Moblis:
It is wrong to hit a woman. If a man hits a woman in my presence, he'll have to deal with me too. I'm like that. But all men are not the same. some are simply mad! and if you know you're married to men like that, best take the OPs advice simple! do you understand now?

The bolded is the beginning and end of the matter. The op can go and shove his advice someplace where the sun does not shine

Vinshu:
Your misogyny is pathetic . Real men don't lay hands on women.

real women don't insult their husbands

coming from a guy op is biased, if a lady should bring up same critic then she's also bias...maybe an hermaphrodite should visit this topic....







just my opinion....#lickingsweet

Toks2008:
[size=13pt]*A man who beats a woman is a beast and do not deserve to live with humans but with fellow beasts in the jungle...No matter how provoked you may be as a man,please never raise your hand to beat your wife.*
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It is no longer news that many women have lost their lives through domestic violence and the more we try to put the blames on the menfolk the more we will continue to blind our eyes to the fact that indeed,many women are the cause of the domestic violence we see today because they fail to understand some important aspects of how most men are naturally wired and below are 6 facts that point to this...


1.Negligence: Yes this is one fact many ladies will not deny because there is no accidental character and the signs of a violent man would have been there . It is quite amazing that many ladies get beaten up by a guy they are dating and this guy will still go ahead and become their hubby and i keep wondering what these ladies were thinking saying i do to a guy who beats you up. Many ladies usually believe such guys will change but the honest truth is that a guy who beats you up while dating you may kill you when he becomes your hubby.RUN.


2.Sophistication:Many people will wonder what this has to do with domestic violence but it has a whole lot to do with it. Sophistication is the bane of today's woman and the number one reason why many ladies find it hard to get a man to settle down with. Many ladies are too sophisticated to come to terms with the fact that they are married,they still want to live a life of a spinster while married and these set of ladies will not hesitate to tell their hubby the need for him to help out in the kitchen,the need for him to cook his food and even take care of the baby and subconsciously, these ladies gradually bruise the ego of the man who may continue to stomach these things until he gets pushed to the wall and reacts in a violent way. No matter how highly placed or sophisticated you may be as a lady,please understand that you are a wife and a mother and you must learn how to joggle these roles without turning your hubby into a domestic servant...if he decides to help out please let it be his decision.


3. Misguided utterance: This is a very common fact among the women folk and it is so sad that many ladies do not even realize they are guilty of this because they just might believe they are making sense not knowing that they are bruising the man's ego and killing him bit by bit mentally and emotionally. Misguided speech sometimes come in a very subtle way from the lady who may have no clue. For instance a lady footing the bills telling her hubby that "she can not go out all day and still come home to please him sexually" or "he can not satisfy you sexually", or funny words like "you should be thanking GOD for having me cos there are better guys out there" bla bla bla common.... A man is an egocentric person and any word that bruises his ego could bring out the beast in him.


4.Infidelity:This account for many cases of domestic violence leading to death. Yes men cheat as well as ladies but as a lady please be extremely careful when it comes to sexual infidelity. Scientists have proved that the effect of hard drugs on human is the same effect a heart break gives. If you must cheat on your man or hubby please i advice you just break up with such first rather than staying in that affair and cheating because the resultant effect is always a dangerous one.


5.Use of abusive words:This is no doubt one reason why many gentle men have turned wife beaters.There are some women who can use their tongue to set a house on fire and you need to hear how some ladies speak to their spouses.
Many ladies are very erratic in speech and it is not all men that are gentle or can walk away as men are always advised.Please ladies,learn to bridle your tongues to avoid stories that touch...be submissive,be humble.be calm in your speech and avoid getting confrontational because men hate confrontations...remember...not every man is a gentle man so try to always. maintain a status quo.Understand when to keep quiet to avoid heated arguments which usually leads to violent reactions from the man.



6.Gullibility:Yes many ladies are very gullible when it comes to handling domestic violence.There are some guys who just make it a crazy habit beating up a lady at any slight opportunity even if the lady exhibits an angelic nature. If a man beats you once,assume its a mistake but if he tries it again,please don't go back to your parents or waste your time reporting him to family members..go to the police immediately to report him and let him be invited to write an undertaken never to touch you again while you also maintain a proper decorum but if his madness persists,please leave that marriage or relationship immediately whether you have a child for him or not...it is better to remain single and happy than to lose your life.Gullible ladies who have listened to funny advices from family members to remain in a violent marriage for whatever reason are not 6 feet below....Be reasonable.


