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Re: GOING THROUGH A DEVASTATING BREAK UP. Please Help Me Friends!! Am Dying Silently by lordhelp(f): 11:16pm On Jun 24, 2016
Lol I remember my ex asking if I can die for him,I told him never.Jesus has already died for us we don't need to die for nobody its of no value. If u die becos of her means u don't even love urself.pls love urself.I've been so depressed but I was only hurting myself.hey I've just starts loving myself and I look so good to myself and in d eyes of people becos I get comments everyday I steps out.she is not for u move on and get close to God get a godly girl from d way she speaks and act u will know.when a woman have d fear of God she wouldn't hurt her man and also to a man.
Re: GOING THROUGH A DEVASTATING BREAK UP. Please Help Me Friends!! Am Dying Silently by tomzman: 11:17pm On Jun 24, 2016
Honestly, op, your story got me exclaiming. Well, you have to man up and chase that cheater out of your head and heart. I know it's not easy but you have no other choice if you want to live a long and meaningful life. As a man, you have to know how to make a lady yearn for a relationship with you. Always being at a lady's beck and call, giving her everything she wants will make you lose value before her. Like I said earlier, send that girl out of your life and don't look back, change your number if that will make it easier for you. Get close to God, always keep yourself busy, get into music, dance, anything to keep your mind occupied at all times. With time, I believe you'll be fine and the woman destined for you will locate you. God be with you.
Re: GOING THROUGH A DEVASTATING BREAK UP. Please Help Me Friends!! Am Dying Silently by Sparkles003(f): 11:18pm On Jun 24, 2016
I'm sorry but I have to be crude here.
You must really have nothing or no purpose in life to want to end your life cause of a mere lady that will just cry on the day of your burial and move on the next day to date or probably marry even your best friend.
I don't get how people love and put so much responsibility on humans like them,that you base your joy,happiness,good wellbeing on someone else a mere mortal that can easily deceived.
From the begining of adam and eve there has been deception,lies,cheating etc.so don't expect it to stop now.
Before you love someone total,study them are they Contented with the little things they have or you give, do they love you with the same measure you do to the,integrity what they stand for and most especially their true relationship with God .
Cos guy times are wicked and evil
Forgive her for your sake but never go back to her,if she was contented with you as a man in the first place she never would have cheated.

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Re: GOING THROUGH A DEVASTATING BREAK UP. Please Help Me Friends!! Am Dying Silently by EYIMICHAEL(m): 11:18pm On Jun 24, 2016
amaraedec:
I have not spoken to anyone about my ordeal but I sincerely hope your advice will go a long way towards healing me and restoring back my sanity.

I started dating this lady whom I still love so much February 2013, few months before I lost my mummy. I was so cautious of the affair at first, knowing that it was the first time I am getting so emotionally entangled to a lady, but after I lost my mum, I was so hurt and the fact that she was the only person very close to me then, I threw caution to the wind and fell helplessly in love with her, hoping that it would help alleviate the pains of losing My mum and praying deep inside my heart that the relationship will lead to marriage. It did to a reasonable extent alleviated the pains of losing my mum.

Even while I was in school, I gave her everything that I somehow lived in deprivation. Her friends were complaining to me that I spend a lot on her and it might backfire one day. I ignored their advice. I buy her handouts, clothes, Mobile gadgets and even give her certain amount of money on monthly basis to add up to her feeding money, I made sure she lived above her peers in school .

The whole problem started late 2014, when I was about leaving for my NYSC. she started acting quite strange, I respected her privacy that I don't even touch her phones, even though I give her the freedom to handle my phones and answer my calls. I noticed she wouldn't pick up her calls while with me. Like I said, I respected her privacy that I never gave so much thoughts into her actions, I loved and gave her my all believing that she will never cheat on me. Then on her birthday, I had got lots of surprising gifts for her and even arranged a little get together without her knowledge. To my greatest surprise, she surfaced at the venue of the party with the excuse that she was going on an errand for her parents. I handed over to her the gifts I got for her, she collected them and left the venue. Little did I know she had gone to see her erstwhile lover. Depression had started creeping in and I was losing my sanity apparently.

To cut the whole story short, when her girlfriend opened up to me that my girl was having affairs elsewhere, I never believed her at first, but after I confronted her, then I was looking so sick and pale, completely lost in thoughts and pains. She eventually opened up and was really sorry to the best of my knowledge . I couldn't help the pains, I. Started taking anti depressants, I have already vowed never to cheat in my life, knowing that prosperity has a way of rewarding Fidelity.

