DharmyYinks:
Ladies nowadays be looking for already made guys. What they don't knw is that most of these guys don't giv a damn bout y'all because if u leave d guy, other ladies will flock in nd if u don't wanna leave, the guy can dump u for anoda chick.


I knw y'all wanna secure ya future by goin after 'already made guys' but the only future u can truly secure is the one u built with the guy while he was a nobody. Ask TuFace nd Annie.


Bring sumtin to the table... mak ursef valuable such that a guy will be scared to lose u nd not some street rat looking for a shelter in a mansion. U'll definitely die of poison

Silsilah:
, sorry to interrupt, just passing passing

Silsilah:
, sorry to interrupt, just passing passing

Pwhitelaw:
.....

Silsilah:

Sorry Sir, I was caught in the cross....

Florblu:
And you actually made sense
It's not our fault
We want comfort and fulfillment

NobleAngell:
So now what's gonna happen to the already made men? If we don't marry them, who then will? You want them to remain single and die alone? No! That'll be unfair.

Florblu:
And you actually made sense
It's not our fault
We want comfort and fulfilment

Pwhitelaw:
... Don't even know if you are a he or she... You are welcome ma/sir

Xiadnat:
That's right! I am still single because I have high expectations. Not for the man though, but for myself.

I once dated (and engaged) to a doctor who earned over 200k with a beach house, and another tri-level home in a wealthy part of city and who could give me the 'world' with just a smile as he put it.

Guess what? I decided I rather struggle and become my own "doctor". Instead of wearing a t-shirt that says "I married a doctor", I decided to wear "I am a doctor". Damnit.

Now, If I saw a future with him, maybe that would be a different case. But, I did not. But, anyway, I am a girl of different breed--more like the masculine side of me. I did not want to marry until i had something to offer or contribute or at least feel financially and (satisfactorily) ready.

However, it is a different story tho in many parts of the world where women have very little to no other options BUT to seek and marry a wealthy fellow, or at least one with sustainable source of income.

Silsilah:

I'm a He, confirm

Florblu:
And you actually made sense
It's not our fault
We want comfort and fulfillment

NobleAngell:
So now what's gonna happen to the already made men? If we don't marry them, who then will? You want them to remain single and die alone? No! That'll be unfair.

missmalachi:
I concur with u.
I met my hubby as a fresh graduate who just finished serving n applying for job.i ws in my yr 1 then.i always support him wit d little moni my parent gv to me but cant even let my friends knw cos they will laugh at me for givin a man money.

The job that made him who he is today i gave him money to travel to lagos 4 the exam on getting back they called him for interview n no moni to go back i had to lie to my dad n go money again wc i gave him n he got he job wc ws an oil company.

Now the bobo adore me die.wen we play n gist abt d past i jokely tell him i knw him with one shoe n he will reply it ws 3 shoes ooo.

Am glad i started with him.

midehi2:
love conquers everything, whether poor or rich

NobleAngell:
So now what's gonna happen to the already made men? If we don't marry them, who then will? You want them to remain single and die alone? No! That'll be unfair.

diva90:
Very brilliant article! It's unfortunate that many Nigerian women are very lazy and would rather seek for a well to-do/rich man to marry instead of a man they can grow with. They forget that these men who are rich today started from somewhere and that the men who are struggling today may be be even richer than the men they are seeking today. Most of them who sought rich men eventually enter the marriage and don't even have peace of mind... So many examples out there. Truth is bitter but I'll say it....it is best to seek a man who is still coming up and grow with him. Like OP stated, females should try to have their own jobs and be financially independent instead of waiting for a man to do everything for them

marshalcarter:
Ok..now...they're lookin in the lept direction kwo nd their exfectations are bery bery high faa

Ma priend...do you get puel in ya syd?? I leabe puel me go pyn kwo dey talk why yarinyas single kai mana..haba...je ka sie mana ankali faa


Aboki
#WeedyGeneration

DharmyYinks:
Ladies nowadays be looking for already made guys. What they don't knw is that most of these guys don't giv a damn bout y'all because if u leave d guy, other ladies will flock in nd if u don't wanna leave, the guy can dump u for anoda chick.


