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After reading ops line of action,I shook my head,and I began to doubt this story.

@devguru: take it as you have married the wrong woman... and know that you have taken a wrong move.. your wife is never going to be remorseful instead intensify plans to eliminate you. Who even know the cause of your sickness in the first place.

My friend take it as you are ready to die slowly... well thanks for sacrificing so much for love.. but please before it's late use your brain not that pastor for "better for worse" quote showing how strong you are to manage your self till grave!

ezechueze:
Op,DIVORCE her immediately.one day she would poison you and take over your assets.

Best advice.

Although I am no the teary type but your story is so emotional.

See from the study and observation of my parent's marriage , I have gotten to realise that some family members can be carcinogenic to relationships.

please for your daughter's sake, the love for your family and obviously your overall health, forgive your wife and move on!

Until my dad took charge of the situation, the two families ( my paternal and maternal families) almost destroyed our blissful home.

I'll bet it with you, family gossip is common.
Just forgive your wife...... Though I don't know how, but God will help you. Amen!


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cherriex:
This is extremely terrible,am so scared of the institution called marriage after reading this,what is this world turning intoGod have mercy,hope uve forward the recordings to your own device,go to your parents ASAP and play it to them,make sure u take away all your important documents from the house.they could be planning evil against you.God save u.

Marriage is for those who are willing to love on windy, stormy ,chaotic and not just blissful days.

May God help us. Amen

I checked the names and I wasn't disappointed.


OP just know that you don't have a wife.

OP you are playing with fire.If she decides to kill you or poison you tonight whats your safeguard against that?

This your marriage is not worth saving send the tapes to both parents and walk out of the marriage while you still have your life

No 1, Is there a way u can forward or retrieve her recorded conversaation, n hold as evidence later. 2, Be sober, try and get closer with her on bed again for now, satisfy her sexual urge till a point she will forget all she has done badly n i assure you she will start opening plans of her sisters n etc, ii expect you to also record dis messages as best as you can. 3, When u have this, keep it safe, so she doesnt find it, when scrolling through ur fone. 4, Go to your dad 1st and take him secretly to discuss the situation with d evidence with you without ur mum for now, cos u are neva sure d way she will haandle her emotions. 5, Daddy have more experience abt life and am sure will give you d best posible advise and direction... 6, above all go and pray hard to your God abt d situation, 7, Wait for 7days before wot should be done will come into heart, but dnt do it without discussing your resolve with your dad and actions you intend to take, by dis time, dad wud have told ur mum indirectly all dat is going on and now she will automatically be in the picture, b4 a final decision should be taken...

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first of all,u must admit u ve married d wrong woman, i must use this medium to b eternally grateful to God for the kind of wife God has given me,my advice to u is this:
* call for a family meeting
*play d record for both family to hear
*ask her who d real father of ur child is ( that's if u cannot afford DNA test,because obviously she can't record that kind of conversation )
* ask her wat hapn to ur first testicle
* demand from her wat she is planning to do wit d second testicle
* then listen to wat ur parent would say

assetman:
first of all,u must admit u ve married d wrong woman, i must use this medium to b eternally grateful to God for the kind of wife God has given me,my advice to u is this:
* call for a family meeting
*play d record for both family to hear
*ask her who d real father of ur child is ( that's if u cannot afford DNA test,because obviously she can't record that kind of conversation )
* ask her wat hapn to ur first testicle
* demand from her wat she is planning to do wit d second testicle
* then listen to wat ur parent would say

Guy! you haven't found a wife yet. what you have as wife is a Jezebel. This doesn't mean am posting this to break your home. From All you wrote, I believe and am convinced that your wife will definitely have extra-marital affairs. So, it is left for you to either keep suffering or find a way out.

As much as i hate to see a USED TO BE HAPPY couple split, divorce is the most viable option here.

