johnson232:

sharrap if u got nothing reasonable to say?
so when someone is ill, is now a wrong thing to tell them sorry?

anyone who has spent 2hrs in this family section knows cococandy & her likes, because of her selfish, bias & insensitive comments. i pressume those quoting her & her likes saw this topic on home page.

@bold, what are u trying to say?
if u are tagging a working class man economic victim, what abt a student?

call them a clique, mean set of whatever they think they are, the cococandy or whatever lives overseas and they probably have lived good lives. Yet when a struggling orphan came, they came to judge, how can they when they have never been in her shoes.

op, where are u now. show face please. Let me see what can be done for you.

darlenese:



Just like ur mum!

Sharrrap And Gerraway Jor!You Be Winch, Just Like He Said. WINCH!

Oyimeoyimemua:
you must respect ur bros wife,inlaws will always make it sound like the wife is a very wicked person
get something doing please
something must have gone wrong somewhere




Being an orphan is not d end of life
I am an orphan too and I didn't let that define me

hmmm I really feel for her a lot aha an orphan, but am scared of marriage oo my sister, am scared of so many things, am scared if my husband misbehaves people will say am a bad wife,even me as a normal f2f what I go through in the hands of my bfs younger bro is unbearable..... this is someone I have helped so many times, I remembered he once came to write his post jamb in akure and I catered for his feeding and all, he was so nice to me then , I never knew he was only pretending to me because of what he is gaining back then... .. I can swear on my life that I haven't done anything wrong to the boy now he detests me, I caught him one day, giving I and his brother cold stares because that one hugged me and pecked me on the head, my bf is the nicest human I av ever seen he helps people a lot,and I encourage him every time to do more

But then again the brother hates me ,probablly because he feels am snatching his brother away from him,there was even a time he reported me to my bfs friend, I couldn't even decipher the whole report ish because that one sef was laughing when he was telling us , and that they I broke down and I cried my eyes sore

if am going through this now with all the love I showed to him what will he do to me when we become in-laws, am really scared of marriage

op please take heart still try to talk to your bro , and pray to God and continue your business, May God be with you, I wish I had something to give out to you, and uplawal, please stop insulting every woman and Christians for one person's comment, it's not cool..... you are not the only good wife

Ahmed0336:
you did well, besides it ll enable you to plan well

Yes bro. But the pressure is much especially from friends and colleagues in my place of work who think I am bouyant enough to settle down. Na person wey wear shoe sabi where e dey pinch am.

Never ask your brother or sibling for anything in front of their spouse. Their spouse is not related to you by blood. Why opening up your family issues to them. Learn to talk about sensitive family issues with your sibling only.

raumdeuter:


Some of the posters are soo foolish its amazing. How many of them didnt get some help somewhere in life? So asking your brother for help is now a sin? What should people in school even JS3 do to make money? In the same Nigeria people with Masters cant get jobs and are still staying with parents they are telling undergrads and kid in JS3 to go get a job

Some people are kids anyway, when they see life and life shows you its other side you would know say no one sabi do, Na only the grace and mercy of God

The brother and his family are silly, what assurance do they have that their own kids wont need help in the future?

I hardly agree with you but what you said up there is the truth. However, most people start to make money and forget their responsibilities. Being a first born comes with a lot of responsibilities and any woman marrying an orphan first born who has dependent S and isolates him from them is a witch and a very very wicked person. It's obvious she will never do that to her own siblings and it's obvious she is using the fool to find her own siblings. You can't blame the brother, he is seeking love and connection with a human being. The wife provides what he thinks he lost in Jss3 when his parents died. He has no model of a good home and what is expected of him. So to keep his, he is doing what she says. This girl should have a private conversation with him and telling him that it is between the both of them only. Then she pour her heart out to him. If he still comes back and says no money, she should change her number and carry her younger brother and move on with her life.

OP if you can verify your story, I will do my little part in helping you. Please don't go and marry the wrong person or depend on any man to help you. Put your problems in God's hand, Stand firm, and stay true to your user name. Those who treated you bad, God will repay them in their own coin. In future they will look for you and cry out in pain for your help. And you should do then what you feel in your heart that you should.

