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Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by 9ja4show: 8:33pm On May 09, 2016 |
Ngoziada592: What is this one saying 1 Like |
Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by Olabestonic001(m): 8:35pm On May 09, 2016 |
Mamatee07: You are right. A very smart man does not allow his woman to push him to a life in which she must always bring money home. If I am a school teacher and you're a bank manager and you wanna marry me, then be ready to live in the home as a Teacher's wife. The blame should always go to the man though who unknowingly allow the woman substitute herself from being the helpmeet to being the breadwinner. A man must provide for his woman and he is responsible for ensuring the wife does not push him to a situation of running over-cost at home. Let the woman keep her money if she is one of the school of tots that thinks a man is only one because he 'always' brings the money home. I can assure you that with men 'ENSURING' their home is run according to their budget (his anyway), there'll be no way for the woman to be under financial pressure and the marriage can run fine. |
Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by Nobody: 8:38pm On May 09, 2016 |
Ngoziada592: END TIME COMMENT 1 Like |
Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by Nobody: 8:38pm On May 09, 2016 |
soonest:I know all am saying is that it should be criminalise, |
Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by Ngoziada592: 8:40pm On May 09, 2016 |
makavel7: See the hypocrisy, SHebi you lot are making excuses for the man because he said his wife was cheating When everyone starts using cheating as an excuse to kill their spouse let's see who will be left abi 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by Ngoziada592: 8:43pm On May 09, 2016 |
kevinberry: That can nev happen, how do you quantify it? If you tell your wife are you crazy in a moment of anger and she says that's verbal abuse to her can you be jailed for that Fact is what constitutes verbal abuse has grey areas and can't be clear,y defined unlike physical abuse. If we start criminizing verbal abuse half of those on nairaland will be jailed sef with all the insults and curses flying left , right , center . What time do courts have to deal with such 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by Ngoziada592: 8:45pm On May 09, 2016 |
kevinberry: And you lot will keep getting jailed and killed too after you've ruined your lives 2 Likes |
Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by Ngoziada592: 8:46pm On May 09, 2016 |
Seun: God bless you jare Seun. Here's a real man , you can always tell successful men apart from failures who fight with women 3 Likes |
Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by NaWetinDey(m): 8:49pm On May 09, 2016 |
It's just simple: Learn to know that your life, happiness and future cannot be determined by anyone - not even your spouse. If the woman you loved and married becomes that irritating (it happens), leave and don't look back because that's what she will do especially because of her infifelity (if she's from a wrong stock). If you meet a poisonous woman you should want nothing more than saving your life from her. If you try to stay and endure when u know it can't work again, you will surely beat her or commit murder on impulse - even if you are a saint. Apart from infidelity and nagging, you should learn to live well with your wife. Do not feel like beating your wife for anything. when that feeling gets established then it's time to move on. The children, if any, will survive. A poisonous woman (mostly those too attached to their looks) is the doorway to hell if you remain with her. If you don't kill her she will surely kill you. |
Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by Benoy: 8:54pm On May 09, 2016 |
Op, you have yourself to blame for the title of your write-up, knowing fully well most people don't read beyond the headline in this part of the world. All Domestic violence are induced, and most(if not all) of the points the op raised are valid. Most people miscontrue those points based on the headline. These points are preventive in nature rather than castigatory IMO |
Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by Olabestonic001(m): 9:03pm On May 09, 2016 |
Mamatee07: That killer wife wont be killed. They'll simply blame it on provocation. But those two men will be killed. They'll blame it on premeditation. That's what our world is structured. |
Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by greetings(f): 9:04pm On May 09, 2016 |
Seun: God bless you. 1 Like |
Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by iamcourage(m): 9:05pm On May 09, 2016 |
makavel7:I concur. ..the guy is jobless 1 Like |
Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by Toks2008(m): 9:07pm On May 09, 2016 |
Seun: Seun look away frrom he opic and talk about the contents. If i had used a serene title there will definiely be lesser traffic but any reasonable reader will catch the drift he momen they read it so save yourself the sress of apologizing cos its unwarranted. Many ladies who have commented hardly read pass the title and married ladies who took time to read made reasonable comments. one last word dude,you have known me since 2008 and if you check my titles you will see that i have a way of creating catchy titles hence im so disappointed that you are apologizing for the use of a title while keeping mum about the inherent deep message.Apparently your awareness is limited for you to say im being mean by blaming a victim and i began to wonder if you know how many men also fall victim. intelligent people never judge a book by its cover and no dailies will sell if plain titles are used. I care less if you take it down or lock it. 1 Like |
Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by HaneefahRN(f): 9:10pm On May 09, 2016 |
mavinkalot: They will call you woman wrapper. But washing her panties? Are you sure you are for real? May God continue to bless your family. |
Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by Joelchris(m): 9:27pm On May 09, 2016 |
I have heard several time... Real men willbdo this, real men won't do this but am yet to be told the does and don't of real. Women yet claim "what men can do women can do better' hypocrisy at it peak 1 Like |
Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by AfricanApple(f): 9:30pm On May 09, 2016 |
ucheHapers:indeed, they have eyes but cannot see. that same eye problem wiil lead some girls here to end up in a violent marriage |
Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by greetings(f): 9:36pm On May 09, 2016 |
Toks2008: Please why is there a reason for topic or headline? To give you an insight into the content..... A summary of the body of the article. Yes, your content may make sense but you mislead us with your title on such a sensitive issue for that matter. In actual sense, you failed to give us our times worth in the content, because you hadn't done justice to the delicious topic you used to invite us. Lastly, please take criticisms. It makes you a better writer. Ps. Men and women are both potential victims, as well as perpetrators. 3 Likes |
Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by Benoy: 9:37pm On May 09, 2016 |
Toks2008: Guy, relax...most people don't read beyond the headline. Try and work on that next time, though I take your points as preventive rather than castigatory. Cheers |
Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by Toks2008(m): 9:47pm On May 09, 2016 |
greetings: Its even funny that my topic was modified by the mod cos this tthread itle was not the original one used by me and if mods can modify tittles i believe i is imperattive for the mod to make the title moe subtle if needs be and seun ought to have used this option ratther than take it off from home page bu as i wrote,i care less. 1 Like |
Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by soonest(f): 10:00pm On May 09, 2016 |
Toks2008:If you didn't care, you wouldn't have replied. You better take correction before it's too late. 2 Likes |
Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by Nobody: 10:07pm On May 09, 2016 |
Adek15: First off, I'm not a guy. Secondly, I'm not a muslim. Thirdly, this isn't 630AD when Prophet Mohammed lived, this is the 21st century, a lot of things have changed with time, I was thinking your mentality would too 3 Likes |
Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by Nobody: 10:09pm On May 09, 2016 |
That no 5 though, some ladies can use their tongue to cause war shaa.. Say things that would pierce the mans heart . its best to grow a really thick skin (very thick) to avoid stories that touch.... Funny how people react when a girl slaps a guy in public, prolly laugh at him and mock him ..... then if its the reverse, some suddenly try to become heroes by beating the guy up or some other thing.. I'm not in support of women-beaters but if its a situation where she attacks first, Bro, better defend yourself ( not boxing ring oo, a slap should do ) b'cos these type of women can be really crazy...... I've noticed that some ladies take advantage of the general assertion of a weaker gender and use it to inflict pain on a man, and when the man reacts they are capable of crying a river... thats b.s!! Btw, everyone keeps talking about what Real Men should or should not do..... What about the Real Women or there's nothing like real woman 1 Like |
Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by cococandy(f): 10:10pm On May 09, 2016 |
Only number one made sense but as usual the nonsense pass the sense in the rest of the post. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by Toks2008(m): 10:12pm On May 09, 2016 |
Ngoziada592: You keep hammering on the word VICTIM...which victim are we talking about? what has that got to do with the points i raised? Im being practical lady and im glad that even the ladies cursing have gotten the message. 1 Like |
Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by Etfash(m): 10:16pm On May 09, 2016 |