Hope this makes sense.

UTTER FHUCKERY OF A POST.

Vinshu:
Your misogyny is pathetic . Real men don't lay hands on women.

And fake men do? Smh

Most women live their lives in illusion, some believe by slapping or hitting their man first it will always end in hot steamy love session according to what they view in most foreign movies, some always keep bad companies that gives them negative advice on the way to handle their man.

Toks2008:


I need to see your parents fast so that i can warn them not to bother spending more on your education.

You are so pathetic.I won't bother to reply you again cos its a waste of time.Just try to read first before making posts to avoid making mockery of yourself and displaying your odoriferous academic mediocrity.

I knew he was a kid when he said "Masturbating"
it's quite unfortunate a lot of people did not read
the post well.

I'm a man and I post from the point of view of a man while never claiming to represent any man but myself.

I say this upfront so that the feminists and their agitators can understand.

Men, at the very first sign of a troublesome Woman that angers you, please cut her out of your life like a cancerous growth that she is.

I'm on my 3rd marriage so I walk the talk as evidence. Life is too short to be in an unfulfilling relationship that's filled with upmanship between spouses and general disregard for each other.

You won't die if you cut the woman loose, life will go on, you'll be more educated and savvy and able to avoid women that are generally bad news.

Life, especially married life, is supposed to be filled with growth, happiness and joy.

Everyone is telling Women to run and I'm to tell men not to run but stand and dissolve the marriage in totality and move on without looking back.

I'll go put my antiflame suit on now.

Absolutely rubbish, No matter the weakness of a woman their dignity should be uphold.

Another senseless post of this odeson toks2008

A very weak man like a dead Deeek

Mtchew

Vinshu:
Your misogyny is pathetic . Real men don't lay hands on women.

. True vinshu",Real men" don't lay hands on "Real women",cos most of the women we have today ain't fit to be called women

Following.. Instead of people to read and learn or counter the point made by the op, they are busy insulting the guy.. kontinuu

toks2008, your number one point is so true.

Ishilove:

Actually I did. It is very offensive because no matter what, a man should not raise his hand on a woman because he is physically stronger than her. You started by saying a man who beats his wife is worse than a beast, then go on to enumerate how women bring violence upon themselves. That, Toks, is highly offensive. The six points you enumerated has voided your first paragraph.

And your comment about people who don't agree with you being mentally mediocre says a lot about your blatant misogyny

did you say no matter what?.......i will never lay my hands on a woman only if she doesn't attack me.....she attacks me...then she z gon get it

nwadiuko1:
did you say no matter what?.......i will never lay my hands on a woman only is she doesn't attack me.....she attacks me...then she z gon get it

Domestic violence from both sexes is actually very wrong.

Toks2008:


This is the problem i have with many people who read my articles up-side-down and some just read the title and comment.

There is a big problem with the future of this country judging from the crop of many youths we have who find it hard to comprehend.That is how they will start saying i write against ladies because they are not mentally coherent to decipher the inherent points.

Any woman that bleeps up will collect mehn...

Odunharry:
Following.. Instead of people to read and learn or counter the point made by the op, they are busy insulting the guy.. kontinuu

toks2008, your number one point is so true.

lol,guy i am so indifferent to these insults...i am a no hold bar freelancer.

Suigeneris93:



The bolded is the beginning and end of the matter. The op can go and shove his advice someplace where the sun does not shine

is it right for a woman to attack a man?.........should the man defend himself?

sabiguy:


So what about a man who goes out to work in order to feed you and the kids while you stay home doing nothing also have every right to insult, deny u sex and beat the crap out of you right??

You are a good example of r e t a r d e d n e s s and imbecility. The man wey go marry u don suffer. I rebuke your kind of Lady in my life. Amen

hehehehe bros you wicked o!!!!

Vinshu:
Your misogyny is pathetic . Real men don't lay hands on women.

Real women dont get beatings from their men - It's the dumb ones that do get a beating.
A real bad ass chick knew exactly when not to push the ultimate button of natural aggression from a man. A Man is like any other animal that defends his territory and his territory comes in different dimension of human existence , if you hit them where it matters most they will bite and reasonable women don't joke with that .

