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phabulous88:
Hope you have a copy of the recordings? Invite your family and hers for a Get-together' and play the recording. Thereafter, ask her to leave your house in their presence. Don't listen to their pleas, just get your daughter and leave the house.

Women sha!

guy wetin dey worry you na? Why did you steal the words out of my mouth?
This is just exactly what i needed to say.
You said it all.
We dont know what next their plan is

Fem29, thanks for the mention.

@DevGuru:

I feel this is not the whole story. Nobody goes seeking for advice when there is no problem ( real/imagined).

What changed your wife from a loving fiancée who stood by you to a betrayer who is working towards building a parallel life?

What did you do to your wife?

[quote author=Mafking post=47211715]Bro your matter pass nairaland.o
Your story just wan destroy my mood ni...
am tellin u, my mood no set again

sashishalom:
Haaa this is disheartening .....pls don't let her know you saw the records....you need an elderly advice most esp your dad...your dad would give you the right advice and handle it very well emotionally than your mom...

That lady is wicked,she fit kill you oh...don't start coming back late oh because of it...send the records to your phone....I think she is scared of loosing you,rem she started begging,I bet that wasn't part of the plan...
I am short of words self...don't even know if what am saying is right but please your dad is the best person to turn to...I can understand how you feel...can you imagine?..

Where are our hearts??what colour do they show forth now??what have we exchanged our feelings for??



Dejifalade

the begging was part of the plan...

pharmagba:
I feel very sorry for you, but a man got to be a man
Firstly I don't know the real sickness and precise age of your daughter but one thing you must know is it is not good for a wife to have too much free time as it is a veritable devils workshop you ought to ensure she is working; open a shop for her or impregnate her so she continue baby nursing,

Now to your findings first of all copy it somewhere else like your phone and then confront her with it, play everything to her hearing, pause at intervals to ask her what you've done wrong, please don't be aggressive or angry; control your emotions. Ask her what she has to say.

Let her know it is betrayal, threaten her you will summon a family meeting of both family and see her reaction.
If or not she apologies don't tell anybody either your family or her. NEVER.. It must not come from your mouth.
But make a stand none of her family members should have your respect. They must never come to your house. Don't give reasons, don't pick or answer their calls until you see full repentance in her. which must be after like a year. .it is her family that must bear the brunt and punishment Nothing more

Don't divorce her she is your wife, folly is in the mind of a woman. I know it will definitely leave a scar in your relationship, forgive her still and try to let go, call her from work and be a good father and husband.

Story.......Op do d needful before she kills u

Are you sure that lady is your wife.
What kind of lady rubbishes her husband before his family and her family.

Bro you dont have a wife you were only living with a pretender.

DevGuru:
UPDATE

I sincerely appreciate the fact that almost everyone here regards this matter a very serious one, this alone warms my heart a little. I have read through every single comment on this thread and I appreciate everyone. I couldn't take down the names of those whose comments aligned with my aim of keeping my marriage, but I thank everyone all the same. I realised from a myriad of comments that informing my people will mean a beginning of the end for my marriage. My daughter too is a major consideration. Above all, she's carrying another 6 week pregnancy. I have therefore decided to eliminate (or maybe suspend as the case turns out) informing any of my family members. I decided to play the records to her while I added some words. I started by telling her that my love for her made me decide to talk to her and not to anyone who would possibly fuel separation in my home like her sisters have done. She was shocked because she had never heard any allegation from me towards her elder ones before. She thought I was crazy and I wanted to bring up what was not. Then I played a little while I summarised the wildest words from her sisters which I heard in other discussion. For the FIRST time, my wife couldn't deny ANYTHING as she was convinced beyond doubt that she had been finished. She cried bitterly as I talked further but did not know what to do. But what pained me further was that it was obvious she cried because she saw that I was going to turn to an emperor and ridicule and justifiably disgrace her elderly advisers, NOT really because I was betrayed.

Right there, I was looking for a particular one to play and then even heard what I didn't hear before. Her eldest sister said she had discussed with some other siblings to intensify efforts towards her job search that as soon as she gets a job, she would have to be sending money home for them to create something for her in their town so she could come settle. She cried further as she heard it too. I told her the implications of what she had done to me with her people and then left her in the room because my baby girl was disturbing me. Anytime our voices are not friendly, she interrupts and cries for attention. I took my daughter to the living room and was playing with her.

