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Re: The Major Reason Why Many Ladies Remain Single For A Long Time. by Pwhitelaw(m): 1:14am On Apr 15, 2016
Yewandequeen:

No joor

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Re: The Major Reason Why Many Ladies Remain Single For A Long Time. by Yewandequeen(f): 1:15am On Apr 15, 2016
Pwhitelaw:
.... The tin is under lock.. You are safe bae
Runs outta thread
Re: The Major Reason Why Many Ladies Remain Single For A Long Time. by Pwhitelaw(m): 1:17am On Apr 15, 2016
Yewandequeen:

Runs outta thread
.. Kindly take safety precaution while running
Re: The Major Reason Why Many Ladies Remain Single For A Long Time. by Yewandequeen(f): 1:20am On Apr 15, 2016
Pwhitelaw:
.. Kindly take safety precaution while running
like u care undecided
Re: The Major Reason Why Many Ladies Remain Single For A Long Time. by Pwhitelaw(m): 1:22am On Apr 15, 2016
Yewandequeen:
like u care undecided
....you know I care to be awake by this time providing my broad chest as water bed with my arms as duvet
Re: The Major Reason Why Many Ladies Remain Single For A Long Time. by Yewandequeen(f): 1:25am On Apr 15, 2016
Pwhitelaw:
....you know I care to be awake by this time providing my broad chest as water bed with my arms as duvet
u just trying to lure me into ur den so as to devour me angry
Re: The Major Reason Why Many Ladies Remain Single For A Long Time. by Norajones(f): 1:25am On Apr 15, 2016
Florblu:
And you actually made sense
It's not our fault
We want comfort and fulfillment
God bless you sister.men keep complaining that women wants rich and already made men, well they should quit complaining and work hard to make women want them too.we are creatures of love,attention,care. We love good things. Is that a crime?
Re: The Major Reason Why Many Ladies Remain Single For A Long Time. by Pwhitelaw(m): 1:28am On Apr 15, 2016
Yewandequeen:

u just trying to lure me into ur den so as to devour me angry
... Am not a lion.. Am that gentle parrot singing behind your window.

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Re: The Major Reason Why Many Ladies Remain Single For A Long Time. by Yewandequeen(f): 1:29am On Apr 15, 2016
Pwhitelaw:
... Am not a lion.. Am that gentle parrot singing behind your window.
smiley
Re: The Major Reason Why Many Ladies Remain Single For A Long Time. by Pwhitelaw(m): 1:31am On Apr 15, 2016
Re: The Major Reason Why Many Ladies Remain Single For A Long Time. by eflintsone(m): 1:47am On Apr 15, 2016
Florblu:
And you actually made sense
It's not our fault
We want comfort and fulfillment
who does not want comfort ?? but we all gotta start from somewhere ...
Re: The Major Reason Why Many Ladies Remain Single For A Long Time. by eflintsone(m): 1:51am On Apr 15, 2016
Norajones:
God bless you sister.men keep complaining that women wants rich and already made men, well they should quit complaining and work hard to make women want them too.we are creatures of love,attention,care. We love good things. Is that a crime?
sadly women gotta work hard as well to make certain men want them too ... every human be it a man,woman or animal wants love, attention and care
Re: The Major Reason Why Many Ladies Remain Single For A Long Time. by Nobody: 2:01am On Apr 15, 2016
KingAdeOluomo1:
shuuuuu he don reach dat stage ni

Ok I rest my case


But for dat kin odd hour hmmmmmm
I dey suspect you
lol
Suspect say wetin cheesy
Abi make we go 2geda ni
It's just a mEeting sad
Re: The Major Reason Why Many Ladies Remain Single For A Long Time. by diva90: 2:04am On Apr 15, 2016
Very brilliant article! It's unfortunate that many Nigerian women are very lazy and would rather seek for a well to-do/rich man to marry instead of a man they can grow with. They forget that these men who are rich today started from somewhere and that the men who are struggling today may be be even richer than the men they are seeking today. Most of them who sought rich men eventually enter the marriage and don't even have peace of mind... So many examples out there. Truth is bitter but I'll say it....it is best to seek a man who is still coming up and grow with him. Like OP stated, females should try to have their own jobs and be financially independent instead of waiting for a man to do everything for them

