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Lizzyangel:
for the people who kept asking questions like,the op has wronged the wife before she took those steps,
how could a loving wife turn evil overnight and so all....

here is my view on what make her react that way, I'm a Lady and also married,I know what it takes to love a husband and trust him to the extent of not having a second thought on IF he will cheat on you...
according to the op's write-ups, she changed and started feeling insecure when her husband started keeping late night and feeling cold towards here in few weeks, so as a lady and not working,she would have thought a long way

* hoping her hubby is having affairs
*regretting the fact that she trusted him and he betrayed her and decided to act fast without asking her husband or patiently waiting for the reasons for such moves,but allow a third party to ruin her home.

advice to the op

if you're the religious type, you can forgive and forget
but I'll remind you of Yoruba adage which says "kosi bi a se fe se ebolo ti koni run igbe"
no matter the level of your forgiveness, you'll still have the occurrence in mind, "eni to su le gbagbe, sugbon eni to ko o le gbagbe lailai"

Summary : give her few months break after playing what you saw,if any family member wants to interfere, don't play the record to anyone as it can spread more than you think and everyone will be aware of your shortcomings, if after the break you think you've forgotten and she have changed, call her back home.

Note : don't ever go through her phones "oun oju o ri, kii bokan je"



best of lucks dear.

At the bolded, really? How would he have known all these things if he didn't go through her phone? I don't trust you

@ Op this is a very serious marital challenge you have. Are you a christian, do you believe in the power of Jesus that can turn impossibilities to possibilities?? Why don't you try Jesus and see, take it to the Lord in prayer.

You will get various counsels here on nairaland but how do you discern which would yield a fruitful outcome that will ensure your happiness at the end, Man's intelligence is limited, we cannot see beyond our noses, but God sees the future and He knows what's best for you, please tell it to Jesus and He'll see you through.

In my own opinion, take some time away from home to calm down, NEVER MAKE A HASTY DECISION as two wrongs don't make a right.....

The Lord see you through this trying time.

9japrof:
sorry cos i understand you are entitled to yoUR OPINION And at that had the right To air ur veiw buh ur advise doesnt make a bit.

do you know that this Op would have been a dead man a long time ago if the wife's sisters had advised the wife to kill him. Do you know what could happen if by any chance the lady knows that its an open secret.

This nigga should have balls and shift this lady out of his house at least for three months, not to divorce her. let her see weather those her sisters could accomodate her for that period

Give your own advise and enter your domot. Whether it makes sense or not, give yours and maintain your lane.


Your selective blindness did not see where I told OP to make sure she spends at least two weeks with those sister of hers. Advise the OP in your infinite wisdom and leave others alone. It seems that sometimes you people don't bother to read posts, once you see a few internet touts quoting erratically, you join to feel among. You said 3 months, I said not less than two weeks, what's the difference? Always read without prejudice or hangovers so you don't mock yourself in a bid to be perceived as NLand intellectual .

DevGuru:
NOTICE: Please, my story is still very long despite that I tried very hard to remove some unnecessary portions. But if you can be patient to read it to the end, then you are ready to give a mature opinion.

I am a Yoruba guy married to another Yoruba lady who happened to be the last of seven children. We met at the University and had a long courtship before we got married in 2014. I loved her so much and I believe she loved me too. We were each other's best friends. Shortly before we began to plan the wedding, on one faithful afternoon, I was watching the TV in my living room when I began to feel a slight pain in my lower abdomen. It got more intense within few hours and I had to go to a nearby hospital and by that time, the pain was inside my scrotum. The young doctor there didn't understand what was wrong and started injecting me with pain killers. I was kept there till midnight. The next morning, I noticed that one of my testicle was swelling up. I hen went to a teaching hospital where Orchitis was first diagnosed. After a week of antibiotics with no improvement, a consultant examined me and said it was torsion which should have been surgically corrected within few hours from the onset of the pain. As at that time, the testicle was dead. I had to go for surgery to have the dead one removed. My wife (then my fiancé) was with me in the hospital. She assured me that everything would be fine and that we could have as many kids as we wanted with just one left. I loved her the more.

