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keyman0007:
Bro i think i hv waited enough, finished uni when i was 20 did nysc 21, masters 22 and i hv worked for 5 years now, this year i will be 28.

I think someone needs to remind you that the world doesn't revolve around you. You keep making reference to you, you, you. To think you even did your own masters early too. Smh

Anyhoo, you should let her go if you cannot handle all that. Plenty fish in the sea...

Everyone needs to understand that he even suggested she did it here in Nigeria. buh she no gree. ya'll think 22 is early to marry huh? this i d same reason y at 30 no man don "price" any girl because she go dey feel say she don pursue degree. ur mother got married n reproduce u. y at 22 marraige dey fear u...later u go dey go all d church dey disturb all una village witch whereas na u hold ursef. i have an aunt who is 45 n cant marry. na di type tin she do sef.

Without wanting to sound insultiive, I think you are shallow minded.

Maybe you are 22 too.

dare2differ:
How isn't it feasible? She is not going there forever?

You can do your marriage in a month's time. Spend time together till September.


Explain to my why it is not feasible?




If she can afford a better school? Why shouldn't she go for it?

Guy no time just gbera!!!

keyman0007:
Why do ladies like to pretend to be confused, when in the actual sense they know what they are doing, and what they want. It jut so annoying.

So this year i raise the marriage thing with my lady and she is like she wants to go for masters, that i should come see her parents then we do an introduction of some kind and she leaves, I told her a masters in the UK will mean i will wait till December 2017 to get married if she goes to a UK school and maybe 2018 if its a US or canadian school. I told her i am not trying to tie her career down, that why doesnt she go to LBS, since its an MBA she wants to do. I also discussed with my folks who are also desperate and they were like i should forget her she isnt the only lady in the world. what the guarantee if she goes she will not see someone else.

Sha i pulled out of the relationship and began to search again. only for her to come back and say she is sorry, she has reflected about every and that she is ready for marriage. Cos i liked her i dumped all other female admirers i had began to develop relationships with . I told her again about the LBS master and even told her that i am willing to allow her go do her masters oversees after we get married long as her dad will be willing to pay. Or if God blesses me i can sponsor it. She said she is ready for marriage even if i proposed today.


Sha with her change in position i decided to go see her parents in Lagos, the dad was receptive but the mum seem abit tough, wanted to knw what i did for a living and dall that. I then go see her uncle in Abj. I also told my folks she is having a rethink on the masters thing, that soften my parents. I then invited her to my place. She met my parents they really like her. she also met my siblings as well. My father even called her dad self and they seem to have started getting along.

Only for this babe to begin to say she will submit her school application to fulfill all righteousness. Then 2 days back she says i need to go see her folks to make my intentions. Then she is like she thinks she shd go for her masters now and brought the whole introduction story up again. That we should do introduction and then she travels. I told her i think she is trying to trap me, she is trying to trap me, We have been in a relationship for 2 year no kisses, no sex we even rarely hug. i am 28 she is 22. It is either she goes for her masters and then if she is still single when she returns am i also still single then we get married. It is nt heard of, in my culture. She is not even considering doing it in LBS.

We are not talking at the moment.
I am thinking of a way to break this news to my folks. cause they have already started seeing her as my wife.
I have told her i wont move an inch further in the relationship if she cant tell me what indeed her plan her.
it is either she goes overseas or does it in Nigeria and if it is overseas am nt giving any commitment.[/font]

IT just so annoying.

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I really don't understand how people can conveniently insinuate that a 22 year old graduate female shouln't be ready for marriage and d girls support this. As much as people say times have changed, most of our mothers got married and stayed in thier marriages from tender ages of 15 and above. This is coupled with d fact that these women hardly had any advanced formal education. Mr OP that lady wants to eat her cake and have it. I suggest u maintain your stand and prepare yourself for d worst. Childish men and women everywhere!

keyman0007:
Why do ladies like to pretend to be confused, when in the actual sense they know what they are doing, and what they want. It jut so annoying.

So this year i raise the marriage thing with my lady and she is like she wants to go for masters, that i should come see her parents then we do an introduction of some kind and she leaves, I told her a masters in the UK will mean i will wait till December 2017 to get married if she goes to a UK school and maybe 2018 if its a US or canadian school. I told her i am not trying to tie her career down, that why doesnt she go to LBS, since its an MBA she wants to do. I also discussed with my folks who are also desperate and they were like i should forget her she isnt the only lady in the world. what the guarantee if she goes she will not see someone else.

