PaulIdu:


No matter how he tries to spin it he was wrong ..it wasn't his call to offer to send flight tickets to his dad and paternal family so they could attend the burial of his son on his estranged wife's village ..I don't think any man worth his salt and who knows his culture will accept that ..they have clearly been trained to insult thier father in exchange for stella oduas dollars

CSTR2:
Nobody is denying the fact that they will be assimiliated. Ofcourse, igbos are civilized and would always recognize their own blood.
But when it comes to high positions, especially ones keenly contested in the Igbo community or as a group, that fellow is already at a massive disadvantage.
Infact, it would take a miracle for such a fellow to rise to any prominent position in igboland. That is the fact. It is inhumane(I know), but the fact nonetheless.
Children are traced to their father's house in igboland, and rise and fall on that merit.

lanjum:
If the marriage ended some 30 years ago, how then are u able to know who is wrong or right? how old were u then? However, am happy you called yourself a BASTARD cos u dont have the right under any law or religion to address your father like that

SlayerSupreme:

My sister you will live long!

noblemails:


He might be a nairalander ohhh... maybe reading all these and regretting his actions.

CSTR2:
Nobody is denying the fact that they will be assimiliated. Ofcourse, igbos are civilized and would always recognize their own blood.
But when it comes to high positions, especially ones keenly contested in the Igbo community or as a group, that fellow is already at a massive disadvantage.
Infact, it would take a miracle for such a fellow to rise to any prominent position in igboland. That is the fact. It is inhumane(I know), but the fact nonetheless.
Children are traced to their father's house in igboland, and rise and fall on that merit.

cococandy:
Even with your mom telling you guys to forgive him, people will still blame her and accuse her of turning you guys against your father. Forgetting that you're not blind and can see the type of person he is.

Let the irresponsible men keep deceiving themselves. They never take responsibility for their kids and when the results of such actions come knocking, they turn around with the help of their sexist society to blame it on the women. Nothing is ever their faults.

PaulIdu:
There is no bridge that money can't tear apart..the young man has to choose between his billionaire mum and his thousandnaire retired military pensioner father...your guess is as good as mine he chooses his mums wealth over his dad's blessings .

tochimas:
please the father is seeking attention with his by lying about not being given called. Did his talk to the boy about bringing his brother home,isn't the boy old enough to handle his relationships with his father. Instead the stupid man went to the press to start talking rubbish. Stop being biased please.some people have lost the right to be called father,a sperm donor isn't a father.

tochimas:
stop talking rubbish.its serves the father right.i know a lot of people that will say this and money was no where involved.men should do better and better a responsible father not just sperm donor. When the likes of Essien and Adebayo chose their mothers and their people over their greedy and absentia father,what money do their mothers have? Children don't go by hear say but what they see and experienced.

ensamy:
Small pikin, He has never worked, he has never hustle everything is provided for him, he does not understand what it means for a man to use his hard earned money to pay dowry. Even if your father is evil donot curse him because he carries your blessings. I repeat he carries your blessings. God gave him that authority.

magicminister:



If my father abandoned me when I was little, I would slap the shittt out of him if he tries to tell me anything. He is just a sperm donor.

freshvine:


A wise and proud igbo man will find it difficult to pass the night in his maternal home how much more relocating there

Compliance:


Chairman, I guess u don't know his dad. I know him personally, and the man is stinkiingly rich, oduah is poor!

PaulIdu:



So you think a man that reached the enviable rank of Lt col of an Army is a man that would be unreasonable to be a sperm donor? Then you know nothing of the Army.

Nihilist:


I am not justifying the father's behaviour because I don't know the history , and I don't pretend to know the history.

It is very possible that a father who loves his kids can be denied access to them by a vindictive co-parent - This is the very reason why Custodial Rights are a key element of Family Law, and are one of the most contentious parts of Divorce Cases.