Now we have a very beautiful daughter who obviously has my genes and delights everyone around her with her alluring beauty. We nearly lost her to a strange illness some months back but for God who used my mum to restore our daughter. That's another long story but not for this thread. My mum loves my family so much that even my wife knows that she can lay down her life for us to be fine. Since we got married, my wife hasn't worked owing partly to our daughter's health which is now very perfect. It's not been easy for me working day and night to feed the family and paying bills in a 3-bedroom apartment in Lagos but God has been helping us. My wife was so much loved in my family that people around thought she was my mum's daughter. Very hardworking and homely.

A little into her own family setup too... She has 4 female and 2 male siblings. All her siblings are married but very close to the parents. Because my wife and I were very close, I was aware of most of the happenings in their family, but I never even gave any thought to them on how they might affect my own marriage.... long story...

Last month, I repeatedly got home late due to an official event which I told my wife and I was talking to her on phone. One morning, she gave me a wild look and warned me never to come late again. I quickly noticed the strangeness in her actions and I comported myself by saying "I'm sorry, it won't happen again". We ate together and I left for work. I returned much earlier and was with her and my daughter for a couple of hours before went to bed after I told her I had a meeting the next morning.

When I woke up, I checked the time and realised I was running late. I greeted her and rushed out of the bed only for her to jump up too and say "We need to talk". Go on, I replied... Then she claimed she observed that I've been cold towards her since she tried to correct me the previous day. I denied it but she insisted, so I told her I would adjust and that I had nothing against her. She suddenly jumped at me and said I was going nowhere. I was very surprised as I asked her what was wrong with her. I begged her to let me go and if we had to discuss anything further, it could be later in the day after work. She grew wilder and began to abuse me verbally. I drew her out of my way so I could go have my bath and she grabbed my singlet and tore it down. I was shocked! I then grabbed her two hands and pushed her to sit on the bed. She just jumped up and said "this is what I've been waiting for". She rushed to her phone and called my dad. Immediately my dad answered the call, she suddenly began to cry saying "your son has been beating me since we woke up today"... It was like I was watching a nollywood movie. I looked like a poor citizen who had no money to eat but just got an allegation that EFCC had traced N1.4b to his account. My Dad called me immediately and ordered me to leave the house first before anything. Immediately, she called my mum too and said the same thing. My mum called me and began to cry that she never expected I would disgrace the family in such manner. I was sad and even had to shout at her cos she wouldn't let me say anything on phone. She didn't even give me time to explain what happened. My wife immediately called her eldest sister too and said the same thing. The sister called me and asked for what happened. I explained to her and she advised me never to raise my hand against her again, while she stylishly insulted me, but I disregarded that. I felt like Pastor Ken in the movie, 'The Price' who had to pay for what he did not do.

I had already missed my meeting but I had to go to work. That was the most horrible day for me at work because I couldn't even use my brain to do anything. I felt cheated and sincerely felt like doing what I had already suffered for. Then I felt the urge to use a bit of my power... I transferred some money to her account and then forwarded an SMS to her giving her 24hours to make up her mind on where she would love to go, either my family home or hers because I needed a break. Fee minutes later, her eldest sister called me to say my wife forwarded my SMS to her and that she was highly disappointed in me upon what she told me in the morning. I told her that I got more infuriated and betrayed seeing my wife ruin my reputation like that. She advised again and told me to go home and hug my wife. When I got home, my wife knelt down at the door and began to apologize that it was the devil. At that time, my elder sister called me and I narrated everything to her while my wife listened to me. The next morning, my wife continued to beg me. I saw the remorse and hugged her. We became happy again. The next day, I called her sister to thank her for her intervention.