GoldenJAT:
call a family meeting sharply....giv them no room 2 suspect that you are up2 something,do make sure every1 of her siblings are there ...as well as urs.. play those records for them... and divorce her.. the marriage is over already... Just tell urself d hard truth.... u married a wolf in sheep clothing... that family is a cult,prepare 2c and hear more than u can take.... ur time start's now.. I personally be following you up.. don't mind having ur number... stories like these one.. is what makes men treat even d good women with disdain. ...it breaks my heart 2 know that those that can clean ur tears are actually d ones that will make u cry blood.. u will come out stronger. the Lord is ur strength!

exactly wat am bou postin, ma dear brother am a married woman too and if all uu said is true den call d meetin and play all d record, if not they will still push her to kill u I swear, ur wife didn't av a mind of her own

DevGuru:
NOTICE: Please, my story is still very long despite that I tried very hard to remove some unnecessary portions. But if you can be patient to read it to the end, then you are ready to give a mature opinion.

I am a Yoruba guy married to another Yoruba lady who happened to be the last of seven children. We met at the University and had a long courtship before we got married in 2014. I loved her so much and I believe she loved me too. We were each other's best friends. Shortly before we began to plan the wedding, on one faithful afternoon, I was watching the TV in my living room when I began to feel a slight pain in my lower abdomen. It got more intense within few hours and I had to go to a nearby hospital and by that time, the pain was inside my scrotum. The young doctor there didn't understand what was wrong and started injecting me with pain killers. I was kept there till midnight. The next morning, I noticed that one of my testicle was swelling up. I hen went to a teaching hospital where Orchitis was first diagnosed. After a week of antibiotics with no improvement, a consultant examined me and said it was torsion which should have been surgically corrected within few hours from the onset of the pain. As at that time, the testicle was dead. I had to go for surgery to have the dead one removed. My wife (then my fiancé) was with me in the hospital. She assured me that everything would be fine and that we could have as many kids as we wanted with just one left. I loved her the more.

Now we have a very beautiful daughter who obviously has my genes and delights everyone around her with her alluring beauty. We nearly lost her to a strange illness some months back but for God who used my mum to restore our daughter. That's another long story but not for this thread. My mum loves my family so much that even my wife knows that she can lay down her life for us to be fine. Since we got married, my wife hasn't worked owing partly to our daughter's health which is now very perfect. It's not been easy for me working day and night to feed the family and paying bills in a 3-bedroom apartment in Lagos but God has been helping us. My wife was so much loved in my family that people around thought she was my mum's daughter. Very hardworking and homely.

A little into her own family setup too... She has 4 female and 2 male siblings. All her siblings are married but very close to the parents. Because my wife and I were very close, I was aware of most of the happenings in their family, but I never even gave any thought to them on how they might affect my own marriage.... long story...

Last month, I repeatedly got home late due to an official event which I told my wife and I was talking to her on phone. One morning, she gave me a wild look and warned me never to come late again. I quickly noticed the strangeness in her actions and I comported myself by saying "I'm sorry, it won't happen again". We ate together and I left for work. I returned much earlier and was with her and my daughter for a couple of hours before went to bed after I told her I had a meeting the next morning.

When I woke up, I checked the time and realised I was running late. I greeted her and rushed out of the bed only for her to jump up too and say "We need to talk". Go on, I replied... Then she claimed she observed that I've been cold towards her since she tried to correct me the previous day. I denied it but she insisted, so I told her I would adjust and that I had nothing against her. She suddenly jumped at me and said I was going nowhere. I was very surprised as I asked her what was wrong with her. I begged her to let me go and if we had to discuss anything further, it could be later in the day after work. She grew wilder and began to abuse me verbally. I drew her out of my way so I could go have my bath and she grabbed my singlet and tore it down. I was shocked! I then grabbed her two hands and pushed her to sit on the bed. She just jumped up and said "this is what I've been waiting for". She rushed to her phone and called my dad. Immediately my dad answered the call, she suddenly began to cry saying "your son has been beating me since we woke up today"... It was like I was watching a nollywood movie. I looked like a poor citizen who had no money to eat but just got an allegation that EFCC had traced N1.4b to his account. My Dad called me immediately and ordered me to leave the house first before anything. Immediately, she called my mum too and said the same thing. My mum called me and began to cry that she never expected I would disgrace the family in such manner. I was sad and even had to shout at her cos she wouldn't let me say anything on phone. She didn't even give me time to explain what happened. My wife immediately called her eldest sister too and said the same thing. The sister called me and asked for what happened. I explained to her and she advised me never to raise my hand against her again, while she stylishly insulted me, but I disregarded that. I felt like Pastor Ken in the movie, 'The Price' who had to pay for what he did not do.

