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A known demon is better than an unknown angel.

Forgive her and watch her for a while to see if she is truly sorry and have settled down.

Well, she did not cheat on you.

You guys separated. She did not sleep with another guy while she was with you. So spare her all these. You are only regretting you are not the one that had her first.

Let her be if you don't trust her anymore which is actually your headache.

She did not cheat on you.

henrylowe:
I started dating this girl in 2013 when she was still seeking admission. I was already done with school managing a little business for survival when she got admitted into the university. My plan was to get married to her if things went as planned.

A year after she gained admission,, she started exhibiting some questionable characters which seemed hard to cope with. She started acting like she was too busy for me, she started replying cold tgo my chat, she no longer cared and a few to mention. Well, I wasn't surprised because ladies often turn a new leaf the moment they get into the university and start having various toasters. Though, I could read these were signs of possible break up due to the pressure from various suitors and perhaps, better offers. I tried to rekindle the fire of our love by having a heart to heart talk with her but all my effort seemed to be a waste.

Her strange attitude, which I could no longer cope with, persisted until I told her I needed a break hoping she would beg me and make things right. To my greatest surprise, she said was cool with it if that was what I wanted . We went separate ways for about 7 months after which we reconciled in April, this year. After a lengthy discussion blaming each other for our unseriousness and childishness, I inquired if she was still intact the way I left her and she told me she was. (Though, I would have confirmed that during cuddling but she was on her period that day)

She went home that day and later gave me a call back telling me she needed to see me the next day in order to make a confession. The moment she said it, I already knew she had lost it but I wanted to hear it from her mouth. She came the next day telling me she carelessly lost to a dude whom she wasn't dating it barely a month after we parted ways. . I was so disappointed and sad that, how could someone I dated for one and half year without touching just throw herself to a man whom met just a month after to defile her.

She cried and pleaded for mercy and since forgiveness is from God, I forgave her even though I found it hard to get it off my chest. Now, I can still see some components of infidelity in her despite trying my best not to reminisce on the past. Though, I still love her but not as before and I no longer trust her like I used to do

Nairalander, don't you think it's too risky to continue with a relationship considering the fact that the TRUST is gone already? Please am I wasting my time with this lady or I should let her go just to save myself from worry and nightmare?

Please your advice is highly needed

You no go just chop ur own . u dey dull ooo

henrylowe:
I started dating this girl in 2013 when she was still seeking admission. I was already done with school managing a little business for survival when she got admitted into the university. My plan was to get married to her if things went as planned.

A year after she gained admission,, she started exhibiting some questionable characters which seemed hard to cope with. She started acting like she was too busy for me, she started replying cold tgo my chat, she no longer cared and a few to mention. Well, I wasn't surprised because ladies often turn a new leaf the moment they get into the university and start having various toasters. Though, I could read these were signs of possible break up due to the pressure from various suitors and perhaps, better offers. I tried to rekindle the fire of our love by having a heart to heart talk with her but all my effort seemed to be a waste.

Her strange attitude, which I could no longer cope with, persisted until I told her I needed a break hoping she would beg me and make things right. To my greatest surprise, she said was cool with it if that was what I wanted . We went separate ways for about 7 months after which we reconciled in April, this year. After a lengthy discussion blaming each other for our unseriousness and childishness, I inquired if she was still intact the way I left her and she told me she was. (Though, I would have confirmed that during cuddling but she was on her period that day)

She went home that day and later gave me a call back telling me she needed to see me the next day in order to make a confession. The moment she said it, I already knew she had lost it but I wanted to hear it from her mouth. She came the next day telling me she carelessly lost to a dude whom she wasn't dating it barely a month after we parted ways. . I was so disappointed and sad that, how could someone I dated for one and half year without touching just throw herself to a man whom met just a month after to defile her.

She cried and pleaded for mercy and since forgiveness is from God, I forgave her even though I found it hard to get it off my chest. Now, I can still see some components of infidelity in her despite trying my best not to reminisce on the past. Though, I still love her but not as before and I no longer trust her like I used to do

Nairalander, don't you think it's too risky to continue with a relationship considering the fact that the TRUST is gone already? Please am I wasting my time with this lady or I should let her go just to save myself from worry and nightmare?