My Dad came a few days later to confirm that we had settled everything. Unfortunately, I wasn't around when he arrived, so he called me on phone and I told him I would be around in about 1 hour. Before my arrival, she spoke at length with my Dad but begged him not to allow us revisit the issue on my arrival so as not to raise dusts again. On my arrival, my Dad just advised me and said he was glad we had already settled it. Since then, I've tried to get my home together again. I started leaving my office earlier than usual even when I had unfinished tasks.

This morning, I was flipping through the apps on my wife's phone and saw Call Recorder. I opened it but discovered it had a password. As a techie, I traced the file that stores all the voice calls and began to play one of my wife's recent conversations. It was with her eldest sister who intervened into our matter then. I nearly fainted!!! The sister hailed her for acting as planned and they both laughed with satisfaction. My wife said she was happy that she successfully ruined my image in my family and they both laughed again. They said they were happy that my mum who always thought she had raised good children was made to realize that I was a beast who beats his wife and so on. But the most infuriating part was when her sister said she wanted to give her tips that would help my wife succeed in marriage. She advised my wife never to be open-minded with me and that she should begin to live a separate life while pretending to be a wife in my house. She said my wife should also open a secret account for herself so that family members can occasionally drop some token into it for her upkeep because men are unreliable and my wife agreed with all what her sister said.

I opened another and it was a conversation with her immediate elder sister - not the same as above. This one picked every member of my family and abused the hell out of us... including myself. My wife enjoyed the abuses and even cheered her to talk further. They both called me 'half man' with one testicle - a secret my wife claimed she would never reveal to anyone. In this conversation, my wife told her sister that she was very glad that she finished me through what she told my dad when I was absent, they called my mother all sort of names and this one even told my wife never to act like a good daughter-in-law towards my mother, she was advised to do everything possible to prevent my mum from visiting... and so on...

Now I am extremely mad. So many options are coming to my mind but I don't know where to start from. It is now obvious that I've been living with a stranger all the while. My day at work was so horrible that I had to leave before closing. My head and heart are both heavy now but I'm trying to put myself together. Any ideas?

This is sad. Anyway why dont you play her game for her. Since you are a techy why dont you download all her messages and take then see her patents and yours. Lets them read all the messages then you tell them your mind. You will see the change that will come over that woman you married. But then its so sad that a lady you met in school, have been with all that while could stoop soo low. I am shocked.

Why waste your energy being mad?
Save it to be applied for better things such as getting even.

ezechueze:
Op,DIVORCE her immediately.one day she would poison you and take over your assets.

Sharp sharp no time.

Mafking:
Bro your matter pass nairaland.o
Your story just wan destroy my mood ni...

I dey tell u.

AccidentalGenius:
Divorce her now or loose your last testicle. Jeeze, bunch of bipolar women. Honestly man, leave that woman or loose your last testicle. Life is too short to live it worrying about silly things like this

Walahi

GoldenJAT:
call a family meeting sharply....giv them no room 2 suspect that you are up2 something,do make sure every1 of her siblings are there ...as well as urs.. play those records for them... and divorce her.. the marriage is over already... Just tell urself d hard truth.... u married a wolf in sheep clothing... that family is a cult,prepare 2c and hear more than u can take.... ur time start's now.. I personally be following you up.. don't mind having ur number... stories like these one.. is what makes men treat even d good women with disdain. ...it breaks my heart 2 know that those that can clean ur tears are actually d ones that will make u cry blood.. u will come out stronger. the Lord is ur strength!

Bros u will make heaven for this advice....

pharmagba:
I feel very sorry for you, but a man got to be a man
Firstly I don't know the real sickness and precise age of your daughter but one thing you must know is it is not good for a wife to have too much free time as it is a veritable devils workshop you ought to ensure she is working; open a shop for her or impregnate her so she continue baby nursing,

Now to your findings first of all copy it somewhere else like your phone and then confront her with it, play everything to her hearing, pause at intervals to ask her what you've done wrong, please don't be aggressive or angry; control your emotions. Ask her what she has to say.

