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Re: I Am In A Dilemma. I Don't Want To Be A Baby Mama by Nobody: 12:52am On Sep 07, 2016

CrazyQuinn:
Yes I'm a masquerade, the one in your village .....don't you dare spank me. There's only one person that can spank me and it's not you

I am tired of talking to a masquerade.... show ur face nw....##i hate fantasy ##

Re: I Am In A Dilemma. I Don't Want To Be A Baby Mama by GENTLETEE(m): 12:53am On Sep 07, 2016

Go to his parents and tell them what's up. I will advice u not to abort. You are not going to be a baby mama for sure. The guy cannot eat his cake and have it.

Re: I Am In A Dilemma. I Don't Want To Be A Baby Mama by tbliss22(m): 12:53am On Sep 07, 2016

Tega4B:
Ok.Tx for Reading.

Av been in a relationship with my so called bf for about a year nw. Heaven knws I love him, about a month ago I got pregnant and he insisted dat I kip d pregnancy.

My problem is,after much questioning on y he's finding it so difficult to tell his parents,he opened up to me dat he got bck with his x nd dey are planning on getting married in December shocked .

Am frm a very responsible home,if my mum gets to find out she would insist dat we get married(I dnt want it to look like am forcing him on me).
Am jst few months old in my first job after school,still tryin to settle.If my boss gets to find out its a 50/50 chance of me loosing my job.

Being a baby mama is nt an option for me. Do I keep dis baby n go to his parents or Get rid of it n move on with my life.

Hello, baby mama to be!!
Don't be surprised because that's just what u will be in 8months time. The wise ones here have spoken, abort the child and become a MURDERER or keep the child and become a happy mother with perfect care from this same baby.

Don't tell me this took you as a shock because you got bleeped without protection, it's obviously not your first time so why shivering to face the consequence. You also knew this guy never truly loved you in the first place because he only came to use you to service his joystick pending when he will settle his differences with his real girl friend.

I also suggest you let the supposed new wife be aware that her man has a baby inside you already, if she must go ahead getting married to him, at least she should be aware he has a child outside the marriage.

As per your parent, let them know every detailed truth, I'm sure they want the best for you even when you've committed an error.

I wish you all the best and this should be a lesson to all the ladies in the house, if you must have sex with him make sure u use condom and I advice you conduct so many test of love on your man and also ask plenty of questions about him from everybody you know connected to him (his church, friends, his mum, his ex, his childhood friends & his neighbors)

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Re: I Am In A Dilemma. I Don't Want To Be A Baby Mama by Nobody: 12:54am On Sep 07, 2016

Randy91:

I am tired of talking to a masquerade.... show ur face nw....##i hate fantasy ##

sorry you have to deal with it tongue

that's what NL is all about

Re: I Am In A Dilemma. I Don't Want To Be A Baby Mama by Nobody: 12:57am On Sep 07, 2016

CrazyQuinn:
sorry you have to deal with it that's what NL is all about

lolzzzzzz,,can I pm u??

Re: I Am In A Dilemma. I Don't Want To Be A Baby Mama by cyrilamx(m): 12:59am On Sep 07, 2016

There is virtually no reason a woman and man should commit abortion. Abortion is not just sin against God, but it has grave emotional trauma on those who carry out this evil. Am not a saint in this regard...in 2002, my sister successfully crossed into Spain from Morroco with pregnancy. On getting to Barcelona, she wanted to go for abortion which we all advised. But God so kind, the evil couldn't be perpetrated because the doctor warned that not only does his Catholic Faith forbids such but the way the Baby is attached to her womb, she can't get pregnant anymore should she destroy this one. Well since she knew the bini guy involved who also crossed into Italy. Having lost our mom so early in fatal road accident, and since my dad would hear nothing about her pregnancy, we (my aunt, younger sister and I) went to her lover's family here in Benin based on the info she gave us. The family though admitted that their son told them he got a gurl pregnant were not in anyway ratifying the union nor taking responsibility for the Unborn baby...there was no progress in the talk. So it was really tough for her raising the child as single mum. I could count several times I have to encourage her as she complained to me on phone that she was tired of life and going to abandoned the child. However, reason prevailed.
Well fast tracked to 2013 when she visited with the boy now turned eleven years and with another baby girl she now carrying as a married woman. When I held the boy in my hand, hot tears ran than my cheek. I could not believe I was almost party to the decision to destroy this young and bountiful life simply because he was a 'stumbling' block to our anticipatory enjoyment of euro. I wept and asked God to forgive me. The little boy was surprised and asked uncle, 'why are you crying?'...only her mum understood. Today he is 14yrs already playing football for an amateur side in Spain. If not for the mercy of God that sweet life would have been wasted. I brought this up so we all...guys and babes to learn that abortion is evil. Having committed sexual Sins, should we compound our woeful situation before God by killing?

