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Re: The Major Reason Why Many Ladies Remain Single For A Long Time. by joey150(m): 12:10am On Apr 15, 2016
Xiadnat:
That's right! I am still single because I have high expectations. Not for the man though, but for myself.

I once dated (and engaged) to a doctor who earned over 200k with a beach house, and another tri-level home in a wealthy part of city and who could give me the 'world' with just a smile as he put it.

Guess what? I decided I rather struggle and become my own "doctor". Instead of wearing a t-shirt that says "I married a doctor", I decided to wear "I am a doctor". Damnit.

Now, If I saw a future with him, maybe that would be a different case. But, I did not. But, anyway, I am a girl of different breed--more like the masculine side of me. I did not want to marry until i had something to offer or contribute or at least feel financially and (satisfactorily) ready.

i dont get it..if you LOVED him, what stopped you from marrying him and still becoming your own doctor?? Marriage dosent end a woman's career. Tell us another reason for not marrying the dude.
This your gist no add up at all abeg.

Ladies better marry somebody that has sense..do whats best for you..or else na divorce in 1 year..wether struggling or made..be sure you are absolutely ok and sure u wanna spend your lifetime with that person.

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Re: The Major Reason Why Many Ladies Remain Single For A Long Time. by DollyParton1(f): 12:10am On Apr 15, 2016
I come back after a long time to see this kind of post. And broke guys masturbating all over the thread.

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Re: The Major Reason Why Many Ladies Remain Single For A Long Time. by Slapsticker: 12:11am On Apr 15, 2016
DharmyYinks:

Be sincere to ursef... bfor any lady can leave a made guy for a broke/struggling guy... its hard. And even if she does.. one way or d other she would still dream of being wit a made guy. And I didnt generalize initially.

Like I said in my previous post... A lady should be valuable such that a guy won't wanna lose her. If TuFace didn't knw her 'worth', he wouldnt ve chosen her over his numerous baby mamas even tho shex not dat beautiful.

U used Dj Cuppy as example.. do u think she can date a broke guy who lives Ajegunle nd is struggling to get 3meal a day?? Nope! Never! Instead she will be looking for a rich dude.. who can match her status. Why do u think most popular female stars are still single? They dnt ve toasters? They do! They re not their type.

It's all bout the content bro... not the product!

well said

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Re: The Major Reason Why Many Ladies Remain Single For A Long Time. by Nobody: 12:11am On Apr 15, 2016
HateU2:
pretty bawo
U wan make I go steal am ni undecided
Se u knw 'omobaba'(aa comedian) We have d same face cheesy

hun hun, why u no cum dey do comedy like him. as una resemble nau? dem go just take una as twins. wait oo dat means say ur teeth go go out like omobaba own be dat oo...haii, hw kissin go be 4 ur husband nau?
Re: The Major Reason Why Many Ladies Remain Single For A Long Time. by sameolg616(m): 12:12am On Apr 15, 2016
Xiadnat:
That's right! I am still single because I have high expectations. Not for the man though, but for myself.

I once dated (and engaged) to a doctor who earned over 200k with a beach house, and another tri-level home in a wealthy part of city and who could give me the 'world' with just a smile as he put it.

Guess what? I decided I rather struggle and become my own "doctor". Instead of wearing a t-shirt that says "I married a doctor", I decided to wear "I am a doctor". Damnit.

Now, If I saw a future with him, maybe that would be a different case. But, I did not. But, anyway, I am a girl of different breed--more like the masculine side of me. I did not want to marry until i had something to offer or contribute or at least feel financially and (satisfactorily) ready.

However, it is a different story tho in many parts of the world where women have very little to no other options BUT to seek and marry a wealthy fellow, or at least one with sustainable source of income.








shio!...let me tell u wer ur story wld end......OLX!wer everything u seek for and represent wld be offered desperately for "free"...
ur case is that syndrome i tell women nowadays:"they dont know if they want to be the man or need a man"
let me help the author re-phrase....the main problem is the quest for material things and vanity...the women love money more now and even work harder than the men..