Let her know it is betrayal, threaten her you will summon a family meeting of both family and see her reaction.
If or not she apologies don't tell anybody either your family or her. NEVER.. It must not come from your mouth.
But make a stand none of her family members should have your respect. They must never come to your house. Don't give reasons, don't pick or answer their calls until you see full repentance in her. which must be after like a year. .it is her family that must bear the brunt and punishment Nothing more

Don't divorce her she is your wife, folly is in the mind of a woman. I know it will definitely leave a scar in your relationship, forgive her still and try to let go, call her from work and be a good father and husband.

The best comment so far.


Haba!!! Too many odd comment. Seun we need dislike button in this forum so pple get to know their comments are awkward.


Op we know the situation is painful but don't take any hasty decision while still hurt cos u might take a wrong step. In addition to what has been said by the poster I quoted, pls I believe you can still redeem your wife. It may be she's just being misled by her sisters n can be redeemed. I'll suggest you tell somebody like a pastor or any elderly person she respects to make her see the dangers that her actions can cause in the marriage, only if you have tried talking to her n no improvement.

A man's enemy will be a member of his own household says the good book. Hmmm.

byvan03:
No, I can't be categorised as daft just because a man your age suffers from severe diahhoer of the fingers, impaired enough to type like a suckling. If you can't put your emotions in check while having an objective discourse, please go to hell!! Reserve your Agbero tantrums for whom it may concern.

did you counter his point ? Nah just throwing tantrums, so who really is a suckling ?

I would have said and concurred with those who said play the tape to her family and yours and insist her family keep their distance but I know deep down that it won't work.

phabulous88:
Hope you have a copy of the recordings? Invite your family and hers for a Get-together' and play the recording. Thereafter, ask her to leave your house in their presence. Don't listen to their pleas, just get your daughter and leave the house.

Women sha!

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OP, you hear Don't, I repeat, DON'T LISTEN TO ANYBODY'S PLEA IF YOU LOVE YOUR LIFE!

pharmagba:
I feel very sorry for you, but a man got to be a man
Firstly I don't know the real sickness and precise age of your daughter but one thing you must know is it is not good for a wife to have too much free time as it is a veritable devils workshop you ought to ensure she is working; open a shop for her or impregnate her so she continue baby nursing,

Now to your findings first of all copy it somewhere else like your phone and then confront her with it, play everything to her hearing, pause at intervals to ask her what you've done wrong, please don't be aggressive or angry; control your emotions. Ask her what she has to say.

Let her know it is betrayal, threaten her you will summon a family meeting of both family and see her reaction.
If or not she apologies don't tell anybody either your family or her. NEVER.. It must not come from your mouth.
But make a stand none of her family members should have your respect. They must never come to your house. Don't give reasons, don't pick or answer their calls until you see full repentance in her. which must be after like a year. .it is her family that must bear the brunt and punishment Nothing more

Don't divorce her she is your wife, folly is in the mind of a woman. I know it will definitely leave a scar in your relationship, forgive her still and try to let go, call her from work and be a good father and husband.

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Op, DeGuru , follow this advice @ your own life's risk!
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DevGuru:
NOTICE: Please, my story is still very long despite that I tried very hard to remove some unnecessary portions. But if you can be patient to read it to the end, then you are ready to give a mature opinion.

I am a Yoruba guy married to another Yoruba lady who happened to be the last of seven children. We met at the University and had a long courtship before we got married in 2014. I loved her so much and I believe she loved me too. We were each other's best friends. Shortly before we began to plan the wedding, on one faithful afternoon, I was watching the TV in my living room when I began to feel a slight pain in my lower abdomen. It got more intense within few hours and I had to go to a nearby hospital and by that time, the pain was inside my scrotum. The young doctor there didn't understand what was wrong and started injecting me with pain killers. I was kept there till midnight. The next morning, I noticed that one of my testicle was swelling up. I hen went to a teaching hospital where Orchitis was first diagnosed. After a week of antibiotics with no improvement, a consultant examined me and said it was torsion which should have been surgically corrected within few hours from the onset of the pain. As at that time, the testicle was dead. I had to go for surgery to have the dead one removed. My wife (then my fiancé) was with me in the hospital. She assured me that everything would be fine and that we could have as many kids as we wanted with just one left. I loved her the more.