After about 1 hour, she came to the living room and fell down before me as she cried further, saying "I'm sorry". Then I asked her to state exactly what she was begging me for - her betrayal or her siblings' offence. She knows me very well, she quickly said her betrayal (even though I knew that wasn't the primary cause of her heavy heart). Then I told her I was willing to forgive her in the spirit of upholding my marital vows to her. I explained further that for the sake of our daughter and the unborn one(s), I was willing to forgive her and build a stronger home with her. She felt a little relief knowing that she was getting back into me. I then said "but from this minute, I'm in a ruthless war with anyone, I repeat, ANYONE who is determined to break my home as I now have to guard our togetherness jealously". I stated further that the only thing I would hold against her was if she ever stood in my way. Just as if a thunder just struck and killed someone dear to her, she cried loudly again saying "she had finished her life". She said she would be the one to suffer in the war I just declared and that I should just allow her to call all of them and tell them never to meddle into our affairs again. I refused to fall for that trick and held my stance that my resolve was not going to change and I walked away. Since then till this moment, she has been like a mourning widow. When it was time for food, we ate together as usual and I've been the one trying to talk now. She hasn't spoken with anyone on phone since then, although I don't know about Whatsapp or BBM chat. Now she's waiting for the next available opportunity when she could plead for her sisters again... only God knows for how long the waiting would be. Let me quickly mention that she sent me an SMS from the bedroom a while ago: I CAN SEE THE HANDWORK OF THE DEVIL IN THIS WHOLE MATTER, PLS LET'S TRY TO RESIST THE DEVIL THIS TIME SO HE CAN FLEE FROM OUR HOME. I BEG YOU IN THE NAME OF GOD DEAR".... I simply replied from the living room: "ON THE CONTRARY HONEY, I CAN SEE THE HAND OF GOD. CAN'T YOU SEE IT?"

On another note, I do not want to assume that she will not tell her sisters, although it might take a while because she knew they would rebuke her for delivering them into the hands of their 'enemy' through Call Recorder. But before she informs them, I think I'd follow someone's advice here too that I should reveal it to someone who could keep it away from my mum and sisters, which is surely my Dad - just to put someone in the know, in case I begin to smell rat poison in my food... lol. What do you think?

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Sorry bro for all these, but you have to be wise. Tell your family or at least a friend. If they kill you today, no one will know the truth..... My advise would have been leave the marriage but since you wanna give it a second try; be vigilant, careful and wise.

GoldenJAT:
call a family meeting sharply....giv them no room 2 suspect that you are up2 something,do make sure every1 of her siblings are there ...as well as urs.. play those records for them... and divorce her.. the marriage is over already... Just tell urself d hard truth.... u married a wolf in sheep clothing... that family is a cult,prepare 2c and hear more than u can take.... ur time start's now.. I personally be following you up.. don't mind having ur number... stories like these one.. is what makes men treat even d good women with disdain. ...it breaks my heart 2 know that those that can clean ur tears are actually d ones that will make u cry blood.. u will come out stronger. the Lord is ur strength!

I concur. Case closed. Any other idea is just by the way.

FAMILY MEETING ASAP. Her siblings are envious of her and they wana destroy her life.
It's possible the family dont marry their husbands till 'evening' so they want her to be like them. Unfortunately, ur pretty wife doesnt know their evil plans for her.
GOD ll see ur family through IJN.

Say no to divorce!

ezechueze:
Op,DIVORCE her immediately.one day she would poison you and take over your assets.

Exactly on point.

Op, after going through what you have just narrated, I am short of words and would advise you to do this; transfer the whole conversation to your fone, meet your parents, inform them that the marriage is over.

You are just so lucky that she hasn't perfected the plan to just poison you. For me, I will seek for a divorce and will NEVER EVER consider any form of reconciliation.

young man plz follow ur mind so u won't regret ur actions later if u take de wrng advise so do wat ur heart tills u to do....Bt na wa ooo woman..