I had already missed my meeting but I had to go to work. That was the most horrible day for me at work because I couldn't even use my brain to do anything. I felt cheated and sincerely felt like doing what I had already suffered for. Then I felt the urge to use a bit of my power... I transferred some money to her account and then forwarded an SMS to her giving her 24hours to make up her mind on where she would love to go, either my family home or hers because I needed a break. Fee minutes later, her eldest sister called me to say my wife forwarded my SMS to her and that she was highly disappointed in me upon what she told me in the morning. I told her that I got more infuriated and betrayed seeing my wife ruin my reputation like that. She advised again and told me to go home and hug my wife. When I got home, my wife knelt down at the door and began to apologize that it was the devil. At that time, my elder sister called me and I narrated everything to her while my wife listened to me. The next morning, my wife continued to beg me. I saw the remorse and hugged her. We became happy again. The next day, I called her sister to thank her for her intervention.

My Dad came a few days later to confirm that we had settled everything. Unfortunately, I wasn't around when he arrived, so he called me on phone and I told him I would be around in about 1 hour. Before my arrival, she spoke at length with my Dad but begged him not to allow us revisit the issue on my arrival so as not to raise dusts again. On my arrival, my Dad just advised me and said he was glad we had already settled it. Since then, I've tried to get my home together again. I started leaving my office earlier than usual even when I had unfinished tasks.

This morning, I was flipping through the apps on my wife's phone and saw Call Recorder. I opened it but discovered it had a password. As a techie, I traced the file that stores all the voice calls and began to play one of my wife's recent conversations. It was with her eldest sister who intervened into our matter then. I nearly fainted!!! The sister hailed her for acting as planned and they both laughed with satisfaction. My wife said she was happy that she successfully ruined my image in my family and they both laughed again. They said they were happy that my mum who always thought she had raised good children was made to realize that I was a beast who beats his wife and so on. But the most infuriating part was when her sister said she wanted to give her tips that would help my wife succeed in marriage. She advised my wife never to be open-minded with me and that she should begin to live a separate life while pretending to be a wife in my house. She said my wife should also open a secret account for herself so that family members can occasionally drop some token into it for her upkeep because men are unreliable and my wife agreed with all what her sister said.

I opened another and it was a conversation with her immediate elder sister - not the same as above. This one picked every member of my family and abused the hell out of us... including myself. My wife enjoyed the abuses and even cheered her to talk further. They both called me 'half man' with one testicle - a secret my wife claimed she would never reveal to anyone. In this conversation, my wife told her sister that she was very glad that she finished me through what she told my dad when I was absent, they called my mother all sort of names and this one even told my wife never to act like a good daughter-in-law towards my mother, she was advised to do everything possible to prevent my mum from visiting... and so on...

Now I am extremely mad. So many options are coming to my mind but I don't know where to start from. It is now obvious that I've been living with a stranger all the while. My day at work was so horrible that I had to leave before closing. My head and heart are both heavy now but I'm trying to put myself together. Any ideas?

I always say this, if Yoruba's are the last female specie on earth, I rather remain single, divorce the traitor and move on with your life and kid else you lose it at her hands.

Also transfer those recordings to your phone and take it to the police as evidence, open a case on her head, be steps ahead of her, she won't knowbwhat hit her, after which sue her to court and end the marriage, and also don't let her near that child.

