Festivalofholi:
U can prove to him dat u have other value/worth besides ur pusssy. Let him know he has other things he can benefit frm u beside sex. Also try to show him ur an independent lady and u dont need his money.

But how many naija girls can do dat? With their poverty mentality of always expecting a guy to spend on 'em. So if he treats u like a sex object, u bargained for it.

I concur.

Any man that you're in a relationship with must have been attracted by something; it could be your body, connection, attitude, character, etc. If you attracted him with your body, then all he is after is your body, no two ways about it. I'm not saying you attracted him with your body though; he could be a player.

If you want him to stay, you will have to show him some positive characters in you that would tempt him to stay with you. But if the guy is naturally a player, I don't think it will work, ditch him for a responsible man.

modestdude:
While at it, don't show desperation, don't be nosy on him like checking up his phone and per adventure you around him when he's got a call, gently excuse him to take his call freely. Treat him like a friend, and make every of your date with him lively. If he drinks, you can also offer him a drink periodically. Try playing friendly money gambles with him, after which you guyz return every money won to the one who lost, Lol...the least intimate you should get with him is pecking and a butterfly kiss. Let it out, it won't hurt. With that you are telling him, there are more if he is sincere.

bro you have a Point, with this method you leave the guy with no option than to stay, thinking there are betters dys ahead with u both

hlo sum1 like mi i will perfer to fall in love wit u than av sex wit u becuz sex cum last

chigoizie7:



Nice one bros,


But, if na tòto carry me come ur side, bros if I must look elsewhere, I must 1st of all do that thing wey carry me come in d 1st place.

Assuming am a lady, before I give you the Toto wey carry you come, I must first establish a 'do-without' chemistry btw us thru my actions and inactions. Even if you look elsewhere, deep down, you will know its your loss.

in character, be the best girl he has ever met or use shortcut give him love potion. but the latter has expiry date

torqque7:


Works like magic where?lol you'll be surprised..look, too much hard to get makes him device ways of paying you back for the stress you put him through..

As for waiting for six months before getting intimate?you are just a joker..I'll only consider it if I am certain you are a Virgin,but if you are not then its either it happens or you get kicked out,simple as that,any guy that agrees to your terms I can assure you,he is getting his grove on with some other girl.

My advice choose guys wisely and carefully, date responsible men not boys who sag and party every night,and don't date young guys especially those you know don't have plans of settling down in at most 3years.

Basically you MUST be decent to a level because you cannot be trying to get a reasonable responsible correct man when you have been known as the towns cum bucket. He will only chop his share of the national cake in between your legs. Be wise.

What are you smoking at Mr. Adviser? So guys who dont have plans to settle down in 3yrs shouldnt date and have their diccks oiled in a pusssy? Like which school of thought advised you such?

For me every single lady has a man somewhere who's willing to die for her love, all U need is total propper attitude if it doesn't work please close your legs and walk away!! Mind U sis do less shakara not much lol

modestdude:
Assuming am a lady, before I give you the Toto wey carry you come, I must first establish a 'do-without' chemistry btw us thru my actions and inactions. Even if you look elsewhere, deep down, you will know its your loss.

Do u actually think men loose in matters like that?

U don't get my points do u?

By elsewhere, I don't mean, looking for another tótó oh, nope, I mean, b4 another thing (love and all that), I go don collect wetin carry me come b4 considering weda to fall in love true true or not, it doesn't matter how long it took me or how much we spent or how long we have to pretend.

Some men de buy duplex and some expensive cars for girls just to fùck dem, it is not as if they are starved of sex, after all, their wives tòto dey house de wait for who to come fûck am.

post=45739667:
Thank you sister, that's why I don't even accept to go to any of their houses. Imagine they meet you today, next tomorrow, they're saying, 'come to my house '. One of them even insulted me for refusing to come.

Na house sef... e mean say him get respect for you na. Not all guys would want a fling to know where they live... if for say na hotel, nwanne you are on a very long thing...

post=45736532:
Hi everyone. So, in this age that almost every guy that comes to you is thinking of how to sleep with you, my question is how can you make or how can a guy who just wants to sleep with you, fall in love with you? Please mature responses only. Thank you

How should I know how to help you when your Monika doesn't have a picture? Is he dating the right person or not

espn:
someone who doesn't have a thing for you can never have one...

are u trying to say that thing come naturally? We ve lived long to know, love grow with time

Behave like his Mother...treat him like a Son..not scared to reprimand him gently when he misbehaves..His way of seeing u will change..Respect level will rise..He will take u serious..

post=45736532:
Hi everyone. So, in this age that almost every guy that comes to you is thinking of how to sleep with you, my question is how can you make or how can a guy who just wants to sleep with you, fall in love with you? Please mature responses only. Thank you

if only your french lesson is Free! Wud ve lecture you on the little secret. The ans now is How do you know that the guy wants to sleep with u

@Op, u want him to fall in love so u can use him?

Remember..."Guys only want love when its torture"-Taylor Swift..