Now we have a very beautiful daughter who obviously has my genes and delights everyone around her with her alluring beauty. We nearly lost her to a strange illness some months back but for God who used my mum to restore our daughter. That's another long story but not for this thread. My mum loves my family so much that even my wife knows that she can lay down her life for us to be fine. Since we got married, my wife hasn't worked owing partly to our daughter's health which is now very perfect. It's not been easy for me working day and night to feed the family and paying bills in a 3-bedroom apartment in Lagos but God has been helping us. My wife was so much loved in my family that people around thought she was my mum's daughter. Very hardworking and homely.

A little into her own family setup too... She has 4 female and 2 male siblings. All her siblings are married but very close to the parents. Because my wife and I were very close, I was aware of most of the happenings in their family, but I never even gave any thought to them on how they might affect my own marriage.... long story...

Last month, I repeatedly got home late due to an official event which I told my wife and I was talking to her on phone. One morning, she gave me a wild look and warned me never to come late again. I quickly noticed the strangeness in her actions and I comported myself by saying "I'm sorry, it won't happen again". We ate together and I left for work. I returned much earlier and was with her and my daughter for a couple of hours before went to bed after I told her I had a meeting the next morning.

When I woke up, I checked the time and realised I was running late. I greeted her and rushed out of the bed only for her to jump up too and say "We need to talk". Go on, I replied... Then she claimed she observed that I've been cold towards her since she tried to correct me the previous day. I denied it but she insisted, so I told her I would adjust and that I had nothing against her. She suddenly jumped at me and said I was going nowhere. I was very surprised as I asked her what was wrong with her. I begged her to let me go and if we had to discuss anything further, it could be later in the day after work. She grew wilder and began to abuse me verbally. I drew her out of my way so I could go have my bath and she grabbed my singlet and tore it down. I was shocked! I then grabbed her two hands and pushed her to sit on the bed. She just jumped up and said "this is what I've been waiting for". She rushed to her phone and called my dad. Immediately my dad answered the call, she suddenly began to cry saying "your son has been beating me since we woke up today"... It was like I was watching a nollywood movie. I looked like a poor citizen who had no money to eat but just got an allegation that EFCC had traced N1.4b to his account. My Dad called me immediately and ordered me to leave the house first before anything. Immediately, she called my mum too and said the same thing. My mum called me and began to cry that she never expected I would disgrace the family in such manner. I was sad and even had to shout at her cos she wouldn't let me say anything on phone. She didn't even give me time to explain what happened. My wife immediately called her eldest sister too and said the same thing. The sister called me and asked for what happened. I explained to her and she advised me never to raise my hand against her again, while she stylishly insulted me, but I disregarded that. I felt like Pastor Ken in the movie, 'The Price' who had to pay for what he did not do.

I had already missed my meeting but I had to go to work. That was the most horrible day for me at work because I couldn't even use my brain to do anything. I felt cheated and sincerely felt like doing what I had already suffered for. Then I felt the urge to use a bit of my power... I transferred some money to her account and then forwarded an SMS to her giving her 24hours to make up her mind on where she would love to go, either my family home or hers because I needed a break. Fee minutes later, her eldest sister called me to say my wife forwarded my SMS to her and that she was highly disappointed in me upon what she told me in the morning. I told her that I got more infuriated and betrayed seeing my wife ruin my reputation like that. She advised again and told me to go home and hug my wife. When I got home, my wife knelt down at the door and began to apologize that it was the devil. At that time, my elder sister called me and I narrated everything to her while my wife listened to me. The next morning, my wife continued to beg me. I saw the remorse and hugged her. We became happy again. The next day, I called her sister to thank her for her intervention.