I knw y'all wanna secure ya future by goin after 'already made guys' but the only future u can truly secure is the one u built with the guy while he was a nobody. Ask TuFace nd Annie.


Bring sumtin to the table... mak ursef valuable such that a guy will be scared to lose u nd not some street rat looking for a shelter in a mansion. U'll definitely die of poison

DanielGb:

See this kid. Am sure you are still single.

DanielGb:

See this kid. Am sure you are still single.

NobleAngell:
So now what's gonna happen to the already made men? If we don't marry them, who then will? You want them to remain single and die alone? No! That'll be unfair.

HateU2:
We don hear u relatnshp doc.
Tell ur other guys too to stop d mentality that all ladies are 'whores', 'asewos', 'oloshos'. I hate guys with that mentality.

Good girls are still very much out in this world, I just wonder where the 'fvck' they have been going

sisipelebe:
I wonder too, may be they've been going to the wrong directions. They don't go to places were they will meet responsible and God fearing ladies.

Toks2008:
I honestly can't shake the pity off my mind anytime i see how many ladies wallow in frustration simply because they are still single at very marriageable ages and this is why i decide to drop this thought provoking piece.

The major reason many ladies are still single at very ripe age is HIGH EXPECTATION and below is a simple illustration to explain my point.

As a lady please get this straight;Good potential husbands are everywhere but your spec may not be readily available.An average Nigerian lady wants a cute,rich,caring guy and no matter how hard they try to shrug this off,they keep using this as a yardstick to be with a man but unfortunately 2 out of 10 guys are the specs of 8 out of every 10 ladies so these 8 ladies clamor to be with these 2 men but unfortunately these 2 guys can't marry more than a wife each.

My advice to many ladies is to understand that it is perfectly normal to seek for a "financially ok" guy to marry but no matter how hot you may be, it is easier to get a man to marry you when he is struggling than when he is made.Comfort,wealth and good life is not usually instantaneous but progressive.

Don't be fooled,many expensive wedding ceremony you see are sponsored by the bride or groom's family.As a lady,try your best to get something doing and lets just assume you meet a guy that makes as little as 40k a month and you also make like 40k a month,please start a life together and continue to build your lives together. You can always do an elaborate intro and engagement party and proceed to the registry and when you have money you can do a very big wedding ceremony.

This thread is not for the few ladies who are fortunate to find a rich dude but for countless number of Nigerian ladies who are on the other side of the divide.

Our ladies should Stop indulging in ultimate search contest with many other ladies for a rich guy and Until our ladies learn to look in the right direction,be financially independent,lower their expectation and be ready to build a life with a man without the negative preemptive mindset of what will happen after he becomes rich,i guess there will forever be an increase in aver-aged unmarried ladies.

Just trying to make sense.

Sharon4u:
I have dated a guy who did not have anything,as soon as he got a good job i was on his mercies,he dint pick my call,never invited me to his new apartment, in fact i had to give myslf brain to see the writing on the wall that he's not serious and would never be serious with me,you hang out with a broke guy as soon as he start earnin bigger than you, he treat you like trash,speaking from experience,and am still hurting cause my bfriend is acting up despite he know i love him more than anything in the world in this whole world,like they say"shit happen"

Xiadnat:
That's right! I am still single because I have high expectations. Not for the man though, but for myself.

I once dated (and engaged) to a doctor who earned over 200k with a beach house, and another tri-level home in a wealthy part of city and who could give me the 'world' with just a smile as he put it.

Guess what? I decided I rather struggle and become my own "doctor". Instead of wearing a t-shirt that says "I married a doctor", I decided to wear "I am a doctor". Damnit.

Now, If I saw a future with him, maybe that would be a different case. But, I did not. But, anyway, I am a girl of different breed--more like the masculine side of me. I did not want to marry until i had something to offer or contribute or at least feel financially and (satisfactorily) ready.

However, it is a different story tho in many parts of the world where women have very little to no other options BUT to seek and marry a wealthy fellow, or at least one with sustainable source of income.