Your brother is a fool and should invest in you. He will need your help in future and that little investment is actually insurance. One of my brother's is always there for me. There was a time that he became really stranded and this is someone that had a lot of money. He became so broke! Guess who was there to pick him up. Me! His little sister. If he did not support and love me the way he did, would he have gotten anything from me in his time of need? No. In fact I sacrificed and worked even more to provide anything he needed. And his wife never knew. It's only a foolish man that will discuss his siblings issue with his wife. Women don't do that except they don't have a choice and are sure they can get money from their husband.

The least your brother is obligated to do for you is ensure you have an education and a job, and then both of you can take care of the younger one. The most he can do is sponsor your wedding and advice you on a choice of a spouse. Without your parents he is responsible for you especially you being young and in school and he can actually afford to see you through. Even if he can't he is obligated to do the little he can for you.

beautycrush24:
I have gone thru this "lady's" profile and i think she's fake. Pardon my bluntness and lack of sympathy.

She opened this account in february and all her posts are about hw her brother neglected her and how she can't pay her school fees and that of her younger brother. She never fails to mention d school fees part in all 3 posts.

I'm beginning to think she's stylishly soliciting for funds from well meaning people. I'm not saying u guys shouldnt help her if u have d means to. I just think there are better ways to ask for money than painting an unexistin brother black.

Interesting

humbledbyfaith:
hi family landers,

I am so depressed as of right now..

I have a bro who recently got married to his fiancée..

we were happy as a family until my bro's wife started interfering in between my bro and I..
it all started when I had an urgent need in school, I approached my bro with the most humble scenery one can ever imagine, his wife just cut me short, and said they was no money, I was shocked as my bro sided with her and said they was no money.
I took it in good faith and went away.
later that day ,when they were back from work,I overhead my bro talking to someone in his bedroom..
I went closer and behold my bro was talking to his wife sis asking her if she had seen the alert of the money he sent to her..immediately I heard that,I just sat on the floor and sobbed loudly..

I wonder why my bro will be treating me and my junior bro like this ,we are orphans (lost dad and mum the same day in a car accident)my bro is in jss3 in a public school(my bro's wife changed him with the pretext that they couldn't afford the private school fee).me,I'm in my final year in the university, just remaining my project and my final year school fees..
I am really depressed as my mates have already gone to nysc..

I can't go to anywhere because of clearance and my bro has turned a deaf ear to my appeal to set me up with something I can do to at least clear my self in school..
I am not a lazy person, God forbid that I be lazy but I don't have the necessary incentive to startup something..

I am just fed up with the whole scenario, I have thought of suicide, but ithat will be foolishness as my junior bro will be left in this world to suffer alone..

If my parents are seeing all that is happening, they should please intervene on our behalf because I'm almost giving up... ;'(

sorry for bothering you all with my trouble

this test(trial) is your 'test'imony!

cococandy:
Something is obviously wrong with you.

Shes really sick in the head for bringing religion into this.... Thank God for islam, thank God for Boko haram and ISIS huh?

Thrash!

cococandy:

I've an assignment for you.

Meanwhile you call yourself a good person. Taking the liberty to insult all the Christains on this thread by saying our way of life is evil. What have you done as a good Muslim to help her now?

You're even judging people you don't know. Maybe we should all call our brothers and sisters-in-law to come show you how our husbands have been helping them before you know you're not the only 'good' wife on this thread. Right? Madam good woman.

Forget that small girl claiming she's married with kids! she's busy making foolish and unreasonable comments and profered no reasonable solution to the lady... .

Curdlebug:
call them a clique, mean set of whatever they think they are, the cococandy or whatever lives overseas and they probably have lived good lives. Yet when a struggling orphan came, they came to judge, how can they when they have never been in her shoes.

true

taryour:



oh really? dint go tru any of her past post though. her brother go don try wella no be small.

Yes o

kuchikau:
...