Greetings House!we all know that,in the spirits of emotions thought is powerless.Op is still blinded at the threshold of his grave.He foolishly lost the battle before waging the war.since you have chosen your wife above your family and you have forgotten your father,mother and relatives to share your findings,my condolence in advance

Not every1 here are jambite, am married wif a kid, all I wll advice u to do copy al d records and call for am meeting den play I so dat dey will the truth bou the matter, if not hmmm I pity ur life oo, won't support divorce tho....... am very sure after d meetin ur parent will tell u wat to do if truly they love ur little family

Your wife is not this bad, she's foolish for allowing her sisters use her head to destroy her once happy home propably out of Jealousy. I believe she's redeemable. Suggestions

1. Invite her Parents, "culprit" sisters and their Husbands, your wife's eldest sibling if possible.
2. Before your wife, Play the recodings to their hearing and throw the family into an internal crisis.
3. Don't involve your family members because it will affect this issue(negatively....definite divorce) and their relationship with your wife if you happen to reconcile and chose to stay happily married afterwards.
4. Allow them to decide on what to do with their daughters.....a case btw her sisters and their Husbands too.
5. Your wife and her family( her sisters inclusive) will fear you and will never mess up with you after reconciling your wife to you.
6.Forgive your wife with strict and rigid warnings.
7.Love her.....never victimize her or remind her of what she did to you. Forget.
GOOD LUCK

Dude, grow a pair and be a Man already.

Kick her to the curb for the love of God and go get another one. This time, get a younger one.

Life's too short.

When men, were men!

You don't know when water come up ur neck level, abi?
Stay and pray, eh
God will answer
Almighty gave you a brain, he will use it for u, again eh
You want opinions before u do the right thing.
Divorce her azz.
She will do same if u switch roles

DIVORCE IS NOT NEEDED YET. HOW I WISH I CAN HEAR FROM HER B/4 I GIVE MY ADVICE B/C EVERYONE GIVES HIS FAVOURABLE SIDE OF A STORY

OP you seem to love ur wife. I don't think this is enough reason to divorce your wife, the truth is a lot of family do secretly have a strong hold on their married ones, you are lucky you found out, albeit the hard way. Give the lady some benefits of the doubt, at least she stood by u during your trying times, just that she was negatively influenced by her siblings. Like you've been advised, get a copy of the audio files, play it first to your father, hear his advice, then bring your mom in, before letting your in-laws know, and if possible sideline her sisters, deal directly with the father and brother. For ur daughter's sake, you guys should reach an amicable resolution, if worse, comes to worse a temporal separation will suffice, while you try as much as possible to hold on to your daughter, but could get messy, that is why I advocate for an amicable solution.

OP, you are a lucky man. Bet me, if you were richer than you currently are, she would have killed you and moved on.
My wife was exactly like this and more for almost a year, always fabricating disgusting stories and vowing to make sure I don't have peace. I moved out and left her... her eyes opened.
Send her out or move out yourself or you'd end up dead or locked up in prison,cos she will frame you up.

LuveU2:
Wow. This is not good at all.

modified: Haven read till the end, your wife's recent behaviour does not add up because it betrays logic and common sense.

How can a woman who stood by you when you had a life threatening ish go so low to damage your reputation after?

Even if she can conceive a thought like this, for what profit is she spoiling you? She has all to lose.

If your story is true, then your wife may start roaming the streets soon cause she does things that make no damn sense.

I doubt it myself. But let's view it from another Perspective; It could be that she is being used by her sisters to destroy her family. It's possible they are jealous of her, and pretend as if they are helping to strengthen her, and she is too damn gullible to realise this. I don't usually believe this type of stories, but then nothing wey no fit happen this days judging by Wetin person dey hear and read almost everyday.

Stories like dese make me don't want to marry I really feel for u but dese dayz u don't no who to trust and people change faster Dan a chameleon,, my only advice Is don't do anything stupid,, don't take decision based on emotion pray about it,, and , and God will see u through

DevGuru:
UPDATE

I sincerely appreciate the fact that almost everyone here regards this matter a very serious one, this alone warms my heart a little. I have read through every single comment on this thread and I appreciate everyone. I couldn't take down the names of those whose comments aligned with my aim of keeping my marriage, but I thank everyone all the same. I realised from a myriad of comments that informing my people will mean a beginning of the end for my marriage. My daughter too is a major consideration. Above all, she's carrying another 6 week pregnancy. I have therefore decided to eliminate (or maybe suspend as the case turns out) informing any of my family members. I decided to play the records to her while I added some words. I started by telling her that my love for her made me decide to talk to her and not to anyone who would possibly fuel separation in my home like her sisters have done. She was shocked because she had never heard any allegation from me towards her elder ones before. She thought I was crazy and I wanted to bring up what was not. Then I played a little while I summarised the wildest words from her sisters which I heard in other discussion. For the FIRST time, my wife couldn't deny ANYTHING as she was convinced beyond doubt that she had been finished. She cried bitterly as I talked further but did not know what to do. But what pained me further was that it was obvious she cried because she saw that I was going to turn to an emperor and ridicule and justifiably disgrace her elderly advisers, NOT really because I was betrayed.

