Reminds me of when my cousin lied to her AI during NYSC years ago that her father died just for her to be permitted to travel(for a bday party or so)..The father is very much alive and still very wicked and Evil...Shows how much some kids hate their fathers

Some fathers are very,very bad..Like they are sent from the pit of hell..No iota of love for their kids..
This young man should calm down sha,no matter what,he shouldn't shame his father...A leopard can never get rid of its spot....

Choii...am speechless

[quote author=HungerBAD post=49016305]Just like that.

The man has just officially lost his children. And for this young man running his mouth,one day in the East he will be asked to "POINT OUT HIS FATHER'S HOUSE" there.[/quote

Not true dear. If their mother owns her house and theres reason for the divorce. They can lay claim to momsies hometown.

yorhmienerd:
All these correction will not reach him...

He might be a nairalander ohhh... maybe reading all these and regretting his actions.

Inspectahdeck:
Kids should never get involved in parent fight. Never take sides, because nobody knows the true except their parents.

and parents (especially Nigerian mothers) should should not poison the minds of their children when they have issues with their spouses. I'm not saying that is what is happenning in this case but many Nigerian mothers are guilty of this. In the end it's the child you hurt, this is obviously a bleeped up kid.

The man may be a bad husband and father we don't know but what we know for sure is that Stella has proven herself to be a woman of questionable character. a woman like that cannot raise good children

lanjum:
If the marriage ended some 30 years ago, how then are u able to know who is wrong or right? how old were u then? However, am happy you called yourself a BASTARD cos u dont have the right under any law or religion to address your father like that

When it comes to children, who is wrong or right is meaningless,
they only know who stood by them and who abandoned them.

HungerBAD:
Just like that ...And for this young man running his mouth,one day in the East he will be asked to "POINT OUT HIS FATHER'S HOUSE" there.

You've said it all! Couldn't it have been more honourable for this young man to hold his peace for a while? The flights, the hotels, etc. Meanwhile, let us all welcome the latest bastard in Nigeria. I guess it's part of the change we've all been talking about. I hail oo

Well as an original igbo man born and bred in Enugu state,i have never seen where this happens in the mothers place unlesd Stella within herself secretly know that it was another man that give her belle while she deceived the ex hubby that it was him.Also,while accepting that nobody knew the wrong d ex did to her,we sould all question the character of a woman that married two or three men and divorced them all.For me,her character is questionable even as she being a millionaire and politician has escalated her attitude of not being humble,loyal and respectful to men.Money is speaking and can make people keep quiet from condenming what is unjust.It is a pity.

freshvine:
Brainwashed idiot. How can a son lambast his biological father like this no matter what the father did?

Without him you don't have this life. Reach out to him through other means than to throw hate at him using public medium.

Drop him names and answer Oduah and walk with shame.

If the father did what that guy wrote, then he should be ashamed to call either his son. The man abandoned them and married other wives, now he wants to bury who he didn't raise. He even denied being aware of the guy's death. What else is that if not acute bitterness and outright mischief. Some men don't deserve to have sperm

Zico5:
Whao, what kind of moral standard are these people teaching their children. No matter how bad the father may be, no sane child should raise his head to his father. That is why yoruba is above in everything, our culture teaches us a lot of things. Nothing can replace ur father no matter what, it is even suicidal for a father to disown a child not to talk of child talking rash to his father. I wonder how this boy will live the rest of his life.
But I don't blame him, this is not a big deal in that region. But nemesis is sure, whatever u sow u reap.

I'm sorry but what has the man's tribe got to do with any of this? It's clear that this is a domestic issue and not a tribal one. Please stop pretending that there are no Yoruba people who've done this type of thing before as it is rather misleading.

daretodiffer:
What if he is telling the bitter truth about his father?


She could have told them things about their father or they could have seen things themselves.There are terrible mothers out there and there are terrible fathers. I
won't be quick judge.