How do I reach you?.

If you stay around portharcourt, come to the teaching hospital,ask of DR. ThankGod.

by dear thanks for your show of concern unfortunately I'm not in port Harcourt '..
thanks all the same..

obyikye:
op, where are u now. show face please. Let me see what can be done for you.

hy dear..

I don't know u op but I fell for u I no get money but can assist u with d little I have pls my pipo let's help dis babe 500 is not to small if we can get dat from 100persons u can drop a pm

I have been severely touched by comments here.. I thank all those who have in one way and another advised me positively..
I can't answer all the mentions I got .. hope you guys are not vexed .
God is with me and will surely be with me..
gracias deo

There is something about this post that does not ring true. If the lady learnt hair dressing then she is not a serious person I am sorry to say.
I understand she is in her final year but she cannot tell me she attends lectures 24/7

Students that plait her in school are usually amongst the most buoyant. Then don't need to pay for a shop as they would usually just move from room to room

I have a young lady who does my braids and trust me she is occupied almost 24/7 as you have to call days ahead to book her service .

You have been going through this hardship for 2 years and you are still whining instead of using the craft you learnt to liberate yourself.

I think she is indirectly begging for money that's if it's a she oh and before anyone sends her money please verify

why are people castigating this young lady? it has happened to me i finished my youth service july 2nd 2015 and needed a job badly, i stayed with my elder brother and his wife in abuja about for a while . meanwhile i knew it would be somehow but i was determined to bear anything .she really showed herself .she cooks at her desired time but wetin concern me cos i knew were i was going to ,sometimes she even hide bathing soaps wen but i was commited with service to God .and he rewarded me i spent exactly 3 months in dia house God gave me good job with etisalat with a furnished apartment and a car. she now call me bros .i really saw things so my sister just keep on believing God and dont confront her soon she will celebrate you

freecocoa:
My own mum literally gave her all to my dad's siblings, that's what family does, marriage shouldn't cut you off, it only extends family, not divide them.

Sadly many people are too selfish.

nairaland "wives" on the family section definition of family is different from what yo wrote up there. I won't lie to you, I detest, dislike and hate most of them.

They make the family section sick with their comments.

osothermal:
why are people castigating this young lady? it has happened to me i finished my youth service july 2nd 2015 and needed a job badly, i stayed with my elder brother and his wife in abuja about for a while . meanwhile i knew it would be somehow but i was determined to bear anything .she really showed herself .she cooks at her desired time but wetin concern me cos i knew were i was going to ,sometimes she even hide bathing soaps wen but i was commited with service to God .and he rewarded me i spent exactly 3 months in dia house God gave me good job with etisalat with a furnished apartment and a car. she now call me bros .i really saw things so my sister just keep on believing God and dont confront her soon she will celebrate you

My brother, you should know why the "wives" are attacking the op na. It's what they do the family of their husband offline.

christisreal:
Dont mind those people that are just adding more salt to injury.The truth is that there is no guarantee that they would have done better if they had the same problem.Ignore the advice of those that are telling you to get married to solve your problems.Never make a parmanent decision over a temporary issue.I have an aunt that had a similar issue and got married to escape it.Now is she regretting the decision.I am not saying that you should not get married o but at least for the right reasons.
Now about your case; I really undetstand and i know its not easy but keep praying and holding unto God.He will surely do it.Remember that when a man's way is pleasing to God even the man's enemy will be at peace with him.Everyone has a trying stage to go through in life and yours seems too challenging but when God gets ready to bless you, you will forget all these troubles and you will narrate them with laughter.The scripture says that eyes has not seen,ears has not heard nor has it entered into the heart of any man what the lord has in stock for them that love him.Just hold on and keep praying.You may be surprised at how their countenace will change and even if it dosen't then help will come from somewhere else.If u attend a good fellowship then you can narrate your ordeal to them.while i was in school such issues were taken care of.
Above surrender your heart to Jesus If you are yet to do so.Its not a promise that once you do so things will change like magic but their are God given potentials which you posses that you may not know about until you become born again.Honestly if I had money I would have loved to help you and I know that there is someone out there like me who will also love to help and who has the resources to do so.May God lead you to such a person.
GOD BLESS YOU.