Please your advice is highly needed

Move on mate. Life is in phases. Don't draw back the hands of the clock.

I doubt she was even a virgin all these while

repogirl:
Soon, people will begin opening thread to ask for permission to use toilet. SMH!

OP, do what is in your mind already.

Lolz what!!!don't you want the OP to look for suggestions again??

henrylowe:
I started dating this girl in 2013 when she was still seeking admission. I was already done with school managing a little business for survival when she got admitted into the university. My plan was to get married to her if things went as planned.

A year after she gained admission,, she started exhibiting some questionable characters which seemed hard to cope with. She started acting like she was too busy for me, she started replying cold tgo my chat, she no longer cared and a few to mention. Well, I wasn't surprised because ladies often turn a new leaf the moment they get into the university and start having various toasters. Though, I could read these were signs of possible break up due to the pressure from various suitors and perhaps, better offers. I tried to rekindle the fire of our love by having a heart to heart talk with her but all my effort seemed to be a waste.

Her strange attitude, which I could no longer cope with, persisted until I told her I needed a break hoping she would beg me and make things right. To my greatest surprise, she said was cool with it if that was what I wanted . We went separate ways for about 7 months after which we reconciled in April, this year. After a lengthy discussion blaming each other for our unseriousness and childishness, I inquired if she was still intact the way I left her and she told me she was. (Though, I would have confirmed that during cuddling but she was on her period that day)

She went home that day and later gave me a call back telling me she needed to see me the next day in order to make a confession. The moment she said it, I already knew she had lost it but I wanted to hear it from her mouth. She came the next day telling me she carelessly lost to a dude whom she wasn't dating it barely a month after we parted ways. . I was so disappointed and sad that, how could someone I dated for one and half year without touching just throw herself to a man whom met just a month after to defile her.

She cried and pleaded for mercy and since forgiveness is from God, I forgave her even though I found it hard to get it off my chest. Now, I can still see some components of infidelity in her despite trying my best not to reminisce on the past. Though, I still love her but not as before and I no longer trust her like I used to do

Nairalander, don't you think it's too risky to continue with a relationship considering the fact that the TRUST is gone already? Please am I wasting my time with this lady or I should let her go just to save myself from worry and nightmare?

Please your advice is highly needed

Brother, you may not be able to cope with the thoughts and so I will advice you quit. I found myself in a similar situation not long ago. I dated a lady for close to 4 Years and I didn't touch her because she was a Virgin and wanted to remain so till marriage. We had a misunderstanding and for sometime we took a break. When I tried reconciliation moves, she kept on posting until she finally opened up and said 'She is no longer the girl I used to know' and instantly I knew what she meant. A guy she had not dated for up to six months had already disvirgined her. I felt very bad but wetin man go do. I moved on quickly without any hesitation. Try and do the Same. There are so many good and beautiful women all over the place with their dignity still intact. You will never be able to fully trust this kind of Lady you are talking about and its dangerous for a relationship. Besides, I've often heard that a woman never forgets the man who disvirgined her.

Jacko01:
You are not a sharp guy

She has seen that and will continie to play you

My advice leave her

You are to weak.... If you are on equal fopting.... And giv her the kondo.... Marry her

If nt just leave her cos she will meet som1 for just a week gove it to him
Meet som1 for jus a day giv it to him
Meet som1 for just an hour giv it to him
Meet som1 for just a minute and................

dats what we call cheerful giver

henrylowe:
I'm trying hard to

bros forget about her,when you meet the woman that would be your wife you would know.....let this one go

henrylowe:
It's not like I'm dull or something, since I aim at marrying her, I felt there was no need to rush sex

o, boy u are dull, stop giving excuse about anything..no, no offence,,. u are a completely heavy amateur...they is no other way round about the obvious..just listen to wat mature dudes tell u here, u dnt know an inch about women/girls , not in d closest..dnt take it d wrong way...sometimes d best way to clearify u in certain things is to reprimand u..so listen to guys who do not like d fact dat u have chosen to be a suker, when a girl is busy having fun,n throwing ur silly head like ping pong...even na ur dullness dey tire d babe, blieve me..n i still suspect sef dat ur dullness still dey very inherent.. ur giving excuse here n still wanting to defend wif delusive trash dey make u appear sillier, wit obvious trait say na eitther u still be small boy, unexposed, inexperience, naive, or very amature...no offence.....just listen to blunt n real guys along dis treat, n u cld learn a tin or 2, n get
exactly wat u want..