After I was mobilized for NYSC, I left for my Camp, but the ghost of a failed relationship was already hunting me, I had lost interest in living. Shortly after I returned back from my Orientation camp, everyone knew something was wrong with me, I only told them that it was the stress from Camp. Well, I was battered emotionally, that on 31st December 2014, I hit the rock button and decided to end my life and end the pains, I took insecticides and collection of anti depressants in over dose and battery acid, I cheated on death as I was in Coma for 4 days, I was referred to a psychologist for rehabilitation after I was discharged on the 12th of January 2015. I spent 6 months in rehabilitation Center here in Lagos State, where I was also serving then.

After the whole incident, I made up my mind to forgive her and give her a second chance since she was really sorry. The whole scenario started replaying itself, that she started acting strange again, already my friend had told me that she was seeing someone else. My family knew I was slipping into depression again and had wanted to fly me out of the country, but I was denied Visa when I least expected it. I had to leave Enugu for Lagos so as to keep away from her and the environment. but she still calls me on phone, saying that she still loves me, I truly love her so much. Am totally lost of words, lost of ideas. Am terrified to say the least. Am losing my sanity again. Please friends, depression is getting better of me at the moment.. I need a sincere advise

Synonymous with what I am passing through. In my own case I have move forward the way I was singularly. I was strange in the system building my trust around liers.
Re: GOING THROUGH A DEVASTATING BREAK UP. Please Help Me Friends!! Am Dying Silently by Nobody: 11:19pm On Jun 24, 2016
amaraedec:
I have not spoken to anyone about my ordeal but I sincerely hope your advice will go a long way towards healing me and restoring back my sanity.

I started dating this lady whom I still love so much February 2013, few months before I lost my mummy. I was so cautious of the affair at first, knowing that it was the first time I am getting so emotionally entangled to a lady, but after I lost my mum, I was so hurt and the fact that she was the only person very close to me then, I threw caution to the wind and fell helplessly in love with her, hoping that it would help alleviate the pains of losing My mum and praying deep inside my heart that the relationship will lead to marriage. It did to a reasonable extent alleviated the pains of losing my mum.

Even while I was in school, I gave her everything that I somehow lived in deprivation. Her friends were complaining to me that I spend a lot on her and it might backfire one day. I ignored their advice. I buy her handouts, clothes, Mobile gadgets and even give her certain amount of money on monthly basis to add up to her feeding money, I made sure she lived above her peers in school .

The whole problem started late 2014, when I was about leaving for my NYSC. she started acting quite strange, I respected her privacy that I don't even touch her phones, even though I give her the freedom to handle my phones and answer my calls. I noticed she wouldn't pick up her calls while with me. Like I said, I respected her privacy that I never gave so much thoughts into her actions, I loved and gave her my all believing that she will never cheat on me. Then on her birthday, I had got lots of surprising gifts for her and even arranged a little get together without her knowledge. To my greatest surprise, she surfaced at the venue of the party with the excuse that she was going on an errand for her parents. I handed over to her the gifts I got for her, she collected them and left the venue. Little did I know she had gone to see her erstwhile lover. Depression had started creeping in and I was losing my sanity apparently.

To cut the whole story short, when her girlfriend opened up to me that my girl was having affairs elsewhere, I never believed her at first, but after I confronted her, then I was looking so sick and pale, completely lost in thoughts and pains. She eventually opened up and was really sorry to the best of my knowledge . I couldn't help the pains, I. Started taking anti depressants, I have already vowed never to cheat in my life, knowing that prosperity has a way of rewarding Fidelity.

After I was mobilized for NYSC, I left for my Camp, but the ghost of a failed relationship was already hunting me, I had lost interest in living. Shortly after I returned back from my Orientation camp, everyone knew something was wrong with me, I only told them that it was the stress from Camp. Well, I was battered emotionally, that on 31st December 2014, I hit the rock button and decided to end my life and end the pains, I took insecticides and collection of anti depressants in over dose and battery acid, I cheated on death as I was in Coma for 4 days, I was referred to a psychologist for rehabilitation after I was discharged on the 12th of January 2015. I spent 6 months in rehabilitation Center here in Lagos State, where I was also serving then.