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Re: The Major Reason Why Many Ladies Remain Single For A Long Time. by Nobody: 2:08am On Apr 15, 2016
chimah3:
Ladies of our generation are lazy pipo!! undecided lipsrsealed



Btw to open leg, n b dropping children is not the only purpose God wasted time creating you!

grin grin grin grin
You are wicked. grin

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Re: The Major Reason Why Many Ladies Remain Single For A Long Time. by Nobody: 2:20am On Apr 15, 2016
Norajones:
God bless you sister.men keep complaining that women wants rich and already made men, well they should quit complaining and work hard to make women want them too.we are creatures of love,attention,care. We love good things. Is that a crime?

Hushhhh. You need to realize that in this world of ours, you also need to be compatible financially. There are lots of girls who work and can actually contribute financially to the Union unlike some girls like you that would rather sit and wait for men to " make women want them". Any reasonable man would prefer to marry such a girl than marry you that won't contribute any but want "love,attention and care".

Wake up,this is 2016. You sef try to make men want you. The pv$$y u get,those hard working girls have it.

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Re: The Major Reason Why Many Ladies Remain Single For A Long Time. by greatsodade(m): 2:23am On Apr 15, 2016
DharmyYinks:


And the guys who can give u all these are busy wallowing in ya "Friend-Zone".


Must the "Comfort nd fulfillment" come from a man??


U speak my mind bro....Must it be at a man's expense for them to be comfortable and fuifill?
This shows that the gender is not equal at all for those of our ladies with this kind of mindset and are still shouting gender equality cos if so they won't av to think like this.
Re: The Major Reason Why Many Ladies Remain Single For A Long Time. by Acidosis(m): 2:28am On Apr 15, 2016
The truth is many Nigerian men are not ready to get married.

The rate at which the female folks admire expensive weddings is scary. You see them everywhere on Instagram, Bella Naija, etc., following the latest wedding updates in town, they download videos of rich couples dancing and all, some of whom got married straight after NYSC with their father's stolen wealth. Yet, they wanna be like them.

Ladies, these freaking attitudes scare men away!! No one enjoys spending money like mis-programmed ATMs. Unless your money is stolen, you'll always weigh your options.

And please, ladies should understand that sometimes when a guy says he's not ready, it doesn't mean he won't get married to you. Before you leave, try and understand his reasons and see whether you fit into his plans.

The photoshoot, the jamboree is the least thing on a guy's mind. These things do not mean a thing to us!! We don't impress colleagues with expensive weddings! A guy would naturally want to impress people with his business, job, car, or house, than a sponsored ad on bellanaija. Ladies get these things clearly, and take your minds off frivolities.

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Re: The Major Reason Why Many Ladies Remain Single For A Long Time. by Acidosis(m): 3:02am On Apr 15, 2016
I feel I should post this, it will help someone

Isolation and Routine
With age, people tend to retreat further and further into their comfort zones. Modern women are more and more successful, accomplished and self-sufficient, which are all extremely positive developments

Yet as both men and women get more comfortable, be it financially or practically, it is also easier for them to form a bubble from which it is difficult to emerge. It can feel harder to take risks or put themselves out there. After a long day’s work, many of us may feel more like putting on pajamas and crawling into bed than going out into the uncertain and anxiety-provoking world of meeting people.

The encouragement we feel to stay home or stay safe often comes from our critical inner voice. This inner coach offers self-soothing words, “Just stay in tonight and relax. You’re fine on your own. Have a glass of wine. Watch that show you like.” The problem with this voice is that it later turns on you with thoughts like, “What a loser you are, home alone again. You’ll be lonely the rest of your life. You’re not getting any younger etc.!

Source: PsychAlive
Re: The Major Reason Why Many Ladies Remain Single For A Long Time. by Bollinger(m): 3:22am On Apr 15, 2016
Florblu:
And you actually made sense
It's not our fault, We want comfort and fulfillment

You mean most African women are lazy..
Re: The Major Reason Why Many Ladies Remain Single For A Long Time. by Bollinger(m): 3:30am On Apr 15, 2016
Xiadnat:
That's right! I am still single because I have high expectations. Not for the man though, but for myself.

