sinaj:
You are just not ready for a reltnshp.

Rexhenrex:
I Am Very Confused What Should I Do?


[b]For sometime now i have been trying to hide this problem of mine,but now i can't hide it any longer because its really getting out of hand i just had to muster courage to type this because a problem shared ,they say is Half solved.

whenever i see a girl i like i would want to get her and assure my self that i will date her and eventually marry her i will also tell my friends that once i get her am not going to date any other lady.but when the lady agrees to date me after highest a month i would get tired of her and break-up with her. the longest relationship i ever had was 2months and it made me feel bitter when i heard a guy saying he is in the 3rd year now with his g.f i was just wondering how he did that. its really not funny i told my bestie bout it and she said maybe its because am an introvert and its because i don't have sex with my g.f so it gets boring for me and currently am dating a girl but am getting bored again as usually and i really love this lady but i fear i will soon break-up with her again and i don't want this to happen...pls how can i enjoy a relationship without involving sex ??

Matured minds please its really important and perhaps others might benefit from your advice also.thanks![/b]

schumastic:


don't b angry bro but if you can't then you are not ready for a relationship because that is the main ingredient in it..is like not putting salt in your food at all, which is the basic ingredient.

although you might find a girl(5% chance) who will share the same mind set with you but bro she will still cheat on you if the urge comes since you won't satisfy her sexual urge and still claim to love you.

I still don't or won't believe you don't do it, don't bkame me but I don't believe such easily, especially if one have tasted the forbidden fruit, is very very hard.

junnyjake:


¿hablas español señor?

Sé un poco de español.....I have no idea why I stopped learning honestly.na Booz of one babe sef wey I begin dey learn the thing ........ But now

Toks2008:


How old are you? An answer to this will determine how i will approach your matter.

richard870:
Have you ever asked yourself if she's replaceable? If the answer you get is yes! then you haven't experienced love. Trust me, no one will tell you when the right person comes along #PonderOnthis#

Toks2008:


How old are you? An answer to this will determine how i will approach your matter.

Eddodoh:
I am in the same problem. I have being involved with different ladies but I don't stay long in the relationships.
I had sexual relationship with most of them and within 2 months I get bored and want to quit. I have tried to learn to have a long term relationship but I found it difficult.

I still wonder how my friends got glue to a particular lady and some are married. I don't have any serious relationship as I speak.

rosalieene:

what kind of relationship is this!!. You might not call each other even for a week! Holy SHIIT !!
communication is the key! For a person like me, communication is one of my love languages, its very important in a relationship. Anyway, you both understand yourself that's why we are all different.

chigoizie7:
Op we are on the same page. Just that I am a lot better than u are.

I have sex in all my relationships,

The only other different is that I pass 2months, but never 9months.



If I tell u how many girls I have dated from the time I started till now, u will call me ashawo, sadly, I never double dated in all my relationships and I never cheated on any girl.

My only problem is that I get bored along the line, it doesn't last for me too. No matter how hard I try, most of the girls(good girls) involved in all those my stupid rubish I called relationship are still very good friends with me, maybe most of them understood the kind of person I am. I never really hurt any of them in the course of our dating, I just wake up one morning and then decides it's over and that's it. I don't know, maybe because whenever I want to go into relationship, I always have it @ the back of my mind that it will eventually lead to marriage someday, I mean, I don't go into relationships for the fun of it. I hate wasting people's time, so once I see some traits I ain't looking up for in a wife, I just get bored and feel it's a waste of time fooling around, and I will just call it quits.


Then I realised that I was never ever really ready to be in a relationship.



Me too, I neeeeeeeed help, what could be the cause of it?

skarlett:


You try jare

Don't have much to say except that until a man finds himself, he'll ruin every woman he comes across. The op isn't mature to handle a relationship yet.

obiorathesubtle:
*muster




Uuh. I should have some advice in here somewhere..


*searching for advice**



Well, I've had a long term relationship too.. Lasted 3 years.. 2013-2016, iono what kept me going, we didn't have sex often either.. Sex was never the main thing.. Iono how she managed to throw sex out of my agenda, although I cheated a lot, still loved her like jagga..

I guess all I wanted to do was make her happy, make her part of me, just care for her and never stop, make her a top responsibility..