Sha i pulled out of the relationship and began to search again. only for her to come back and say she is sorry, she has reflected about every and that she is ready for marriage. Cos i liked her i dumped all other female admirers i had began to develop relationships with . I told her again about the LBS master and even told her that i am willing to allow her go do her masters oversees after we get married long as her dad will be willing to pay. Or if God blesses me i can sponsor it. She said she is ready for marriage even if i proposed today.


Sha with her change in position i decided to go see her parents in Lagos, the dad was receptive but the mum seem abit tough, wanted to knw what i did for a living and dall that. I then go see her uncle in Abj. I also told my folks she is having a rethink on the masters thing, that soften my parents. I then invited her to my place. She met my parents they really like her. she also met my siblings as well. My father even called her dad self and they seem to have started getting along.

Only for this babe to begin to say she will submit her school application to fulfill all righteousness. Then 2 days back she says i need to go see her folks to make my intentions. Then she is like she thinks she shd go for her masters now and brought the whole introduction story up again. That we should do introduction and then she travels. I told her i think she is trying to trap me, she is trying to trap me, We have been in a relationship for 2 year no kisses, no sex we even rarely hug. i am 28 she is 22. It is either she goes for her masters and then if she is still single when she returns am i also still single then we get married. It is nt heard of, in my culture. She is not even considering doing it in LBS.

We are not talking at the moment.
I am thinking of a way to break this news to my folks. cause they have already started seeing her as my wife.
I have told her i wont move an inch further in the relationship if she cant tell me what indeed her plan her.
it is either she goes overseas or does it in Nigeria and if it is overseas am nt giving any commitment.[/font]

IT just so annoying.

money wey una suppose use start business after wedding she wan go use do masters. on a serious note its obvious she isn't ready for marriage yet but wants u for insurance. she nor wan loose u but she nor wan marry yet. dude u r being used wise up

bennymark:
Without wanting to sound insultiive, I think you are shallow minded.

Maybe you are 22 too.

Without wanting to sound insultiive, I think you are illogical and irrational

Maybe you are desperate, selfish and easily influenced too

slyrone:
money wey una suppose use start business after wedding she wan go use do masters. on a serious note its obvious she isn't ready for marriage yet but wants u for insurance. she nor wan loose u but she nor wan marry yet. dude u r being used wise up

Did she tell you that she wanted business? Na your money she wan use for masters

All these desperate shallow minded guys sef

Chizzy759831:
Everyone needs to understand that he even suggested she did it here in Nigeria. buh she no gree. ya'll think 22 is early to marry huh? this i d same reason y at 30 no man don "price" any girl because she go dey feel say she don pursue degree. ur mother got married n reproduce u. y at 22 marraige dey fear u...later u go dey go all d church dey disturb all una village witch whereas na u hold ursef. i have an aunt who is 45 n cant marry. na di type tin she do sef.

If you have money, opt for mediocre things over quality things

keyman0007:
Bro i think i hv waited enough, finished uni when i was 20 did[b] nysc 21, masters 22[/b] and i hv worked for 5 years now, this year i will be 28.

Really? Masters at 22?

If you had a child and you knew you could offer her a better education for a year or two, would you be happy if she threw it away for an arrangement that would cost her partner next to nothing?

dare2differ:
Really? Masters at 22?

If you had a child and you knew you could offer her a better education for a year or two, would you be happy if she threw it away for an arrangement that would cost her partner next to nothing?

lol! it depends on the kind of man that comes to ask for her hand in marriage.

keyman0007:
lol! it depends on the kind of man that comes to ask for her hand in marriage.

I disagree with you

If you were a father, you would know. Trust me.

Menzy86:
I really don't understand how people can conveniently insinuate that a 22 year old graduate female shouln't be ready for marriage and d girls support this. As much as people say times have changed, most of our mothers got married and stayed in thier marriages from tender ages of 15 and above. This is coupled with d fact that these women hardly had any advanced formal education. Mr OP that lady wants to eat her cake and have it. I suggest u maintain your stand and prepare yourself for d worst. Childish men and women everywhere!

uhmmm se oro niyen

the funny part is the way everyone keeps bashing me like i am a child abuser na wa o.


Her parents never mentioned for ones that their daughter is too young and they know their daughter better.


She is from a well to do family. I went to her house to see her parents, both mum and dad and they were very nice, and we talked . Told them am seeing their daughter, You need to see the drilling i got from her mum, all manner of questions, where do you work? where are your parents? how old are you? hw did you meet her? alot of question ohl!!!

she even gave me some books to read about courtship and preparing for marriage and went as far as reading some part of the book that talked abt requirement for marriage like financially emotionally and spiritually matured.

And since then I have been communicating with them and they have spoken to my folks as well.

She has met my parents too and they know her age and they never for ones said she is too young.