After the whole incident, I made up my mind to forgive her and give her a second chance since she was really sorry. The whole scenario started replaying itself, that she started acting strange again, already my friend had told me that she was seeing someone else. My family knew I was slipping into depression again and had wanted to fly me out of the country, but I was denied Visa when I least expected it. I had to leave Enugu for Lagos so as to keep away from her and the environment. but she still calls me on phone, saying that she still loves me, I truly love her so much. Am totally lost of words, lost of ideas. Am terrified to say the least. Am losing my sanity again. Please friends, depression is getting better of me at the moment.. I need a sincere advise
They say helping people in need will actually help you out of ya depression.
Plz I am having extreme financial challenges here in school and I really need your help. I would appreciate anything.
Incase you are willing to help, here are my bank details:
zenith bank plc savings account
2110748137
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cannot receive more than 20k at once, thank you
Re: GOING THROUGH A DEVASTATING BREAK UP. Please Help Me Friends!! Am Dying Silently by donbenedict(m): 11:19pm On Jun 24, 2016
That's why I too like myself.. I try to knw at th onset if the girl I like still loves me as much as I do for her, if not,




I end it there and then. Simple.
Re: GOING THROUGH A DEVASTATING BREAK UP. Please Help Me Friends!! Am Dying Silently by andyanders: 11:22pm On Jun 24, 2016
Sparkles003:
I'm sorry but I have to be crude here.
You must really have nothing or no purpose in life to want to end your life cause of a mere lady that will just cry on the day of your burial and move on the next day to date or probably marry even your best friend.
I don't get how people love and put so much responsibility on humans like them,that you base your joy,happiness,good wellbeing on someone else a mere mortal that can easily deceived.
From the begining of adam and eve there has been deception,lies,cheating etc.so don't expect it to stop now.
Before you love someone total,study them are they Contented with the little things they have or you give, do they love you with the same measure you do to the,integrity what they stand for and most especially their true relationship with God .
Cos guy times are wicked and evil
Forgive her for your sake but never go back to her,if she was contented with you as a man in the first place she never would have cheated.
You are exactly on point. Only a fool would wanna kill himself/herself because of letter 'love' that hardly exist now.
Re: GOING THROUGH A DEVASTATING BREAK UP. Please Help Me Friends!! Am Dying Silently by biggie73(m): 11:22pm On Jun 24, 2016
Mr. Ode (Fool). Only a fool will go extra-mile to satisfy a lady,and you are that fool.
Re: GOING THROUGH A DEVASTATING BREAK UP. Please Help Me Friends!! Am Dying Silently by Appareil(m): 11:22pm On Jun 24, 2016
Focus on the Lord Jesus Christ fast. He will save you , restore you and give you a good woman. FORGET about that girl O!
Re: GOING THROUGH A DEVASTATING BREAK UP. Please Help Me Friends!! Am Dying Silently by goodnewscliff(m): 11:22pm On Jun 24, 2016
MONEY LOVERS...!!!WHAT ROLES DOES MONEY PLAY IN HERE NW?? PEEPS ARE ADVICING THIS DUDE EITHER TO LOOK 4 A HOBBY, SPEND TIME WITH FRIENDS AND FAMILIES cos infact that is what really matters in life....IRRESPECTIVE OF THE FACT THAT SOME LACKING PROPER REASONING WOULD ATTRIBUTE MY STANCE AS A BROKE ASS EXCUSE....Money aint emotional, family happiness coz dat what counts!!!!
Re: GOING THROUGH A DEVASTATING BREAK UP. Please Help Me Friends!! Am Dying Silently by mazizitonene(m): 11:23pm On Jun 24, 2016
Nasri100:
I stopped reading when you wanted to kill yourself? For what? A woman? Blood, ass and legs? Are you s tupid?
Bro......you are the real MVP, if no be bvn wahala, for transfer money go ya account..........suicide because of woman ? such nonsense!!
Re: GOING THROUGH A DEVASTATING BREAK UP. Please Help Me Friends!! Am Dying Silently by goodluv: 11:23pm On Jun 24, 2016
Well it's unfortunate, some ladies allow something good pass them by. I will advice u to go out with good friends, u could Barr her number from ur phone. Pray to God and gradually u will meet other pple and forget her...... but never u think of taking ur own life again. Wish u d best
Re: GOING THROUGH A DEVASTATING BREAK UP. Please Help Me Friends!! Am Dying Silently by willibounce1(m): 11:24pm On Jun 24, 2016
You should have just taken real poison and die like a chicken. We need to reduce the population of the country, especially stupid people.

You did not want to kill yourself because you lost your mom, but you want to die because a girl left you.. die die die die and GTFO NL.

