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Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by Abodunrin07(m): 6:13am On Jul 09, 2016 |
Some Women before they get into the family they try to be their nicer self but immediately their stay has been stamped and approved their real self comes out they turn to tiger. God help us from bad wives. |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by Nobody: 6:13am On Jul 09, 2016 |
All is well sister, you just need more prayer. I feel ur pain, but that's life sometimes. |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by Ay04z(m): 6:15am On Jul 09, 2016 |
sit down there......u said u re not lazy....okay .... goan do bricklayer or factory work for some main time to do ur clearance so DAT u can go for ur nysc on time...i pray u got a good job after ur service.......peace out 1 Like |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by Acidosis(m): 6:19am On Jul 09, 2016 |
I hustled through hair dressing and all but I have stopped all that now.. as I want to fully concentrate on my final year of study. What's your course of study? which of the institutions? |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by HaneefahRN(f): 6:31am On Jul 09, 2016 |
If this story ain't fabricated like I suspect then that wife no try, even if the guy is financially down (since you don't know how bouyant he is at that moment), she shouldn't have jumped in to say 'No money'. It's not her business, cos some relatives even if she knows nothing about it, anytime there is no show, they naturally assume it's the wife and keep malice with her, not caring if the family had been soaking garri and using boiled egg as meat for days. I know this, cos I witnessed it. We don't know what sort of relationship you had with your brother before he married. We don't know how much he earns, he has his own family + more responsibilities, so it can't always be like before. I find that part you eavesdropped hard to believe, though it might be true. OP if true, talk to your brother whenever she is not around, and discuss whatever you need with him, hopefully if he has he'll give. And thank God you have an handiwork, create time for it |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by byvan03: 6:35am On Jul 09, 2016 |
ngoben: Yes, I must comment. Do you have a problem with that? All these Internet saucy girls mtchewwww!! 1 Like |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by byvan03: 6:37am On Jul 09, 2016 |
Luckygurl: Yes, I didn't see, read hurriedly. It's very understandable why she needs money then. 1 Like |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by Trueyarn(m): 6:39am On Jul 09, 2016 |
What did you demand money for? I don't see myself responding to a sibling that needs money for sorting in school even if am sitting on billions. ...in D'banj's voice ..."please don't tell me nonsense"... |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by mira4u: 6:44am On Jul 09, 2016 |
humbledbyfaith: I have a feeling that you nag or complain too much more than you appreciate what he's done for you, that's why he treats you that way. That alone is a big discouragement to him. See ehn babe, there are better ways to get anything you want from anyone including a stony heart, you know. Do you show him the respect that he deserves? How do you act towards his wife? Do you help out in house chores? Do you try to be very nice and friendly to him and his wife? Are you jovial when at home with them? Do you always start a friendly conversation with him and his wife? Are you really striving hard to be independent financially, Eg buy stuff like OK things to sell? Do you show you appreciate all he's been doing? Or all you do is Nag! Nag!! Nag!!! And make series of request. These are subtle but very effective ways to get through him. Everybody likes to be appreciated. I can never believe that he will abandon the only ones left in his extended family for no reason. Forget this spell bu.ll.s.h.i..t you guys always talk about. Your attitude has a lot to do with it. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by nuelzz04(m): 6:47am On Jul 09, 2016 |
Ladies of nowadays just makes one afraid of getting married, why will a lady stop her hubby from helping anybody muchless his siblings .......some pple just tink about today n not d future......Wat if sumtin happens in d future n its only d family of d guy dat can help her......God help d wife if anything happens to d guy at any time...dats wen she'll knw she needs family .......I blame dat guy tho, out of numerous Gud ladies out der he chose to marry a wife dat ain't compatible wit d family .....dis is Nigeria n ur second hubby is ur husband's family members ...der r no 2 ways bout it |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by Megaideas(f): 6:47am On Jul 09, 2016 |
Nne, even your own mother can forget or forsake you but the Almighty God never will. Surrender the matter to God because He knows what to do when you don't know what to do. Secondly, I don't know how your relationship with your pastor is: go and discuss with him, he might be able to help out one way or the other. Finally, life should have taught you a big lesson, being an orphan. You don't depend on anyone 100% so if he fails, your life ends. What kind of mentality is that? You can do something even without money. Learn hair braiding/dressing, bead making etc so as to help yourself with it. The Nigeria of today is such that one graduates, has no job and still does the same job people who didn't go to school do. If it happens to you like that (God forbid), will you still depend on your brother to solve even the smallest problems for you? Hopefully, God will give you a good husband soon but you still must be resourceful so as not to wear him out with over-dependence on him. Start immediately to look for a handiwork so as to take care of yourself and your younger brother because he must also go to Higher Institution. Before long, you will see what good this decision will do you. Don't forget to thank me later. God bless you. |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by Kelly2713(m): 6:52am On Jul 09, 2016 |
help me tell the op that she do even more than this when she get married. also informed her to stop sobering and fave reality it's everywhere, i dnt trust girls |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by Kelly2713(m): 6:54am On Jul 09, 2016 |
help me tell the op that she will do even more than this to her husband's mother and family when she get married. also informed her to stop sobering and face reality it's everywhere, i dnt trust girls |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by Luckygurl(f): 7:05am On Jul 09, 2016 |
Acidosis: Lol!! I think you meant "Humbledbygrace" not "Humbledbyfaith". I thought same too before I digged around and found out they ain't same. |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by donMIG(m): 7:13am On Jul 09, 2016 |
