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Re: How Can I Make A Guy Who Just Wants To Use Me Fall In Love? by ourchoice(m): 7:41am On May 19, 2016

Ladies should ask themselves this question: what makes many guys nowadays to prefer hit-and-run instead of establishing a relationship with them?

The answer is the solution to the op's question.

One major reason guys hit a girl and run forever is if the girl has nothing else good to offer to them aside sex.

If your body is all u have to offer to guys, then u are on a long thing. You maybe lucky and meet a guy who just want a pretty girl to show off, and he decides to wife u, but still, he won't value you much as his wife still.

So dear single ladies, try and develop yourself to become an asset like someone earlier said. Every guy today wants to date and marry a girl that has some valuable things to offer.

No guy want a liability again. Most Nigerian girls are liability to guys. You meet a guy, u start to demand for money to make hair, money to buy clothe, money to buy bag, money to do nails, haba na...guys are not as stupid as you ladies think o, most times they just play along to get what they want - sex.

So ladies, stop making guys see u as a broke, poor girl in need of financial help. It will chase many guys away from you.

No guy that meets Zhara Buhari will want to have sex with her and run, except he is the son of American or some richer country's president...at least no Nigerian guy would do that...in fact, any Nigerian guy that meets Zhara Buhari will want to marry her, why because to guys, Zhara is an asset and not a liability.

It's not because Zhara is that beautiful, but because she appears to be an asset to guys.

So ladies, even though your parents are not rich, you can develop yourself to become an asset many guys would want to keep. Nobody toils with a valuable asset.


Stop begging guys for money, erase the mentality that because you are a girl, guys ought to take care of you. If you are lucky and you meet a guy who loves you and still wants to take care of you financially, please don't abuse it; sometimes tell him to keep his money and save it. 

Find a way to make guys around you to know that you are not after what guys have.

Let me ask this question: how many single guys above 25yrs in Nigeria own a car? I am sure less that 15%. Now, how many single ladies in Nigeria want to date a guy driving a car? I am sure 100%. Which means there are plenty free girls for the few guys that are driving their own car in Nigeria.

It's so unfortunate that Nigerian ladies now measure a guy's worth based on if he is driving a car or not; this attitude has burnt many ladies' hands. This stupid mentality has made so many Nigerian single ladies to end up as sex object to many guys driving cars.

Nigerian ladies need to start thinking beyond material things and start considering other qualities in men. I know I am wasting my time preaching to deaf people, lol...but I just felt like educating the wise ladies who care to learn anyway.

So OP, search your heart well, did the guy get you with some material things he has; like his car, money or some material things? How did you met him? This will also determine his true intention. He maybe married or engaged to another girl.

If he got you with his car, hmmm....the possibility of him staying after sex is slim because he probably has a serious woman in his life and only using his car to attract girls for temporary fling. So search your heart and think about how you guys met and what attracted you to him; guys always know why a girl accepted them. Don't think guys are fools, they are not; they only play along to get what they want - sex.‎

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Re: How Can I Make A Guy Who Just Wants To Use Me Fall In Love? by Dhenz: 7:42am On May 19, 2016
If a man want just sex with you......You can only change him if you are decent and principled enough and you really have something to offer to him other than your body.....that's if he's responsible himself....if he's not you can't change it. You must be doing something wrong for men to be wanting only sex with you.

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Re: How Can I Make A Guy Who Just Wants To Use Me Fall In Love? by Kitanadex(m): 7:42am On May 19, 2016
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Hi everyone. So, in this age that almost every guy that comes to you is thinking of how to sleep with you, my question is how can you make or how can a guy who just wants to sleep with you, fall in love with you? Please mature responses only. Thank you
The thing is, there are different types of men, different backgrounds, different mindset, different cultures, different education, different experience, different temperament, therefore what affects A might not affect B. My advice is just be yourself and the right and God fearing man will come

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Re: How Can I Make A Guy Who Just Wants To Use Me Fall In Love? by kan12(m): 7:48am On May 19, 2016
sex or no sex,as a lady,if you know you are happy with a particular guy,or you need him in ur life,meet him nd tell him,least he follow anoda nd leave u sad.Key factor in any relationship is d happiness of both parties.The girl lalasticlala is dating now asked him out.
Re: How Can I Make A Guy Who Just Wants To Use Me Fall In Love? by mavinkalot: 7:48am On May 19, 2016
on point....u said it all.
Festivalofholi:
U can prove to him dat u have other value/worth besides ur pusssy. Let him know he has other things he can benefit frm u beside sex. Also try to show him ur an independent lady and u dont need his money.