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Re: I Am In A Dilemma. I Don't Want To Be A Baby Mama by WebSurfer(m): 1:00am On Sep 07, 2016

CrazyQuinn:
No you are the joke

Okay, carry your wahala and go

Re: I Am In A Dilemma. I Don't Want To Be A Baby Mama by Nobody: 1:03am On Sep 07, 2016

Get rid and get hunted as a baby murderer for life,never look at your present state to rid a baby,change is very constant,babies are precious and wonderful,they illuminate you from inside to outside,they give you immeasurable joy looking at what is yours,if he ask you to keep it keep it,dnt fall for naijas present situation that would make you abort,the future is what you should think of,babies are gift,and such gift God pains some rich and happy couples with it,pls dnt abort dear,rather work hard and endure,care for your unborn and expect a healthy baby,stay blessed.Even if he is not marrying you,keep your baby o,they are joy,you wont know this until later in the future.

Tega4B:
Ok.Tx for Reading.

Av been in a relationship with my so called bf for about a year nw. Heaven knws I love him, about a month ago I got pregnant and he insisted dat I kip d pregnancy.

My problem is,after much questioning on y he's finding it so difficult to tell his parents,he opened up to me dat he got bck with his x nd dey are planning on getting married in December shocked .

Am frm a very responsible home,if my mum gets to find out she would insist dat we get married(I dnt want it to look like am forcing him on me).
Am jst few months old in my first job after school,still tryin to settle.If my boss gets to find out its a 50/50 chance of me loosing my job.

Being a baby mama is nt an option for me. Do I keep dis baby n go to his parents or Get rid of it n move on with my life.

Re: I Am In A Dilemma. I Don't Want To Be A Baby Mama by Nobody: 1:09am On Sep 07, 2016

Such action is not what you call sacrifices,it will hunt her for life,sacrifices are not such.

CrazyQuinn:
Life is all about taking risk and making sacrifices my dear which results to great benefit

Re: I Am In A Dilemma. I Don't Want To Be A Baby Mama by Nobody: 1:12am On Sep 07, 2016

uplawal:
Such action is not what you call sacrifices,it will hunt her for life,sacrifices are not such.

Okay ma

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Re: I Am In A Dilemma. I Don't Want To Be A Baby Mama by sandrahnaub(f): 1:18am On Sep 07, 2016

D guy wants to eats his cake nd have it....my advice....kip it.....nd tell dat modaforkar dat, d baby ain't his....abortion is not an option.....post abortion syndrome is not something u would want to go through

Re: I Am In A Dilemma. I Don't Want To Be A Baby Mama by GboyegaD(m): 1:22am On Sep 07, 2016

thedarkside:

you are naiv...i know,the woman always ends up alone with the child,struggling to survive...

nigeria doesnt have any laws i know that punish irrespossible men like him....

It is unfair to tag him as irresponsible since it wasn't rape. They were both having fun and it is her fault knowing that she bears whatever consequence that comes with their actions.

Re: I Am In A Dilemma. I Don't Want To Be A Baby Mama by Empiree: 1:37am On Sep 07, 2016

Next time close your legs for loser and think from your head

So "baby mama" don spread for naija now? .

Have your baby in peace and be sure his mama knows about it.

Re: I Am In A Dilemma. I Don't Want To Be A Baby Mama by Horsesmouth: 1:51am On Sep 07, 2016

If you got pregnant by having unprotected sex, that's cause and effect.

It is amazing how you are making the innocent boyfriend out to be the villain. He was open and honest to tell you he is getting married to his ex. This means that you were aware of his ex to start with.

Then u r a Hoe. Go and abort the baby you are trying to force on the guy, don't break up a happy home. If he saw you as no Hoe, trust me, he wouldn't get back with his ex without telling you.

Re: I Am In A Dilemma. I Don't Want To Be A Baby Mama by Horsesmouth: 2:00am On Sep 07, 2016

sandrahnaub:
D guy wants to eats his cake nd have it....my advice....kip it.....nd tell dat modaforkar dat, d baby ain't his....abortion is not an option.....post abortion syndrome is not something u would want to go through

Why the foul language? What makes him a modaforker?

When all you girls are screaming: yes! yes!! Yes!!! fork me!!! yes!!!! ahhhhh!!!! Uhmmmm!!!
The guys arent modaforkers then right?

