oloriadejoke:
Ok we don hear but I stay fit 4 my health and 4 Oga at home becos I don dey tell my boo sey if any babe eye u abi na you eye the babe lasan I go just lick yoruba lollipop(AFOSE) swear 4 both of una becos na you turn me 2 after one..lol

ROTFLMAO

@inemani...nice article

Coldfeet:
True talk my brother! One day sef a man go come pay your daughter bride price!
Abeg remind her say make she no say pim! When her husband go cheat on her, otherwise he will send her packing back to your house.
Make she siddon collect all the gonorreah and staphylococco plus HIV weh him go carry come give her for house.
Your head dey dia! Clap for yourself

Thank you for the serve, his type are the kind of men I'm talking about.

alujonjonkijon:
arrant nonsense,you better get down to the real world before you die of frustration,your husband is not your mate,he is your boss but a benevolent dictator,if he decides to Bleep your best friend pregnant,u will discover u are so silly to abandon him and the marriage because very soon the man you remarry too will be worse that your last hubby.men are polygamous and if you can lay claim to any sense at all ,you would have notice that because a man bleeps ur best friend doesnt mean he hates you his wife.i didnt even bother to read your story in full ,who is cheating who.in marriage the African way it is about the wife's fidelity and the reason being that if you Bleep more than one man,we dont know who owns the pregnancy and the child and the entire society becomes confused and disorganized.


your only way out for you is to find how you get married to kumuyi of deeper life cus i cant guarantee u of fidelity with the pastors chris them,


very unnecessary article,you can as well teach women how to wear their pant.and who tells you some hubbies dont prefer their wives to be orobos.

please pardon me.,your advise is really very very unnecessary.did you talk to ur mum before writing these?

I wonder if some pple sight r at their back. Did u read d article at all? U r so pathetic. I wonder how ur family wud be, I pity ur future wife and children. Sorry future wives. U can as well sleep with ur wife's sister, she's a woman too so there's nothing wrong. I just pray u av a daughter and I wish she experiences what u tot its right..
A man without God in his life is a failure.

topdee:
Not true, I couldn't agree with you less. Take a look at this scenario: Let's use universities or tertiary institutions as a case study; a student's ultimate goal is to get a good job after graduation, and as we all know the best way to achieve that is to graduate with 1st class or 2.1, but in reality those grades don't guarantee job placement. Some students with low grades even get jobs before students with high grades, but the fact still is that 1st class and 2.1 increases ones chances of securing good jobs. A woman's physical attributes creates a better platform for her man to stay faithful, and it's one of the criteria to win a man's heart, but doesn't mean it's the sole ingredient to man's faithfulness; just as good grades doesn't guarantee job placement. It applies to every facet of life, even living a healthy life doesn't guarantee longevity, but it's a contributing factor.
Abeg women out there, try as much as you can to look good often for your man and your health, likewise the men, also men like what they see, it's a known fact, give him reasons not to look elsewhere. .

I think it is more complex than this, although looking good is good, even if for health reasons only. Just like a decent degree class improves chances.

Many people, men and women, unleash their real personality after getting married.
All that pretence to get hooked soon fall aside.

We generally seek what we don't have be it sexual fulfillment, romance, peace of mind, etc.

Sometimes it's just the fear of "missing out" on the goodies believed to be out there.

It is easy to say "teach your wife what you want from her, do this, do that. But how many people are amenable to correction these days? People are too proud nowadays.

I know young beautiful women whose marriages have crumbled within 3 years of marriage. A careful analysis of them over time, gives me as a man, quite possible reasons. Of course their would have played their own part.

For example some are well educated but lack some basic intelligence. They take everything happening at home and discuss with often unmarried friends and their birth families. Without filtering the info. Now, many unmarried friends will advise you not to put up that poo. And thay have not info found a steady bf yet o.

Others nag over the slightest things. Men treasure peace of mind. Avoid nagging.

Yet others are sexually inhibited by religious morality. Like some I know who did "no-sex" courtship before marriage. And then claim to not enjoy sex as a pretext to restrict hubby's access to "uhuru". Yet you don't expect him to eventually cheat?

So there are a range of psychological, sociological and other factors. It's quite lazy to naively put it down to "being a dog" or a "bitch" if a woman.

I love this.