Wealthgang:
People who usually rant "never lay hands on a woman no matter what" are those who end up doing it. Its not just by ranting it, u have to understand d real principle behind that statement. I know this from experience.

So why should u generally not lay hands on a woman? Simple! Cos women are generally perceived as weaker (physically) than men, hence are defenseless.
In order words, d real quip should be "never lay hands on a defenseless person (male or female)" instead of "never lay hands on a woman". The latter is by no means a moral absolute.

Saying that it is never justifiable under any circumstance whatsoever, to "lay hands on a woman" is d stupidest thing anyone can say.
As a martial arts student, I wouldn't fight with a lady (non-martial arts) any more than I wouldn't fight a 12yr-old boy or a disabled person. They're defenseless.

In d case where a lady is not defenseless n tries anything physical with u, by all means defend urself.
If d lady is defenseless but provokes u, by all means control urself no matter what.
If she's defenseless but still attacks u, by all means give her a dirty slap. It shud end dere, punches n kicks n headbutts not allowed.

I remember an incident that happnd in UBA bank uniport (which is usually crowded). A girl was shouting n cursing in d bank over her 5k which was wrongly deducted n d staff were trying 2 calm her down. Then a boy sitting elsewhere told her 2 calm down, that d money was just 5k na and would be refunded. This didn't go well with d gal cos b4 we knew it, she walked up to 2 boy & slapped him hard. As if that wasn't enough, she took off her slippers n slapped d boy again with it, to d dismay of evry1. She wanted 2 hit him again b4 a guy drew her away. D customers inside d bank were so angry n some were prompting d boy 2 give d gal a dirty slap n were swearing d gal would have died if it was them. The boy didn't react but just walkd outside.

What happnd afta, I dnt know.

If u were in his shoes, what wud u do?
If it was me, I won't hesitate 2 slap her back n front. Y have d guts 2 slap me in public? "Never lay hands on a woman" my ass. Wud also do same if it was a guy.
Some women don't hesitate 2 slap n attack men because they have that mentality an absolute law is guiding dem n they kw how 2 cry a river when a finger touches them. Bullshit!

As for wife-beating, men who do dat are goats n I wonder how women still go ahead 2 marry such men. One big cause of it is poverty n blockheadedness. U hardly c wealthy/enlightnd pple pummeling their wives.
Where I blame women 4 it is y they allow themselvs 2 be beaten continuously all in d name of luv or i-want-to-save-my-marriage

I am more of the school of thought that believe that the original saying was " don't lay your hands on a LADY". Some women practically beg for it. e.g getting physical with a man, locking up his shirt almost strangling him, slapping and kicking him and his only way of escape is to send one or two brain resetting slaps to the woman. So now u are going to blame him?
A lady should be a Lady and a man should be a Man by appreciating and respecting a lady.
I personally don't beat a lady never have I done that since I have come of age. I try to avoid the situation totally.
I Like what you have up there. Those screaming never beat a woman are just singing a popular mantra. I personally analyse every situation before I crucify a guy for beating a lady.

I do not care about gender but I do care about human.

Blaming victims of domestic abuse is na insult on humanity. Unless you understand their psychology, it is insane to think for them., Therefore your number is null and void.

Verbal and physical abuse are the same although one tends to be more severe than the other. SO I will undertsand a man who slaps his wife because she was 'verbally abusive' and i mean verbal abuse in its ordinary meaning noty some philosophical BS. I can also understand a man who hits his wife [b]WHEN [/b]he caught her cheating (I mean immediate not some abuse that took time to plan). Those reactions are normal and human. I understand that humans have emotions and are capable of reacting to provocation. God bless you if it result to grievous bodily harm or death . However I also understand that any abuse beyond those normal human reaction is madness. Any one acting with outside normal human reaction deserve to be in jail for the rest of their lives. If I asked you to go and cook your food and you raised your hand, na then you know say I be confam omo oko. My great grandfather cannot help your case neither will my dad.

Toks2008, whenever you write, you do nothing but further your misogynistic views. Keep destroying our mor.onic youths, I pray none of them come close to me or someone I know because by the time I am through with them. They will search for you and ask you why you led astray.

Fake azz men everywhere.. If ur female boss at work insults u, r u gonna knock her out.. Dey wud rather go home nd take it out on their wives... Fake azzes... No excuse for domestic violence.. If u r tired den pull out... Battering ur wife may not be a serious offence in naija buh murder is definite a capital one.............