My Dad came a few days later to confirm that we had settled everything. Unfortunately, I wasn't around when he arrived, so he called me on phone and I told him I would be around in about 1 hour. Before my arrival, she spoke at length with my Dad but begged him not to allow us revisit the issue on my arrival so as not to raise dusts again. On my arrival, my Dad just advised me and said he was glad we had already settled it. Since then, I've tried to get my home together again. I started leaving my office earlier than usual even when I had unfinished tasks.

This morning, I was flipping through the apps on my wife's phone and saw Call Recorder. I opened it but discovered it had a password. As a techie, I traced the file that stores all the voice calls and began to play one of my wife's recent conversations. It was with her eldest sister who intervened into our matter then. I nearly fainted!!! The sister hailed her for acting as planned and they both laughed with satisfaction. My wife said she was happy that she successfully ruined my image in my family and they both laughed again. They said they were happy that my mum who always thought she had raised good children was made to realize that I was a beast who beats his wife and so on. But the most infuriating part was when her sister said she wanted to give her tips that would help my wife succeed in marriage. She advised my wife never to be open-minded with me and that she should begin to live a separate life while pretending to be a wife in my house. She said my wife should also open a secret account for herself so that family members can occasionally drop some token into it for her upkeep because men are unreliable and my wife agreed with all what her sister said.

I opened another and it was a conversation with her immediate elder sister - not the same as above. This one picked every member of my family and abused the hell out of us... including myself. My wife enjoyed the abuses and even cheered her to talk further. They both called me 'half man' with one testicle - a secret my wife claimed she would never reveal to anyone. In this conversation, my wife told her sister that she was very glad that she finished me through what she told my dad when I was absent, they called my mother all sort of names and this one even told my wife never to act like a good daughter-in-law towards my mother, she was advised to do everything possible to prevent my mum from visiting... and so on...

Now I am extremely mad. So many options are coming to my mind but I don't know where to start from. It is now obvious that I've been living with a stranger all the while. My day at work was so horrible that I had to leave before closing. My head and heart are both heavy now but I'm trying to put myself together. Any ideas?

Please divorce her asap.She will kill you or destroy you.

pharmagba:
I feel very sorry for you, but a man got to be a man
Firstly I don't know the real sickness and precise age of your daughter but one thing you must know is it is not good for a wife to have too much free time as it is a veritable devils workshop you ought to ensure she is working; open a shop for her or impregnate her so she continue baby nursing,

Now to your findings first of all copy it somewhere else like your phone and then confront her with it, play everything to her hearing, pause at intervals to ask her what you've done wrong, please don't be aggressive or angry; control your emotions. Ask her what she has to say.

Let her know it is betrayal, threaten her you will summon a family meeting of both family and see her reaction.
If or not she apologies don't tell anybody either your family or her. NEVER.. It must not come from your mouth.
But make a stand none of her family members should have your respect. They must never come to your house. Don't give reasons, don't pick or answer their calls until you see full repentance in her. which must be after like a year. .it is her family that must bear the brunt and punishment Nothing more

Don't divorce her she is your wife, folly is in the mind of a woman. I know it will definitely leave a scar in your relationship, forgive her still and try to let go, call her from work and be a good father and husband.

might be the most difficult, but I feel this is the best decision

DevGuru:
UPDATE

Oga, na that your love for her go kill you! She doesn't love you. What the fvck is wrong with you? She's done a grave evil and you're taking these things lightly. Trust me if the roles were reversed and she has half of the evidences in your custody - you're a goner, cos she and her siblings will hit you mercilessly.

Even if you don't want to divorce her, make her pay dearly for her actions. Don't be deceived by those crocodile tears of hers, like you also confirmed, she's not entirely remorseful for her betrayal, she's more concerned about her elderly advisers.

Don't let your love for her becloud your judgment. Place reasoning before emotions!