That's how the dogs behaves

post=45750998:
So does that mean that even if I do all that, he might not still like me for real? Lord Have Mercy

Lolsss... Just be yourself. It's not about playing too hard to get. I could remember during my university days, I had a long list of girls who played too hard for me to sleep with them. I didn't give up, some even took me 3 to 4 years just to get what I wanted... Just be decent, independent and smart... That's what guys look out for and not claiming to be very difficult just to prove ur point... I'm not saying you should be carefree either but know when to give in so as not to stretch the guy to a limit.
A lady who meets a guy for the first time and starts talking about money or gifts can never be considered a girlfriend or wife material... Financial independence for ladies, decency and respect is key to making a guy fall for you completely despite his initial intentions.
My girlfriend, I had the intentions of hitting and running away, but when I eventually got what I wanted, I couldn't not run away again because I saw what made me stick with her and we are close to 2years now.
Hope I made sense...

post=45736532:
Hi everyone. So, in this age that almost every guy that comes to you is thinking of how to sleep with you, my question is how can you make or how can a guy who just wants to sleep with you, fall in love with you? Please mature responses only. Thank you

Open up to him about what he wants (sex).

Let him know that you want more than that, infact if you are good with the Bible give him some of the books that best describes this.

Goodluck!

post=45736532:
Hi everyone. So, in this age that almost every guy that comes to you is thinking of how to sleep with you, my question is how can you make or how can a guy who just wants to sleep with you, fall in love with you? Please mature responses only. Thank you

I wanna give u a candid answer..... the girl m dating now...I asked her out solely for sexual satisfaction during my service year buh her attitude was just too good to let her go, she's not a money monger, she's very caring....she started showing me love so I had no choice than to love back....she did a lot of things that amazed me.....even when she caught me cheating. she handled d issue maturely....now I have finally realised the wife material in her is enough to sow agbada......I won't advice u to say yes if he tell it to your face that ure a fling...atleast let him lie that he loves u n wanna marry u....so as to uphold dignity.....you can chat me up if u need more advice on diz demand for my digit

There are no general rules to these things, a guy who really wants to have seen with you can wait for 5yrs while you continue deceiving yourself playing hard to get. The only way around it is to prove to him that you have other things to offer and not just ur pushy..

post=45736532:
Hi everyone. So, in this age that almost every guy that comes to you is thinking of how to sleep with you, my question is how can you make or how can a guy who just wants to sleep with you, fall in love with you? Please mature responses only. Thank you

I love this comment

Let me also add this:

Majority of Nigerian guys today see ladies as broke, hungry, needy people only after guys with fat wallet to offer....so act differently. Surprise any guy u meet by showing him that u are not a broke, hungry, needy girl after ready made guys.

Presently, every guy (rich, poor or average) is searching for a lady that will work with him to build an enviable home. Guys are searching for ladies who are asset; asset in terms of financial viability...business sense, money-management ability and what have u.

If u are a single lady living outside Nigeria and still finding it difficult to get a suitor or hubby over there, stop dying in loneliness...borrow the Nigerian guys sense....forget all those guys living abroad with u....to them, u are a nobody....to them u aren't an asset....look across the border of the country u are living in...many wonderful guys living in Nigeria will see u as a rare gem and an asset and will shower u with love and even wife u, y Because guys are now searching for asset! Times have changed...global economy has made guys wiser.

If u are a single lady and u have‎ a good job, and still finding it difficult to find love or husband, u are the one causing it....stop dating guys in your company or those in your social circle....to them, u are a nobody...u aren't an asset to them....try guys away from your firm, industry and social class....they will value u because to them u are an asset.

Just look for a guy who sees u as an asset and not as a liability, believe me, even if he have sex with u on the very minute he met u, he won't leave u...he will want to keep u because to him u are an asset he needs for life!

So dear single ladies reading, try and make yourselves valuable assets...things are changing...only few ladies are lucky to get good guys without being a value...even though to those guys, they are an asset. too....so ladies make yourself an asset...and think beyond sex, sex is not the problem....guys nowadays don't judge u based on your sex history but on your value worth, character, manner and financial management skill.‎

mineANDurs:
Play hard to get and wait like 6months b4 getting intimate with him(if u want to), it works like magic.
They will disagree but its true.


Modified...
Stop calling for my head guys.
It is a well known "fact" that u guys tag any girl u find it easy to sleep with "a hoe".
U guys wants easy sex but disregard d girl after it.

Serious minded men will love and wive u if u "do not" give them easy sex.

See, i had colleagues who toasted ladies for two years n above jst to sleep with her. they just want to have a taste n see aw it feels. so ds ur criteria isnt d best. Infact to be candid, d ladies av dated n ad sex wt within 2weeks are d ones av spent 2years n above with. d 1s who delayed didn't last 2months afta d sex. so jst pray to God mak ur own man come cos no criteria given, followed or obeyed can help in holding a man down

humilitypays:
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The only sure way to do that is by showing him u have other good things to offer him aside sex.