For those of you shouting 9ja girl and what have you...how many foreigners girl have u come across let alone dated for you to know how a specific character can be attributed to 9ja girls.

Very soon someone else will show up and turn it tribal issue of a particular tribe...


To the topic, if u know trust is going to be an issue in the relationship let her go, constant worry about a spouse's past or attitude develop into hatred unplanned.

Good luck

BiafraBushBoy:
Must you quote everything??

Get sense na....

Why are you picking on me?

Well she was going to pop her cherry sometime, wasn't she ?

henrylowe:
I started dating this girl in 2013 when she was still seeking admission. I was already done with school managing a little business for survival when she got admitted into the university. My plan was to get married to her if things went as planned.

A year after she gained admission,, she started exhibiting some questionable characters which seemed hard to cope with. She started acting like she was too busy for me, she started replying cold tgo my chat, she no longer cared and a few to mention. Well, I wasn't surprised because ladies often turn a new leaf the moment they get into the university and start having various toasters. Though, I could read these were signs of possible break up due to the pressure from various suitors and perhaps, better offers. I tried to rekindle the fire of our love by having a heart to heart talk with her but all my effort seemed to be a waste.

Her strange attitude, which I could no longer cope with, persisted until I told her I needed a break hoping she would beg me and make things right. To my greatest surprise, she said was cool with it if that was what I wanted . We went separate ways for about 7 months after which we reconciled in April, this year. After a lengthy discussion blaming each other for our unseriousness and childishness, I inquired if she was still intact the way I left her and she told me she was. (Though, I would have confirmed that during cuddling but she was on her period that day)

She went home that day and later gave me a call back telling me she needed to see me the next day in order to make a confession. The moment she said it, I already knew she had lost it but I wanted to hear it from her mouth. She came the next day telling me she carelessly lost to a dude whom she wasn't dating it barely a month after we parted ways. . I was so disappointed and sad that, how could someone I dated for one and half year without touching just throw herself to a man whom met just a month after to defile her.

She cried and pleaded for mercy and since forgiveness is from God, I forgave her even though I found it hard to get it off my chest. Now, I can still see some components of infidelity in her despite trying my best not to reminisce on the past. Though, I still love her but not as before and I no longer trust her like I used to do

Nairalander, don't you think it's too risky to continue with a relationship considering the fact that the TRUST is gone already? Please am I wasting my time with this lady or I should let her go just to save myself from worry and nightmare?

Please your advice is highly needed

Brother, you may not be able to cope with the thoughts and so I will advice you to quit. I found myself in a similar situation not too long ago. I dated a lady for close to 4 Years and I didn't touch her because she was a Virgin and wanted to remain so till marriage. We had a misunderstanding and for sometime we took a break. When I tried reconciliation moves, she kept on posting me until she finally opened up and said 'She is no longer the girl I used to know' and instantly I knew what she meant. A guy she had not dated for up to six months had already disvirgined her. I felt very bad but wetin man go do. I moved on quickly without any hesitation. Try and do the Same. There are so many good and beautiful women all over the place with their dignity still intact. You will never be able to fully trust this kind of Lady you are talking about and its dangerous for a relationship. Besides, I've often heard that a woman never forgets the man who disvirgined her.

My advise to u is to leave d girl. Even if u still forgive her and tins get better. She will still sleep with that guy. U never can tell what spirit it is. So use ur brain well

JustHere2Observ:
I dont understand the fuss, you guys broke up, so why do you feel cheated? Its not like its your property, and she can give it to who ever she likes. She didn't sleep with him while you were dating, besides what's the probability you guys will end up married if you had been her first?

I 100% agree with this comment.