Maybe when i mention marriage to her folks the game may change.

dare2differ:
I disagree with you

If you were a father, you would know. Trust me.

A 22 years old isn't too young to get married but this one isn't ready, let her be . 28 is ripe enough and it's obvious there is no strong bond between you two, find who is ready and compatible.

Guy bone dos folks telling u or making u feel like u want to marry an underage lady. Pray tell,how is 22yrs underage. Its even the best time for a lady to get married .. Most of dem wont evn hesitate to date such ladies out of wedlock or evn impregnate her inadvertently. I married my own Wifey when she was 21 going on 22. Never regretted it. Ladies at dat age r very fertile. Why do u think most ladies get knocked up with pregnancy in their late teenage years evn @ d very 1st time of copulting with a male.

keyman0007:
the funny part is the way everyone keeps bashing me like i am a child abuser na wa o.


Her parents never mentioned for ones that their daughter is too young and they know their daughter better.


She is from a well to do family. I went to her house to see her parents, both mum and dad and they were very nice, and we talked . Told them am seeing their daughter, You need to see the drilling i got from her mum, all manner of questions, where do you work? where are your parents? how old are you? hw did you meet her? alot of question ohl!!!

she even gave me some books to read about courtship and preparing for marriage and went as far as reading some part of the book that talked abt requirement for marriage like financially emotionally and spiritually matured.

















And since then I have been communicating with them and they have spoken to my folks as well.

She has met my parents too and they know her age and they never for ones said she is too young.

Maybe when i mention marriage to her folks the game may change.
Guy bone dos folks telling u or making u feel like u want to marry an underage lady. Pray tell,how is 22yrs underage. Its even the best time for a lady to get married .. Most of dem wont evn hesitate to date such ladies out of wedlock or evn impregnate her inadvertently. I married my own Wifey when she was 21 going on 22. Never regretted it. Ladies at dat age r very fertile. Why do u think most ladies get knocked up with pregnancy in their late teenage years evn @ d very 1st time of copulting with a male.

keyman0007:
the funny part is the way everyone keeps bashing me like i am a child abuser na wa o.


Her parents never mentioned for ones that their daughter is too young and they know their daughter better.


She is from a well to do family. I went to her house to see her parents, both mum and dad and they were very nice, and we talked . Told them am seeing their daughter, You need to see the drilling i got from her mum, all manner of questions, where do you work? where are your parents? how old are you? hw did you meet her? alot of question ohl!!!

she even gave me some books to read about courtship and preparing for marriage and went as far as reading some part of the book that talked abt requirement for marriage like financially emotionally and spiritually matured.

And since then I have been communicating with them and they have spoken to my folks as well.

She has met my parents too and they know her age and they never for ones said she is too young.

Maybe when i mention marriage to her folks the game may change.

You are not a child abuser. We are asking you to be considerate

Drilling is normal joor

Tell her folks

"Cos i liked her i dumped ALL OTHER FEMALE ADMIRERS i had began to develop relationships with" - Baba tuale you're too mush!

dare2differ:
Did she tell you that she wanted business? Na your money she wan use for masters

All these desperate shallow minded guys sef

I see u wey dey deep minded. she go do d masters come back like the way broda segun did still come dey find work. go play with sand if u ve got nothing to say

slyrone:
I see u wey dey deep minded. she go do d masters come back like the way broda segun did still come dey find work. go play with sand if u ve got nothing to say

Don't you get it? levels differ guy

If you get that kin money, na business you go do

If she get that kin money, na school she go go

That should tell you that she is from a financially buoyant family therefore you have no fvcking right tot tell her what she and her father should do with their money. It is not yours! Mentality differ bro!

However I think you still need an education.

keyman0007:
Why do ladies like to pretend to be confused, when in the actual sense they know what they are doing, and what they want. It jut so annoying.

So this year i raise the marriage thing with my lady and she is like she wants to go for masters, that i should come see her parents then we do an introduction of some kind and she leaves, I told her a masters in the UK will mean i will wait till December 2017 to get married if she goes to a UK school and maybe 2018 if its a US or canadian school. I told her i am not trying to tie her career down, that why doesnt she go to LBS, since its an MBA she wants to do. I also discussed with my folks who are also desperate and they were like i should forget her she isnt the only lady in the world. what the guarantee if she goes she will not see someone else.

Sha i pulled out of the relationship and began to search again. only for her to come back and say she is sorry, she has reflected about every and that she is ready for marriage. Cos i liked her i dumped all other female admirers i had began to develop relationships with . I told her again about the LBS master and even told her that i am willing to allow her go do her masters oversees after we get married long as her dad will be willing to pay. Or if God blesses me i can sponsor it. She said she is ready for marriage even if i proposed today.


