₦airaland Forum

askakim:
@op, 40k salary in lasgidi is slavery ooo for a man that want to marry ooo, A man should be able to protect, provide for his family.. But this days ladies earn more to men in salary digit.. Be wise

Florblu:
And you actually made sense
It's not our fault
We want comfort and fulfillment

Toks2008:
Sure every lady will want that but it does not happen in one day.

SmartMugu:
What language is this?

DharmyYinks:
Ladies nowadays be looking for already made guys. What they don't knw is that most of these guys don't giv a damn bout y'all because if u leave d guy, other ladies will flock in nd if u don't wanna leave, the guy can dump u for anoda chick.


I knw y'all wanna secure ya future by goin after 'already made guys' but the only future u can truly secure is the one u built with the guy while he was a nobody. Ask TuFace nd Annie.


Bring sumtin to the table... mak ursef valuable such that a guy will be scared to lose u nd not some street rat looking for a shelter in a mansion. U'll definitely die of poison

missmalachi:
I concur with u.
I met my hubby as a fresh graduate who just finished serving n applying for job.i ws in my yr 1 then.i always support him wit d little moni my parent gv to me but cant even let my friends knw cos they will laugh at me for givin a man money.

The job that made him who he is today i gave him money to travel to lagos 4 the exam on getting back they called him for interview n no moni to go back i had to lie to my dad n go money again wc i gave him n he got he job wc ws an oil company.

Now the bobo adore me die.wen we play n gist abt d past i jokely tell him i knw him with one shoe n he will reply it ws 3 shoes ooo.

Am glad i started with him.

layla129:
Just roaming

Florblu:
And you actually made sense
It's not our fault
We want comfort and fulfillment

ladycomfort:
What of guys that you struggle with and later dump you for another lady when he makes it ? Cc: toks2008

Florblu:
And you actually made sense
It's not our fault
We want comfort and fulfillment

HateU2:
lol Suspect say wetin Abi make we go 2geda ni It's just a mEeting

Florblu:
And you actually made sense
It's not our fault
We want comfort and fulfillment

Pwhitelaw:
... Am not a lion.. Am that gentle parrot singing behind your window.

diva90:
Very brilliant article! It's unfortunate that many Nigerian women are very lazy and would rather seek for a well to-do/rich man to marry instead of a man they can grow with. They forget that these men who are rich today started from somewhere and that the men who are struggling today may be be even richer than the men they are seeking today. Most of them who sought rich men eventually enter the marriage and don't even have peace of mind... So many examples out there. Truth is bitter but I'll say it....it is best to seek a man who is still coming up and grow with him. Like OP stated, females should try to have their own jobs and be financially independent instead of waiting for a man to do everything for them

Acidosis:
The truth is many Nigerian men are not ready to get married.

The rate at which the female folks admire expensive weddings is scary. You see them everywhere on Instagram, Bella Naija, etc., following the latest wedding updates in town, they download videos of rich couples dancing and all, some of whom got married straight after NYSC with their father's stolen wealth. Yet, they wanna be like them.

Ladies, these freaking attitudes scare men away!! No one enjoys spending money like mis-programmed ATMs. Unless your money is stolen, you'll always weigh your options.

And please, ladies should understand that sometimes when a guy says he's not ready, it doesn't mean he won't get married to you. Before you leave, try and understand his reasons and see whether you fit into his plans.

The photoshoot, the jamboree is the least thing on a guy's mind. These things do not mean a thing to us!! We don't impress colleagues with expensive weddings! A guy would naturally want to impress people with his business, job, car, or house, than a sponsored ad on bellanaija. Ladies get these things clearly, and take your minds off frivolities.

NobleAngell:
So now what's gonna happen to the already made men? If we don't marry them, who then will? You want them to remain single and die alone? No! That'll be unfair.

Toks2008:
I honestly can't shake the pity off my mind anytime i see how many ladies wallow in frustration simply because they are still single at very marriageable ages and this is why i decide to drop this thought provoking piece.

The major reason many ladies are still single at very ripe age is HIGH EXPECTATION and below is a simple illustration to explain my point.

As a lady please get this straight;Good potential husbands are everywhere but your spec may not be readily available.An average Nigerian lady wants a cute,rich,caring guy and no matter how hard they try to shrug this off,they keep using this as a yardstick to be with a man but unfortunately 2 out of 10 guys are the specs of 8 out of every 10 ladies so these 8 ladies clamor to be with these 2 men but unfortunately these 2 guys can't marry more than a wife each.

My advice to many ladies is to understand that it is perfectly normal to seek for a "financially ok" guy to marry but no matter how hot you may be, it is easier to get a man to marry you when he is struggling than when he is made.Comfort,wealth and good life is not usually instantaneous but progressive.

Don't be fooled,many expensive wedding ceremony you see are sponsored by the bride or groom's family.As a lady,try your best to get something doing and lets just assume you meet a guy that makes as little as 40k a month and you also make like 40k a month,please start a life together and continue to build your lives together. You can always do an elaborate intro and engagement party and proceed to the registry and when you have money you can do a very big wedding ceremony.

This thread is not for the few ladies who are fortunate to find a rich dude but for countless number of Nigerian ladies who are on the other side of the divide.

Our ladies should Stop indulging in ultimate search contest with many other ladies for a rich guy and Until our ladies learn to look in the right direction,be financially independent,lower their expectation and be ready to build a life with a man without the negative preemptive mindset of what will happen after he becomes rich,i guess there will forever be an increase in aver-aged unmarried ladies.

Just trying to make sense.

Florblu:
And you actually made sense
It's not our fault
We want comfort and fulfillment

Florblu:
And you actually made sense
It's not our fault
We want comfort and fulfillment

Florblu:
And you actually made sense It's not our fault We want comfort and fulfillment

missmalachi:
I concur with u.
I met my hubby as a fresh graduate who just finished serving n applying for job.i ws in my yr 1 then.i always support him wit d little moni my parent gv to me but cant even let my friends knw cos they will laugh at me for givin a man money.

The job that made him who he is today i gave him money to travel to lagos 4 the exam on getting back they called him for interview n no moni to go back i had to lie to my dad n go money again wc i gave him n he got he job wc ws an oil company.

Now the bobo adore me die.wen we play n gist abt d past i jokely tell him i knw him with one shoe n he will reply it ws 3 shoes ooo.

Am glad i started with him.