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Re: GOING THROUGH A DEVASTATING BREAK UP. Please Help Me Friends!! Am Dying Silently by wenzi: 11:26pm On Jun 24, 2016
EBBYBEST OLUWA DAE ONTOP YOUR MATTER.. HOLD ON BE STRONG IT WONT BE LONG YOU BE ALRIGTH
Re: GOING THROUGH A DEVASTATING BREAK UP. Please Help Me Friends!! Am Dying Silently by Prettiepearlz(f): 11:26pm On Jun 24, 2016
[quote author=amaraedec post=46877813]
I have some few questions for you
1. Do you value your life?
2. Do your love your late mother?
3. Do you love your family?
If the answers to these questions are yes then I think you should do away with that girl, common she is only toying with your emotions, how can you claim you love someone and then you still cheat. I want you to know that your life is more important than any girl right now, and if you have an utmost respect for your mother, you will chose "life". And in other to show gratitude to that wonderful family who stood by you through your trying times, those who lived in fear of you not coming out of that coma you sent yourself to and those who offered to fly you abroad to free you from pain, those who shed tears and prayed for you, you will take a break from that girl. She can't eat her cake and have it. No! choose LIFE, PEACE OF MIND AND HAPPINESS. Good luck.
Re: GOING THROUGH A DEVASTATING BREAK UP. Please Help Me Friends!! Am Dying Silently by hardbody: 11:27pm On Jun 24, 2016
Trying to take your life over failed love?

It can be depressing, i know. However, i will rather stay alive and make her feel sorry at the loss she has suffered for leaving me.
Re: GOING THROUGH A DEVASTATING BREAK UP. Please Help Me Friends!! Am Dying Silently by mazizitonene(m): 11:28pm On Jun 24, 2016
amaraedec:
I have not spoken to anyone about my ordeal but I sincerely hope your advice will go a long way towards healing me and restoring back my sanity.

I started dating this lady whom I still love so much February 2013, few months before I lost my mummy. I was so cautious of the affair at first, knowing that it was the first time I am getting so emotionally entangled to a lady, but after I lost my mum, I was so hurt and the fact that she was the only person very close to me then, I threw caution to the wind and fell helplessly in love with her, hoping that it would help alleviate the pains of losing My mum and praying deep inside my heart that the relationship will lead to marriage. It did to a reasonable extent alleviated the pains of losing my mum.

Even while I was in school, I gave her everything that I somehow lived in deprivation. Her friends were complaining to me that I spend a lot on her and it might backfire one day. I ignored their advice. I buy her handouts, clothes, Mobile gadgets and even give her certain amount of money on monthly basis to add up to her feeding money, I made sure she lived above her peers in school .

The whole problem started late 2014, when I was about leaving for my NYSC. she started acting quite strange, I respected her privacy that I don't even touch her phones, even though I give her the freedom to handle my phones and answer my calls. I noticed she wouldn't pick up her calls while with me. Like I said, I respected her privacy that I never gave so much thoughts into her actions, I loved and gave her my all believing that she will never cheat on me. Then on her birthday, I had got lots of surprising gifts for her and even arranged a little get together without her knowledge. To my greatest surprise, she surfaced at the venue of the party with the excuse that she was going on an errand for her parents. I handed over to her the gifts I got for her, she collected them and left the venue. Little did I know she had gone to see her erstwhile lover. Depression had started creeping in and I was losing my sanity apparently.

To cut the whole story short, when her girlfriend opened up to me that my girl was having affairs elsewhere, I never believed her at first, but after I confronted her, then I was looking so sick and pale, completely lost in thoughts and pains. She eventually opened up and was really sorry to the best of my knowledge . I couldn't help the pains, I. Started taking anti depressants, I have already vowed never to cheat in my life, knowing that prosperity has a way of rewarding Fidelity.

After I was mobilized for NYSC, I left for my Camp, but the ghost of a failed relationship was already hunting me, I had lost interest in living. Shortly after I returned back from my Orientation camp, everyone knew something was wrong with me, I only told them that it was the stress from Camp. Well, I was battered emotionally, that on 31st December 2014, I hit the rock button and decided to end my life and end the pains, I took insecticides and collection of anti depressants in over dose and battery acid, I cheated on death as I was in Coma for 4 days, I was referred to a psychologist for rehabilitation after I was discharged on the 12th of January 2015. I spent 6 months in rehabilitation Center here in Lagos State, where I was also serving then.