thanks ma'am.. God will see me and my bro tru..best wishes

I would bring religion to it over and over again you ignorant,no muslim would support siblings not caring for eachother and orphaned neglect,its a major sin that one can go to hellfire for,so which muslim would do such except a very few ignorant that are ignorant of the ordinance.so you know why am hammering.

buoye1:
Shes really sick in the head for bringing religion into this.... Thank God for islam, thank God for Boko haram and ISIS huh?

Thrash!

They should think deep,the shameless attitudes wont profit them on the longrun,as nemesis will catch their kids too.

2sexynet:
My brother, you should know why the "wives" are attacking the op na. It's what they do the family of their husband offline.

uplawal:
They should think deep,the shameless attitudes wont profit them on the longrun,as nemesis will catch their kids too.

exactly

humbledbyfaith:
hi family landers,

I am so depressed as of right now..

I have a bro who recently got married to his fiancée..

we were happy as a family until my bro's wife started interfering in between my bro and I..
it all started when I had an urgent need in school, I approached my bro with the most humble scenery one can ever imagine, his wife just cut me short, and said they was no money, I was shocked as my bro sided with her and said they was no money.
I took it in good faith and went away.
later that day ,when they were back from work,I overhead my bro talking to someone in his bedroom..
I went closer and behold my bro was talking to his wife sis asking her if she had seen the alert of the money he sent to her..immediately I heard that,I just sat on the floor and sobbed loudly..

I wonder why my bro will be treating me and my junior bro like this ,we are orphans (lost dad and mum the same day in a car accident)my bro is in jss3 in a public school(my bro's wife changed him with the pretext that they couldn't afford the private school fee).me,I'm in my final year in the university, just remaining my project and my final year school fees..
I am really depressed as my mates have already gone to nysc..

I can't go to anywhere because of clearance and my bro has turned a deaf ear to my appeal to set me up with something I can do to at least clear my self in school..
I am not a lazy person, God forbid that I be lazy but I don't have the necessary incentive to startup something..

I am just fed up with the whole scenario, I have thought of suicide, but ithat will be foolishness as my junior bro will be left in this world to suffer alone..

If my parents are seeing all that is happening, they should please intervene on our behalf because I'm almost giving up... ;'(

sorry for bothering you all with my trouble

Well I think you need to get off your high horse.....imagine if you don't have a senior brother... won't you live your life? If you cannot take yourself into a place you can render service be it labour or what have you for a fee then you are not helping yourself.....you want it clean and easy but you may not get it that way......you have to be desperate and keep your hustle clean..... go and work on a construction site or something.......if you know what many have to go through in and outside the country before they could stand up to counted you will understand how lucky you are........people grow up without parent or siblings and they amount to something.......your life is in your hand.....don't keep your situation to yourself in real life......meet with female Lecturer in your Uni and offer service for money.....or who knows your story may touch one of them.......service year is almost here for you.....so struggle to get yourself over the line..... avoid self pity or appealing for others pity.

uplawal:
I would bring religion to it over and over again you ignorant,no muslim would support siblings not caring for eachother and orphaned neglect,its a major sin that one can go to hellfire for,so which muslim would do such except a very few ignorant that are ignorant of the ordinance.so you know why am hammering.

Get out of my mention you f00l ,go ahead,keep displaying your foolishness on the thread, how have you helped the lady in need? No reasonable advise, no financial support! Empty barrel

Were you bitting by a rapid dog?cos i can smell madness from you afar,i have just told you fact in my religion,pls die in your rage madman.

buoye1:
Get out of my mention you f00l ,go ahead,keep displaying your foolishness on the thread, how have you helped the lady in need? No reasonable advise, no financial support! Empty barrel

Women are their own worst enemies. I just wonder how some ladies here got married. Op people sprewing trash at you are just pushing you to your miracle. I pray things get better and you graduate successfully.