For the men who are misunderstanding and twisting my article, get this straight: the cheaters among you do so not because madam isn't doing the right things, u think it's your nature. So, women can't speak up anymore? For those of you picking offense with this, YOU ARE GUILTY!
Women o, let's take care of ourselves, eat well, workout and stay trim for our health first! Oga second! The society third!( because they must talk)

Adesiji77:


ROTFLMAO

@inemani...nice article

Thank u dear

Pure undiluted truth. Every cheat must face the consequences of his actions one way or another. The cheating men wont like this topic

As sad as the reality of infidelity is..... We ladies need to start taking care of ourselves....... Uneasy lies the head that wears the crown.

inemani:
Hello Mamas!
Yesterday I read a thread of a man who was curious as to why women blow out of proportion after marriage/childbirth. I snapped out after he wrote this: "And why do they express shock when their husbands go after trim and shapely ladies outside? Is it that they didn't know that men are typically motivated by sensual sights? Are this category of ladies aware that the game is becoming dangerously tighter because "oga" is constantly inundated with young, trim, energetic and sexy girls on a daily basis; while his own wife keeps growing fat and out of shape and looking like his mother?" This motivated my own thread!
Take a look at these true life stories:
1. A former colleague of mine who is married with a daughter lives very close to me. She's still in her twenties, tall, elegant and endowed with this hourglass shape men die for. Her husband is quite young too, with a comfortable source of income. You will think they are dating when they stroll outside - babe is still hot because she waist-trained after her baby, talk about flattest tummy! Now I was, to say the least, shocked, when I learnt Oga was going after other ladies, still in our neighborhood I mean, these girls can't measure to the wife half.

2. A lady I know advised me after my first baby to look trim and sexy so that my husband won't go after other women. You won't believe she is a mother of four, I really looked up to her for inspiration in my keeping fit regimen. Babe did not know her perfect gentleman was busy banging anything in skirts around town. She probably thought depriving herself of certain foods, working out and staying trim would put Oga in check!

3. What about our celebrities who retain their pre-baby weights after their babies yet their divorces are most times based on infidelity? what about countless beautiful women who put in their very best to maintain their shape but are still being cheated on?

What is my point? My fellow women, if you think you are staying fit, trim and sexy so that your husband wouldn't cheat on you, please change that mindset. A CHEAT IS A CHEAT, no point going on a long thing! Stay fit because of the health benefits, you wouldn't want the health risks associated with obesity, would you?
All these Nairaland boys bashing African Women with little or no respect, tuale!
All the men (married and unmarried) who gallivant around in potbellies yet criticize childbearing women, chop knuckle! It's a man's world, isn't it?
All the cheaters continue cheating, the day of reckoning would sure come

Women please, stay fit and trim not for Oga but for your health! *drops mic*

i have some of tomquests private messages sef. The very same guy is a shameless flirt, like the people you mentioned above. Going through his thread was quite entertaining, especially when I know what he really is like off NL

99,8% of males on nairaland have mothers and sisters that look like baby Buffalos but they go around bashing every other woman other there about general appearance. How about you start your charity at home and sign up your mother at the gym

pippimp:


I am sorry for you. Keep looking for the bad examples to emulate. You should keep fit for you and your spouse. Life is not perfect. All you can do is do the right thing as much as you can. When you say you will keep fit for yourself alone when you are married, you are already on dangerous ground. Your relationship is already shaky. I don't know why people love using negative examples to justify their argument.

Bad examples? Did you expect the OP to lie that fit women are never cheated on? Okay lets put celebrities aside, how many decent women on nairaland alone that are married organized, virgins and God-fearing that still complain about their husbands cheating? We should act those marriages really don't exist right?

AreaFada2:


I think it is more complex than this, although looking good is good, even if for health reasons only. Just like a decent degree class improves chances.

Many people, men and women, unleash their real personality after getting married.
All that pretence to get hooked soon fall aside.

We generally seek what we don't have be it sexual fulfillment, romance, peace of mind, etc.

Sometimes it's just the fear of "missing out" on the goodies believed to be out there.

It is easy to say "teach your wife what you want from her, do this, do that. But how many people are amenable to correction these days? People are too proud nowadays.

