I Do To Get Out Of This Mess. by Nobody: 5:26pm On Apr 04, 2016
keyman0007:

We have been in a relationship for 2 year no kisses, no sex we even rarely hug. i am 28 she is 22. It is either she goes for her masters and then if she is still single when she returns am i also still single then we get married.

Bro ! You're not in a relationship, she's just using you, the earlier you open your eyes the better.

She's keeping you because She knows you have potential (So she's actually smart - So props to her) , She is probably intimate with someone else, and she is not ready to settle down yet.

You are 28 years, be smart bro ! please be smart !

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Re: How My Fiancee Tricked Me, What Can I Do To Get Out Of This Mess. by lizzynicole: 5:26pm On Apr 04, 2016
Free the young lady let her go for her masters. i guess u wont want anyone to stop u from going for masters if u were to be the one

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Re: How My Fiancee Tricked Me, What Can I Do To Get Out Of This Mess. by XOGBADO(m): 5:27pm On Apr 04, 2016
dare2differ:
keyman0007

Why don't you want her to go for her masters? If she were your wife, would you also refuse her?

What is stopping you from doing the introduction even wedding sef and continue with the rest when she is back?


I don't understand you people o
Did u read d post well??
Re: How My Fiancee Tricked Me, What Can I Do To Get Out Of This Mess. by nonstan(m): 5:27pm On Apr 04, 2016
dachaste:

D babe is just 22? My dear d tins running tru d heads of most 22's are crazy.

U sure d gal is ready to be tied down?


Truth is she don wanna loose u yet she's not ready for marriage



Shikena
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Re: How My Fiancee Tricked Me, What Can I Do To Get Out Of This Mess. by fbtowner(m): 5:28pm On Apr 04, 2016
U all screaming marriage. Can't d girl be married and still go for the masters and flirt ? Or even marry someone else there self.


If she can't obey u now. She won't obey u when u are married. She would do what ever she wishes.

Think again bro u are just 28 and u are a man

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Re: How My Fiancee Tricked Me, What Can I Do To Get Out Of This Mess. by oglalasioux(m): 5:28pm On Apr 04, 2016
keyman0007:

Why do ladies like to pretend to be confused, when in the actual sense they know what they are doing, and what they want. It jut so annoying.

So this year i raise the marriage thing with my lady and she is like she wants to go for masters, that i should come see her parents then we do an introduction of some kind and she leaves, I told her a masters in the UK will mean i will wait till December 2017 to get married if she goes to a UK school and maybe 2018 if its a US or canadian school. I told her i am not trying to tie her career down, that why doesnt she go to LBS, since its an MBA she wants to do. I also discussed with my folks who are also desperate and they were like i should forget her she isnt the only lady in the world. what the guarantee if she goes she will not see someone else.

Sha i pulled out of the relationship and began to search again. only for her to come back and say she is sorry, she has reflected about every and that she is ready for marriage. Cos i liked her i dumped all other female admirers i had began to develop relationships with . I told her again about the LBS master and even told her that i am willing to allow her go do her masters oversees after we get married long as her dad will be willing to pay. Or if God blesses me i can sponsor it. She said she is ready for marriage even if i proposed today.


Sha with her change in position i decided to go see her parents in Lagos, the dad was receptive but the mum seem abit tough, wanted to knw what i did for a living and dall that. I then go see her uncle in Abj. I also told my folks she is having a rethink on the masters thing, that soften my parents. I then invited her to my place. She met my parents they really like her. she also met my siblings as well. My father even called her dad self and they seem to have started getting along.

Only for this babe to begin to say she will submit her school application to fulfill all righteousness. Then 2 days back she says i need to go see her folks to make my intentions. Then she is like she thinks she shd go for her masters now and brought the whole introduction story up again. That we should do introduction and then she travels. I told her i think she is trying to trap me, she is trying to trap me, We have been in a relationship for 2 year no kisses, no sex we even rarely hug. i am 28 she is 22. It is either she goes for her masters and then if she is still single when she returns am i also still single then we get married. It is nt heard of, in my culture. She is not even considering doing it in LBS.