I personally don't care if the boy has issues with his dad. He can still cut his dad off without inviting public speculation in the manner that he has done. That is just daft.

As for you and the rest of your crew, you need to make sure you don't break your ankles while eagerly jumping to conclusions.

ikp120:


Those sexist have not seen nothing at all. They don't know what life in a broken home is like, especially when your father is alive but doesn't want to have anything to do with his children. Then when something big about his child comes up, he would want to gain attention through it. That guy should have just switched to his mother's lineage and become part of Odua family. Like you didn't train me through school, then when I come to lime light you try to use me to gain global attention? No way. My mum should take the credit, not my father.

juman:
nigerian women are strong women.

There are many women that are at the same time the mother and the father of their children.

esere826:
1, the young man made a public defense of his mum to counter the public attack of the dad
2, the young man although 'rightly' angry ought not to have used words such as mad and bastard. it doesnt tell well of his upbringing

3, the young man informed his dad alright, but offering tickets to his dad (although gracious) for burial almost like a visitor in such a strained relationship with complexities was punching too far above his weight. His elders from both side of the families should be the ones leading burial arrangements, while he supports from the side.

4, Legal laws trump customary laws. Did the boy being of legal age have a will that states he be buried in his mums land? if yes, and the mothers land accepts it, then case closed. The law has no time for emotions.

5, If there are no overriding legal laws for or against, then customary laws come into play

6, Whose customary law? Do the customary laws of both families agree on this issue? If yes, then they follow its laid down procedure, whatever it may be.

7, If the customary laws do not agree, then both families will need to come to an amicable compromise.

8, I think that is what the father referred to when he talked of returning bride price. In his culture it symbolises the severance of a relationship from its root.

9, As part of the possible resolution, just as someone suggested, Stella can also claim that the child does not belong to the man. The man can also disown his dead and living sons from Stella, and completely cut of any blood links.

tafabaloo:
Ok.

Too bad and un-african like.


Well, I'm not qualified to be a judge in this matter. However, I think that whatever cld hav transpired between ur parents shld hav better remained between them, especially if you can't bring the needed peace.

It would have been beautiful if the unfortunate passing of ur brother had been exploited to bring the two together and subsequently make peace. Sad enough, the matter grew from bad to worse, perhaps ,owing to poor handling .

Be that as it may , I just pray that,may you never be served the same plate you just extended to d man you described as your father.


What goes around surely comes around..... Meanwhile, how would you feel when you get this kind of feedback from one you called your son because I doubt if you are a bastard .

Zico5:
Ok

Inspectahdeck:
Kids should never get involved in parent fight. Never take sides, because nobody knows the true except their parents.

oyb:
So much for all the bs about ibos being model husbands.

PaulIdu:


No matter how he tries to spin it he was wrong ..it wasn't his call to offer to send flight tickets to his dad and paternal family so they could attend the burial of his son on his estranged wife's village ..I don't think any man worth his salt and who knows his culture will accept that ..they have clearly been trained to insult thier father in exchange for stella oduas dollars

PaulIdu:



So you think a man that reached the enviable rank of Lt col of an Army is a man that would be unreasonable to be a sperm donor? Then you know nothing of the Army.

JinX100:


This generation of indomie children, I weep!!. If your elder brother was 28 when he passed on (May his soul rest in peace) and you say the marriage separated almost 30 years ago, where and how old were you at that time? You judge your father based on your mother's side of story and not by what you saw!! May God forgive you!

Your mother agreed to marry a man with many wives and children from the beginning but left for reasons between she and her husband which apparently, you did not witness.

Chai!! May your children treat you the same way!!

PaulIdu:


No matter how he tries to spin it he was wrong ..it wasn't his call to offer to send flight tickets to his dad and paternal family so they could attend the burial of his son on his estranged wife's village ..I don't think any man worth his salt and who knows his culture will accept that ..they have clearly been trained to insult thier father in exchange for stella oduas dollars