@ OPI really don't understand what your problem is. You broke up and she dated someone else not that she cheated on you and after 7 whole months you guys came back only for you to fuss over who she was with when you broke up. She's not married nor engaged to you. I wonder why men have this imaginary possessive attitude.


Any relationship with instability and uncertainty is just a waste of time.

nnamdiokere45:
collect ur share n disembark

Chai paddy mahn u no get shaking.

Girls even deserve am sef

Your type irks me a lot. Like how do you date someone for upto a year without going intimate with them? How's this possible bikonu?

She only saw you as an emasculated male and gave it to someone more serious.

lilyqueen:
Why are you picking on me?

Are you beans??...
Mtcheww

henrylowe:
I started dating this girl in 2013 when she was still seeking admission. I was already done with school managing a little business for survival when she got admitted into the university. My plan was to get married to her if things went as planned.

A year after she gained admission,, she started exhibiting some questionable characters which seemed hard to cope with. She started acting like she was too busy for me, she started replying cold tgo my chat, she no longer cared and a few to mention. Well, I wasn't surprised because ladies often turn a new leaf the moment they get into the university and start having various toasters. Though, I could read these were signs of possible break up due to the pressure from various suitors and perhaps, better offers. I tried to rekindle the fire of our love by having a heart to heart talk with her but all my effort seemed to be a waste.

Her strange attitude, which I could no longer cope with, persisted until I told her I needed a break hoping she would beg me and make things right. To my greatest surprise, she said was cool with it if that was what I wanted . We went separate ways for about 7 months after which we reconciled in April, this year. After a lengthy discussion blaming each other for our unseriousness and childishness, I inquired if she was still intact the way I left her and she told me she was. (Though, I would have confirmed that during cuddling but she was on her period that day)

She went home that day and later gave me a call back telling me she needed to see me the next day in order to make a confession. The moment she said it, I already knew she had lost it but I wanted to hear it from her mouth. She came the next day telling me she carelessly lost to a dude whom she wasn't dating it barely a month after we parted ways. . I was so disappointed and sad that, how could someone I dated for one and half year without touching just throw herself to a man whom met just a month after to defile her.

She cried and pleaded for mercy and since forgiveness is from God, I forgave her even though I found it hard to get it off my chest. Now, I can still see some components of infidelity in her despite trying my best not to reminisce on the past. Though, I still love her but not as before and I no longer trust her like I used to do

Nairalander, don't you think it's too risky to continue with a relationship considering the fact that the TRUST is gone already? Please am I wasting my time with this lady or I should let her go just to save myself from worry and nightmare?

Please your advice is highly needed

She intentionally f*ucked that guy, and if the guy didn't dump her cheating as*s, she won't come back to you or confess anything to you. In fact, she may be on the verge of dumping your dumb as*s but changed her mind because the guy she truly liked dumped her.

Who knows if she was disvirgined earlier than the time she told you or if she wasn't even a virgin when you met her but lied to you. Some women can go extreme to keep a side-guy waiting as their last resort if they don't get the particular guy they desire.

If you continue dating this cheater then you deserved being cheated on! You could forgive her and still end the toxic relationship. Forgiveness means not bearing grudges against an offender and doesn't mean being forced to be in a bad relationship!

Any woman who truly loves you will never cheat on you, she would rather end the relationship if it becomes bad and unbearable for her! Personally, I would respect a woman who left me, than the one who's with me while cheating on me.

End this bad relationship now! There are many good women out there.

By the way, how could you have a girlfriend for more than a year without f*ucking her? You must be truly insane. If you don't have sex with someone you call your girlfriend, she may think she's not attractive enough for you! S*ex is very important in a relationship. This could be why this girl gave it to a smart guy who wanted it. Pretending to not want to have sex with your girlfriend in order to "look good" is terrible! Every woman (even real virgins who want to keep their virginity till marriage) want to know you love them enough to want to have sex.

Hopefully, in your next relationship, don't act dumb!

Note: If a woman or man you're dating wants to have s*ex with you only after marriage, RUN! S*exual compatibility is very important in marriage. Have safe s*ex with your potential life partner before marriage, in order to ascertain your sexual compatibility with him or her! S*ex has broken many marriages. The "no s*ex before marriage" thing is a terrible idea. It is complete nonsense and doesn't guarantee a great and long lasting marriage!

henrylowe:
I started dating this girl in 2013 when she was still seeking admission. I was already done with school managing a little business for survival when she got admitted into the university. My plan was to get married to her if things went as planned.

