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Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by Mamatee07: 6:21pm On May 09, 2016 |
kevinberry: An men don't verbally abuse their wives too? When a solider abuses you beat him or els you are a big coward . No one will go to jail for verbal abuse but you will be jailed for physical assault . That's th law so deal 2 Likes |
Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by noblegrex: 6:21pm On May 09, 2016 |
Toks2008:it will be too hard for kids to understand the things of aged peeps. So many kids in here can't understand your points..thumbs up for you cos you've got points to prove.any of the above can provoke a man. I don't pray for shits to happen but as quiet as I can be,I'm not sure of what I'll do to my wife if she's found cheating... 2 Likes |
Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by Ishilove: 6:22pm On May 09, 2016 |
dicefrost:Is a woman's lack of mouth control the cause of domestic violence in most cases? 1 Like |
Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by bakynes(m): 6:23pm On May 09, 2016 |
tonquendo4u:You are right my brother, you see all these small small boiz that have not been involved with crazy women are the ones saying " no matter what never hit a woman" if woman frustrate your life reach one level dem no go tell you before you beat am. Woman go destroy your car wey u sufer buy, go destroy vital documents and you go tell me make i no beat am, men Bleep that slogan. Me wey i always say no matter what i wont beat a woman my ex gf after all her troubles i was pushed to the wall when she tore my original car papers, i used my belt on her. 2 Likes |
Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by GANJAFARMER: 6:23pm On May 09, 2016 |
cekhoe:And the men should sing "one love" if the woman goes physical on them first ? Sometimes the way some of you reason can only be compared to that of an IQ of a third world rodent. Women and men should respect themselves . It's akin to a country like Iran launching a military attack on any American interest - That's a declaration of war my friend. If we agree that men can't beat women who crosses the line then we should outrightly hate every nation that has gone to war against a weaker people - the truth of the matter is , don't start the provocation of a stronger entity to a physical or to a high emotional side , they will bite back. This is human nature my friend. 3 Likes |
Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by Mamatee07: 6:24pm On May 09, 2016 |
noblegrex: And if the husband is found cheating? Can she go ahead and poison him too? Just wait until women start killing men for cheating too. Let's see how many Nigerians will be left 1 Like |
Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by akyus(m): 6:24pm On May 09, 2016 |
kaziblake:Gosh! My sister marriage is not meant to be a war front. Never continue to endure what you feel is a burden to you. 1 Like |
Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by soonest(f): 6:24pm On May 09, 2016 |
Anything to blame women is food for Toks. Blame a woman for a man that can't control his anger if that will boost your Egg-shelled Ego. So you want to tell me once you see a woman that has been battered by her husband, what comes to your mind is that she's the cause. Crap! Big time Crap! Many of these abusers have psycho issues. I'll take you seriously when I see you do a post condemning domestic violence in its entirety and advising men on how to tame themselves. 1 Like |
Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by seunoni34(m): 6:24pm On May 09, 2016 |
Doubleagent008:But sadly most women never look at it this way and this is why domestic violence keeps repeating itself 2 Likes |
Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by josite: 6:25pm On May 09, 2016 |
Mamatee07:I still dey laugh o.sorry o ,I didn't know she is your relative o but don't u prefer I say it the way I see it rather than pretend im.not an African man original. 1 Like |
Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by Nobody: 6:25pm On May 09, 2016 |
Junior66:Provocation in marriages or relationship is inevitable...all couple need do is to look for a better way so settle differences and not resort to beating. Even if u bought the woman is still not enough reason to beat her up cos it only shows how irresponsible u are. |
Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by OLUJOSHINS(m): 6:25pm On May 09, 2016 |
Strahovski1: U are a disgrace to that long thing between Ur legs 2 Likes |
Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by olaide92(m): 6:25pm On May 09, 2016 |
Toks2008:@toks2008 please can you help us to dig in about the case in Ibadan about the woman who killed her husband |
Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by Mamatee07: 6:27pm On May 09, 2016 |
bakynes: No one is saying some women are not troublesome. We are saying breakup with them or divorce them. What if while beating her with a belt you hit her on her head or she fell against the wall and died? You will forever be a murderer and killed yourself. Is that what you want? Many of those who killed their spouses never planed to but that's the thing about domestic abuse it's one day the beating will go wrong and then you've ruined your life |
Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by bezimo(m): 6:27pm On May 09, 2016 |
Mamatee07: Control is relative and differs from person to person, while some men may take abuses and insults from their wives or react without assaulting their wives others may certainly not.Thats a fact. Law or no law, when people relate with their wife, they are not consious of the law, they act on impulse, their temperament, and control ability. Women killing their husband for whatever reason through poison and other methods have occured in our society so it doesnt follow if women might act in the same manner. I am never going to justify assault against any lady, no matter the reasons but we must understand the triggers of such animalistic behaviour from some men towards their partners.One of which like the Op pointed is careless, abusive and hurtful words. 2 Likes |
Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by suteco16: 6:27pm On May 09, 2016 |
Who are the real men and who are not the real men? Pray to God to give you your own wife! 1 Like |
Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by Mamatee07: 6:28pm On May 09, 2016 |
olaide92: She's also a beast and no one is defending her. She also killed him because he had a child outside. That's why were saying if everyone starts killing because of cheating how many Nigerian men will survive? 2 Likes |
Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by Peaceworld(m): 6:28pm On May 09, 2016 |
