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missbronze:
Seriously, it happens like that.


You will like someone so much, yet, you don't love them. No matter how hard you try to convert the like to love, it wouldn't just come.

Even when you try to be intimate with the person, it will be like you are with your fellow sex. Nothing arouses you when you with him. You can't kiss him, even when you try to, you don't feel anything. You can't just be emotional with him. Yet, you like hanging out, helping him out, cooking or even washing for him, you feel his pains and happiness.

I am in that situation now.

nlfan:
Our company recently employed this guy, we worked in the same company before, then he was a manager and i was a junior staff.

I left the company years ago and joined another, so few months ago he got employed in my new office as a Director.

When he resumed, being that i knew him before, i started playing around with him, like when he was introduced to us, i was like oo, common, i hug him tightly and people were surprise at our closeness before i informed them that we have worked together before.

I am a jovial person, so each time i go around his office, i will call him boyfriend, my love, hope no girl is trespassing cos i will fight o and his subordinates will laugh and say you are not serious.

On the job, we get to work together at times cos i am a Manager now, we go for meetings etc, then some of his job includes doing some short production, even though i am not employed as a video producer, i told him i can do those for him personally, cos i recently learn those, he was surprise before but he decided to give me a try, i did it for him and he liked it, he became close and said i was helping him solve alot of problems.

Recently when he comes to my office, he will ask my PA where is my woman and that one will laugh knowing i started it but i just thought that was it though.

So last month when we went to the Palms Mall, to seek for permission to film their facilities in the short production work we had, we were together then he decided to do some shopping, i helped him carry the things he bought and just had fun, he took me to shoprite and ask me to shop, i just pick two things, drink and rice and he said is that all i said yes, he started showing me things, take this, take that i said i was okay, that it wasnt appropriate to come here and start shopping like its month end. So we left, in the car he said, you do have some very good attribute girl, i said like what, he said never mind and we drove off.

After that he started asking if we can have lunch but most time our lunch time dont sync, so i told him not to worry, then he asked for a dinner, i close late, im a workaholic, so most times i will agree but i will work till 9pm and he would have waited and get tired and left.

Finally i get to have a dinner date with him and he ask if we could do this more often, i said why not boyfriend jokingly, the next time we were having dinner, I said boyfriend let me greet that guy there, i really needed to meet him, he has a contact i need for work, he held me and said you call me boyfriend jokingly, i want you to mean it lol.

After i met with the guy, he started telling me how he loved me and how he will really love us to be in a relationship, he doesnt expect a yes and he knows its so wrong on all level because we work in the same place, but i can think about it and give him a response later that he will respect any decision i make.

I said thank you o, but since then, dude is so soft and nervous when he sees me, i can see the butterflies even when we are in a client meeting.

Even though he tries not to make it obvious at work, after work he is all over me

Last night we were together, i told him i am scared as he is almost 40 and not married, that i believe any guy who gets to that age, with enough money but has not married is a play boy lol. He couldn't say a word for like some minutes then he said, yes i am old enough to have been married and i had relationships, beautiful relationships with wonderful women, some didn't work because of my mistakes and because of things i neglected and some didn't work because it was not meant to work, but above all have learnt alot to be at least a better man and i am ready to make it work this time i promise, i have no doubt if you are the right girl because have known you for long and have never had a second thought about my woman, so forgive me for not making it work all these while, i want to make it right this time - MEHN THOSE WORDS RINGS IN MY HEAD LIKE KILODE, i loved the fact that he didnt put the blame on the ladies he's dated.

Now on my own side, I do not feel anything for him but i like him alot, i like that we should be hanging out, go out, do dinner and talk from morning tonight but i do not feel anything aside that. What do you guys advise.

VanBommel:
you're confused

kadree:
Dis reminds me of yrs back in uni. I use to av dis lady dat would always be around me in class n around campus. At a point, we were nominated as "best couple" in our dept. She would always come to d house, clean up, prepare mouth watering meal n speak well of me both in my presence n behind but if I toast dis babe to make am official (because wetin no b official, no b official ooo, learnt from experience) she go reject am hands down,insisting she is just ok bn just d way we wia.
I luk say oooooh! na me dis one wan kp as reserve bench?I no b maye na! O ti ooo! Eko lo bi mi si now! Lasgidi to sure. I started avoiding her, if she is coming from geology dept, omo I don speev enta chemistry.. I don't speak in her presence anymore, I don't inform her wen m leaving for d house from campus . Kai d tin enter her. She was forced to go report me to my closest pal dat it's like v lost interest in her. My padi just hala me say "baba, d babe don come report u to me oo" d rest na tori. Ladies, I give una hands.

sweetcocoa:
Oh really? Pray tell, who am I really?