I had eyes on the future, didn't just see it as a boyfriend and girlfriend ish.. But most importantly, I made sure it was more of a friendship between very very good friends than people who want to satisfy their sexual desires..

She was a friend, we talked about everything, when we had misunderstandings, we don't spend even a minute more before telling each other what the other person did to annoy, we apologise and make it up one way or another..

I surprise her sometimes, I did homework on how to be romantic, not the best sex positions..


When you see a relationship as an opportunity to have someone who truly cares for you.. To integrate someone's physiology into yours.. That might keep you going..

It didn't feel like 3 years to me.. I always wanted to go on tho.. I was surprised she had gotten me birthday gifts on 3 occasions.. We did everything together.. Bathe, eat, sleep, read, even pray .. We bonded beyond imagination..


Still beats me till today why we broke up


Anyway.. My advice is, don't love(because it isn't love) for sex(it's usually very short for you because you're attracted to the ass and boobs-Men's instincts).. But Love because you want to make a difference, because you want an extension of yourself or you want to spend the best moments(not necessarily sexual) with that person..


Iono.. Did I spit right?? Shiit aint coming..

Emperoradrian:
Op,pls r u d rexhenrex I grew up wit,abi na anoda one??......if na u,den dis ur problem started in Pri 2,you r Neva contended wit one gal,u always want to be wit evry chioma,Ada,bola,hauwa,ovie,isere,imabong,ifenyinwa,ebube...(d list is endless) on d street...well u call it a problem,Bt I simply call it WOMANIZING!...

in other words,meet ur pastor/Rev for counseling.,tnk me later.

EmperorLee:



Rose am not saying communication is not vital but don't choke me. We don't have to chat or call each other every other day, am sure Op can relate to what I am talking about. It's not like I am being inconsiderate, it's who I am, even as ordinary friends I still don't like when I get choked. I might be all over you in the first few days but after that I get bored of it. A little closeness a little space won't kill a relationship, it will even rejuvenate it.

Rexhenrex:
not all guys are same and for your info i have never had sex.

Rexhenrex:
I Am Very Confused What Should I Do?


[b]For sometime now i have been trying to hide this problem of mine,but now i can't hide it any longer because its really getting out of hand i just had to muster courage to type this because a problem shared ,they say is Half solved.

whenever i see a girl i like i would want to get her and assure my self that i will date her and eventually marry her i will also tell my friends that once i get her am not going to date any other lady.but when the lady agrees to date me after highest a month i would get tired of her and break-up with her. the longest relationship i ever had was 2months and it made me feel bitter when i heard a guy saying he is in the 3rd year now with his g.f i was just wondering how he did that. its really not funny i told my bestie bout it and she said maybe its because am an introvert and its because i don't have sex with my g.f so it gets boring for me and currently am dating a girl but am getting bored again as usually and i really love this lady but i fear i will soon break-up with her again and i don't want this to happen...pls how can i enjoy a relationship without involving sex ??

Matured minds please its really important and perhaps others might benefit from your advice also.thanks![/b]

ireneony2:
Op chill. it happens... so i went into celibate.(2yrs counting) To rediscover myself

schumastic:


ABIA, YOU EXPECT ME TO BELIEVE THAT...ABEG JUST SHIFT JARE CUS NOW I KNOW WHY YOU CREATED THE THREAD.

IT WAS NOT ABOUT YOU NOT BEING ABLE TO KEEP UP WITH A RELATIONSHIP BUT ABOUT YOUR GETTING MORE LADIES FROM NL WITH THE THREAD.BETTER LUCK NEXT TIME

Rexhenrex:
lmao...trouble maker,she has been my bestie for couple of years now, we grew up together

Funkybabee:
maybe u are dating dull girls,try and date a sharp lady with good physical attractive

rosalieene:

what kind of relationship is this!!. You might not call each other even for a week! Holy SHIIT !!
communication is the key! For a person like me, communication is one of my love languages, its very important in a relationship. Anyway, you both understand yourself that's why we are all different.

rosalieene:

what kind of relationship is this!!. You might not call each other even for a week! Holy SHIIT !!
communication is the key! For a person like me, communication is one of my love languages, its very important in a relationship. Anyway, you both understand yourself that's why we are all different.