But how many naija girls can do dat? With their poverty mentality of always expecting a guy to spend on 'em. So if he treats u like a sex object, u bargained for it.
Re: How Can I Make A Guy Who Just Wants To Use Me Fall In Love? by favronke: 7:50am On May 19, 2016
A player dnt just become a player in one day.
1st of all u need 2 study him cos player get categories
2nd dnt av see wit him.
3rd be a gud listener but dnt fall 2 his sweet talk
4. Be caring but noo sex. Guy love caring lady but hate loose ladies
5 be smart around him. Players love smart ladies and dress gud wit no 2much makeup
6. Be natural and pray 4 him. If u both are meant 2 be. It will work. Or order wise runing 4 ur life

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Re: How Can I Make A Guy Who Just Wants To Use Me Fall In Love? by attah01(m): 8:00am On May 19, 2016
No comment I Save mine......
Re: How Can I Make A Guy Who Just Wants To Use Me Fall In Love? by pepigeorge(m): 8:04am On May 19, 2016
The same way Jesus turned water into wine
Re: How Can I Make A Guy Who Just Wants To Use Me Fall In Love? by bibiking7(m): 8:04am On May 19, 2016
mineANDurs:
Play hard to get and wait like 6months b4 getting intimate with him(if u want to), it works like magic.
They will disagree but its true.


Modified...
Stop calling for my head guys.
It is a well known "fact" that u guys tag any girl u find it easy to sleep with "a hoe".
U guys wants easy sex but disregard d girl after it.

Serious minded men will love and wive u if u "do not" give them easy sex.



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Wrong. Guys can scope a girl for more than 6 months only to shag, when i say scope, i mean the total package (dates, Bday gifts, constant phone calls). There are some traits that some guys cannot stand, and the truth is that, when He senses those traits, He has decided. Its easy for a guy to decide how much he likes a girl. Now, He might not even have plans to settle down with her, but might end up settling down with her. For example, i despise lazy girls and trust me, i will know if you are lazy. I could invest more than 6 months just to shag a lazy girl 3 times and then split. The fact is that you just cant explain it how these connections work but when he likes you, he likes you. I am speaking from experience. Waiting for 6 months is even worse than having sex early in the relationship, considering how much time the lady would had invested in relationship. In fact, the worst one is when he shags the girl then dumps her, then misses her punny, and spends another 3 months begging for her forgiveness only to shag again and then dump her again. Once again, speaking from experience.
Just be yourself and dont put too much pressure on the relationship, if he will come around, he will come around.

Another scope is to go close to one of his close friends and ask him if he was your elder brother, would he advice you to continue with the relationship. but it does not work all the time due to the bro code.

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amauri:
Der is no single way to make a guy fall in love wit u.Just be urself and be decent u will surely see d right person dat will fall for u and not looking for sex.



Correct.




Festivalofholi:
U can prove to him dat u have other value/worth besides ur pusssy. Let him know he has other things he can benefit frm u beside sex. Also try to show him ur an independent lady and u dont need his money.

But how many naija girls can do dat? With their poverty mentality of always expecting a guy to spend on 'em. So if he treats u like a sex object, u bargained for it.




Correct.