I know young beautiful women whose marriages have crumbled within 3 years of marriage. A careful analysis of them over time, gives me as a man, quite possible reasons. Of course their would have played their own part.

For example some are well educated but lack some basic intelligence. They take everything happening at home and discuss with often unmarried friends and their birth families. Without filtering the info. Now, many unmarried friends will advise you not to put up that poo. And thay have not info found a steady bf yet o.

Others nag over the slightest things. Men treasure peace of mind. Avoid nagging.

Yet others are sexually inhibited by religious morality. Like some I know who did "no-sex" courtship before marriage. And then claim to not enjoy sex as a pretext to restrict hubby's access to "uhuru". Yet you don't expect him to eventually cheat?

So there are a range of psychological, sociological and other factors. It's quite lazy to naively put it down to "being a dog" or a "bitch" if a woman.

Yea exactly, it's the same thing I'm saying. I said physical well being is one of the factors to loving marriages. Op was only making reference to physical attributes, and I'm making Op understand that there is no justification for not looking good.

inemani:


Looking good so he won't look elsewhere is not a guarantee bro, but very necessary. Mind you not all men cheat ,I know that.

Yea, what you wrote is a summary of what I meant.

vague:
Bad examples? Did you expect the OP to lie that fit women are never cheated on? Okay lets put celebrities aside, how many decent women on nairaland alone that are married organized, virgins and God-fearing that still complain about their husbands cheating? We should act those marriages really don't exist right?

People die from plane crashes everyday. How has that stopped you from flying?

inemani:

Numericaldog, keep counting the women u climb! Are u amongst the good?

very reason why your hubby prefers others sabre_tongued.u will still have to do one more article CU's this one is not long enough.

U are soo on point bae

Coldfeet:
A cheat indeed will always be a cheat!

Theres this lady who's very pretty, portable and "shapely" still after 3kids, her fitness regimen is like that of a sports person! You name it she goes the extra mile so as to remain attractive and sezy looking for her husband.

The husband did cheat on her with an over weight woman.

He said he just wanted to have a feel of what its like to do a big woman! And he kept that relationship for years!!! Till he got caught! Lolz.

He loves his wife trim( after all she's the one people see him with) but his mistress "big" the secret one that satisfies his urges.

Likewise most men that say they like their women big! The curiosity to explore the other size will also make him cheat.

Point is don't lose weight or gain it because of a mans acceptance and approval! Do it because you like it and loves who stares back at you from the mirror.

Our 5 fingers are of different sizes and length for a purpose.

Life will be such a bore if we are all tall, all short, all fat, all slim, all pretty or all ugly.

Variety is the spice of life.

Love yourself, be healthy, be happy.

You are absolutely right

inemani:
Hello Mamas!
Yesterday I read a thread of a man who was curious as to why women blow out of proportion after marriage/childbirth. I snapped out after he wrote this: "And why do they express shock when their husbands go after trim and shapely ladies outside? Is it that they didn't know that men are typically motivated by sensual sights? Are this category of ladies aware that the game is becoming dangerously tighter because "oga" is constantly inundated with young, trim, energetic and sexy girls on a daily basis; while his own wife keeps growing fat and out of shape and looking like his mother?" This motivated my own thread!
Take a look at these true life stories:
1. A former colleague of mine who is married with a daughter lives very close to me. She's still in her twenties, tall, elegant and endowed with this hourglass shape men die for. Her husband is quite young too, with a comfortable source of income. You will think they are dating when they stroll outside - babe is still hot because she waist-trained after her baby, talk about flattest tummy! Now I was, to say the least, shocked, when I learnt Oga was going after other ladies, still in our neighborhood I mean, these girls can't measure to the wife half.

2. A lady I know advised me after my first baby to look trim and sexy so that my husband won't go after other women. You won't believe she is a mother of four, I really looked up to her for inspiration in my keeping fit regimen. Babe did not know her perfect gentleman was busy banging anything in skirts around town. She probably thought depriving herself of certain foods, working out and staying trim would put Oga in check!

3. What about our celebrities who retain their pre-baby weights after their babies yet their divorces are most times based on infidelity? what about countless beautiful women who put in their very best to maintain their shape but are still being cheated on?