A year after she gained admission,, she started exhibiting some questionable characters which seemed hard to cope with. She started acting like she was too busy for me, she started replying cold tgo my chat, she no longer cared and a few to mention. Well, I wasn't surprised because ladies often turn a new leaf the moment they get into the university and start having various toasters. Though, I could read these were signs of possible break up due to the pressure from various suitors and perhaps, better offers. I tried to rekindle the fire of our love by having a heart to heart talk with her but all my effort seemed to be a waste.

Her strange attitude, which I could no longer cope with, persisted until I told her I needed a break hoping she would beg me and make things right. To my greatest surprise, she said was cool with it if that was what I wanted . We went separate ways for about 7 months after which we reconciled in April, this year. After a lengthy discussion blaming each other for our unseriousness and childishness, I inquired if she was still intact the way I left her and she told me she was. (Though, I would have confirmed that during cuddling but she was on her period that day)

She went home that day and later gave me a call back telling me she needed to see me the next day in order to make a confession. The moment she said it, I already knew she had lost it but I wanted to hear it from her mouth. She came the next day telling me she carelessly lost to a dude whom she wasn't dating it barely a month after we parted ways. . I was so disappointed and sad that, how could someone I dated for one and half year without touching just throw herself to a man whom met just a month after to defile her.

She cried and pleaded for mercy and since forgiveness is from God, I forgave her even though I found it hard to get it off my chest. Now, I can still see some components of infidelity in her despite trying my best not to reminisce on the past. Though, I still love her but not as before and I no longer trust her like I used to do

Nairalander, don't you think it's too risky to continue with a relationship considering the fact that the TRUST is gone already? Please am I wasting my time with this lady or I should let her go just to save myself from worry and nightmare?

Please your advice is highly needed

Bros, what exactly are you saying? don't just get me annoyed. Bros, just fvck this girl say like 6-10 times and move on. Collect your turn and dump her sorry a55.

Remember the Laws of Okafor. Move on with your life, without her.

agabaI23:
Well, she did not cheat on you.

You guys separated. She did not sleep with another guy while she was with you. So spare her all these. You are only regretting you are not the one that had her first.

Let her be if you don't trust her anymore which is actually your headache.

She did not cheat on you.

nnamdiokere45:
collect ur share n disembark

Simple & straight.

lagosflexcamp:
smh just listen to yourself. You be amateur sha that haven't understood how the mind of an average naija girl works. Look, if you have a gf and you are not bang**g her right, trust me, she will never appreciate you nor respect you as her man. If you like buy the entire world for her, her cold and cheating attitude won't change towards you. She will always *cheat* on u with another sharp guy.

Most naija girls don't want love( well they don't even understand what love means). What they mostly want is goodsex, your money and your bad boy behavior. I really pity amateurish guys like you sha. Na una dey show our naija girls love pass and na bad boys dey enjoy una girlfriends pass. lol

Op take heart sha bcuz na you fuckup, so don't blame ur gal

Oloriburku somebody .

Boss i hail o

TRUST and LOVE are like. ...
BUHARI and ANTI KWORUPTION.

My dear, move on with your life now that you can.

henrylowe:
I started dating this girl in 2013 when she was still seeking admission. I was already done with school managing a little business for survival when she got admitted into the university. My plan was to get married to her if things went as planned.

A year after she gained admission,, she started exhibiting some questionable characters which seemed hard to cope with. She started acting like she was too busy for me, she started replying cold tgo my chat, she no longer cared and a few to mention. Well, I wasn't surprised because ladies often turn a new leaf the moment they get into the university and start having various toasters. Though, I could read these were signs of possible break up due to the pressure from various suitors and perhaps, better offers. I tried to rekindle the fire of our love by having a heart to heart talk with her but all my effort seemed to be a waste.