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Re: How Can I Make A Guy Who Just Wants To Use Me Fall In Love? by Lotechi(m): 8:04am On May 19, 2016
every guy likes an awesome woman.Jes show him hw awesome u are and never let go of ur core values unless it has been proven that those values are not best for you!!!
Re: How Can I Make A Guy Who Just Wants To Use Me Fall In Love? by adanny01(m): 8:13am On May 19, 2016
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Hi everyone. So, in this age that almost every guy that comes to you is thinking of how to sleep with you, my question is how can you make or how can a guy who just wants to sleep with you, fall in love with you? Please mature responses only. Thank you

Yes, almost every man wants to sleep with you. I feel the real question is how do you avoid being cheated.

Its simple, dont give sex because you think a guy is in love, be yourself and give sex when you want it. If sex becomes a reward to a guy, you will always feel cheated. Some girls feel like sex is their most prized possesion, when they give, they expect a guy to give his most prized possesion which is his commitment. Unfortunately, guys never give commitment because of sex.

All the girls that give sex freely without emotions never feel cheated, those who attach emotions to it will cry for been cheated.

Its just unfortunate, there is no sure way to make a guy stick around unless he has seen what he had not seen before and after he met you. Sweet sex can keep a man longer. The good person you are can keep a man forever.

I have a friend who is 35, all his friends are married and he has no girlfriend to propose to. He met a young girl, 22, he wanted her so badly, sex and all. She thought it was just the sex and denied him. His cousin sister who never knew he was after a certain girl recommended a girl, 32, in another state, they fell in love after seeing each others facebook profile and talking on phone. The first day they met was like that of people who knew themselves for years. Sex wasnt an issue, they had it same week they met. I have never seen my friend in love until now. When i think of the 22 yr old girl, she made a mistake of her life thinking it was all because of sex. Now, she is begging for attention, initiating chats and calls in vain.

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Re: How Can I Make A Guy Who Just Wants To Use Me Fall In Love? by torqque7(m): 8:26am On May 19, 2016
[quote author=permanentgrace post=45756410]

What are you smoking at Mr. Adviser? So guys who dont have plans to settle down in 3yrs shouldnt date and have their diccks oiled in a pusssy? Like which school of thought advised you such?[/quo

Lol if you are not sure of what is said why don't you ask and be sure b4 you start throwing insults around Mr man? The keyword is SETTLE down,not every girl wants to settle down now or in 3years time,the advice I gave is for those looking to settle down,its not coded or rocket science, anyone who reads it should know who I was referring to clearly.

Girls looking for FUN should date guys in that category, those looking to settle should also date guys in that category, DO YOU COMPREHEND now?smh undecided.

Learn to air your views without making derogatory remarks for NO reason,makes you sound naive.
Re: How Can I Make A Guy Who Just Wants To Use Me Fall In Love? by Judiano143(m): 8:33am On May 19, 2016
When some you dress to kill what you expect, some ill snap their back loaded boots n use it as dp, he wants to have sex and go because the sex msg is what you have him so offer. if you wanna make him fall in love with you. start by dressing decent, make sure he doesn't see things that will arouse him. Ask himself, family, stories about his life, what he plans to do in the future, drag him to places of fun and share some exciting moments. This will make you too to start developing some chemistry and still don't yield to sex but always hug him tight in public places just to show off and tell him am proud of you This will even tell any contender to back off. Denying him Sex is what will keep love in suspense n less complicated level so give eveything but not sex