What is my point? My fellow women, if you think you are staying fit, trim and sexy so that your husband wouldn't cheat on you, please change that mindset. A CHEAT IS A CHEAT, no point going on a long thing! Stay fit because of the health benefits, you wouldn't want the health risks associated with obesity, would you?
All these Nairaland boys bashing African Women with little or no respect, tuale!
All the men (married and unmarried) who gallivant around in potbellies yet criticize childbearing women, chop knuckle! It's a man's world, isn't it?
All the cheaters continue cheating, the day of reckoning would sure come

Women please, stay fit and trim not for Oga but for your health! *drops mic*

It Is A Man's World... Deal With It Or Grow A Dick.

I concur

Coldfeet:
A cheat indeed will always be a cheat!

Theres this lady who's very pretty, portable and "shapely" still after 3kids, her fitness regimen is like that of a sports person! You name it she goes the extra mile so as to remain attractive and sezy looking for her husband.

The husband did cheat on her with an over weight woman.

He said he just wanted to have a feel of what its like to do a big woman! And he kept that relationship for years!!! Till he got caught! Lolz.

He loves his wife trim( after all she's the one people see him with) but his mistress "big" the secret one that satisfies his urges.

Likewise most men that say they like their women big! The curiosity to explore the other size will also make him cheat.

Point is don't lose weight or gain it because of a mans acceptance and approval! Do it because you like it and loves who stares back at you from the mirror.

Our 5 fingers are of different sizes and length for a purpose.

Life will be such a bore if we are all tall, all short, all fat, all slim, all pretty or all ugly.

Variety is the spice of life.

Love yourself, be healthy, be happy.

inemani:
For the men who are misunderstanding and twisting my article, get this straight: the cheaters among you do so not because madam isn't doing the right things, u think it's your nature. So, women can't speak up anymore? For those of you picking offense with this, YOU ARE GUILTY!
Women o, let's take care of ourselves, eat well, workout and stay trim for our health first! Oga second! The society third!( because they must talk)

When women learn to live happy lives with or without a man, the insult on womanhood in Africa will end.

pippimp:


People die from plane crashes everyday. How has that stopped you from flying?

so because other airlines do not crush, then the ones that do should not be talked about?

topdee:
Not true, I couldn't agree with you less. Take a look at this scenario: Let's use universities or tertiary institutions as a case study; a student's ultimate goal is to get a good job after graduation, and as we all know the best way to achieve that is to graduate with 1st class or 2.1, but in reality those grades don't guarantee job placement. Some students with low grades even get jobs before students with high grades, but the fact still is that 1st class and 2.1 increases ones chances of securing good jobs. A woman's physical attributes creates a better platform for her man to stay faithful, and it's one of the criteria to win a man's heart, but doesn't mean it's the sole ingredient to man's faithfulness; just as good grades doesn't guarantee job placement. It applies to every facet of life, even living a healthy life doesn't guarantee longevity, but it's a contributing factor.
Abeg women out there, try as much as you can to look good often for your man and your health, likewise the men, also men like what they see, it's a known fact, give him reasons not to look elsewhere. .

so those that have been giving their man every reason not to cheat and still get cheated on are mad?

No matter how hard you try men will always cheat. So stay fits to be healthy cos its wealth.

numericalguy:




Its not anybody's fault you chose to marry a pathetic partner. Just because you failed in your matrimonial duties should not be a reason you would poison the minds of other women in happy homes.

I can't swear for any man cos I have seen adultery destroy my neighbours beautiful home. Pathetic and serial cheater like you,that won't be satisfied with what you got. You didn't read the thread but was quick to attack someone saying the truth. Yes pathetic cheater that's what I call cheaters. Please go and read the thread that made someone open this thread before you open your stinking mouth.

A cheat will always be a cheat, no matter how sexy his wife may look, Just stay healthy for yourself..

josite:
very reason why your hubby prefers others sabre_tongued.u will still have to do one more article CU's this one is not long enough.

Lekwa nkita! E pain am! Keep entering every hole, okwaya? U will surely enter a hole full of scorpions which will make a good read on Nairaland

vague:
so because other airlines do not crush, then the ones that do should not be talked about?

No one said anything about not talking about bad relationships. The argument is about using those failed relationships to justify what is wrong. Saying that you would keep fit just for one's self is same as courting with danger for the relationship. If you were married you'd understand. Smh.