Re: I Am In A Dilemma. I Don't Want To Be A Baby Mama by Icon79(m): 2:07am On Sep 07, 2016

CrazyQuinn:
Get rid ASAP if you know what is Good for your life

Abortion is murder....actually, the worst kind of murder; so be very careful of the type advise you're giving.

My advise to women is, if you "don't want to be a baby mama" then abstain from sexual intercourse. Short and simple.
You might think that abortion is an easy option but, take it from someone who knows, you'll spend your entire life paying for it.
Bottom line, abortion shouldn't be an option at all.....not even the last option.

O pari

Re: I Am In A Dilemma. I Don't Want To Be A Baby Mama by revolt(m): 2:26am On Sep 07, 2016

Jay542:

Wrong. What if there are complications? All you advisers won't be with her. Whereas, she can give birth to the child and her mother would take care of the baby and she goes to struggle for Life. A year + would and her mum will accept but it will be worth it.

stop decieving ursef. A child with an unstable family is terrible. What happns to the girl, n child,

Its a terrible situation for all parties. But the girl go hear am.

Abeg abort if, no need to suffer the poor child.

Re: I Am In A Dilemma. I Don't Want To Be A Baby Mama by Nobody: 2:43am On Sep 07, 2016

CrazyQuinn:
If I were in her shoes, it won't be worth it to me ..... and you are actually being selfish because the child will be traumatized emotionally for the rest of his/her life because he/she doesn't have a dad

Are u insane? Whonsaid the child has no dad?
Who on earth has no dad?

Re: I Am In A Dilemma. I Don't Want To Be A Baby Mama by Horsesmouth: 2:52am On Sep 07, 2016

chisco82:

Are u insane? Whonsaid the child has no dad?
Who on earth has no dad?

Guy chill, she has translated yoruba to english.
A child that doesnt know his father, if translated from yoruba to english means, does not have a dad.

A lot of Nigerians have that problem in speech and writing.
Please spare her.
grin

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Re: I Am In A Dilemma. I Don't Want To Be A Baby Mama by Nobody: 2:57am On Sep 07, 2016

Horsesmouth:

Guy chill, she has translated yoruba to english.
A child that doesnt know his father, if translated from yoruba to english means, does not have a dad.

A lot of Nigerians have that problem in speech and writing.
Please spare her.

Chill wetin bro? Her case is diffrent, she knows the father of her child and can as well take the child to the father in.fulture since she knows him down to.his home.
As for the bolded u got it wrong here dear.

Re: I Am In A Dilemma. I Don't Want To Be A Baby Mama by Horsesmouth: 3:07am On Sep 07, 2016

chisco82:

Chill wetin bro? Her case is diffrent, she knows the father of her child and can as well take the child to the father in.fulture since she knows him downh to.his home.
As for the bolded u got it wrong here dear.

I agree that the father exists. But she has made a common speech error Nigerians make.

Omo yen o ni baba - the child has no dad
Ori nfo mi - my head is paining me
Nitori kini - because of what
Wa ma lo - come dey go

Its an honest Nigerian speech error, trust me

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Re: I Am In A Dilemma. I Don't Want To Be A Baby Mama by bareal(m): 3:48am On Sep 07, 2016

CrazyQuinn:
human beings make mistakes we are not perfect and this is one of those mistakes so are you saying we are not allowed to make mistakes again? No matter how stupid or expensive the mistake is, mistake is still a mistake

Does it make sense to correct a 'mistake' with another 'mistake'? Where are you from?

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Re: I Am In A Dilemma. I Don't Want To Be A Baby Mama by Kayceewyte(m): 4:13am On Sep 07, 2016

Jay542:

There are lots of people without a dad. Is how you relate it to the child that's paramount. In the real sense it's you that's being selfish cos when you wer enjoying it you didn't know abi.

The last sentence got me cracking. Lmao

Re: I Am In A Dilemma. I Don't Want To Be A Baby Mama by alexlee50: 4:13am On Sep 07, 2016

Berbierklaus:
No seriously,we know most men are irrational and incapable of thinking with their brains once they are in heat,but what about the ladies?

You know you will be get the bigger hit if anything happens,yet you did not use your brain in heat? what happened to condom #100 or how much is gold circle again?

Now you are considering commiting murder,when you could have avoided abortion(which is costlier) with morning after pill or condom? A graduate for that matter?

Not feeling self righteous,but things like this should not be happening,just know that you are commiting murder if you dare abort that baby.

What will be will be

now that it has happened, what is your suggestion on how to solve the problem?