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Re: How Can I Make A Guy Who Just Wants To Use Me Fall In Love? by Judiano143(m): 8:33am On May 19, 2016
When some you willl dress to kill what do you expect, some ill snap their back loaded boots n use it as dp or post on fb, that why want to have sex and go because sex is the only msg we have recived so far. if you wanna make him fall in love with you. start by dressing decent, make sure he doesn't see things that will arouse him. Ask him about himself, family, stories about his life, what he plans to do in the future, drag him to places of fun and share some exciting moments. This will make you too to start developing some chemistry and still don't yield to sex but always hug him tight in public places just to show off and tell him am proud of you This will even tell any contender to back off. Denying him Sex is what will keep the love in suspense n @ a less complicated level so give him everything but not sex
Re: How Can I Make A Guy Who Just Wants To Use Me Fall In Love? by lumimuyiwaa(m): 8:37am On May 19, 2016
If you are asking this question. Its One of
1-Two things he is Using you Already
2- you are desperate.
Or even 1nd2
Either ways It Would Be Difficult to Win, so you like him, and you cut the supply, he pretends to like you and gain back the supply
You cut the supply and move ahead to find someone more Deserving where its a mutual feeling.
With the topic tho, he Doesn't like you completely, any effort might prove desperate and you don't want that... So take a stroll, maybe He'd Miss some genuine woman qualities, and come running.
But this is when to be hard to Get, you Have nothing To loose
Re: How Can I Make A Guy Who Just Wants To Use Me Fall In Love? by krak101(m): 8:52am On May 19, 2016
mineANDurs:
Play hard to get and wait like 6months b4 getting intimate with him(if u want to), it works like magic.
They will disagree but its true.


Modified...
Stop calling for my head guys.
It is a well known "fact" that u guys tag any girl u find it easy to sleep with "a hoe".
U guys wants easy sex but disregard d girl after it.

Serious minded men will love and wive u if u "do not" give them easy sex.

Wrong. Some brothers are patient to the grave. If you like play hard to get for eternity a bro that's determined will still hang around and woe betide you he hits that spot after a very long wait. He'll dump your sorry arse faster than a thunderbolt. My advise... Don't try taming a beast that doesn't want to be tamed. Shikena
Re: How Can I Make A Guy Who Just Wants To Use Me Fall In Love? by damola44(m): 8:53am On May 19, 2016
bqlekan:


abeg how dem dey do that one? grin
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Re: How Can I Make A Guy Who Just Wants To Use Me Fall In Love? by BiggyB242(m): 9:04am On May 19, 2016
In a long run you can't really make a guy fall inlove with you. Just be yourself different guys look for different things in a lady- just because John loves big booty you want a big one, Payl wants a slim lady you will want to slim down, James wants a career lady you want get a professional job. In a nut shell just be yourself and you will find who will want you for you. Players and jerks will definitely come around but just be yourself and don't try to impress anyone.
Re: How Can I Make A Guy Who Just Wants To Use Me Fall In Love? by DRGREAT(m): 9:09am On May 19, 2016
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Thank you sister, that's why I don't even accept to go to any of their houses. Imagine they meet you today, next tomorrow, they're saying, 'come to my house '. One of them even insulted me for refusing to come.
.That's how you know dogs that cannot control their below the belt faculty...
Re: How Can I Make A Guy Who Just Wants To Use Me Fall In Love? by Felincous(m): 9:17am On May 19, 2016
Guys fall for value nd not sex.Add value to urself nd watch ur character. Most ladies now lack good character nd they dnt care abt it anymore. I usd to study ladies wella nd if u can wait patiently, they will show who they are.Finally be sincere with urself, will u like ur son to marry the type of gal u are? gd day.

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Re: How Can I Make A Guy Who Just Wants To Use Me Fall In Love? by GoodMuyis(m): 9:17am On May 19, 2016
post=45736532:
Hi everyone. So, in this age that almost every guy that comes to you is thinking of how to sleep with you, my question is how can you make or how can a guy who just wants to sleep with you, fall in love with you? Please mature responses only. Thank you

Be Responsible Girl
Be Reasonable Girl
Learn to be intelligent
Be a thinker for him
Keep distance (dont always be around)
Re: How Can I Make A Guy Who Just Wants To Use Me Fall In Love? by queenelizabeth: 9:18am On May 19, 2016
post=45739667:
Thank you sister, that's why I don't even accept to go to any of their houses. Imagine they meet you today, next tomorrow, they're saying, 'come to my house '. One of them even insulted me for refusing to come.