I don't think a sane person should go physical with anyone ! Having said the above, I want to point out that: women have succeeded in craftily winning the sympathy of peoples all over the world. Today, the media is awash with some slogans like: 'say no to domestic violence'; 'fight against dehumanisation of women' and so on. But, I dare say that women have not stopped using their strength and defence mechanisms against the male folks. Women are powerful 'talkers'; they have unusually great strength to insult and run their men down. And, of course, when they do these, the society regard it as mere words, in fact, it is said that 'whatever isn't written never happened'. The man on the other hand has limitations battling with words; like a prey foolishly crawls into a trap, he engages his own strength which leaves evidence. In my opinion, men have remained fools uptil this day. The female folks are crafty. Haven't you noticed that most children will choose their mother a thousand times ahead of their fathers? You think it's because of men's irresponsibility? No! Even many men who gave their all for their wives and children are still robbed of the affection of their children by the children's mothers. Men respond to women directly! That is a wrong move if you ask me. It's better to do the exact opposite of what their action requires. For instance, If you are insulted: don't reply; play the fool; keep quiet. They begin to cry and expect to be petted; avoid them. When she suddenly begins to expect that you wouldn't care, show her the greatest care of her life. Bottom line: don't react to her actions; respond to it. Lastly, the women folks are the smarter; they cause the problem, smartly feign innocence and weakness; explain why men should have manned up and prevented the problem in the first place; they cry and win the sympathy of everyone around. The truth is, it is the women's world: the burden of having to till the ground was transferred to man; even though some women cater for the financial needs of the house today, if they dont , nothing happens. But if men fail to do so, he is described as being irresponsible. Sarai told Abraham to impregnate Hagai, her maid. It is very easy to say the poor man wanted to do that all along, but I just hope people will imagine the pressure Sarai must have put on that great man of faith. When Sarah eventually had her own son, she asked Abraham to send Hagai and her 14 years old son out of the house. Abraham wanted to protest but even God supported Sarah. Time and space won't let me mention the rift between Jacob and Esau and even the unending war in the Middle-East today. So, men should wise up; realise that they will have to bear full responsibility for everything they do or refuse to do to their women. Even God will not justify them. 5 Likes |
Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by Ishilove: 10:19pm On May 09, 2016 |
Toks2008:That's the point I was trying to make. The title is at serious variance with the first chapter of subject. The topic blames the women entirely, the body voids the first chapter. Toks you may not agree but you didn't arrange it well. |
Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by Oahray: 10:22pm On May 09, 2016 |
Hmmm... All I see are emotional rebuttals with the victim-card an ace up angry sleeves. Logically, the op is right although tactless. I believe in action and consequences. I can't raise my hand on a woman I love unless she's trying to kill me and I'm trying to survive (yes, there is an unless). However it would be presumptuous of me to speak for every man out there. We have varying levels of self-control. A wise woman ought to know this and try to avoid the avoidable. Ok so you realize you married a wife beater (a beast) why do you still keep hurling stones at him? Why get shocked that there's a reaction? Well, it's fashionable these days to absolve the woman of the consequences of her action or inaction. No longer surprised when I read something as stúpid as "never lay hands on a woman NO MATTER WHAT SHE DOES." It's based on the fallacious assumption that women aren't capable of evil actions worthy of strong reactions. I say rubbish! 2 Likes |
Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by Dfinex(f): 10:23pm On May 09, 2016 |
Wealthgang: Nna. ....guy u dey vex o. lolss |
Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by Oahray: 10:26pm On May 09, 2016 |
Etfash:well said! You have a good head on your shoulders. |
Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by Toks2008(m): 10:30pm On May 09, 2016 |
GloryIsaac: So spot on. I have watched many instances where ladies play victims after they pushed the man to the wall. 1 Like |
Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by ndcide(m): 10:32pm On May 09, 2016 |
In my office a lady who was eventually fired, Broke the heads of two of my male colleagues just because they corrected her. Well, in the two occasions the two guys went home / clinic with bleeding heads. From that day, I knew those who insist on "don't touch a woman no Matter what" are suffering from self inflicted daftness. Yes, they are daft. The lady in question wouldn't have done it to the second guy if she got equal feedback. Years back here in Lagos a young female teacher beat up the principal of her school for having an affair with her and backing off. She went to his office, dragged his trousers, disgraced him in the presence of the students. The guy would have ended it if he WOZED her but he took the shame while the lady talked tough about it. Until they were both fired. It still happened here in lekki. I've also see a woman attack a bus conductor because of change, grabbing his dickk. It happened at ozumba mbadiwe here in VI too. The calaba woman grabbed his dickk and jacked the conductor up to pull him down, before some of us intervened. Sorry, my own take is, Do unto others as you want them to do to you. Who fucck up, suppose collect. Unless you have mercy. Besides, ladies are becoming violent these days and boast about it. 1 Like |
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