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Re: I Am In A Dilemma. I Don't Want To Be A Baby Mama by Sirbun: 4:26am On Sep 07, 2016

Please Op if you are not ready to be a baby mama kindly and quietly do the needful. Stop listening to people who are pretenders and do the worst..nobody is above sin and ur carrier is very important for future and ur future kids. Do the needful coz a stitch in time saves nine

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Re: I Am In A Dilemma. I Don't Want To Be A Baby Mama by Chubhie: 4:46am On Sep 07, 2016

Buharimustdie20:
all diz idiots saying don't abort, are you going to adopt the Baby?

We shall pay child support once she is delivered.

Re: I Am In A Dilemma. I Don't Want To Be A Baby Mama by hilaryiq(f): 4:57am On Sep 07, 2016

Horsesmouth:
If you got pregnant by having unprotected sex, that's cause and effect.

It is amazing how you are making the innocent boyfriend out to be the villain. He was open and honest to tell you he is getting married to his ex. This means that you were aware of his ex to start with.

Then u r a Hoe. Go and abort the baby you are trying to force on the guy, don't break up a happy home. If he saw you as no Hoe, trust me, he wouldn't get back with his ex without telling you.

He told her he is getting married to his ex AFTER the OP and her boyfriend have been in a relationship for a year plus. She must have not been aware that her boyfriend was still seeing his ex. Looks like you are just trying to insult her for no reason. She is not trying to force the baby on anybody, it is HIS baby as much as it is hers. It takes TWO to tango (and make a baby) so both the OP and the BF made mistakes here!

Re: I Am In A Dilemma. I Don't Want To Be A Baby Mama by Nobody: 5:43am On Sep 07, 2016

chai.

condoms dey

morning after pill dey

birth control dey

2days after pill sef dey.

why do this to yourself?

why have unprotected sex with a man that has no plans for you.

Omo, forget o. you are already a baby mama.

Re: I Am In A Dilemma. I Don't Want To Be A Baby Mama by Napoleon27(m): 5:48am On Sep 07, 2016

CrazyQuinn:
So? sometimes in life you just have to sacrifice something for the benefit of many, it's called logic it will result to peace and prosperity

Madam CrazyQuinn,
Murder isn't Logic!!!
Thanks to your mother oo0o0, if only you were aborted, you couldn't have been here talking rubbish.
Receive Sense & Brain in Jesus Name...

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Re: I Am In A Dilemma. I Don't Want To Be A Baby Mama by Nobody: 5:52am On Sep 07, 2016

bareal:

Does it make sense to correct a 'mistake' with another 'mistake'? Where are you from?

bros forget that abeg. do you know the stigma associated with being in her condition.

If abortion was legal in Nigeria, I would support she get it done.

Re: I Am In A Dilemma. I Don't Want To Be A Baby Mama by loshybab(m): 6:05am On Sep 07, 2016

My take is those who use human beings/ parts for rituals,human beings for atonement/sacrifice (stone ages),bokoharam and those who ABORT are the same(MURDERERS).........they all took ife/lives of a human that deserves to live/fulfil his/her dream

Heartless in taking a life body wtout a human feeling

Wicked in cutting a life short irrespective or the period/time lived

Now! I Ask U, do u really want to become a DELIBRATE MURDERER? Is dt u really desire? Will u blame God if HE pays u back in d best 'karma' way for even nursing dt idea

And about dt guy! A man dt cannot open up for his family dt he hs an unborn child isn't even fit to be called a man talkless of talkin marriage.in that case......I hereby declare him a SLOWPOKE!..

Relay my message to him please but dts after u myt hv digested d part dt concerns u!!!

SAVE A LIFE,SAVE THE BABY.....APPRECIATE A GIFT!!!

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Re: I Am In A Dilemma. I Don't Want To Be A Baby Mama by Trendishine: 6:14am On Sep 07, 2016

bennyrazz:
why did you have to write "Yoruba deemon" and include no offense when you actually intended the offense. I can relate to reasons why he did not deem you fit to be his wife. This may just be part of the reasons. Coming from a responsible home doesn't make you responsible. Responsibility is a personal decision. I'm not scolding you but you are certainly going to leave with this scar if you abort for the rest of your life. You would have killed a full humanbeing. Now you pregnant with no hubby, that's bring shame to your family and stigma to yourself. You can pray to God to make you lose the pregnancy or get your mother involved while you chase after who got you pregnant. Marrying him though doesn't guarantee a happy marriage cuz he might not be happy with you. From the look of things, you were not a baby, how you got pregnant shows your carelessness. You engage in premarital sex and you get caught in the hook. I wish you luck sha cuz your only saving grace now is if you loose the pregnancy naturally, if not, welcome to the world of single mothers.

are u actually advising her or you are just bent on stupifying your childish self here? i seriously smh for u...

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