Sha with her change in position i decided to go see her parents in Lagos, the dad was receptive but the mum seem abit tough, wanted to knw what i did for a living and dall that. I then go see her uncle in Abj. I also told my folks she is having a rethink on the masters thing, that soften my parents. I then invited her to my place. She met my parents they really like her. she also met my siblings as well. My father even called her dad self and they seem to have started getting along.

Only for this babe to begin to say she will submit her school application to fulfill all righteousness. Then 2 days back she says i need to go see her folks to make my intentions. Then she is like she thinks she shd go for her masters now and brought the whole introduction story up again. That we should do introduction and then she travels. I told her i think she is trying to trap me, she is trying to trap me, We have been in a relationship for 2 year no kisses, no sex we even rarely hug. i am 28 she is 22. It is either she goes for her masters and then if she is still single when she returns am i also still single then we get married. It is nt heard of, in my culture. She is not even considering doing it in LBS.

We are not talking at the moment.
I am thinking of a way to break this news to my folks. cause they have already started seeing her as my wife.
I have told her i wont move an inch further in the relationship if she cant tell me what indeed her plan her.
it is either she goes overseas or does it in Nigeria and if it is overseas am nt giving any commitment.[/font]

IT just so annoying.

The best advice u will ever get for free. Go ahead with her plans, since it's just introduction. It's not marriage yet, you can break it if u see better option along the line. So my brother, you are still young since she is only going to u.k. You know she also needs to mature more a little so she can be a total package.

oyetunji12:
uhmmm se oro niyen

Not everyone understands whatever language you are writing o.

in Adekunle's voice...marry me ooh baby, baba mee retiomo...



baba u drink jaz... abeg move on

Menzy86:
Not everyone understands whatever language you are writing o.

it means /na talk b dat/

dare2differ:
Don't you get it? levels differ guy

If you get that kin money, na business you go do

If she get that kin money, na school she go go

That should tell you that she is from a financially buoyant family therefore you have no fvcking right tot tell her what she and her father should do with their money. It is not yours! Mentality differ bro!

However I think you still need an education.

of cos I still need and anyone who feels he or she has had enough education is deluded. quote me again n let thunder strike u. must u comment?

slyrone:
of cos I still need and anyone who feels he or she has had enough education is deluded. quote me again n let thunder strike u. must u comment?

Must you be a shallow thinker?

dare2differ:
Really? Masters at 22?

If you had a child and you knew you could offer her a better education for a year or two, would you be happy if she threw it away for an arrangement that would cost her partner next to nothing?

Dat the truth bro

Lol, you are pathetic, I think I already saw a thread were somebori analysed how u bcame a bone of contention and had to be shut out, I refuse to give u relevance.

If u Eva happen to find a man that proposes marriage, please tell him to wait till you finish masters and PhD. Na ur type dey grow grey hair for dia papa house without man to price yu for 1kobo.

Grow up, this is the 21st century, 'Good' women full everywhere

dare2differ:
Without wanting to sound insultiive, I think you are illogical and irrational

Maybe you are desperate, selfish and easily influenced too

I learnt alot from this thread, it gave me fresh insight about how people see things different.

I think we were both selfish pursuing our thing.

Sha i took the advice of some people and decided to let her be. she can go anyhw to school.

But she came yesterday and said she want to go to LBS, i tried convincing her otherwise but its like her mind is made up.
Let me hear i wasnt happy, but i made it clear she should still think abt it sha.

Last last it what both of you think and believes that matters.

And pls 28 is old all those fathers saying 28 is young shd think twice, i be papa abeg, i finished uni 8 years ago and been working since then. I am over due for marriage, shd even be a daddy by now sef.

Thanks everyone for ur comments.

You no see her moniker? dare2differ small sense no dey at all, no waste ur data dey answer unnder 18 wey neva sabi wetin life be, her/him matter go always differ from oda people ownn

Check out d comment above mine and see hw irrelevant and shallow ur 'deep' mind is @dare2differ

slyrone:
I see u wey dey deep minded. she go do d masters come back like the way broda segun did still come dey find work. go play with sand if u ve got nothing to say

bennymark:
Lol, you are pathetic, I think I already saw a thread were somebori analysed how u bcame a bone of contention and had to be shut out, I refuse to give u relevance.

If u Eva happen to find a man that proposes marriage, please tell him to wait till you finish masters and PhD. Na ur type dey grow grey hair for dia papa house without man to price yu for 1kobo.

Grow up, this is the 21st century, 'Good' women full everywhere

Who is this cave man?

When you have daughter, as soon as she starts menstruating thrust her into marriage/. tell her not to strive for anything else lest she starts growing grey hairs.

Now Swerve!