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Re: The Major Reason Why Many Ladies Remain Single For A Long Time. by DollyParton1(f): 12:13am On Apr 15, 2016
Xiadnat:
That's right! I am still single because I have high expectations. Not for the man though, but for myself.

I once dated (and engaged) to a doctor who earned over 200k with a beach house, and another tri-level home in a wealthy part of city and who could give me the 'world' with just a smile as he put it.

Guess what? I decided I rather struggle and become my own "doctor". Instead of wearing a t-shirt that says "I married a doctor", I decided to wear "I am a doctor". Damnit.

Now, If I saw a future with him, maybe that would be a different case. But, I did not. But, anyway, I am a girl of different breed--more like the masculine side of me. I did not want to marry until i had something to offer or contribute or at least feel financially and (satisfactorily) ready.

However, it is a different story tho in many parts of the world where women have very little to no other options BUT to seek and marry a wealthy fellow, or at least one with sustainable source of income.








Tell me the reason you did not marry him is cos he is a butthole...
Re: The Major Reason Why Many Ladies Remain Single For A Long Time. by Nobody: 12:14am On Apr 15, 2016
DollyParton1:
I come back after a long time to see this kind of post. And broke guys masturbating all over the thread.

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Re: The Major Reason Why Many Ladies Remain Single For A Long Time. by Yusuf70(m): 12:17am On Apr 15, 2016
Toks2008:
I honestly can't shake the pity off my mind anytime i see how many ladies wallow in frustration simply because they are still single at very marriageable ages and this is why i decide to drop this thought provoking piece.[/b]fullfilment without a dream is nonsence

[b]The major reason many ladies are still single at very ripe age is HIGH EXPECTATION
and below is a simple illustration to explain my point.

As a lady please get this straight;Good potential husbands are everywhere but your spec may not be readily available.An average Nigerian lady wants a cute,rich,caring guy and no matter how hard they try to shrug this off,they keep using this as a yardstick to be with a man but unfortunately 2 out of 10 guys are the specs of 8 out of every 10 ladies so these 8 ladies clamor to be with these 2 men but unfortunately these 2 guys can't marry more than a wife each.

My advice to many ladies is to understand that it is perfectly normal to seek for a "financially ok" guy to marry but no matter how hot you may be, it is easier to get a man to marry you when he is struggling than when he is made.Comfort,wealth and good life is not usually instantaneous but progressive.

Don't be fooled,many expensive wedding ceremony you see are sponsored by the bride or groom's family.As a lady,try your best to get something doing and lets just assume you meet a guy that makes as little as 40k a month and you also make like 40k a month,please start a life together and continue to build your lives together. You can always do an elaborate intro and engagement party and proceed to the registry and when you have money you can do a very big wedding ceremony.

This thread is not for the few ladies who are fortunate to find a rich dude but for countless number of Nigerian ladies who are on the other side of the divide.

Our ladies should Stop indulging in ultimate search contest with many other ladies for a rich guy and Until our ladies learn to look in the right direction,be financially independent,lower their expectation and be ready to build a life with a man without the negative preemptive mindset of what will happen after he becomes rich,i guess there will forever be an increase in aver-aged unmarried ladies.


Just trying to make sense.
Re: The Major Reason Why Many Ladies Remain Single For A Long Time. by Yusuf70(m): 12:19am On Apr 15, 2016
Florblu:
And you actually made sense
It's not our fault
We want comfort and fulfillment
fullfilment without a purpose in life is rubish
Re: The Major Reason Why Many Ladies Remain Single For A Long Time. by clek: 12:20am On Apr 15, 2016
40k a month should not be an issue as long as the lady is earning something. Nigerian girls always want the menn to provide everything for them without them adding to the growth of the family. Grow up ladies. Else, you will be singles for a long time.
Slapsticker:



your father would be proud of you.


And to the OP, would you want your daughter to marry a iman earning 40k a month?