I once dated (and engaged) to a doctor who earned over 200k with a beach house, and another tri-level home in a wealthy part of city and who could give me the 'world' with just a smile as he put it.

Guess what? I decided I rather struggle and become my own "doctor". Instead of wearing a t-shirt that says "I married a doctor", I decided to wear "I am a doctor". Damnit.

Now, If I saw a future with him, maybe that would be a different case. But, I did not. But, anyway, I am a girl of different breed--more like the masculine side of me. I did not want to marry until i had something to offer or contribute or at least feel financially and (satisfactorily) ready.

However, it is a different story tho in many parts of the world where women have very little to no other options BUT to seek and marry a wealthy fellow, or at least one with sustainable source of income.



Your story is flawed. So, because you wanted to be a doctor you broke off an engagement. You did not break off the engagement because you wanted to be a doctor. You broke it off because you did not love him.

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Re: The Major Reason Why Many Ladies Remain Single For A Long Time. by Fime2000: 3:35am On Apr 15, 2016
correct.
Re: The Major Reason Why Many Ladies Remain Single For A Long Time. by samx4real(m): 3:37am On Apr 15, 2016
Florblu:
And you actually made sense
It's not our fault
We want comfort and fulfillment


Comfort, Wealth and good life is not instantaneous but progressive!!!
Re: The Major Reason Why Many Ladies Remain Single For A Long Time. by tomdon(m): 3:38am On Apr 15, 2016
Xiadnat:
That's right! I am still single because I have high expectations. Not for the man though, but for myself.

I once dated (and engaged) to a doctor who earned over 200k with a beach house, and another tri-level home in a wealthy part of city and who could give me the 'world' with just a smile as he put it.

Guess what? I decided I rather struggle and become my own "doctor". Instead of wearing a t-shirt that says "I married a doctor", I decided to wear "I am a doctor". Damnit.

Now, If I saw a future with him, maybe that would be a different case. But, I did not. But, anyway, I am a girl of different breed--more like the masculine side of me. I did not want to marry until i had something to offer or contribute or at least feel financially and (satisfactorily) ready.

However, it is a different story tho in many parts of the world where women have very little to no other options BUT to seek and marry a wealthy fellow, or at least one with sustainable source of income.










absolute rubbish
there's nothing wrong in marrying a man who's already successful and can help you succeed too, after all you're his better half.
out of ignorance, you may have turned down someone who can love you genuinely and here you are bragging foolishly.
what assures you that when you get to become the damn doctor that you want to be, you will then be appreciated more?
have doctors not been turned down before? have other ladies some of whom earn above a meagre 200k not been turned down? for some men, the basis of their love goes beyond what women earn, that she earns high is not a certificate

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Re: The Major Reason Why Many Ladies Remain Single For A Long Time. by theEYe21(f): 3:54am On Apr 15, 2016
This is a solid reason why women are scared to be involved with a guy that's struggling, because they know that once they help the guy to become successful, the guy could leave at any moment since he's gotten what he wanted, and that would be a massive heart break for them. It happens a lot in Nigeria, that's why a woman would rather get involved with a guy in her own level or higher. And again, I would advice ladies to go for the educated guys or guys go for the educated ladies. Marriage last longer when 2 educated people are involved. Education or knowledge is key.
poseidon12:

Good lady. Your type are rare in Nigeria. And your hubby also seems to be a real gentleman. Some guys will get such assistance and still go ahead to betray their benefactor.
Re: The Major Reason Why Many Ladies Remain Single For A Long Time. by theEYe21(f): 3:58am On Apr 15, 2016
Aboki language. Or should I say this guy na Boko haram grin grin grin
SmartMugu:

What language is this?

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Re: The Major Reason Why Many Ladies Remain Single For A Long Time. by theEYe21(f): 4:02am On Apr 15, 2016
This will still happen after the girl has brought the guy up to this level. It's still the same thing, whether struggling or no struggle.
prince3009:
The funny thing is tat ladies of today crave for "Love, Care and Attention" with Faithfulness from the man as an icing on the cake. Moreover, they don't want a struggling man because they want a life of luxury!