After the whole incident, I made up my mind to forgive her and give her a second chance since she was really sorry. The whole scenario started replaying itself, that she started acting strange again, already my friend had told me that she was seeing someone else. My family knew I was slipping into depression again and had wanted to fly me out of the country, but I was denied Visa when I least expected it. I had to leave Enugu for Lagos so as to keep away from her and the environment. but she still calls me on phone, saying that she still loves me, I truly love her so much. Am totally lost of words, lost of ideas. Am terrified to say the least. Am losing my sanity again. Please friends, depression is getting better of me at the moment.. I need a sincere advise
let me believe this is a joke....but if you are serious, i'm sorry to inform you that you wont be able to cope in this world and you may eventually exit the stage soon....unless you get your acts together and act like a man......you seem to be an over pampered child who was not trained to be a man in this cruel world........brother, LIFE IS WAR!
Re: GOING THROUGH A DEVASTATING BREAK UP. Please Help Me Friends!! Am Dying Silently by VaginaTerrorist(m): 11:28pm On Jun 24, 2016
Every Bit of story sounds like my story when I was still a stu.pid Boy. God I thank you oooo for every! Chai i really know the deep sh!t you are. Try move out to the Larger world. Dont drink poison. Stay alife so that those who never belived in you would see the glory of God shine In Your Life. NEVER EVER MAKE MISTAKE OF DATING ONE GAL. TRY AS MUCH AS POSSIBLE TO OWN AT LEAST 15 GIRLS @ A TIME THAT WAY YOUR EMOTIONS CAN NEVER BE PLAYED WITH.
Re: GOING THROUGH A DEVASTATING BREAK UP. Please Help Me Friends!! Am Dying Silently by shogotermies(m): 11:29pm On Jun 24, 2016
amaraedec:
I have not spoken to anyone about my ordeal but I sincerely hope your advice will go a long way towards healing me and restoring back my sanity.

I started dating this lady whom I still love so much February 2013, few months before I lost my mummy. I was so cautious of the affair at first, knowing that it was the first time I am getting so emotionally entangled to a lady, but after I lost my mum, I was so hurt and the fact that she was the only person very close to me then, I threw caution to the wind and fell helplessly in love with her, hoping that it would help alleviate the pains of losing My mum and praying deep inside my heart that the relationship will lead to marriage. It did to a reasonable extent alleviated the pains of losing my mum.

Even while I was in school, I gave her everything that I somehow lived in deprivation. Her friends were complaining to me that I spend a lot on her and it might backfire one day. I ignored their advice. I buy her handouts, clothes, Mobile gadgets and even give her certain amount of money on monthly basis to add up to her feeding money, I made sure she lived above her peers in school .

The whole problem started late 2014, when I was about leaving for my NYSC. she started acting quite strange, I respected her privacy that I don't even touch her phones, even though I give her the freedom to handle my phones and answer my calls. I noticed she wouldn't pick up her calls while with me. Like I said, I respected her privacy that I never gave so much thoughts into her actions, I loved and gave her my all believing that she will never cheat on me. Then on her birthday, I had got lots of surprising gifts for her and even arranged a little get together without her knowledge. To my greatest surprise, she surfaced at the venue of the party with the excuse that she was going on an errand for her parents. I handed over to her the gifts I got for her, she collected them and left the venue. Little did I know she had gone to see her erstwhile lover. Depression had started creeping in and I was losing my sanity apparently.

To cut the whole story short, when her girlfriend opened up to me that my girl was having affairs elsewhere, I never believed her at first, but after I confronted her, then I was looking so sick and pale, completely lost in thoughts and pains. She eventually opened up and was really sorry to the best of my knowledge . I couldn't help the pains, I. Started taking anti depressants, I have already vowed never to cheat in my life, knowing that prosperity has a way of rewarding Fidelity.

After I was mobilized for NYSC, I left for my Camp, but the ghost of a failed relationship was already hunting me, I had lost interest in living. Shortly after I returned back from my Orientation camp, everyone knew something was wrong with me, I only told them that it was the stress from Camp. Well, I was battered emotionally, that on 31st December 2014, I hit the rock button and decided to end my life and end the pains, I took insecticides and collection of anti depressants in over dose and battery acid, I cheated on death as I was in Coma for 4 days, I was referred to a psychologist for rehabilitation after I was discharged on the 12th of January 2015. I spent 6 months in rehabilitation Center here in Lagos State, where I was also serving then.

After the whole incident, I made up my mind to forgive her and give her a second chance since she was really sorry. The whole scenario started replaying itself, that she started acting strange again, already my friend had told me that she was seeing someone else. My family knew I was slipping into depression again and had wanted to fly me out of the country, but I was denied Visa when I least expected it. I had to leave Enugu for Lagos so as to keep away from her and the environment. but she still calls me on phone, saying that she still loves me, I truly love her so much. Am totally lost of words, lost of ideas. Am terrified to say the least. Am losing my sanity again. Please friends, depression is getting better of me at the moment.. I need a sincere advise



Bro!!! life is too short to commit suicide, see bro,, if your are on your right on the way of life and there is noway there, turn then use your left and turn right again...
and life again you need to get lost to know the best way out..
see be strong,Nigeria has more females than males,we still got plenty of them that can make a better wife for you.. just try go for guidance and counseling,and watch more comedy videos, guess that will help.
Re: GOING THROUGH A DEVASTATING BREAK UP. Please Help Me Friends!! Am Dying Silently by TheSPEAKER(m): 11:30pm On Jun 24, 2016
OMG! Bro never attempt suicide any time in your entire life. Nothing at all is ever worth it. I very well understand your pain. One thing is clear; she never loved you and she never will.