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Re: The Major Reason Why Many Ladies Remain Single For A Long Time. by Ruq: 12:23am On Apr 15, 2016
joey150:
i dont get it..if you LOVED him, what stopped you from marrying him and still becoming your own doctor?? Marriage dosent end a woman's career. Tell us another reason for not marrying the dude.
This your gist no add up at all abeg.

Ladies better marry somebody that has sense..do whats best for you..or else na divorce in 1 year..wether struggling or made..be sure you are absolutely ok and sure u wanna spend your lifetime with that person.

Bros, I surprise ooh I think say n only me dey think am, and others were hailing her like its really an achievement. I mean who would end such relationship because you just want to prove a point of being independent. I would've enjoyed the story more if she said the guy was a jerk because he felt she couldn't be independent. These are the daftos that don't know the power they have as women.

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Re: The Major Reason Why Many Ladies Remain Single For A Long Time. by DollyParton1(f): 12:26am On Apr 15, 2016
Ruq:

Bros, I surprise ooh I think say n only me dey think am, and others were hailing her like its really an achievement. I mean who would end such relationship because you just want to prove a point of being independent. I would've enjoyed the story more if she said the guy was a jerk because he felt she couldn't be independent. These are the daftos that don't know the power they have as women.
Lol. I know right
I am team independent lady and all... She probably made up the story.
Re: The Major Reason Why Many Ladies Remain Single For A Long Time. by DollyParton1(f): 12:27am On Apr 15, 2016
clek:
40k a month should not be an issue as long as the lady is earning something. Nigerian girls always want the menn to provide everything for them without them adding to the growth of the family. Grow up ladies. Else, you will be singles for a long time.

Lol.... See another broke guy ranting.
Re: The Major Reason Why Many Ladies Remain Single For A Long Time. by DharmyYinks: 12:28am On Apr 15, 2016
amokeme:
the bold is wrong. The only future you can secure is the one YOU make for yourself. Because some guys dump the women that struggle with them all in the name of "upgrading"
So ill advise the ladies, work hard and secure that future you dream of for yourself. That is the only thing you are sure of.
I would ve agreed with u totally but its nt only guys wu do d bolded. Women do it too nd not all guys will do dat. Example is d guy on frontpage yesterday wu wanted to marry a lady wu helped him.. his parents refused but he still went ahead.

Well said wink
Re: The Major Reason Why Many Ladies Remain Single For A Long Time. by amtaken(f): 12:31am On Apr 15, 2016
Common sense?

Toks2008:
I honestly can't shake the pity off my mind anytime i see how many ladies wallow in frustration simply because they are still single at very marriageable ages and this is why i decide to drop this thought provoking piece.

The major reason many ladies are still single at very ripe age is HIGH EXPECTATION and below is a simple illustration to explain my point.

As a lady please get this straight;Good potential husbands are everywhere but your spec may not be readily available.An average Nigerian lady wants a cute,rich,caring guy and no matter how hard they try to shrug this off,they keep using this as a yardstick to be with a man but unfortunately 2 out of 10 guys are the specs of 8 out of every 10 ladies so these 8 ladies clamor to be with these 2 men but unfortunately these 2 guys can't marry more than a wife each.

My advice to many ladies is to understand that it is perfectly normal to seek for a "financially ok" guy to marry but no matter how hot you may be, it is easier to get a man to marry you when he is struggling than when he is made.Comfort,wealth and good life is not usually instantaneous but progressive.

Don't be fooled,many expensive wedding ceremony you see are sponsored by the bride or groom's family.As a lady,try your best to get something doing and lets just assume you meet a guy that makes as little as 40k a month and you also make like 40k a month,please start a life together and continue to build your lives together. You can always do an elaborate intro and engagement party and proceed to the registry and when you have money you can do a very big wedding ceremony.

This thread is not for the few ladies who are fortunate to find a rich dude but for countless number of Nigerian ladies who are on the other side of the divide.