We are not talking at the moment.
I am thinking of a way to break this news to my folks. cause they have already started seeing her as my wife.
I have told her i wont move an inch further in the relationship if she cant tell me what indeed her plan her.
it is either she goes overseas or does it in Nigeria and if it is overseas am nt giving any commitment.[/font]

IT just so annoying.

In my humble opinion you two are two young for this especially your girl.

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Re: How My Fiancee Tricked Me, What Can I Do To Get Out Of This Mess. by moshino(m): 5:28pm On Apr 04, 2016
@OP

Are you marrying because you're 28, and you and your folks believe that's the 'age' to marry, or are you marrying because you are mentally, emotionally and financially ready? Are you mentally, emotionally and financially ready to handle the dynamics, difficulties and challenges of marriage?

As for the girl in question, I can assure you 100%, she's NOT yet ready for marriage, if you stop her from going for her MBA overseas as she intends doing, she'll blame you everyday of your married life.

I don't mean to rain on your parade, but I've been married for 10 years, and I can tell you, its not a joke, ko easy ra ra o! All the novelty and excitement of the idea of being married to this your 'tomato Jos' will wear off in 6-12months, and you'll meet the thing called 'Life, Real Life', and if you're not mentally, emotionally and financially ready, you'll hate your life.

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Re: How My Fiancee Tricked Me, What Can I Do To Get Out Of This Mess. by lekonso: 5:28pm On Apr 04, 2016
She is just been tricky. She wants to tie you down just in case she could not get an alternative abroad so she can come back and not loose out in the end. She will go for her masters in abroad you cannot stop that. If she is serious about you she should accept to do her masters in Nigeria or else forget her.

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Re: How My Fiancee Tricked Me, What Can I Do To Get Out Of This Mess. by afroxyz: 5:29pm On Apr 04, 2016
Bros, she is just 22. She is not ready for marriage. Leave her to go for her masters and look for someone else

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Re: How My Fiancee Tricked Me, What Can I Do To Get Out Of This Mess. by Nobody: 5:29pm On Apr 04, 2016
keyman0007:

Why do ladies like to pretend to be confused, when in the actual sense they know what they are doing, and what they want. It jut so annoying.

So this year i raise the marriage thing with my lady and she is like she wants to go for masters, that i should come see her parents then we do an introduction of some kind and she leaves, I told her a masters in the UK will mean i will wait till December 2017 to get married if she goes to a UK school and maybe 2018 if its a US or canadian school. I told her i am not trying to tie her career down, that why doesnt she go to LBS, since its an MBA she wants to do. I also discussed with my folks who are also desperate and they were like i should forget her she isnt the only lady in the world. what the guarantee if she goes she will not see someone else.

Sha i pulled out of the relationship and began to search again. only for her to come back and say she is sorry, she has reflected about every and that she is ready for marriage. Cos i liked her i dumped all other female admirers i had began to develop relationships with . I told her again about the LBS master and even told her that i am willing to allow her go do her masters oversees after we get married long as her dad will be willing to pay. Or if God blesses me i can sponsor it. She said she is ready for marriage even if i proposed today.


Sha with her change in position i decided to go see her parents in Lagos, the dad was receptive but the mum seem abit tough, wanted to knw what i did for a living and dall that. I then go see her uncle in Abj. I also told my folks she is having a rethink on the masters thing, that soften my parents. I then invited her to my place. She met my parents they really like her. she also met my siblings as well. My father even called her dad self and they seem to have started getting along.

Only for this babe to begin to say she will submit her school application to fulfill all righteousness. Then 2 days back she says i need to go see her folks to make my intentions. Then she is like she thinks she shd go for her masters now and brought the whole introduction story up again. That we should do introduction and then she travels. I told her i think she is trying to trap me, she is trying to trap me, We have been in a relationship for 2 year no kisses, no sex we even rarely hug. i am 28 she is 22. It is either she goes for her masters and then if she is still single when she returns am i also still single then we get married. It is nt heard of, in my culture. She is not even considering doing it in LBS.

We are not talking at the moment.
I am thinking of a way to break this news to my folks. cause they have already started seeing her as my wife.
I have told her i wont move an inch further in the relationship if she cant tell me what indeed her plan her.
it is either she goes overseas or does it in Nigeria and if it is overseas am nt giving any commitment.[/font]

IT just so annoying.
go find wife oo

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Re: How My Fiancee Tricked Me, What Can I Do To Get Out Of This Mess. by Adaeze003(f): 5:29pm On Apr 04, 2016
keyman0007:


bro planning a marriage takes a while, counselling alone in our church is 6 months.