U wan comit suicide....hehe some pple r just mad! Y i wan kill myself because of one fool...who wouldnot even cry at my funeral.... By the way me too sha my bro beat me up ooo coz of dog....hehe....i will never forget ! |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by alausaone(m): 7:15am On Jul 09, 2016 |
Good morning i read your post, contact me i will help you out......stay cool and remain blessed......... if your brother doesnt help you do not be disappointed, i was once like that but today the rest is history.......i am not writting this to seek attentions but to encourage you, your presennt situation does not determine your tomorrow..............in my only way i will bail u out... |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by Swissheart(f): 7:18am On Jul 09, 2016 |
GoodBoi1:Nop....You need that advice instead. |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by omofabulous(f): 7:18am On Jul 09, 2016 |
Nothing lasts for too long, there is always light at the end of the tunnel, just be patient, I experienced worst than you did, but now I can say things are better, just serve God in truth and spirit and he will answer you in due time God help you |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by GoodBoi1(m): 7:28am On Jul 09, 2016 |
Swissheart:Did you forget to use your other account? |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by Nobody: 7:34am On Jul 09, 2016 |
came into this thread late meh, all I can say is if you have the means to help the op,please do,she came here for a solution and the only solution she needs now is quick funds,not prayers not blames, just funds after settling her project fees we can then talk about who is to blame, and by the way I can see uplawal flaunting her stupidity on this thread trying to convince people that Islam is better, hehehehe such a clown, Islam the religion of pissful people 5 Likes |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by Nobody: 7:35am On Jul 09, 2016 |
byvan03:read the article before you type trash |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by TheMyth: 7:36am On Jul 09, 2016 |
so many silly old ladies forming tough luck then claiming they trying to help op by not being a part of the pity party circle jerk ... She is frustrated hence she is venting , this is a perfectly natural response as a human being that feels trapped . You people are even more useless than the so called pity party, they at least give her some level of comfort whilst you peeps just further aggravate her by calling her a lazy entitled wench and tell her to sit up whilst providing zero means to do so . What you guys are doing is the equivalent of me bashing you for not being a billionaire able to afford some uber expense because you just a simpleton content with your own folly and not a goal driven person ,then telling you to sit up . Just pure bashing with zero value , even snot nosed kids can bash. However advising her to attempt to sit up in itself isn't bad , but behaving like if she was hardworking she would be independent by now and she is completely at fault for not being independent is a just world fallacy , hardwork is a prerequisite to money and lucky encounters but it is by no means a guarantee . And to the group bashing her for being a witch against her sis in law , even if she is old and able what about their junior bro ? 3 Likes |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by Luckygurl(f): 7:42am On Jul 09, 2016 |
Chumzylove: I just hope this scenario is not what's actually happening Humbledbyfaith, you need to understand that your brother's loyalty is now divided between you, your brother and his immediate family. Yes!! He's your elder bro and you're his responsibility but for how long will that be? It's obvious he's possibly trying his best which might not be good enough. Cut him some slack! Get on your feet and become responsible for you and your younger bro's upkeep Stop whining ontop this issue over and over again. Remember, there's dignity in labour. I'm not saying the journey will be so smooth, it won't. I'm quite sure of that but as long as there's life, there's hope. Heed to this advice and you'd look back in time and be glad you did PS: I read through the thread and noticed a few people offering to help. That's a good start, you could reach out to them. This is not the first time people are rendering help here on NL. Just be careful while at it |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by obyrich(m): 7:49am On Jul 09, 2016 |
Ahmed0336:Exactly why I couldn't marry this year. I lost my elder bros last year. He had a house wife with a 2-month-old baby. A daughter in nursery. A son in SS3. Our last born a final year radiography student. His burial expenses was on me. So I had to shelf marriage plans to settle these issues first. I no want katakata for my life o. 1 Like |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by Demainman1: 7:53am On Jul 09, 2016 |
freecocoa: E be like say the liquor still dey shack you She said days of thirst as in needing water. Not 30 days o. Drink more water make your eyes clear |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by Kookny(m): 8:02am On Jul 09, 2016 |
humbledbyfaith: I have a strong feeling your story is fake |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by eyinjuege: 8:07am On Jul 09, 2016 |
nuelzz04: How can a lady stop the husband from helping others if he wants to? Then that husband is a fool, and shouldn't be called one. If he decides not to help others, its what he's always wanted to do and not because he's married now. No one can ask me not to send money to whomever i deem fit provided its my money. I'm sure you would also say the same, and almost everyone one here will too. |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by AngelAhnie(f): 8:14am On Jul 09, 2016 |
byvan03:Didn't you sort in school? The lady explained what she's going through and all you could say is not giving money to sort. |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by beautycrush24(f): 8:16am On Jul 09, 2016 |
I have gone thru this "lady's" profile and i think she's fake. Pardon my bluntness and lack of sympathy. She opened this account in february and all her posts are about hw her brother neglected her and how she can't pay her school fees and that of her younger brother. She never fails to mention d school fees part in all 3 posts. I'm beginning to think she's stylishly soliciting for funds from well meaning people. I'm not saying u guys shouldnt help her if u have d means to. I just think there are better ways to ask for money than painting an unexistin brother black. |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by nuelzz04(m): 8:20am On Jul 09, 2016 |
eyinjuege:according to d story he was helping bfr.......I guess madam must v said or must v done sumtin |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by chronique(m): 8:22am On Jul 09, 2016 |
God,any woman that will make me abandon my family,separate me from such. |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by AngelAhnie(f): 8:23am On Jul 09, 2016 |
Chillisauce:Not a cool thing to say to someone in serious pains...I can feel her frustration 1 Like |
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