Both men nd women are nt trustworthy in closed rooms. Try nd avoid d oda person like 3-5months after d first meeting. Then choose a location or an eatery nd pay ur bills nd dat of d oda person if possible. To catch up wit friends
Re: How Can I Make A Guy Who Just Wants To Use Me Fall In Love? by alien1: 9:20am On May 19, 2016
Be patient,when the right guy comes you would know if only you can wait and pray. I waited for more than 3years before my woman showed up...I decided to wait because I couldn't sleep around.
post=45750998:
So


does that mean that even if I do all that, he might not still like me for real? Lord Have Mercy
Re: How Can I Make A Guy Who Just Wants To Use Me Fall In Love? by SHAIBULIAR: 9:42am On May 19, 2016
Fok the hell out of him
Re: How Can I Make A Guy Who Just Wants To Use Me Fall In Love? by Sgtkoselupa: 9:46am On May 19, 2016
Give your life to Jesus Christ and take him along with you.
Re: How Can I Make A Guy Who Just Wants To Use Me Fall In Love? by fidek(m): 9:50am On May 19, 2016
post=45736532:
Hi everyone. So, in this age that almost every guy that comes to you is thinking of how to sleep with you, my question is how can you make or how can a guy who just wants to sleep with you, fall in love with you? Please mature responses only. Thank you
look for this book buy and read it cover to cover. ACT LIKE A LADY, THINK LIKE A MAN.
Re: How Can I Make A Guy Who Just Wants To Use Me Fall In Love? by omicpet(m): 9:51am On May 19, 2016
post=45736532:
Hi everyone. So, in this age that almost every guy that comes to you is thinking of how to sleep with you, my question is how can you make or how can a guy who just wants to sleep with you, fall in love with you? Please mature responses only. Thank you


Two things hon .

1. For u to be the queen of a mans heart u first have to be a princess . NOTE: not Slave..

And

2. You've got to let him c that ur MIND matches what your ASSS gots ...

But truthfully there's no sure way of making a guy fall in love , even if he does he can still fall out of love .. So just b yourself ...
Re: How Can I Make A Guy Who Just Wants To Use Me Fall In Love? by Adeyeancah(m): 9:55am On May 19, 2016
mineANDurs:
Play hard to get and wait like 6months b4 getting intimate with him(if u want to), it works like magic.
They will disagree but its true.


Modified...
Stop calling for my head guys.
It is a well known "fact" that u guys tag any girl u find it easy to sleep with "a hoe".
U guys wants easy sex but disregard d girl after it.

Serious minded men will love and wive u if u "do not" give them easy sex.

playing hard to get for six months,while the guy dey bleep other girls during that six months,after six months,e come bleep you,no be for the guy to dey say "At last ,I don nack am"?

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Re: How Can I Make A Guy Who Just Wants To Use Me Fall In Love? by tylerbraid(m): 10:07am On May 19, 2016
And you think a guy can't wait for even a year just to achieve his plan? Guys are natural goal getters, I'm not supporting the motion but I'm just saying that allowing him wait for 6 months will only spice up his ego when he finally does it. And worst of it all, if he's a guy that bleeps & tell, he might tell hz friends "after 6 months, I finally banged the hoe". So sister, its only if the guy actually feels something genuine & grace of God also.
mineANDurs:
Play hard to get and wait like 6months b4 getting intimate with him(if u want to), it works like magic.
They will disagree but its true.


Modified...
Stop calling for my head guys.
It is a well known "fact" that u guys tag any girl u find it easy to sleep with "a hoe".
U guys wants easy sex but disregard d girl after it.

Serious minded men will love and wive u if u "do not" give them easy sex.

Re: How Can I Make A Guy Who Just Wants To Use Me Fall In Love? by Evalily(f): 10:11am On May 19, 2016
Nice one

Same applies to ladies too,

Real Ladies don't ever fall in love except you want your emotions burnt and ruined forever

We only find someone who make us happy wink cheesy cool
Adex097:
Real Guys do not fall in love! angry
Re: How Can I Make A Guy Who Just Wants To Use Me Fall In Love? by Bobola47: 10:52am On May 19, 2016
see stupid question
Re: How Can I Make A Guy Who Just Wants To Use Me Fall In Love? by stevups(m): 11:02am On May 19, 2016
Make yourself beautiful and attractive pls.

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