Now here is the problem....A man who can afford to give a woman all the luxury she needs is 99% likely to cheat on her because....Hellooooo....other women want to own that Hermès Birkin bag your rich hubby bought for you so they will either do everything to share him with you or to even snatch him from you! The rich husband is likely to be too busy with work and international trips so he keeps you locked up in his mansion 24hrs a day (you don't need to go to the market cos the maids will do that) and then after some months or years, the harsh reality that she is lacking that attention and love will begin to dawn on her especially when she becomes aware that her husband is frolicking with other hot girls outside!

It's like being between a rock and a hard place. The decision is yours to make as a woman
Re: The Major Reason Why Many Ladies Remain Single For A Long Time. by G8Arthur(m): 4:28am On Apr 15, 2016
missmalachi:
I concur with u.
I met my hubby as a fresh graduate who just finished serving n applying for job.i ws in my yr 1 then.i always support him wit d little moni my parent gv to me but cant even let my friends knw cos they will laugh at me for givin a man money.

The job that made him who he is today i gave him money to travel to lagos 4 the exam on getting back they called him for interview n no moni to go back i had to lie to my dad n go money again wc i gave him n he got he job wc ws an oil company.

Now the bobo adore me die.wen we play n gist abt d past i jokely tell him i knw him with one shoe n he will reply it ws 3 shoes ooo.

Am glad i started with him.

Yes dear. I no send women but ur type usually win my heart. U got what u deserved. That guy will never leave u for even his mother. That's the way it works. U had wisdom from God.

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Re: The Major Reason Why Many Ladies Remain Single For A Long Time. by madjune(m): 4:30am On Apr 15, 2016
Xiadnat:
That's right! I am still single because I have high expectations. Not for the man though, but for myself.

I once dated (and engaged) to a doctor who earned over 200k with a beach house, and another tri-level home in a wealthy part of city and who could give me the 'world' with just a smile as he put it.

Guess what? I decided I rather struggle and become my own "doctor". Instead of wearing a t-shirt that says "I married a doctor", I decided to wear "I am a doctor". Damnit.

Now, If I saw a future with him, maybe that would be a different case. But, I did not. But, anyway, I am a girl of different breed--more like the masculine side of me. I did not want to marry until i had something to offer or contribute or at least feel financially and (satisfactorily) ready.

However, it is a different story tho in many parts of the world where women have very little to no other options BUT to seek and marry a wealthy fellow, or at least one with sustainable source of income.









Are you gay?
Re: The Major Reason Why Many Ladies Remain Single For A Long Time. by G8Arthur(m): 4:40am On Apr 15, 2016
Brugo:
Hmmmm. Let me state one simple truth.

It is not easy to be faithful to one girlfriend when you can afford to trip more than one classy vixen without feeling the pinch (financially). Women will come around you when you have visible wealth. They always start out like friends then they start claiming territory. It's left to you to remember your loving girlfriends or remember her flaws.

My thoughts in urs but am really done with the importation stuffs.
Re: The Major Reason Why Many Ladies Remain Single For A Long Time. by AleAirHub(m): 5:05am On Apr 15, 2016
Florblu:
And you actually made sense
It's not our fault
We want comfort and fulfillment

Re: The Major Reason Why Many Ladies Remain Single For A Long Time. by TheProphetess(f): 5:11am On Apr 15, 2016
tomdon:



absolute rubbish
there's nothing wrong in marrying a man who's already successful and can help you succeed too, after all you're his better half.
out of ignorance, you may have turned down someone who can love you genuinely and here you are bragging foolishly.
what assures you that when you get to become the damn doctor that you want to be, you will then be appreciated more?
have doctors not been turned down before? have other ladies some of whom earn above a meagre 200k not been turned down? for some men, the basis of their love goes beyond what women earn, that she earns high is not a certificate


If women want to make their own money complain
If women want to take the money of her husband complain

She wants to make her own money so she won't have to depend on her husband. What is wrong in that? She did not say it is a certificate.

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