In every experience we have in life, there is the negative side( the side that caused us pain, made us cry,...) and there is the positive side(the side that presents to us an opportunity to learn lessons from what went wrong and enable us to constructively program our next action towards a better and more possitive result.

you're priceless, Bro. Just let her go and move ahead.
Re: GOING THROUGH A DEVASTATING BREAK UP. Please Help Me Friends!! Am Dying Silently by adonisgold: 11:31pm On Jun 24, 2016
Better get used to drinking insecticides. Just pray you did not do permanent damage to yourself with that trick. I actually had a friend who drank poison over a girl and died. Two days later she was camping with another guy in the neighbourhood. Next time don't just kill yourself, try to donate your organs to charity. Maybe you think life is home video. Where love conquers all. By the way, you are not in love. You are just obsessed and infatuated, with a touch of pseudo Oedipus complex. Or maybe you are just too afraid to get another babe. So you needed something momentous like death to spurr you. She probably does not love you. It was out of sympathy she dated you. And you are too clingy. That's why she keeps going back to the other guy who doesn't send her so much. Unlike you sniper drinking wimp. Wake up man. Life is not a romance, its an adventure with horror and fear.

What do you want? A lover or a mother? Your mother is dead, so is mine. So will I now seek solace in the arms of sirens and vixens just because they sang at her funeral? Go to internally displaced camp and help out, go to prison and hear stories of innocent people languishing in that hell hole for years. Go to Igbobi and see accident victims screaming in sheer agony, go to these places and come back and tell me about your pain. Do you know pain? What do you know about pain?

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Re: GOING THROUGH A DEVASTATING BREAK UP. Please Help Me Friends!! Am Dying Silently by chunkuli: 11:31pm On Jun 24, 2016
the best advise so far. if u reaaly need one
andysnoopy:
All these people advising you to change your phone number reareally need to shove it! Men are naturally made to be strong emotionally and if you happen not to be strong, changing your number as a quick fix to your emotional problem will be nothing but a short term solution.

The girl in question is cheating and is a serial cheater.. The advice for you on situation like this is to move on to the next girl... No matter what you have invested in the relationship, it still doesn't change the fact that she is not your wife! So stop acting like you have no choice!

You are lucky that you discovered this before marrying her.. A cheat is a cheat, killing yourself won't change her!! She even brag to her children that a man once died for her in the future so quit being a mugu and man up!!

The joy of her calling you while you are in a relationship is enough punishment for her.. so quit acting like you have no choice man... You do!! And the fact that there are more beautiful girls with values should be the encouragement you will need to put your life in order man!!

Man up!!
Re: GOING THROUGH A DEVASTATING BREAK UP. Please Help Me Friends!! Am Dying Silently by Chinexd22nd(m): 11:32pm On Jun 24, 2016
amaraedec:
I have not spoken to anyone about my ordeal but I sincerely hope your advice will go a long way towards healing me and restoring back my sanity.

I started dating this lady whom I still love so much February 2013, few months before I lost my mummy. I was so cautious of the affair at first, knowing that it was the first time I am getting so emotionally entangled to a lady, but after I lost my mum, I was so hurt and the fact that she was the only person very close to me then, I threw caution to the wind and fell helplessly in love with her, hoping that it would help alleviate the pains of losing My mum and praying deep inside my heart that the relationship will lead to marriage. It did to a reasonable extent alleviated the pains of losing my mum.

Even while I was in school, I gave her everything that I somehow lived in deprivation. Her friends were complaining to me that I spend a lot on her and it might backfire one day. I ignored their advice. I buy her handouts, clothes, Mobile gadgets and even give her certain amount of money on monthly basis to add up to her feeding money, I made sure she lived above her peers in school .

The whole problem started late 2014, when I was about leaving for my NYSC. she started acting quite strange, I respected her privacy that I don't even touch her phones, even though I give her the freedom to handle my phones and answer my calls. I noticed she wouldn't pick up her calls while with me. Like I said, I respected her privacy that I never gave so much thoughts into her actions, I loved and gave her my all believing that she will never cheat on me. Then on her birthday, I had got lots of surprising gifts for her and even arranged a little get together without her knowledge. To my greatest surprise, she surfaced at the venue of the party with the excuse that she was going on an errand for her parents. I handed over to her the gifts I got for her, she collected them and left the venue. Little did I know she had gone to see her erstwhile lover. Depression had started creeping in and I was losing my sanity apparently.