My brother you seen it all. Forward the record to ur phone. Visit her sister play it in front of there husband and warn them and also play it to there dad and mum pack you few things and leave the house. They will come begging u what kongaga kwangaga arrant nonsense

FabioPeter:
I would have said and concurred with those who said play the tape to her family and yours and insist her family keep their distance but I know deep down that it won't work.
Pls divorce her.

Any man on this thread that doesn't subscribe to this most likely checks his testes into a glass of water by his wifes side of the bed when he comes home from work

marvelous000:
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Divorce might look unattractive, but it Is paramount requisite in your situation.


You might not feel the full repercussion of dipshit you're in now, but you sure won't escape it, wen you're past your prime.

Damn! You're living with a snake. get the voice recording as evidence, and dissolve the death trap you call marriage.

Use your head.
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This is no marriage in the first place. What! Those people advising him to stay, is that what they will do or advice their own brothers? This story makes me shiver. Who can live with a snake like that, having a network of other snakes outside Mehn! The op is in a deep and dangerous trap mehn! *shiish!*

9japrof:
did you counter his point ? Nah just throwing tantrums, so who really is a suckling ?

Another Internet tout, this one has nothing to offer. So you are here to champion whose course exactly? What happens to your own steam or you ve got none? When you have something to say for yourself you can hit the mention button.


When I said you didn't even read my post before drooling from both corners of your mouth, I wasn't mistaken. Next time utilise your own brain cells and stop jumping onto bandwagons, you are obviously no different from the woman in the story. Which ever direction your Internet Lords and masters follow, you chase after like a brainless zombie. You won't be getting any response from me until you acquire your own opinion. Grown men hiding behind each others backside to make a point, then go ahead and tell OP to act like a man.

LuveU2:
Wow. This is not good at all.

modified: Haven read till the end, your wife's recent behaviour does not add up because it betrays logic and common sense.

How can a woman who stood by you when you had a life threatening ish go so low to damage your reputation after?

Even if she can conceive a thought like this, for what profit is she spoiling you? She has all to lose.

If your story is true, then your wife may start roaming the streets soon cause she does things that make no damn sense.

Most marriages tend to follow these route, but generally, not to such extreme. I don't want to put all d blame on d ladies, but if u hear d stuff wives come up with to initiate/during quarrels...


I believe in equal rights, but d bible's advice on submission, makes a lot of sense!

I believe her sisters gave an advice based on the template they use on Their respective family. The first people that should this recording are their husbands.
Many have followed the noble path of saving failed marriage and paid with wasted years and eventually their lives.
If you take it to her family, they will accuse the two sister's of been the problem right from time and ask you to move on without them. It's all up to you.Pray about it.

connect the bloody phone using usb to your laptop, extract the saved recorded files to your system, install the same app on your phone, connect your phone to your pc, transfer those recorded files you took from her phone to the same folder in your phone and play as evidence, create a back up on your system, divorce your wife, you can't sleep on the same bed with the enemy and devil, show the recorded message to her parents and your parents and send her packing, nuff said, drops Mic.

ezechueze:
Op,DIVORCE her immediately.one day she would poison you and take over your assets.

Chai! You people are too wicked!

Leave that woman alone and face your work properly.

Yes ke, that is the best advice anyone can give you.

BTW, please gather money and organise a birthday bash for her. Seriously heavy party.

And you must give her the best gift anyone can give his wife.
Upon that, you must give every guest in that party, a wonderful gift as well.

I know you are wonderful "techie" amebo husband so, you are already wondering what kind of gift l have in mind, right?

Issokay, COPY ALL THOSE RECORDED MESSAGES ON HER PHONE AND BURN THEM TO CD's.
MAKE A THOUSAND COPIES. GIVE A COPY TO EACH GUEST, AS THEY SIT DOWN
WHEN ITS TIME FOR CELEBRANT DANCE, HUG YOUR WIFE TIGHTLY AND ASK D.J TO BEGIN PLAYING ONE OF THE CD, WITH STRICT INSTRUCTION TO NEVER REMOVE OR STOP IT.