Right there, I was looking for a particular one to play and then even heard what I didn't hear before. Her eldest sister said she had discussed with some other siblings to intensify efforts towards her job search that as soon as she gets a job, she would have to be sending money home for them to create something for her in their town so she could come settle. She cried further as she heard it too. I told her the implications of what she had done to me with her people and then left her in the room because my baby girl was disturbing me. Anytime our voices are not friendly, she interrupts and cries for attention. I took my daughter to the living room and was playing with her.

After about 1 hour, she came to the living room and fell down before me as she cried further, saying "I'm sorry". Then I asked her to state exactly what she was begging me for - her betrayal or her siblings' offence. She knows me very well, she quickly said her betrayal (even though I knew that wasn't the primary cause of her heavy heart). Then I told her I was willing to forgive her in the spirit of upholding my marital vows to her. I explained further that for the sake of our daughter and the unborn one(s), I was willing to forgive her and build a stronger home with her. She felt a little relief knowing that she was getting back into me. I then said "but from this minute, I'm in a ruthless war with anyone, I repeat, ANYONE who is determined to break my home as I now have to guard our togetherness jealously". I stated further that the only thing I would hold against her was if she ever stood in my way. Just as if a thunder just struck and killed someone dear to her, she cried loudly again saying "she had finished her life". She said she would be the one to suffer in the war I just declared and that I should just allow her to call all of them and tell them never to meddle into our affairs again. I refused to fall for that trick and held my stance that my resolve was not going to change and I walked away. Since then till this moment, she has been like a mourning widow. When it was time for food, we ate together as usual and I've been the one trying to talk now. She hasn't spoken with anyone on phone since then, although I don't know about Whatsapp or BBM chat. Now she's waiting for the next available opportunity when she could plead for her sisters again... only God knows for how long the waiting would be. Let me quickly mention that she sent me an SMS from the bedroom a while ago: I CAN SEE THE HANDWORK OF THE DEVIL IN THIS WHOLE MATTER, PLS LET'S TRY TO RESIST THE DEVIL THIS TIME SO HE CAN FLEE FROM OUR HOME. I BEG YOU IN THE NAME OF GOD DEAR".... I simply replied from the living room: "ON THE CONTRARY HONEY, I CAN SEE THE HAND OF GOD. CAN'T YOU SEE IT?"

On another note, I do not want to assume that she will not tell her sisters, although it might take a while because she knew they would rebuke her for delivering them into the hands of their 'enemy' through Call Recorder. But before she informs them, I think I'd follow someone's advice here too that I should reveal it to someone who could keep it away from my mum and sisters, which is surely my Dad - just to put someone in the know, in case I begin to smell rat poison in my food... lol. What do you think?

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Since you have rejected wise counsels and chosen to be politically correct in marriage lest they say....

While you're at it, Kindly do the following:-

1)leave the recording to one trusted member of your family, for future reference.

2) Make it a duty to say hello to nairaland atleast once a week for the next 6 months so that we know you're still alive coz e bi like say na your remaining testicles u want make lala take write ur condolence register.

Be wise, follow this advice except there is something you're not telling us.

GoldenJAT:
call a family meeting sharply....giv them no room 2 suspect that you are up2 something,do make sure every1 of her siblings are there ...as well as urs.. play those records for them... and divorce her.. the marriage is over already... Just tell urself d hard truth.... u married a wolf in sheep clothing... that family is a cult,prepare 2c and hear more than u can take.... ur time start's now.. I personally be following you up.. don't mind having ur number... stories like these one.. is what makes men treat even d good women with disdain. ...it breaks my heart 2 know that those that can clean ur tears are actually d ones that will make u cry blood.. u will come out stronger. the Lord is ur strength!

