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Re: How Much Is Ideal To Be Giving One's Wife As Monthly Stipend? by banjolek: 5:34pm On Jun 17, 2016 |
TV01: Thanks for the effort you put into writing this. Sincerely my initial thought when this came up was like should there really be anything like monthly pocket money when you can comfortably survive off what you earn in a month after saving. I already feel like i made a mistake allowing her have an idea of how much my salary is. My intention was to try and be as transparent as possible but apparenty women's logic is quite different. 2 Likes |
Re: How Much Is Ideal To Be Giving One's Wife As Monthly Stipend? by byvan03: 6:09pm On Jun 17, 2016 |
Re: How Much Is Ideal To Be Giving One's Wife As Monthly Stipend? by HaneefahRN(f): 6:50pm On Jun 17, 2016 |
I don't know how people reason o. You both are obviously earning well, yet to have your own house and all she is concerned about is getting more monthly allowance? She should even be the one trying to make sure your money is managed well. People have given good advice, whatever you do, converse with her with love, discuss at length with her. You need to start planning your future, not spend money as you see it. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Much Is Ideal To Be Giving One's Wife As Monthly Stipend? by Winneygirl(f): 7:05pm On Jun 17, 2016 |
Honestly, I don't see anything outrageous here. . If you both had a long term plan.. eg build a house since kids are still young and are not gulping down half your income as school fees....the talk would not be about monthly allowance, it will be about proper financial planning to safeguard the future. . Besides, you didn't tell us how much you earn, how much you allocate for housekeeping, and how much you actually spend on yourself. . Until we see both sides of the coin, we can't conclude that she is making an unreasonable demand. 7 Likes |
Re: How Much Is Ideal To Be Giving One's Wife As Monthly Stipend? by Onegai(f): 8:03pm On Jun 17, 2016 |
banjolek: Sigh. You're about to make a small hurdle a very big mountain to climb, with this thinking and mental journey stated above. I'll say it one last thing: do it with sense. Or if you like, carry the petrol here and pour it on your vex and go home and handle that woman. Your wife, your life. I have to go and worry about why a certain baby is doing head stands instead of sleeping.This parenting thingie...Sigh... 3 Likes |
Re: How Much Is Ideal To Be Giving One's Wife As Monthly Stipend? by Kimoni: 8:10pm On Jun 17, 2016 |
fem29: You were harsh but you spoke the truth. All I heard was spend, spend, spend He buys the food items, he pays the bills, she earns some income, so what's the pocket money for?? 4 Likes |
Re: How Much Is Ideal To Be Giving One's Wife As Monthly Stipend? by eitsei(m): 8:22pm On Jun 17, 2016 |
HaneefahRN:I wonder if the woman will stay if there's no money again 2 Likes |
Re: How Much Is Ideal To Be Giving One's Wife As Monthly Stipend? by Kimoni: 8:24pm On Jun 17, 2016 |
TV01 - I don't think joint account is for every family. In my opinion, families must be on the same page when it comes to financial goals and responsibilities before they can make a success of joint account. If not, one parties suffers and frustration sets in on the long run. In OP's case, I do not think his family is ready for it, there is no harmony yet in that aspect of their life. From the look of things, he will be on the receiving side of things if they go for joint account. #mythots 2 Likes |
Re: How Much Is Ideal To Be Giving One's Wife As Monthly Stipend? by Nobody: 8:51pm On Jun 17, 2016 |
Kimoni: Yess ooo. I was a bit vexed cos I didn't think people do like this in these tough economic times. I don't understand the idea that some women have that their husbands are 'responsible' for them. Like wtf. I'm a grown ass woman. I am responsible for myself. Unless I'm a stay at home mom. |
Re: How Much Is Ideal To Be Giving One's Wife As Monthly Stipend? by Nobody: 8:52pm On Jun 17, 2016 |
Thanks oga TV01 for the mention. Though we do not always agree, you are usually logical. Please don't advise poster to ask his wife to bring money ooo . She is asking for a stipend and it will be unwise for him to say not only are you not getting one, you need to bring money towards family finances . That will be the beginning of world war 5 in his house. Wisdom is profitable to direct. Banjolek if you like peace, please do not try it at this juncture. What i would suggest is please lovingly tell your madam that you are saving up to buy land with any disposable income you have after after expenses AND the land will be in BOTH your names. Once you buy the land in both names you will see that your wife will even be happy to support building the house from her savings if needed. 2 Likes |
Re: How Much Is Ideal To Be Giving One's Wife As Monthly Stipend? by Evacroft: 8:53pm On Jun 17, 2016 |
Thought u mentioned that she us us remaining 75k for upkeep. How much do u earn? If so uses the remaining money on house Kip then up the montly allowance. If not 20k is kk for now. |
Re: How Much Is Ideal To Be Giving One's Wife As Monthly Stipend? by Nobody: 9:10pm On Jun 17, 2016 |
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Re: How Much Is Ideal To Be Giving One's Wife As Monthly Stipend? by njiasi30(f): 9:34pm On Jun 17, 2016 |
Dyt:Hahahaha op really needed a push, am sure he got it.. He should know DAT what works for À might nt work for B he should apply wisdom, some women are difficult to handle |
Re: How Much Is Ideal To Be Giving One's Wife As Monthly Stipend? by Laclasse: 11:40pm On Jun 17, 2016 |
sit down and talk with your wife. map out plans for the future. Look at how strangers are insulting your wife.calling her greedy . shameless thing. 3 Likes |
Re: How Much Is Ideal To Be Giving One's Wife As Monthly Stipend? by Dyt(f): 11:43pm On Jun 17, 2016 |