Our ladies should Stop indulging in ultimate search contest with many other ladies for a rich guy and Until our ladies learn to look in the right direction,be financially independent,lower their expectation and be ready to build a life with a man without the negative preemptive mindset of what will happen after he becomes rich,i guess there will forever be an increase in aver-aged unmarried ladies.


Just trying to make sense.
Re: The Major Reason Why Many Ladies Remain Single For A Long Time. by poseidon12: 12:32am On Apr 15, 2016
missmalachi:
I concur with u.
I met my hubby as a fresh graduate who just finished serving n applying for job.i ws in my yr 1 then.i always support him wit d little moni my parent gv to me but cant even let my friends knw cos they will laugh at me for givin a man money.

The job that made him who he is today i gave him money to travel to lagos 4 the exam on getting back they called him for interview n no moni to go back i had to lie to my dad n go money again wc i gave him n he got he job wc ws an oil company.

Now the bobo adore me die.wen we play n gist abt d past i jokely tell him i knw him with one shoe n he will reply it ws 3 shoes ooo.

Am glad i started with him.
Good lady. Your type are rare in Nigeria. And your hubby also seems to be a real gentleman. Some guys will get such assistance and still go ahead to betray their benefactor.

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Re: The Major Reason Why Many Ladies Remain Single For A Long Time. by Ruq: 12:35am On Apr 15, 2016
DollyParton1:

Lol. I know right
I am team independent lady and all... She probably made up the story.

I guess so, it's too big a gamble to let the assumed engaged 'mr right' go just like that. Plus a woman like that shouldn't have issues finding a 'mr right' that would stop her career just because she's married.
Re: The Major Reason Why Many Ladies Remain Single For A Long Time. by greggng: 12:35am On Apr 15, 2016
Many ladies ve spiritual husband who doesn't allow them to marry a physical husband. Such ladies should pls come for deliverance if they ever dreamt of marrying
Re: The Major Reason Why Many Ladies Remain Single For A Long Time. by amokeme(f): 12:36am On Apr 15, 2016
DharmyYinks:

I would ve agreed with u totally but its nt only guys wu do d bolded. Women do it too nd not all guys will do dat. Example is d guy on frontpage yesterday wu wanted to marry a lady wu helped him.. his parents refused but he still went ahead.

Well said wink
reason why i said SOME.
Basically everybody should have a standard they work with(men and women).
Re: The Major Reason Why Many Ladies Remain Single For A Long Time. by DollyParton1(f): 12:39am On Apr 15, 2016
Ruq:


I guess so, it's too big a gamble to let the assumed engaged 'mr right' go just like that. Plus a woman like that shouldn't have issues finding a 'mr right' that would stop her career just because she's married.
She needs to explain that initial post.
I don't see the issue here. Except if she felt she was too young for marriage or she wasn't just ready for marriage.
Re: The Major Reason Why Many Ladies Remain Single For A Long Time. by COMPUTERVILLA(m): 12:41am On Apr 15, 2016
NobleAngell:
So now what's gonna happen to the already made men? If we don't marry them, who then will? You want them to remain single and die alone? No! That'll be unfair.

They always know when to marry and then they will choose.
Re: The Major Reason Why Many Ladies Remain Single For A Long Time. by SmartMugu: 12:46am On Apr 15, 2016
marshalcarter:
Ok..now...they're lookin in the lept direction kwo nd their exfectations are bery bery high faa cheesy

Ma priend...do you get puel in ya syd?? undecided I leabe puel me go pyn kwo dey talk why yarinyas grin single kai mana..haba...je ka sie mana ankali faa grin grin



#WeedyGeneration
What language is this?
Re: The Major Reason Why Many Ladies Remain Single For A Long Time. by Toks2008(m): 12:48am On Apr 15, 2016
Xiadnat:
That's right! I am still single because I have high expectations. Not for the man though, but for myself.

I once dated (and engaged) to a doctor who earned over 200k with a beach house, and another tri-level home in a wealthy part of city and who could give me the 'world' with just a smile as he put it.