My advise a bad wife is very replaceable but a bad blood I mean a bad family can never be replaceable as for me she's not ur wife every man needs peace in his life leave her now or get ready to be left alone soon I read ur story if ur wife can play with ur parents mind uselessly she might kill u some day think and act well u are d man of ur home

If this is true, I can never trust such a woman again even if i forgive her. I can never imagine living with her ever again let alone eating the food she cooks, sleeping in the same bed with her, believing anything she tells me, especially where she spends her day who she did it with.

I can't ask you to divorce your wife and sure can't ask you to forgive her. But I've seen a situation of this nature in which the husband forgave the wife, and months later, his obituary was announced. Don't know what led to his untimely death sha o. It could be coincidence.

Oju ni alakan fi n so ori o.

DevGuru:
NOTICE: Please, my story is still very long despite that I tried very hard to remove some unnecessary portions. But if you can be patient to read it to the end, then you are ready to give a mature opinion.

I am a Yoruba guy married to another Yoruba lady who happened to be the last of seven children. We met at the University and had a long courtship before we got married in 2014. I loved her so much and I believe she loved me too. We were each other's best friends. Shortly before we began to plan the wedding, on one faithful afternoon, I was watching the TV in my living room when I began to feel a slight pain in my lower abdomen. It got more intense within few hours and I had to go to a nearby hospital and by that time, the pain was inside my scrotum. The young doctor there didn't understand what was wrong and started injecting me with pain killers. I was kept there till midnight. The next morning, I noticed that one of my testicle was swelling up. I hen went to a teaching hospital where Orchitis was first diagnosed. After a week of antibiotics with no improvement, a consultant examined me and said it was torsion which should have been surgically corrected within few hours from the onset of the pain. As at that time, the testicle was dead. I had to go for surgery to have the dead one removed. My wife (then my fiancé) was with me in the hospital. She assured me that everything would be fine and that we could have as many kids as we wanted with just one left. I loved her the more.

Now we have a very beautiful daughter who obviously has my genes and delights everyone around her with her alluring beauty. We nearly lost her to a strange illness some months back but for God who used my mum to restore our daughter. That's another long story but not for this thread. My mum loves my family so much that even my wife knows that she can lay down her life for us to be fine. Since we got married, my wife hasn't worked owing partly to our daughter's health which is now very perfect. It's not been easy for me working day and night to feed the family and paying bills in a 3-bedroom apartment in Lagos but God has been helping us. My wife was so much loved in my family that people around thought she was my mum's daughter. Very hardworking and homely.

A little into her own family setup too... She has 4 female and 2 male siblings. All her siblings are married but very close to the parents. Because my wife and I were very close, I was aware of most of the happenings in their family, but I never even gave any thought to them on how they might affect my own marriage.... long story...

Last month, I repeatedly got home late due to an official event which I told my wife and I was talking to her on phone. One morning, she gave me a wild look and warned me never to come late again. I quickly noticed the strangeness in her actions and I comported myself by saying "I'm sorry, it won't happen again". We ate together and I left for work. I returned much earlier and was with her and my daughter for a couple of hours before went to bed after I told her I had a meeting the next morning.

When I woke up, I checked the time and realised I was running late. I greeted her and rushed out of the bed only for her to jump up too and say "We need to talk". Go on, I replied... Then she claimed she observed that I've been cold towards her since she tried to correct me the previous day. I denied it but she insisted, so I told her I would adjust and that I had nothing against her. She suddenly jumped at me and said I was going nowhere. I was very surprised as I asked her what was wrong with her. I begged her to let me go and if we had to discuss anything further, it could be later in the day after work. She grew wilder and began to abuse me verbally. I drew her out of my way so I could go have my bath and she grabbed my singlet and tore it down. I was shocked! I then grabbed her two hands and pushed her to sit on the bed. She just jumped up and said "this is what I've been waiting for". She rushed to her phone and called my dad. Immediately my dad answered the call, she suddenly began to cry saying "your son has been beating me since we woke up today"... It was like I was watching a nollywood movie. I looked like a poor citizen who had no money to eat but just got an allegation that EFCC had traced N1.4b to his account. My Dad called me immediately and ordered me to leave the house first before anything. Immediately, she called my mum too and said the same thing. My mum called me and began to cry that she never expected I would disgrace the family in such manner. I was sad and even had to shout at her cos she wouldn't let me say anything on phone. She didn't even give me time to explain what happened. My wife immediately called her eldest sister too and said the same thing. The sister called me and asked for what happened. I explained to her and she advised me never to raise my hand against her again, while she stylishly insulted me, but I disregarded that. I felt like Pastor Ken in the movie, 'The Price' who had to pay for what he did not do.