Her strange attitude, which I could no longer cope with, persisted until I told her I needed a break hoping she would beg me and make things right. To my greatest surprise, she said was cool with it if that was what I wanted . We went separate ways for about 7 months after which we reconciled in April, this year. After a lengthy discussion blaming each other for our unseriousness and childishness, I inquired if she was still intact the way I left her and she told me she was. (Though, I would have confirmed that during cuddling but she was on her period that day)

She went home that day and later gave me a call back telling me she needed to see me the next day in order to make a confession. The moment she said it, I already knew she had lost it but I wanted to hear it from her mouth. She came the next day telling me she carelessly lost to a dude whom she wasn't dating it barely a month after we parted ways. . I was so disappointed and sad that, how could someone I dated for one and half year without touching just throw herself to a man whom met just a month after to defile her.

She cried and pleaded for mercy and since forgiveness is from God, I forgave her even though I found it hard to get it off my chest. Now, I can still see some components of infidelity in her despite trying my best not to reminisce on the past. Though, I still love her but not as before and I no longer trust her like I used to do

Nairalander, don't you think it's too risky to continue with a relationship considering the fact that the TRUST is gone already? Please am I wasting my time with this lady or I should let her go just to save myself from worry and nightmare?

Please your advice is highly needed

ASK YOUR MOTHER

Any reationship without trust will definately "rust"...a relationship without trust is like a car without gas,you can stay all you want,but it will not go anywhere...because you said you love her,find a way to trust her again,but if you cant then i suggest you end things.

henrylowe:
I started dating this girl in 2013 when she was still seeking admission. I was already done with school managing a little business for survival when she got admitted into the university. My plan was to get married to her if things went as planned.

A year after she gained admission,, she started exhibiting some questionable characters which seemed hard to cope with. She started acting like she was too busy for me, she started replying cold tgo my chat, she no longer cared and a few to mention. Well, I wasn't surprised because ladies often turn a new leaf the moment they get into the university and start having various toasters. Though, I could read these were signs of possible break up due to the pressure from various suitors and perhaps, better offers. I tried to rekindle the fire of our love by having a heart to heart talk with her but all my effort seemed to be a waste.

Her strange attitude, which I could no longer cope with, persisted until I told her I needed a break hoping she would beg me and make things right. To my greatest surprise, she said was cool with it if that was what I wanted . We went separate ways for about 7 months after which we reconciled in April, this year. After a lengthy discussion blaming each other for our unseriousness and childishness, I inquired if she was still intact the way I left her and she told me she was. (Though, I would have confirmed that during cuddling but she was on her period that day)

She went home that day and later gave me a call back telling me she needed to see me the next day in order to make a confession. The moment she said it, I already knew she had lost it but I wanted to hear it from her mouth. She came the next day telling me she carelessly lost to a dude whom she wasn't dating it barely a month after we parted ways. . I was so disappointed and sad that, how could someone I dated for one and half year without touching just throw herself to a man whom met just a month after to defile her.

She cried and pleaded for mercy and since forgiveness is from God, I forgave her even though I found it hard to get it off my chest. Now, I can still see some components of infidelity in her despite trying my best not to reminisce on the past. Though, I still love her but not as before and I no longer trust her like I used to do

Nairalander, don't you think it's too risky to continue with a relationship considering the fact that the TRUST is gone already? Please am I wasting my time with this lady or I should let her go just to save myself from worry and nightmare?

Please your advice is highly needed

He ya! sorry o, you forget that girls are like mangoes, while you are waiting for them to ripe, others are eating them with salt

blaquemyc:
I feel your pain sha. Just so you knw, gals are smart, very very smart.

Bros, very very and very smart.... have always had dis mindset that u can never trust girls, i was just living my life with anyone that comes, no feelin attachd... not until my careless hrt go find lov 4 dis gal hrt in 2013, my mentality change, my friends even suprise sey i fit luv, only 4 d gal to come nd shatter, asin she brk d hrt beyond repair dis year by gettin married after she has bin well known by my family.... see no love again, i stil live with dat pain til date cos i just cant imagine d breakup was real....

kiddkash:
dump the b!tch they ain't loyal.
you will never be able to trust her again so just end it b4 anyone gets more hurt

even if he dump her, will he still be able to get another lady that is intert?