IdJack:
Now on my own side, I do not feel anything for him but i like him alot, i like that we should be hanging out, go out, do dinner and talk from morning tonight but i do not feel anything aside that. What do you guys advise.

OP...hope when he date another lady in your company or another lady elsewhere, you will not call him a cheat, its better you let him know now oooo.

Anywhere you have not told us your age or whether you are in another relationship.

But better still...think and think again. Love and feeling grow with time.

nlfan:
Our company recently employed this guy, we worked in the same company before, then he was a manager and i was a junior staff.

I left the company years ago and joined another, so few months ago he got employed in my new office as a Director.

When he resumed, being that i knew him before, i started playing around with him, like when he was introduced to us, i was like oo, common, i hug him tightly and people were surprise at our closeness before i informed them that we have worked together before.

I am a jovial person, so each time i go around his office, i will call him boyfriend, my love, hope no girl is trespassing cos i will fight o and his subordinates will laugh and say you are not serious.

On the job, we get to work together at times cos i am a Manager now, we go for meetings etc, then some of his job includes doing some short production, even though i am not employed as a video producer, i told him i can do those for him personally, cos i recently learn those, he was surprise before but he decided to give me a try, i did it for him and he liked it, he became close and said i was helping him solve alot of problems.

Recently when he comes to my office, he will ask my PA where is my woman and that one will laugh knowing i started it but i just thought that was it though.

So last month when we went to the Palms Mall, to seek for permission to film their facilities in the short production work we had, we were together then he decided to do some shopping, i helped him carry the things he bought and just had fun, he took me to shoprite and ask me to shop, i just pick two things, drink and rice and he said is that all i said yes, he started showing me things, take this, take that i said i was okay, that it wasnt appropriate to come here and start shopping like its month end. So we left, in the car he said, you do have some very good attribute girl, i said like what, he said never mind and we drove off.

gtswt:
Op, let me tell u something u might never have known. When i was first told this, i argued but after making some research i discovered its true.
No woman have the capacity to love. The Bible clearly states it. ' Husbands love ur wife, wife summit to ur husband. Search the Bible u will never find where a woman was meant to 'love' her husband like it was asked the man.
It's the duty of a man to love a woman and the woman reciprocates by being submissive to her man. U liking him already is enough, the feelings will keep growing as long as u both a true to yourselves. The mistakes we ladies make is wanting to settle with a man we think we 'love' but the most successful marriages i have seen today is a submissive woman who was wise enough to marry a man that truely loves her even when she tot she had no feelings for him. My dear, put ur eyes down and start observing him deeply to ascertain if he's truely head over heels for u. If he is, pls run along fast fast.
@all, my opinion.... No insults pls. I really hate it when someone says his/her mind on a public forum and some persons respond with insults/abuses. Please, let be mature and treat each other wit respect. Thanks

nlfan:
Our company recently employed this guy, we worked in the same company before, then he was a manager and i was a junior staff.

I left the company years ago and joined another, so few months ago he got employed in my new office as a Director.

When he resumed, being that i knew him before, i started playing around with him, like when he was introduced to us, i was like oo, common, i hug him tightly and people were surprise at our closeness before i informed them that we have worked together before.

I am a jovial person, so each time i go around his office, i will call him boyfriend, my love, hope no girl is trespassing cos i will fight o and his subordinates will laugh and say you are not serious.

On the job, we get to work together at times cos i am a Manager now, we go for meetings etc, then some of his job includes doing some short production, even though i am not employed as a video producer, i told him i can do those for him personally, cos i recently learn those, he was surprise before but he decided to give me a try, i did it for him and he liked it, he became close and said i was helping him solve alot of problems.

Recently when he comes to my office, he will ask my PA where is my woman and that one will laugh knowing i started it but i just thought that was it though.