To cut the whole story short, when her girlfriend opened up to me that my girl was having affairs elsewhere, I never believed her at first, but after I confronted her, then I was looking so sick and pale, completely lost in thoughts and pains. She eventually opened up and was really sorry to the best of my knowledge . I couldn't help the pains, I. Started taking anti depressants, I have already vowed never to cheat in my life, knowing that prosperity has a way of rewarding Fidelity.

After I was mobilized for NYSC, I left for my Camp, but the ghost of a failed relationship was already hunting me, I had lost interest in living. Shortly after I returned back from my Orientation camp, everyone knew something was wrong with me, I only told them that it was the stress from Camp. Well, I was battered emotionally, that on 31st December 2014, I hit the rock button and decided to end my life and end the pains, I took insecticides and collection of anti depressants in over dose and battery acid, I cheated on death as I was in Coma for 4 days, I was referred to a psychologist for rehabilitation after I was discharged on the 12th of January 2015. I spent 6 months in rehabilitation Center here in Lagos State, where I was also serving then.

After the whole incident, I made up my mind to forgive her and give her a second chance since she was really sorry. The whole scenario started replaying itself, that she started acting strange again, already my friend had told me that she was seeing someone else. My family knew I was slipping into depression again and had wanted to fly me out of the country, but I was denied Visa when I least expected it. I had to leave Enugu for Lagos so as to keep away from her and the environment. but she still calls me on phone, saying that she still loves me, I truly love her so much. Am totally lost of words, lost of ideas. Am terrified to say the least. Am losing my sanity again. Please friends, depression is getting better of me at the moment.. I need a sincere advise
Ogbeni, there's one reason I will comment...
I experienced this recently... in fact, I was a serving Corp member when mine happened, my small 19.8k I was spending on this gal only to find out 1week to valentine dat she was having an affair with my friend... An idiot I personally brought out from the pits of very low esteem... in retrospect I thank God self, cos money wey I for spend on valentine day ehn.... I loved her so much that on the valentine day I still took her out(although I no spend much sha)....
My guy she was rubbing everything on my face mahn.... I was devastated, a shadow of myself... I thank God for having good friends around me... This is what I learnt...
1. No girl is yours until u ring her with tradition and religion (some gals strong pass ring and tradition o)..
2. If u can't find a way to hit her back, oga me, you just have to move on...
3. No girl is what a drop of blood either yours, hers or the nigga (I came close to committing murder, I nearly organized a hit on him, he probably for die or he will be left incapacitated for months)... u thinking suicidal won't change the fact the she's a beech or you marrying her in the after life.
3. Oga go and make yourself, elevate from your current class, then you will see her as a lesser being, she will see you as a higher being, but then u can't stoop low... (I see say majority of ur actives na for job/vacancies section which means u have a plan to be a successful man, don't u dare drop that plan for anybody)
4. Most people especially our girls throw away diamonds to pick up stones... her loss... Nigga u are diamond, strong, expensive and cherished. U need to see yourself as one.
5. This is an experience and lesson, it will shape u, ur mindset and attitude towards girls... Buh brother, learn not to hate... Forgive her and move the Bleep on...
6. This whole shit is difficult, but know it's a phase and hurdle u just have to scale...
7. Learn to forgive yourself for allowing yourself to be fooled...
8. Keep calm bro, there's something sweet ahead...

So brother man, I feel ur pain... but that's life...
Take these from me, if u fail yourself or kill yourself because of one unappreciative, dumb beech, mummy will not be happy... Make her smile when she looks down from heaven...

Peace and Love to u bruh....

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Re: GOING THROUGH A DEVASTATING BREAK UP. Please Help Me Friends!! Am Dying Silently by Wiseandtrue(f): 11:33pm On Jun 24, 2016
rummeh:
Am here to read comments by relationship experts
undecideddoes such relationship/love still exist?
Re: GOING THROUGH A DEVASTATING BREAK UP. Please Help Me Friends!! Am Dying Silently by xedyl(m): 11:36pm On Jun 24, 2016
Live and learn bro.
Re: GOING THROUGH A DEVASTATING BREAK UP. Please Help Me Friends!! Am Dying Silently by bezimo(m): 11:36pm On Jun 24, 2016
A girl you loved and gave everything cheated on you, yet in your mugufied idiotic state decided to go back.To do what with her if I may ask?