Mafking:
Bro your matter pass nairaland.o

Your story just wan destroy my mood ni...

No, he can't divorce. On what basis?

Oga
Your wife is a psycho

DevGuru:
UPDATE

I sincerely appreciate the fact that almost everyone here regards this matter a very serious one, this alone warms my heart a little. I have read through every single comment on this thread and I appreciate everyone. I couldn't take down the names of those whose comments aligned with my aim of keeping my marriage, but I thank everyone all the same. I realised from a myriad of comments that informing my people will mean a beginning of the end for my marriage. My daughter too is a major consideration. Above all, she's carrying another 6 week pregnancy. I have therefore decided to eliminate (or maybe suspend as the case turns out) informing any of my family members. I decided to play the records to her while I added some words. I started by telling her that my love for her made me decide to talk to her and not to anyone who would possibly fuel separation in my home like her sisters have done. She was shocked because she had never heard any allegation from me towards her elder ones before. She thought I was crazy and I wanted to bring up what was not. Then I played a little while I summarised the wildest words from her sisters which I heard in other discussion. For the FIRST time, my wife couldn't deny ANYTHING as she was convinced beyond doubt that she had been finished. She cried bitterly as I talked further but did not know what to do. But what pained me further was that it was obvious she cried because she saw that I was going to turn to an emperor and ridicule and justifiably disgrace her elderly advisers, NOT really because I was betrayed.

Right there, I was looking for a particular one to play and then even heard what I didn't hear before. Her eldest sister said she had discussed with some other siblings to intensify efforts towards her job search that as soon as she gets a job, she would have to be sending money home for them to create something for her in their town so she could come settle. She cried further as she heard it too. I told her the implications of what she had done to me with her people and then left her in the room because my baby girl was disturbing me. Anytime our voices are not friendly, she interrupts and cries for attention. I took my daughter to the living room and was playing with her.

After about 1 hour, she came to the living room and fell down before me as she cried further, saying "I'm sorry". Then I asked her to state exactly what she was begging me for - her betrayal or her siblings' offence. She knows me very well, she quickly said her betrayal (even though I knew that wasn't the primary cause of her heavy heart). Then I told her I was willing to forgive her in the spirit of upholding my marital vows to her. I explained further that for the sake of our daughter and the unborn one(s), I was willing to forgive her and build a stronger home with her. She felt a little relief knowing that she was getting back into me. I then said "but from this minute, I'm in a ruthless war with anyone, I repeat, ANYONE who is determined to break my home as I now have to guard our togetherness jealously". I stated further that the only thing I would hold against her was if she ever stood in my way. Just as if a thunder just struck and killed someone dear to her, she cried loudly again saying "she had finished her life". She said she would be the one to suffer in the war I just declared and that I should just allow her to call all of them and tell them never to meddle into our affairs again. I refused to fall for that trick and held my stance that my resolve was not going to change and I walked away. Since then till this moment, she has been like a mourning widow. When it was time for food, we ate together as usual and I've been the one trying to talk now. She hasn't spoken with anyone on phone since then, although I don't know about Whatsapp or BBM chat. Now she's waiting for the next available opportunity when she could plead for her sisters again... only God knows for how long the waiting would be. Let me quickly mention that she sent me an SMS from the bedroom a while ago: I CAN SEE THE HANDWORK OF THE DEVIL IN THIS WHOLE MATTER, PLS LET'S TRY TO RESIST THE DEVIL THIS TIME SO HE CAN FLEE FROM OUR HOME. I BEG YOU IN THE NAME OF GOD DEAR".... I simply replied from the living room: "ON THE CONTRARY HONEY, I CAN SEE THE HAND OF GOD. CAN'T YOU SEE IT?"

On another note, I do not want to assume that she will not tell her sisters, although it might take a while because she knew they would rebuke her for delivering them into the hands of their 'enemy' through Call Recorder. But before she informs them, I think I'd follow someone's advice here too that I should reveal it to someone who could keep it away from my mum and sisters, which is surely my Dad - just to put someone in the know, in case I begin to smell rat poison in my food... lol. What do you think?