So last month when we went to the Palms Mall, to seek for permission to film their facilities in the short production work we had, we were together then he decided to do some shopping, i helped him carry the things he bought and just had fun, he took me to shoprite and ask me to shop, i just pick two things, drink and rice and he said is that all i said yes, he started showing me things, take this, take that i said i was okay, that it wasnt appropriate to come here and start shopping like its month end. So we left, in the car he said, you do have some very good attribute girl, i said like what, he said never mind and we drove off.

After that he started asking if we can have lunch but most time our lunch time dont sync, so i told him not to worry, then he asked for a dinner, i close late, im a workaholic, so most times i will agree but i will work till 9pm and he would have waited and get tired and left.

Finally i get to have a dinner date with him and he ask if we could do this more often, i said why not boyfriend jokingly, the next time we were having dinner, I said boyfriend let me greet that guy there, i really needed to meet him, he has a contact i need for work, he held me and said you call me boyfriend jokingly, i want you to mean it lol.

After i met with the guy, he started telling me how he loved me and how he will really love us to be in a relationship, he doesnt expect a yes and he knows its so wrong on all level because we work in the same place, but i can think about it and give him a response later that he will respect any decision i make.

I said thank you o, but since then, dude is so soft and nervous when he sees me, i can see the butterflies even when we are in a client meeting.

Even though he tries not to make it obvious at work, after work he is all over me

Last night we were together, i told him i am scared as he is almost 40 and not married, that i believe any guy who gets to that age, with enough money but has not married is a play boy lol. He couldn't say a word for like some minutes then he said, yes i am old enough to have been married and i had relationships, beautiful relationships with wonderful women, some didn't work because of my mistakes and because of things i neglected and some didn't work because it was not meant to work, but above all have learnt alot to be at least a better man and i am ready to make it work this time i promise, i have no doubt if you are the right girl because have known you for long and have never had a second thought about my woman, so forgive me for not making it work all these while, i want to make it right this time - MEHN THOSE WORDS RINGS IN MY HEAD LIKE KILODE, i loved the fact that he didnt put the blame on the ladies he's dated.

Now on my own side, I do not feel anything for him but i like him alot, i like that we should be hanging out, go out, do dinner and talk from morning tonight but i do not feel anything aside that. What do you guys advise.

DivideUs:
@op, did you ever stop to think about the possibility that he's actually being a player and you are the game right now?

donbenedict:
It's so not fair

Ah mean, how can a man just really want to love a woman and she treats him like this?


Sometimes I really just don't get it..


Cc: juhan

missbronze:
Seriously, it happens like that.


You will like someone so much, yet, you don't love them. No matter how hard you try to convert the like to love, it wouldn't just come.

Even when you try to be intimate with the person, it will be like you are with your fellow sex. Nothing arouses you when you with him. You can't kiss him, even when you try to, you don't feel anything. You can't just be emotional with him. Yet, you like hanging out, helping him out, cooking or even washing for him, you feel his pains and happiness.

I am in that situation now.

Resurgence:
What sort of wickedness is this.

You should always let people who have no chance with you know immediately.

Why do you keep having dinner with him and telling him you think he is a play boy.

You keep encouraging him. The moment you noticed how he felt you should have withdrawn a little.

This is unfair, playing around with someone feeling as such. Tell him immediately how you feel. If he wants to remain friends it's his choice but stop giving him mixed signals

aimuan:
u like him alot.u like that u should BE hanging out,go out together,do dinner and talk from morning till night.what do you really think is the driving force behind this wishes of urs?that's FEELINGS.u have feeling for him just that u refuse to see it now.just change d way u look at him.IF YOU CHANGE THE WAY U LOOK AT THINGS,THE THINGS U LOOK AT WILL CHANG.

sisisioge:
Hmmmm, I think u more than like him. But if I'm totally wrong, hand him over. Sisi will take care of your big baby for you. Tell him to call me...

Vandieee:
GUY NO DEY MENTION "CHANGE" OF A WORD FOR HERE!

Acidosis:
I will talk to you, and heaven will not fall because I want the best for you

chisco82:
And you type these shits up there, you well so? You 'woman kiss a man, romance and no feelings? You be lesbo. No lie.

donbenedict:
It's so not fair

Ah mean, how can a man just really want to love a woman and she treats him like this?


Sometimes I really just don't get it..


Cc: juhan

juhan:
welcome back