I had already missed my meeting but I had to go to work. That was the most horrible day for me at work because I couldn't even use my brain to do anything. I felt cheated and sincerely felt like doing what I had already suffered for. Then I felt the urge to use a bit of my power... I transferred some money to her account and then forwarded an SMS to her giving her 24hours to make up her mind on where she would love to go, either my family home or hers because I needed a break. Fee minutes later, her eldest sister called me to say my wife forwarded my SMS to her and that she was highly disappointed in me upon what she told me in the morning. I told her that I got more infuriated and betrayed seeing my wife ruin my reputation like that. She advised again and told me to go home and hug my wife. When I got home, my wife knelt down at the door and began to apologize that it was the devil. At that time, my elder sister called me and I narrated everything to her while my wife listened to me. The next morning, my wife continued to beg me. I saw the remorse and hugged her. We became happy again. The next day, I called her sister to thank her for her intervention.

My Dad came a few days later to confirm that we had settled everything. Unfortunately, I wasn't around when he arrived, so he called me on phone and I told him I would be around in about 1 hour. Before my arrival, she spoke at length with my Dad but begged him not to allow us revisit the issue on my arrival so as not to raise dusts again. On my arrival, my Dad just advised me and said he was glad we had already settled it. Since then, I've tried to get my home together again. I started leaving my office earlier than usual even when I had unfinished tasks.

This morning, I was flipping through the apps on my wife's phone and saw Call Recorder. I opened it but discovered it had a password. As a techie, I traced the file that stores all the voice calls and began to play one of my wife's recent conversations. It was with her eldest sister who intervened into our matter then. I nearly fainted!!! The sister hailed her for acting as planned and they both laughed with satisfaction. My wife said she was happy that she successfully ruined my image in my family and they both laughed again. They said they were happy that my mum who always thought she had raised good children was made to realize that I was a beast who beats his wife and so on. But the most infuriating part was when her sister said she wanted to give her tips that would help my wife succeed in marriage. She advised my wife never to be open-minded with me and that she should begin to live a separate life while pretending to be a wife in my house. She said my wife should also open a secret account for herself so that family members can occasionally drop some token into it for her upkeep because men are unreliable and my wife agreed with all what her sister said.

I opened another and it was a conversation with her immediate elder sister - not the same as above. This one picked every member of my family and abused the hell out of us... including myself. My wife enjoyed the abuses and even cheered her to talk further. They both called me 'half man' with one testicle - a secret my wife claimed she would never reveal to anyone. In this conversation, my wife told her sister that she was very glad that she finished me through what she told my dad when I was absent, they called my mother all sort of names and this one even told my wife never to act like a good daughter-in-law towards my mother, she was advised to do everything possible to prevent my mum from visiting... and so on...

Now I am extremely mad. So many options are coming to my mind but I don't know where to start from. It is now obvious that I've been living with a stranger all the while. My day at work was so horrible that I had to leave before closing. My head and heart are both heavy now but I'm trying to put myself together. Any ideas?

These are the reason decent Yoruba men don't even marry Yoruba women


Marrying a Yoruba woman is signing dead warrant


They will always be influenced by their family. A Yoruba woman is her family first before her husband or even kids .....


Who even marries them anyway

My dear.. what you have as wife is devil. She dented your image and for no just cause. She will ruin you. Pls and pls ..stay away from her

.that's all I can say

Find a way to transfer the files from the voice recorder to a laptop as an evidence .

Show it to your parents .


That will be her nemesis the