Guess what? I decided I rather struggle and become my own "doctor". Instead of wearing a t-shirt that says "I married a doctor", I decided to wear "I am a doctor". Damnit.

Now, If I saw a future with him, maybe that would be a different case. But, I did not. But, anyway, I am a girl of different breed--more like the masculine side of me. I did not want to marry until i had something to offer or contribute or at least feel financially and (satisfactorily) ready.

However, it is a different story tho in many parts of the world where women have very little to no other options BUT to seek and marry a wealthy fellow, or at least one with sustainable source of income.




This story does not add up.



Re: The Major Reason Why Many Ladies Remain Single For A Long Time. by DharmyYinks: 12:48am On Apr 15, 2016
amokeme:
reason why i said SOME.
Basically everybody should have a standard they work with(men and women).
Ofcourse... evry1 has a standard but we shouldn't place it too high. Sometimes... our standards needs to be modified.


Like ur style of argument... devoid of sarcastic insults nd self gender-based points. wink

Dnt go nd be blushing oo grin
Re: The Major Reason Why Many Ladies Remain Single For A Long Time. by Nobody: 12:56am On Apr 15, 2016
The funny thing is tat ladies of today crave for "Love, Care and Attention" with Faithfulness from the man as an icing on the cake. Moreover, they don't want a struggling man because they want a life of luxury!

Now here is the problem....A man who can afford to give a woman all the luxury she needs is 99% likely to cheat on her because....Hellooooo....other women want to own that Herm├Ęs Birkin bag your rich hubby bought for you so they will either do everything to share him with you or to even snatch him from you! The rich husband is likely to be too busy with work and international trips so he keeps you locked up in his mansion 24hrs a day (you don't need to go to the market cos the maids will do that) and then after some months or years, the harsh reality that she is lacking that attention and love will begin to dawn on her especially when she becomes aware that her husband is frolicking with other hot girls outside!

It's like being between a rock and a hard place. The decision is yours to make as a woman

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Re: The Major Reason Why Many Ladies Remain Single For A Long Time. by amokeme(f): 1:01am On Apr 15, 2016
DharmyYinks:

Ofcourse... evry1 has a standard but we shouldn't place it too high. Sometimes... our standards needs to be modified.


Like ur style of argument... devoid of sarcastic insults nd self gender-based points. wink

Dnt go nd be blushing oo grin
Lol, blushing already cheesy. Thanks anyways
Re: The Major Reason Why Many Ladies Remain Single For A Long Time. by Yewandequeen(f): 1:02am On Apr 15, 2016
just observing
#sleep I need uu cry
Re: The Major Reason Why Many Ladies Remain Single For A Long Time. by Pwhitelaw(m): 1:08am On Apr 15, 2016
NobleAngell:
So now what's gonna happen to the already made men? If we don't marry them, who then will? You want them to remain single and die alone? No! That'll be unfair.
... So na ready made guy you dey find shocked
Re: The Major Reason Why Many Ladies Remain Single For A Long Time. by summerflame(m): 1:10am On Apr 15, 2016
Who is this fool?. Can't you just shut up and contribute something sensible rather than bashing?. The more reason why u are sounding like the aforementioned ladies tagged GOLD DIGGERS
Re: The Major Reason Why Many Ladies Remain Single For A Long Time. by DharmyYinks: 1:10am On Apr 15, 2016
amokeme:
Lol, blushing already cheesy. Thanks anyways
Lolz... Ya wlc


I just saw ur signature... I'm impressed smiley


Btw, lovely dp... couldn't look at d backside very well cheesy

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Re: The Major Reason Why Many Ladies Remain Single For A Long Time. by Pwhitelaw(m): 1:11am On Apr 15, 2016
Yewandequeen:
just observing
#sleep I need uu cry
... Am here... The chest is broad enough to rest grin
Re: The Major Reason Why Many Ladies Remain Single For A Long Time. by Yewandequeen(f): 1:12am On Apr 15, 2016
Pwhitelaw:
... Am here... The chest is broad enough to rest grin
No joor

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