Who do you? Don't die for a girl that doesnt value you oh.There are better girls out there who value the kind of love you offer. Be wise, find another girl and move on.
Re: GOING THROUGH A DEVASTATING BREAK UP. Please Help Me Friends!! Am Dying Silently by AyamBlaze: 11:37pm On Jun 24, 2016
This OP's a madman. How can you call all your family members together, consume insecticide and battery fluid in their presence, and expect them to stand by and do nothing while you die SLOWLY
There are a thousand ways to die and about 999 ways are FASTER than the little stunt you pulled.
So, OP, #ReceiveSense and try again, this time with no one at home.









Thank me later!
Re: GOING THROUGH A DEVASTATING BREAK UP. Please Help Me Friends!! Am Dying Silently by ishiamu(m): 11:37pm On Jun 24, 2016
amaraedec:
I really appreciate Bro, I have got a job. I don't want this to affect my carreer.


have been through this before trust me if you cross this stage you will as hard as stone... don't be alone it helps you think bad visit friends laugh at every jokes and join them to have fun... never stay alone I repeat never stay alone.... stay among companies it help alot... you will cross this sooner than you know
Re: GOING THROUGH A DEVASTATING BREAK UP. Please Help Me Friends!! Am Dying Silently by ikirinwamama1(m): 11:38pm On Jun 24, 2016
Killing yourself for a girl that's pathetic. Suicide for whatever reason is not worth it. But if you insist on taking your life I would recommend sniper. The original one is 250. It's very effective. Use your head my friend. angryKilling yourself for a girl that's pathetic. Suicide for whatever reason is not worth it. But if you insist on taking your life I would recommend sniper. The original one is 250. It's very effective. Use your head my friend.
Re: GOING THROUGH A DEVASTATING BREAK UP. Please Help Me Friends!! Am Dying Silently by targerius007: 11:40pm On Jun 24, 2016
u don mumu too much for woman, God help u, if u die na hell fire straight and dem go still Bleep your girl .
Re: GOING THROUGH A DEVASTATING BREAK UP. Please Help Me Friends!! Am Dying Silently by Nobody: 11:43pm On Jun 24, 2016
ishiamu:



have been through this before trust me if you cross this stage you will as hard as stone... don't be alone it helps you think bad visit friends laugh at every jokes and join them to have fun... never stay alone I repeat never stay alone.... stay among companies it help alot... you will cross this sooner than you know
thanks a lot
Re: GOING THROUGH A DEVASTATING BREAK UP. Please Help Me Friends!! Am Dying Silently by Nobody: 11:43pm On Jun 24, 2016
[size=15pt]@amaraedec

BRO! PLS CAN YOU BE KIND ENUF TO LET US HARVEST YOUR KIDNEY AND YOUR OTHER ORGANS BEFORE YOU KILL YOURSELF? BY SO DOING YOU WILL BE HELPING THOSE WHO REALLY NEEDS IT TO LIVE - PLS BE KIND AND DO THIS FOR THE NEEDY AT THE HOSPITAL THAT SO BADLY NEEDS THIS ORGANS. GOD WILL FORGIVE YOU ALL YOUR SINS AND ALLOW YOU INTO HEAVEN FOR THIS GOOD DEED!

EVEN YOUR WAYWARD GIRLFRIEND WILL BE PROUD OF YOU. cool











































I WOULD AV SO LOVED TO CURSE YOU FOR WASTING YOUR MOTHERS 9 MONTHS OF PAIN, 1 YEAR OF BREAST FEEDING AND NURTURING AND NUMEROUS YEARS OF STRESS TO KEEP YOU HEALTHY AND YOUR FATHERS WASTED EFFORT IN FEEDING YOU AND SENDING YOU TO SCHOOL ONLY FOR YOU TO WASTE YOUR MISERABLE LIFE OVER A STUPID PUSSYY THAT IS ALL OVER THE PLACE FOR FREE!! angry angry


CAN YOU IMAGINE DYING FOR AN OLOSHO! angry cheesy cheesy

PEEPS LIKE YOU ARE THE REASON WHY I STRONGLY SUPPORT ABORTION!


I WILL SO BADLY RESIST THE TEMPTATION TO CALL YOU A BLOODY MORRRRON! BECAUSE THEY JUST FREED ME FROM A BAN!




WHY IS IT THAT ID1OTS LIKE YOU ARE THE REASON WHY AM ALWAYS BANNED ON NAIRALAND! ALL MY MONIKERS ARE ON BAN BECAUSE OF USELESS A55SHOLES LIKE YOU - AND NOW U WANT TO PUSH ME TO INCUR ANODA BAN ON THIS ONE THAT WAS JUST FREED! angry angry angry[/size]

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