What sort of bitter truth will a young man be professing Dat will lead to him calling his father names in public and even calling himself a bastard? Truth be told, he is his father and nutin can change that. I'm sure the mum will not be at home with the boy's public outburst unless she has never been a good woman ab initio

let us thank this young man,he has finally brought the point home to all absentee fathers who thinks after many years of negative indoctrination by the estranged mum/wife,their son will finally come back home to them.,yes he will,with little or no tolerance for the normal foibles of a daddy.a little indiscretion on the path of absentee fathers get them butchered by an unbonded son.

this guy just told the dad ,the painful truth,he will rather be a bastard than be his son.it is a choice he is entitled to and he has made his choice.anyone can go on to drink panadol for the man's headache or that of his son.

young men,before u marry her,look out for the signs that tells you she will abandon you for the hugest bidder.it is the man's error in marrying and impregnating the wrong woman that led to all these.

absentee father.take this a wakeup call.no future for absentee father.

the boy is right,the dad is a pretender,the sons left home since with their mother with no intention of ever returning home and he knew this all

along. let us begin to call these absentee fathers their real name="sperm donors"

Ngozi123:

I'm sorry but what has the man's tribe got to do with any of this? It's clear that this is a domestic issue and not a tribal one. Please stop pretending that there are no Yoruba people who've done this type of thing before as it is rather misleading.

No need responding to him/her, OBJ and his daughter comes to mind... Not being tribalistic, just pointing out facts.

We can all lambast the guy(son) all we want but if you have never walked his journey, don't judge him. If you have never been denied the privilege of a fatherly love, don't cast aspersion. I have a close friend, I know how much she loves to be with her father, but the more she tries the more frustrated she becomes courtesy the supposed father all because the lady has not amounted to anything yet. We have useless father's out there

manny4life:
It's only someone who hasn't been through a fire would stand by the side advising another who's been hurt by the fire how he would gone through it without getting hurt. I don't want to delve into this but our people say, whoever brings ant infested firewood into his house should prepare to invite lizards to his home. Nothing further.

Words of wisdom my brother!!

Ngozi123:


I'm sorry but what has the man's tribe got to do with any of this? It's clear that this is a domestic issue and not a tribal one. Please stop pretending that there are no Yoruba people who've done this type of thing before as it is rather misleading.

I am yoruba, please remind him of Kemi Olunloyo, if he still wants to go tribal.

Omo ale jati jati

Inspectahdeck:
Kids should never get involved in parent fight. Never take sides, because nobody knows the true except their parents.

oga, neutrality ends once your mother is attacked. be guided.

nwigwemark:
How will a man abandon his two sons for over 30 years without caring, only for him to surface now and start making nonsense demands. That is madness.

Nna...help me ask them o?

Xsmart22:


What sort of bitter truth will a young man be professing Dat will lead to him calling his father names in public and even calling himself a bastard? Truth be told, he is his father and nutin can change that. I'm sure the mum will not be at home with the boy's public outburst unless she has never been a good woman ab initio

There's a difference between "Father" and "Dad". As you rightly said, he's a sperm donor, a father and nothing else... But being a dad, requires commitment. An absentee father would NEVER be regarded as a dad. Plain and simple truth. The man did not act like an elder in the family, he knew the supposed thing to do before going public. Going public was his greatest undoing. When you point an accusing finger at someone, three other fingers are pointing right back at you.

See all these sanctimonious folks! Guy said their mother alone was the "father and mother" they had growing up. She and hers were the only family they knew. Why would the man want the dead son now that he's no more? Where was he while the boy needed a father? Abeg, free the young man, its too late for the baba to start claiming father. A true father is the man who was there to help groom the kids into adults, he didn't do that. Let everybody kala their maamu.

manny4life:


No need responding to him/her, OBJ and his daughter comes to mind... Not being tribalistic, just pointing out facts.

vodutive:


I am yoruba, please remind him of Kemi Olunloyo, if he still wants to go tribal.

Thank you both. I don't know why everything on Nairaland has to turn into a tribal mudslinging match these days .