Sex is never the problem...ladies make mistake thinking because a guy had sex with them was the major reason the guy left them, but that's not true. If it's true, plenty happily married ladies today will be single.

Now, what to do is this: when u meet a guy, don't be carried away by his material possession. For instance, if he has a car, don't be too freaky about his car...do like you aren't seeing his car.

And most importantly, don't make it a priority to accept hello and hi from guys that own a car only. Stop choosing the guy to date based on if he has a car or not...most guys that own a car in Nigeria have a serious relationship or marriage with a girl they met while they were trekking, so they see every other girl that's not that their old time girlfriend as a typical Nigerian girl desperate to reap where she didn't sow....and guys hate it...so they just use their car and money to entice girls for temporary fun.

Some of these guys can endure for too long and even play along with your hard-to-get until they lay you on their bed and off they go...so playing hard to get won't solve the problem.

Just don't be greedy, don't be selfish, don't have high expectation from guys...expect less or nothing from a guy....just go for a guy u want his company.

Don't look down on guys who don't come to u with car or some flashy way....don't underrate that James in your area, that John u met in the bus or on the way...just because he is trekking or in the bus with u...he might be the one while u are waiting for the right guy to come in a Range Rover...whereas the guys driving Range Rover already have a lover and sees u as easy girl to get and sleep with temporary.

Lastly, always ask yourself: what do I have to give to this guy I want to date aside sex? If u don't have any other good thing to offer to a guy except sex, then no guy will stay with u for long....

If u meet a guy, stop recommending he take u to shoprite, chicken republic, etc....instead, try and make him not to spend or even reject his spending. once a guy starts to spend on u on first meeting, he won't like u much....so stop accepting money from any guy u meet and wanna date....stop portraying that u are poor, broke and needy...instead let him know u wanna go places on your own...make him know u are career or business-minded not just by talking but by doing.

Bring up viable business ideas when with him, talk about what u are doing to make money on your own, get a better job....make him see u as an asset and not as a liability.

Once a guy sees u as a liability, he will start to dislike you, and once he starts feeling that u are a liability always in need of money, help and favor, he will start planning his exit and once he have sex with u, he will flee.

So sex is not the problem...but what do u have to offer him after sex Many men are married to ladies they had sex with even on their first date...so playing hard to get and prolonging sex till eternity won't make most reasonable guys value u or keep u...it will even chase most reasonable men of our time away. be a value, an asset and not a liability, that's the solution‎

Ive got to admit this..But U ma Nigga is one of the rare guys on nairaland whoz medulla overflows with raw intellect Psychological intelligence and enviable Wisdom..Looking at the way u explained and outlined this piece shows hw mentally healthy and socially enlightened U are..Im proud of U. If u reside in Lagos I dnt min meeting up with U out of my busy schedule nd have a good chat with great brains like U.

Ur IQ is really onpoint. U can Buzz me on 09053662202


NB: LADIES..trust me this is the most Golden Advice U will ever get relative to this topic any day anytime.



#Easy.

U dey plan your death .

I have been through this and i know how it works, but i needed to ask you some few questions before i advice you. DM ME

tbliss22:


Bros this ur advice is dangerous ooo. Finger her ke? How will all that make him fall in love with her??

Yes it works like magic

All ur mates would hv bin married b4 d end of d six month.

mineANDurs:
Play hard to get and wait like 6months b4 getting intimate with him(if u want to), it works like magic.
They will disagree but its true.


Modified...
Stop calling for my head guys.
It is a well known "fact" that u guys tag any girl u find it easy to sleep with "a hoe".
U guys wants easy sex but disregard d girl after it.

Serious minded men will love and wive u if u "do not" give them easy sex.

It's the way that you present yourself

...that signals to the brain of the man on what to do with you.
If u flits,unclads,post rubbish on Facebook,met you at the club,don't expect me to have a relationship with u.I will only use u and go to my village.

If u are not desperate why would u want to make a guy who is not in love with you fall for u. Na only if u use OTUMOPO the black medicine.

I read some comments and am like wtf!,do guys fall inlove any more?, atleast not in my world, if a guy wants just sex from you,nothing will change his mind,as for those saying be decent and blah blah,I am so laughing, no amount of decency can change a guy,it will only make you to be perceived as naive and easy to conquer,the Op probably wants a serious relationship,the truth is when it comes to serious relationships,it doesn't happen by chance, it is planned, not like he just came to have sex and the changes his mind and decides to walk down the aisle with you,so if he not out for that,then he will be blind to whatever quality you have as a woman, my candid advice is run, but if you want to play the game,stay and get burned at your own peril

Festivalofholi:
U can prove to him dat u have other value/worth besides ur pusssy. Let him know he has other things he can benefit frm u beside sex. Also try to show him ur an independent lady and u dont need his money.

But how many naija girls can do dat? With their poverty mentality of always expecting a guy to spend on 'em. So if he treats u like a sex object, u bargained for it.

.....God bless u for this comment.