I have said it before i dont mind her going after we get married as long as her father is willing to sponsor her.


Remind me, what's wrong in getting married come 2018? Did the villagers say they won't accept marriage that year Or did they tie your wealth to getting married this year?

I mean, by then she'll be 24, you 30. Is that too late?

I think there's something more to the story... you don't trust her do you?

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Re: How My Fiancee Tricked Me, What Can I Do To Get Out Of This Mess. by gen2lpat(m): 5:29pm On Apr 04, 2016
@ 22 Marriage? Let her go brother. She's damned too young to be tied down in the name of marriage.

If you so love her, let her go. Wait if you want to or get another woman. I dont like guys coming here to talk about one gal when there are plenty of them out there.

If she doesn't live her supposed life @ 22 outside marriage, she will live it in marriage. The marriage mentality comes naturally with age.

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Re: How My Fiancee Tricked Me, What Can I Do To Get Out Of This Mess. by Lolia246(f): 5:30pm On Apr 04, 2016
Well for me,i think your girlfriend loves you but she is not ready to get married till after her masters,with her age and everything she feels she is too young.but if you truly love her why not goahead with the introduction stuffs,atleast both parents will be involved in the relationship so she wont be able to quite with regular communication.

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Re: How My Fiancee Tricked Me, What Can I Do To Get Out Of This Mess. by nonstan(m): 5:31pm On Apr 04, 2016
truthsayer007:


Bro ! You're not in a relationship, she's just using you, the earlier you open your eyes the better.

She's keeping you because She knows you have potential (So she's actually smart - So props to her) , She is probably intimate with someone else, and she is not ready to settle down yet.

You are 28 years, be smart bro ! please be smart !




Harsh truth

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Re: How My Fiancee Tricked Me, What Can I Do To Get Out Of This Mess. by delishpot: 5:31pm On Apr 04, 2016
Obason22:
My guy, i advice u go and search for other ladies, dnt feel like u are down, as a man move away to make away 4 ursef so dat u dnt regrect later, and one more thing u been in relatioship 4 2yrs no kis no s*x. Is she a virgin if yes its fair but wat if no, guy i tink sometin is wrong.

So she should bang Everyman she dates because she lost her virginity? Where is the logic there? So as OP wants to dump her now if he finally does and she has slept with him she should also sleep with the next guy and if he leaves or she decided he isn't the one she should date the next and bang him too? Bros abeg, even Ashewo dry repent too na.




Op, free the girl to pursue her dream. After men will say their wives did not contribute anything g to the success in life. Imagine tying a woman down because you want to marry her. If it was you OP that got this opportunity and she said No you would have tagged her enemy of progress. See talk, she can go after marriage as long as her dad sponsors her? Why are you and your family being wicked to her like this? I wish I knew her, I would advice her to leave you and your family ASAP

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Re: How My Fiancee Tricked Me, What Can I Do To Get Out Of This Mess. by dayowunmi(m): 5:32pm On Apr 04, 2016
Bros, my own advice is that you sign out from that relationship. How she go leave you for naija and relocate abroad for several years (I guess the program can't be less than two years), how would you cope sexually and otherwise? And what is the guarantee she won't elope with someone else while over there?

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Re: How My Fiancee Tricked Me, What Can I Do To Get Out Of This Mess. by Hybrid01: 5:33pm On Apr 04, 2016
Mologi:
Women..its her FRIENDS OR MUM that is talking rubbish into her ear...
I will advise you let everybody know the new development..
Cus tmuch would be expected....



Mo wa iyawo ooo
You never find wife since
Re: How My Fiancee Tricked Me, What Can I Do To Get Out Of This Mess. by Obason22(m): 5:33pm On Apr 04, 2016
My guy, i advice u go and search for other ladies, dnt feel like u are down, as a man move away to make away 4 ursef so dat u dnt regrect later, and one more thing u been in relatioship 4 2yrs no kis no s*x. Is she a virgin if yes its fair but wat if no, guy i tink sometin is wrong.

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