Cc: ezechueze, Mafking, AccidentalGenius, RadicallyBlunt, ojun50, GoldenJAT, olempe, LuveU2, goldbim, phabulous88, pharmagba, 2goodbobo, PezzoNovante, marvelous000, Tritri, IRserveMyComent, AlienStar, STENON, krak101, AccidentalGenius, danduchi, samsam2019, uchedydy, Ruemufaith, sashishalom, ednut1, bakynes, sumborr, general111, byvan03, obiak4, Eketem, obiak4, emekachimek, elektra, priceaction, segzy0i, MizzD, richyfunky, bellong, nnamdibig, Timbuktou, TheArchangel, tearoses, andromida, HaneefahRN, TV01, Amelian, WellEndowed, Jethrolite, baeboo, trishapal, drss, Donemmy, Ujoan, pcguru1, Tochex101, pastorpussy, crackhaus, ranktzy, cococandy, mysticgal, toksbisola, Okikiki, succourplanet, Darla, ummeey, kaboninc, BiggyB242, Ishilove

Great job you've done. God bless you.

I'm sorry but I don't believe this story.

It can't be true!!!!

Are you joking?

Is this for web traffic, Seun?

Hmnnn, your story is exactly like mine. Would like to give you some advise. You may call me on this number 08024728114. Cheers

If you continue with that woman she will not only ruin you but your family too,because a bad and wicked woman is worse than the devil himself,don't let her know yet,make sure your family and hers are present in a meeting Call by you,and play everything to their hearing then you can divorce her before she kills you and marry another man;women are terrible but some are just demons though we still have good ones but are few.be wise and fast about it .

phabulous88:
Hope you have a copy of the recordings? Invite your family and hers for a Get-together' and play the recording. Thereafter, ask her to leave your house in their presence. Don't listen to their pleas, just get your daughter and leave the house.

Women sha!

THIS IS THE STAR ADVISE FOR THIS EVIL WIFE AND HER SIBLINGS. I HOPE YOU SMART ENOUGH TO ACT THIS OUT...PLS GET PLAIN CLOTHES POLICEMEN NEARBY for immediate and intervention to forestall violence

pharmagba:
I feel very sorry for you, but a man got to be a man
Firstly I don't know the real sickness and precise age of your daughter but one thing you must know is it is not good for a wife to have too much free time as it is a veritable devils workshop you ought to ensure she is working; open a shop for her or impregnate her so she continue baby nursing,

Now to your findings first of all copy it somewhere else like your phone and then confront her with it, play everything to her hearing, pause at intervals to ask her what you've done wrong, please don't be aggressive or angry; control your emotions. Ask her what she has to say.

Let her know it is betrayal, threaten her you will summon a family meeting of both family and see her reaction.
If or not she apologies don't tell anybody either your family or her. NEVER.. It must not come from your mouth.
But make a stand none of her family members should have your respect. They must never come to your house. Don't give reasons, don't pick or answer their calls until you see full repentance in her. which must be after like a year. .it is her family that must bear the brunt and punishment Nothing more

Don't divorce her she is your wife, folly is in the mind of a woman. I know it will definitely leave a scar in your relationship, forgive her still and try to let go, call her from work and be a good father and husband.

God bless you with more wisdom sir.

Wealthy15:
If you continue with that woman she will not only ruin you but your family too,because a bad and wicked woman is worse than the devil himself,don't let her know yet,make sure your family and hers are present in a meeting Call by you,and play everything to their hearing then you can divorce her before she kills you and marry another man;women are terrible but some are just demons though we still have good ones but are few.be wise and fast about it .

I am glad this is coming from a woman. You have given op the best advise. Call both family for a meeting and now play the tape.That should be the end of the marriage.


Op, if you want to continue with the marriage, we can wait for your obituary by same lady, maybe on nairaland.

Hello Sir, I will kindly advise you to copy those recordings in a safer place. Have a meeting with your parents, and siblings. Your family should come up with better ideas on how to handle this case.
Obviously your wife's elder sisters are evil minded and have succeeded in affecting her mindset. They envy your family and wants to ruin it. But if you are smart, you will laugh last.
Concerning your single testis, it's no problem cos your daughter is an evidence. You will have more even with another woman.
Please compose yourself well at home and at work. Relate with her siblings as usual and be vigilante to monitor them and gather more evidence.
Above all, ask God for wisdom. You will laugh last.