Laclasse: You don take am personal njiasi30: Nooo Leaf him I dey here dey wait for another thread He wee take it "a gba* Let him do it hot hot |
Re: How Much Is Ideal To Be Giving One's Wife As Monthly Stipend? by njiasi30(f): 11:54pm On Jun 17, 2016 |
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Re: How Much Is Ideal To Be Giving One's Wife As Monthly Stipend? by njiasi30(f): 11:56pm On Jun 17, 2016 |
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Re: How Much Is Ideal To Be Giving One's Wife As Monthly Stipend? by Project400: 1:57am On Jun 18, 2016 |
Apply for a leave at work; go home and act like you've been sacked/dismissed. Your experiences during this period would reveal the unknown. Cheers. 22 Likes |
Re: How Much Is Ideal To Be Giving One's Wife As Monthly Stipend? by mylove4him(f): 6:51am On Jun 18, 2016 |
We women are worst enemies. Support your husband and here you are thinking it is right to take care of you all round, Kai some women sha. Banjolek, just don't anymore to.the twenty thousand. If j am to advise I will say reduce to 10k. If I may ask this money she is saving, have you guys talked about it and how it will be used? Na wao some women are lucky. Don't stop doing what you need to do for your family. Also intermittently sends money to her family when you have. Let her bring her 75k and help to pay the bills in the house. In fact contributing for food also. Women should learn to help their man and also plan together. In this harsh economy, someone will seat down somewhere and say me n my money Kai. 8 Likes |
Re: How Much Is Ideal To Be Giving One's Wife As Monthly Stipend? by PresVA: 8:01am On Jun 18, 2016 |
Op, like how much do you earn? You keep insisting that she demands more because she knows your salary, which means your salary will actually be very reasonable. .. She must have seen how you spend on family/outside hence her demands; she knows your capability. .. Really can't say anything till I hear from your wife because I won't be surprised if you give your family/outsiders like 100k monthly then proposing 20k to her... Then, most importantly. .. You guys should look at valuable projects/investments to embark on...including your wife.. Just discuss with your wife, ONLY both of you can make the decision... all d best.. 7 Likes |
Re: How Much Is Ideal To Be Giving One's Wife As Monthly Stipend? by Nobody: 9:25am On Jun 18, 2016 |
Even my wife that isn't working for now doesn't demand for this. Make your stand known..what is her money as in salary meant for then. 3 Likes |
Re: How Much Is Ideal To Be Giving One's Wife As Monthly Stipend? by banjolek: 9:27am On Jun 18, 2016 |
PresVA: Thanks for this I really dont think how much i give her should be a function of my monthly income or how much i give my family. The bottom line is you are comfortable at home with everything is provided and you earn well enough to survive in a month. of course we are looking to invest in to viable project(s) that will enable another stream of income which i already stated i am saving towards. And may i say i dont lavish money on my family, i understand the fact i need to manage my own immediate family and plan for a better future. 5 Likes |
Re: How Much Is Ideal To Be Giving One's Wife As Monthly Stipend? by banjolek: 9:28am On Jun 18, 2016 |
mylove4him: Thanks, well said. |
Re: How Much Is Ideal To Be Giving One's Wife As Monthly Stipend? by 5minsmadness: 9:31am On Jun 18, 2016 |
banjolek: Why are you bringing this to nairaland? No offence but I think this is something you ought to handle by yourself. Having said that: You seem like a nice guy. Your wife is already earning cash and u still want to give her pocket money. Kudos to you bro. I wouldn't do it. But it's entirely up to you. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: How Much Is Ideal To Be Giving One's Wife As Monthly Stipend? by banjolek: 9:35am On Jun 18, 2016 |
Dyt: Lol, hot hot?! naaaaa, if i was going to do that i wouldnt come here seeking for people's opinion. |
Re: How Much Is Ideal To Be Giving One's Wife As Monthly Stipend? by 5minsmadness: 9:38am On Jun 18, 2016 |
Onegai: I was going to attack your initial post but in seeing this explanation I had a rethink. So is this ^^^^ what ladies mean when they say they want to have a joint account with you? That would be interesting. I thot it was more like both of you pay your whole salaries into the account. |
Re: How Much Is Ideal To Be Giving One's Wife As Monthly Stipend? by 5minsmadness: 9:49am On Jun 18, 2016 |
Dyt: Discretion. Not desecration. Runs away** 2 Likes |
Re: How Much Is Ideal To Be Giving One's Wife As Monthly Stipend? by banjolek: 9:52am On Jun 18, 2016 |
Kimoni: On point, infact i was going to propose this when i noticed some behaviours like that one in question right now. I had have a rethink and hang on with my thoughts. |
Re: How Much Is Ideal To Be Giving One's Wife As Monthly Stipend? by 5minsmadness: 9:55am On Jun 18, 2016 |
Project400: Some unknowns are best left unrevealed 1 Like |
Re: How Much Is Ideal To Be Giving One's Wife As Monthly Stipend? by 5minsmadness: 10:00am On Jun 18, 2016 |
PresVA:And is there something wrong with this? 4 Likes |
Re: How Much Is Ideal To Be Giving One's Wife As Monthly Stipend? by banjolek: 10:06am On Jun 18, 2016 |
Laclasse: Mr laclasse, the idea of bringing issues like this to this forum is to have varied perspectives on the subject matter as no man is an island on is own and multiple* good heads they say are better than one, you cannot possibly make do with eveyone's opinion here. Its now left for whoever the OP is to filter the responses herein and make do with what he/she feels will benefit him/her. Thanks for dropping a line though. 5 Likes |
Re: How Much Is Ideal To Be Giving One's Wife As Monthly Stipend? by Project400: 10:27am On Jun 18, 2016 |
5minsmadness: True! 2 Likes |
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