MAKE SURE YOUR MOTHER AND FATHER SEF HEAR AM WELLA-WELLA.

I bet you, ....she will divorce you herself, that same day
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No need to stress yourself.




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my bro all u nid to do for s jst for u to calm down n make sure u copied evry bit of dat call record n make sure u confirm dem by playing it afta copying,,, at dis point jst Knw dat u dnt av anytin calld marriage again n d best tin for u to do s to make sure u dissolved d marriage b4 d marriage dissolved u to kiri Kiri,,, I feel ur pain so much but always rememba dat we human being av a limit to wah we can take,,, so plz and plz dissolve d marriage ,,,,,for any1 to put up all dos act , if thy r not up to somtin, somtin wil definitely occur dat wil not b able to xplain to d whole world,,,, so plz dissolve

My dear u just need a break..how in God's name will a woman do such a thing to someone she said she loves..if leave her in that house,something more than thiswill happen but this time they will smarter.

If she doesn't protect ur interest then there is no need being with her and to think that she didn't feel hurt when her sister called u :half man: she needs to go and live those her sisters, by the time they insult her for living her husband's house,she will know the kind of man she played with.

Let me warn u,if u don't handle this as a real man,u will be shocked at what they will do next..tell her its over and that she should take her belongings and live ur house,u will take Ber back but let her keep begging u to take her back from her parents house not urs..and by the time u take her back,she will be more careful with things she does.

GoldenJAT:
call a family meeting sharply....giv them no room 2 suspect that you are up2 something,do make sure every1 of her siblings are there ...as well as urs.. play those records for them... and divorce her.. the marriage is over already... Just tell urself d hard truth.... u married a wolf in sheep clothing... that family is a cult,prepare 2c and hear more than u can take.... ur time start's now.. I personally be following you up.. don't mind having ur number... stories like these one.. is what makes men treat even d good women with disdain. ...it breaks my heart 2 know that those that can clean ur tears are actually d ones that will make u cry blood.. u will come out stronger. the Lord is ur strength!

@Op....this is the solution to your problem. Play the recordings for all to hear...first hand. No one involved can deny the truth. Even if they lay flat on their stomachs begging for forgiveness. ...move on with your life. In hindsight....I'm 99.9% sure they did something to cause your sudden strange medical problem ...you losing a testicle....and....whatever medical problems your daughter had. After the meeting...if you want to live...stay clear of that family immediately. They are evil period.

Don't divorce my brother! God hates divorce,consult your pastor

Osinitu:
@ Op this is a very serious marital challenge you have. Are you a christian, do you believe in the power of Jesus that can turn impossibilities to possibilities?? Why don't you try Jesus and see, take it to the Lord in prayer.

You will get various counsels here on nairaland but how do you discern which would yield a fruitful outcome that will ensure your happiness at the end, Man's intelligence is limited, we cannot see beyond our noses, but God sees the future and He knows what's best for you, please tell it to Jesus and He'll see you through.

In my own opinion, take some time away from home to calm down, NEVER MAKE A HASTY DECISION as two wrongs don't make a right.....

The Lord see you through this trying time.

Can you just keep prayers out of thisssssssssssss pleassssssssse

Please OP, never play the recording to her ALONE else she will feel defeated and you know what a lion does when it feels helpless.

Technically, your marriage is over. Forgive her today, and see her sisters plan a bigger payback even without her consent. They wouldn't mind hurting their sister just to get their pound of flesh on you.

Talk to your dad but I'm sure he will watch your plans before making an input.

My advice: if you continue in that marriage, be ready to struggle in it all your life. That one is married doesn't mean he's imprisoned. Think outside the African context bro. Please avoid what you can't control, don't manage it.

Use wisdom to defeat folly, act as a mature man in all circumstances and let God heal your disappointments. Women are generally weak rationally. It is well bro