If your wife is stupid enough to execute her sisters' evil plots against you, what is the probability that she will not kill you if she is advised to do so? It is better to be alone than to be sorry.

If a man beats his wife, I will advise they separate from each other until he learns to treat her with respect whether she deserves it or not. What your wife has done is worse than physical assault. Give her some space.

Gr8 story, u r lucky u had an early discovery. Sincerely, u have a gud wife but careless one. Check yourself first and correct d situation. U can have her back if u r determined, 4get about d siblings, they are only jealous. Re-educate, love her more and she will love you back. Finally, trace back where you both got it wrong and firmly avoid subsequent occurrence. She's a good wife surrounded by frustrated siblings, watch out, they are everywhere!

Manipulative people are very dangerous so he thankful that God loves you because he showed you what has been going on

You can be the head of the household and settle this in a respectable manner behind close doors or in front of family. Usually there is a pattern of this kind of behavior but because of excitement people generally don't realize

A Good partner will never always encourages you to put your best foot forward not your worst.

Some women are agents of darkness.

This is really heartbreaking

OP, from what the people here have suggested, before we start reading stories of how a man was murdered by his wife on the frontpage of this forum, i'll implore you to transfer all the recordings of her phone to yours, call a family meeting and play it for all to listen. Then file for divorce. No matter how your family or hers would try to convince you to let by gone be by gone, do not accept. This woman will one day poison you with the intent of killing you.

danduchi:
Invite ur parent and her parent and play the voice records for everyone to hear.... Its obvious her mind has been poisoned... Listen to what your wife has to say if she will be sincerely sorry for it. Show her more love, it will weaken her evil heart towards you... Pls don't divorce her unless there is a twist from her again. You guys will grow in love better than this

This kind of advice is the reason most people died. I doubt if you actually read through everything. Sometimes we deceive ourselves by thinking that marriage must work at all cost.

This man has no marriage at all.

See OP, I'm not even going to mince words or talk plenty.

Divorce the witch you call a wife, like immediately.

u need God intervention in your life

DevGuru

Please don't view divorce as the only option.
Get the records saved.. Maybe transfer them from your phone to a memory stick.. .
Call your dad, men handles matters diligently. Seek for his own opinion.
Whatever you discuss might influence what you'll do.

But, don't be in a haste to make costly mistakes.
Love you, bro!!

hmm dis is serious ,call for a family meeting then present the issue with enough evidence, but before that talk to her if she denys u follow ur heart....

The problem is...if she is so easily brainwashed, what else can she be brainwashed into doing? Putting a love potion in your food? Throwing a tantrum each time you want to give money to your siblings?. Forgiving her doesn't mean it won't happen again and what's worse is that she will become more adept at covering her tracks.

Marriage really does seem like such a chore.

pharmagba:
I feel very sorry for you, but a man got to be a man
Firstly I don't know the real sickness and precise age of your daughter but one thing you must know is it is not good for a wife to have too much free time as it is a veritable devils workshop you ought to ensure she is working; open a shop for her or impregnate her so she continue baby nursing,

Now to your findings first of all copy it somewhere else like your phone and then confront her with it, play everything to her hearing, pause at intervals to ask her what you've done wrong, please don't be aggressive or angry; control your emotions. Ask her what she has to say.

Let her know it is betrayal, threaten her you will summon a family meeting of both family and see her reaction.
If or not she apologies don't tell anybody either your family or her. NEVER.. It must not come from your mouth.
But make a stand none of her family members should have your respect. They must never come to your house. Don't give reasons, don't pick or answer their calls until you see full repentance in her. which must be after like a year. .it is her family that must bear the brunt and punishment Nothing more

Don't divorce her she is your wife, folly is in the mind of a woman. I know it will definitely leave a scar in your relationship, forgive her still and try to let go, call her from work and be a good father and husband.

I'm sorry but don't talk nonsense next time.

Which one is folly is in the mind of a woman? So all women are f00lish or wetin? You people should stop in o.