Ishilove:

Domestic violence from both sexes is actually very wrong.

This is it.. I hope ladies who are quick to hit a guy first will allow this sink into their head.

I don't know the statistics in Nigeria but I am familiar with UK statistics. At least two women die every week from domestic abuse that mean domestic abuse from those close to them, most especially their male partners.

I ams ure it would be worse in Nigeria because it is some kind of an unwritten rule that a man is allowed to hit his wife but not too much.


So continue to analyse every situation, may it not be your turn!

Doubleagent008:
I am more of the school of thought that believe that the original saying was " don't lay your hands on a LADY". Some women practically beg for it. e.g getting physical with a man, locking up his shirt almost strangling him, slapping and kicking him and his only way of escape is to send one or two brain resetting slaps to the woman. So now u are going to blame him?
A lady should be a Lady and a man should be a Man by appreciating and respecting a lady.
I personally don't beat a lady never have I done that since I have come of age. I try to avoid the situation totally.
I Like what you have up there. Those screaming never beat a lady are just singing a popular mantra. I personally analyse every situation before I crucify a guy for beating a lady.

Strahovski1:
Useless...

No matter what. You have no right to hit a woman. A man abuse you would you punch him? NO. But a woman you will.

*Pulls out dick and start masturbation on threaD*

Just pray to continue meeting good women.Dont judge others until you've BN in their shoes.What do u do when ur wife tears d original documents to d only landed property u toiled ur ass to possess?Guy some women can act like possessed people.i don't support domestic violence but I don't judge them till I hear from both parties.Wicked women are deadlier that wicked meb

An average Nigerian youth has the problem of comprehension. This article is too sophisticated for their minds. Now, as for beating a woman, trust me, it's almost all the time the lady's fault. Scripture says, '' a soft answer turns away wrath.'' And if as a man you've never touched a woman, then, keep it up by never dating a Plateau girl. Because, the day you say it's over, that's the day you'd know what's in her!!

Wealthgang:

As for wife-beating, men who do dat are goats n I wonder how women still go ahead 2 marry such men. One big cause of it is poverty n blockheadedness. U hardly c wealthy/enlightnd pple pummeling their wives.
Where I blame women 4 it is y they allow themselvs 2 be beaten continuously all in d name of luv or i-want-to-save-my-marriage

You were right until the bolded.

I have been there and trust me
It is something shared by every class and
"Rude women are always rude".
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Vinshu:
Your misogyny is pathetic . Real men don't lay hands on women.

Define real men

halfricanadian:
THERE ARE SEVERAL TYPES OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE

SOME ARE PHYSICAL
SOME ARE MENTALLY
SOME ARE PSYCHOLOGICALLY
SOME ARE EMOTIONAL

pls address all not onlu physical cos d remaining two kills faster dan physical domestic violence

What people dont know is any woman that dies cos of domestic violence went tru all d 4 stages av listed

Ur husband cant beat u like u just had an accident he can never do dat even accident victims survive

Wat im saying is when a woman gets beaten

She goes crazy mentally trying to figure out wat went wrong

Den pyschologically she begins to feel so down of hersef

Den emotionally she becomes unstable

Nd if d violence continues steadily she is gone asin dead

Every thing is not always physical abeg


So many women are troubled mentally psychologically nd emotionally i wont deny im a victim of this it kills faster dan physical im telling u

You're very right about those types of domestic.
Only that most men actually goes through the other 3 apart from the first one. Sometime, its the foolish reaction to the last three one that causes men to express the first one. But, sincerely, without GOD being given the onus of one's marital life, I sense more marital issues in the next generation. Not the ways some folks comments here.

I remember in my 3rd year at school.....how a girl that thinks she is in the good books of the anti cult outfit humiliated me in class....gave me a slap, and tore my shirt while I stood watching and was forming gentle man........i couldn't bring myself to hit her.......but after attacking me she also reported me to the anti cult unit.............when the chips were down, I never laid my hands on her......but I think she would have preffered that I did.....

nwadiuko1:
is it right for a woman to attack a man?.........should the man defend himself?

In this case we're talking about a woman who doesn't attack a man but if the woman is the first attacker then the man can do whatver rocks his boat. Some men choose to walk away, others administer slaps to stop her while others engage their fists as if they're fighting an agbero in Oshodi. Whichever rocks your boat, you do. But beating up a defenceless woman can never be justified