Many many Nigerian fathers of that generation, especially the polygamous ones, were/are testosterone-fueled self-seeking arrogant pricks and could only think with their dićks. So, good on you boy.

manny4life:


If you can shamelessly open your open and utter these words considering the pain they're going through, I can only ask God to have mercy on you. Before you type rubbish, please endeavor to read. As far as I'm concerned, a marriage that was divorced 30 years ago and the estranged father all of a sudden surfaced right now, deserves all the treatment he gets.

“Buwa and I were the product of a short and abusive marriage that ended almost 30 years ago. To a man with many other wives and children. Stella Oduah is the only father, mother, carer and provider that my brother has ever known. The Oduah family is the only Family that he has ever been part of and Akili Ozizo in Anambra state is the only hometown he has ever had.

“I called Mr Satchie and the Etoromi family to inform them immediately my brother passed. I offered flights, accommodation and special care for him or the representatives of the family throughout the funeral. I offered to build a relationship and have a new start.

“I was happy and optimistic. But i was wrong. Instead of asking about his dead son, he proceeded to use my brothers passing as an excuse to shamelessly insult my mother just like he is doing now, issue death threats and even ask for dowry from almost 30 years ago.

my brother, there is no justification on the surface of this earth that will make someone insult is biological father in public like this, haba this is too much, why, we are Africans, Nigerians to be precise, we have our values and culture, we don't behave like this in public. Pls note something I've been emphasizing PUBLIC PUBLIC PUBLIC what is bad is bad .......

Malawian:

oga, neutrality ends once your mother is attacked. be guided.

Gbam!!!!

From experience, most african men only bear the title ''father''...they NEVER live up to it!

Good move.

Men should live up to their responsibilities. Even if the marriage fails, please be an excellent father to your children.

This young man is angry that a sperm donor is running his mouth in family affairs.

Dante2008:
my brother, there is no justification on the surface of this earth that will make someone insult is biological father in public like this, haba this is too much, why, we are Africans, Nigerians to be precise, we have our values and culture, we don't behave like this in public. Pls note something I've been emphasizing PUBLIC PUBLIC PUBLIC what is bad is bad .......

If my father abandoned me when I was little, I would slap the shittt out of him if he tries to tell me anything. He is just a sperm donor.

Hmmmmmm warn ya sef

No man even a cripple will allow his legal son buried outside his place of choice or home according to our tradition. No matter the circumtances. We should not throw away our tradition in the face of modernization, money or influence.

does it mean dat over 30yrs d man has never asked of his children?my ppl,d man is d cause of d whole tin for abandoning ur wife and children.but young boy listen,i gues u and ur mum ar kidnappers.how can u bury him in a strange land tinkin dat ur dad wil attend.even if he is foolish,he would not attend because it is a great insult and neglect.Try to reconcile wit ur father because ur mum whom i tink is deceiving u is now in his father's house,so look for ur own father.Ok?

Dante2008:
my brother, there is no justification on the surface of this earth that will make someone insult is biological father in public like this, haba this is too much, why, we are Africans, Nigerians to be precise, we have our values and culture, we don't behave like this in public. Pls note something I've been emphasizing PUBLIC PUBLIC PUBLIC what is bad is bad .......

Africans? Are you serious? Okay I agree yes we're African and IF the man was truly African, regardless of whatever Stella did, for the sake of the kids (which he knew were his), he would NEVER have divorced her. In Igbo land, divorcing a woman and taking your bride price back carries a lot of negative significance. Imagine the slurs the kids have faced upon till this time, you have no idea what it means.

If the man was African, when he heard about his son's death, it's your son for crying out loud. Media should NEVER have been involved. I repeat, media should NEVER have been involved. He should have contacted Stella's family, NOT Stella or the kids. From there, Stella's family would sent emissaries formally to their place. In Igboland, we have what's called "Omenana", so let's stop accusing Stella when the man in question hadn't performed well.

It is correct that we have values which we must hold to high esteem, but holding these values is not a "one-way" street. It goes both ways. Finally, he's a father and not a dad. An estranged man who's not been in the life of the kids is not worthy to be called a dad by general standards.