I think the OP raised some salient points and made some mistakes too. If only people would see what he wrote and understand that there's some wisdom in it instead of cursing him front left and centre. We can't be talking of women denying their husbands sex because she's the breadwinner as an absolute scenario. There are many scenarios in which this incident could play out eg he's the lazy type and has refused to find work or he's hardworking but brings in less than what his wife does. Please let's stop generalizing because any woman's response to sex in these two scenarios may or may not be the same thing. 1 Like |
Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by maestroferddi: 6:29pm On May 09, 2016 |
Strahovski1:He has done nada... Most Nigerians are simple-minded. It is only an unserious person who would lay all the blames of domestic violence on the doorstep of the man. You can go on deceiving yourselves... 3 Likes |
Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by Junior66(m): 6:29pm On May 09, 2016 |
Suigeneris93:fact is: provoke a man anywhere (marriage, relatnship, on the street, in de church, mosque, even in ur father's house) and see de resulting fight. If u dnt want none of the violence den avoid pressing those activatn buttons listed by de OP. Most men are fighters although i aint one odawise i would have beaten up my ex yesterevenin. Instead i spent the evenin angry and moody.Peace. 4 Likes |
Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by josite: 6:29pm On May 09, 2016 |
shout out to mama tee,pls forgive me o. im neither a wife beater nor a wife killer.mine is just one strategically guided heavy slap on the cheek and I exempt a pregnant woman CU's the child must not suffer for the sins of the mother. |
Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by paragon40(m): 6:30pm On May 09, 2016 |
sabiguy:MAKE I FOLLOW YOU DO THE AMENNN.. 1 Like |
Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by pchukwudi: 6:31pm On May 09, 2016 |
Ishilove: So you too? Gosh, it beats me how folks get so engrossed with illusion that they boldly denounce the reality that stares them right in their faces. The Op is talking about "WHAT IS" and "HOW TO AVOID IT" - in other words, how our women can avoid being the victims of domestic violence, and you are here talking about what "SHOULD NOT BE", really? It's just like telling fire that it SHOULD NOT burn a cook that puts her fingers to it. Does that not sound so unrealistic to you? The OP made it clear that "NOT ALL MEN ARE GENTLE" (but some are, and can quietly walk away from provocation, but the violent ones won't). He also made it clear that some gentle men (including those little NL uncommitted illusionists who're chanting that "real men don't lay hands on women" here on NL) can eventually be turned into violent beasts by their female spouses who routinely ignore the OP's 6 points. It really bothers me that you consider this offensive. 8 Likes |
Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by Mamatee07: 6:31pm On May 09, 2016 |
bezimo: And when Women kill their cheating husbands will OP say men are at fault for killings? It's ridiculous to blame the victim. At the end of the day it's up to you how to react to anything. That other bankers husband now will be killed and so will this guy because of their inability to control themselves and so will the woman who killed her husband. Anyone who can't control themselves deserves to end up in jail or get a death sentence If you can control yourself with a solider, you can control yourself with your spouse. Get a divorce rather than ruin both your lives and your childrens 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by OLUJOSHINS(m): 6:32pm On May 09, 2016 |
MondeLuv: If Ur Sister in law perpetually push Ur brother to the "emotional wall" & he keeps playing dunce. Hw would U feel? I initially thought of replying U in Ur own coin. but I'm better than that |
Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by Nobody: 6:33pm On May 09, 2016 |
Mamatee07: If you are married to a lazy man, quietly pack your load and leave. But if you choose to remain married and attempt to usurp his authority, he ll beat the crap out of you, and our twisted society will take his side. Its not a war you can win 1 Like |
Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by Junior66(m): 6:33pm On May 09, 2016 |
Mamatee07:and women aint doin so? who are those ladies using acid on men everywhere? |
Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by Doubleagent008(m): 6:33pm On May 09, 2016 |
dare2differ:I see your point and that's a nice view. Domestic Abuse is really a bad stuff esp when it fulfills all criteria of Abuse e.g it's repetitive. seriously some of us (the men) do mess up big time. A family friend was discussing with my mom the other day about what the husband does to her and I was ashamed of and for the man. this abuse was both emotional, Financial( if it is really a thing), and some level of phyisico-spiritual. Believe me the man was immature and "not man enough" in all the sense there is. but this woman did a good job on him in letting him display his folly for all to see. she did not set him up to score cheap points he was just on the express way to Fvck up land. If it was another woman, she would get physical, ranting, cursing and stuff like that and it will be worse. so you see what I mean, A Lady should be calm and display her elegant wisdom while a useless "man" sets himself up for downfall. even his own family members castigate him on how he treats the wife. We all can do better that's all I know. Like how you address issues. you didn't lose your reasoning in a sea of Emotions 1 Like |
Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by bezimo(m): 6:34pm On May 09, 2016 |
Mamatee07: I am not the one involved, I can never be involved because I would never do that, I believe there are other ways to address this issue without assault. So don't address your submissions as if its me that is involved. However, you must be aware that not all men are gentle men and easy going who would want a divorce when unwanted behaviour is displayed by their wife, we know there are men who are not gentle and not easy going and these class of men may react by assaulting their partners when provoked by one of the triggers pointed by the Op. |
Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by Junior66(m): 6:35pm On May 09, 2016 |
herbie27:Agreed. 1 Like |
Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by Mamatee07: 6:35pm On May 09, 2016 |
dicefrost: I'm not the type of woman any man can beat. I have solders on speed dial that will paralyse him for life. It's all those women that let coward wife beaters get away with it that are at fault. When they break his legs once in his life he will never lift a finger to another woman 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by OLUJOSHINS(m): 6:35pm On May 09, 2016 |
Ishilove: I agree with U dear. but looking beyond the "hate filled post", some points are actually true |
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